Quotes on Relationships

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When we said to you we do not encourage you to lower your vibration in order to help people that you love feel better because you’ve joined them in their misery,
the reason that we say that to you with such confidence is because we know that Source Energy never lowers its vibration in order to comfort you.


~Abraham speaking in Tarrytown, NY on October 9, 2004

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We would spend no time looking around a crowd.
And trying to acknowledge which ones are soulmates.
And which ones aren't.

Because the only thing that matters is...
Are YOU a mate to your soul in this moment?
Are you a vibrational mate?
Are YOU vibrationally in alignment with your own soul?

And if the answer to that is yes,
then you'll be able to find those who are a vibrational match to theirs.

And two who come together
who are each individually in vibrational alignment with who they are
is what we consider to be the greatest harmony.

Not sameness.
Not same attitude about all same things.
But same vibrational harmonic.
Which makes for the best kind of relationship.

Enough difference in interest.
But the ability to be in alignment.
So that you can extract the best from each other.
At all times.

~ Abraham-Hicks

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Almost no-one knows how to love themselves
because you're running around trying to find
other people to love you.

Standing on your head in all kinds of different ways.
"If I'm like this do you like me?
If I give you this will you like me?"

So you lose track of who you are because the more you're looking to others to love you,
the more you're not in sync with who you are.

- Abraham

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FOR ALL INTERACTION WITH PEOPLE, YOUR OWN VIBRATION IS ALL THAT MATTERS

The vibrational state in which you enter the room
is key to everything;
not what's going on in the room.

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DO NOT FOCUS ON PEOPLE'S STATE OF LACK OF ALIGNMENT

By focusing upon his misery
you're not only disempowering him
you are offering disempowering energy that is adding
to the disempowerment of every miserable being on the planet.

But by using this man as your example of clarity,
as looking very close within this little microcosm of life
and identifying from what you do not want
what you DO want;
And by using him as an example of looking for
what you are wanting to see
you are actually spewing Pure Positive Energy into your time and plac,
that is providing a service to your overall mass consciousness.

And it goes far beyond one man that you are delaing with.
Far, far, far beyond the one man that you are dealing with.


- Abraham, 1992, Oct 17, Asherville NC

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How much of your behavior is pointed towards
pleasing and soothing YOURSELF
in relationship to serving others?

That's where the balance gets wonky for most of you.

Most of you are so busy serving others
that you're not taking that time for your own alignment.

- Abraham

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As you are interacting with any other,
you are a catalyst that either
inspires their connectedness
or their disconnection
with their Inner Being.

And as you are offering a very positive vibration,
then no matter how negative they are,
if you are in a truly positive place,
then you will be the catalyst
that perhaps will cause them
a connection

- Abaham Hicks

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CAN YOU BE HAPPY ON YOUR OWN?

What we would really like you to hear is:
"I can be happy
any time I decide to turn my attention
towards that which connects me with my Source of joy;
whether I'm by myself
or whether I'm not."

- Abraham, 23 Jan 1994, Houston TX

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WHAT DO TO WHEN SOMEONE YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH BRINGS YOU NEGATIVE STUFF

If you're getting even some negative offerings from her,
or even predominant negative offerings from her,
the question to ask yourself is,
"What am I putting out that is attracting unto me, this?"

In other words, "Why is she here in my experience?
I'm giving thought to lack.
I've acknowledge that she is this way.
My expectation of her... My expectation of this one has enough of that within it
that I get a prettty good dose of it on a regular basis.

I have given enough focus to,
what I am not wanting,
that is in my experience for now.

And so, how might I release myself?" (...)

Look over here.
Give your attention to anything other than the [negative expectation]
and in the moment that you give your attention to anything else,
it will just release its grip and off it will go.
Waiting for the next unsuspecting person to come along and poke at it a little bit. (group laughter)

- Abraham, 1991

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Jerry: What would you suggest (...) to improve a relatioship with a critical parent, a rebellious child, a negative mate, or a disharmonious associate?

Abraham:
If you said nothing to your parent, or your child, or to your associate other than:
"I think you are wonderful
and I think we're all trying to find our way of being wonderful.
I know that inside each of us there is a wonderful being -
and I want to see it in you,
and I want you to see it in me."

And whether you speak it to their face,
or just speak it in your mind,
they get the message.
And you benefit
and so do they -
from such a message.

- Abraham

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You are the creator of your own reality,
and so you are not in jeopardy.
You do not need to control the behavior of others
in order for you to thrive.

Your attention to things that you think they do that keeps you from your thriving
is, in fact, what keeps you from your thriving…
It is not what they do to you;
it’s what you do to you
in fear of what you think that they will do to you.

Excerpted from Philadelphia, PA on 5/12/05