By focusing on someone's positive aspects, you have the power to manifest more of that from them
As you are wanting to interact with a being that you are not getting along with,
with a being that rings your warning bells continually,
if you will intend to see that which you approve of,
if you intend to see that which you like,
then you will literally begin to solicit from that being those things.
- Abraham
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Is it ever a good idea to file a complaint about someone or something?
Jerry and Esther checked into a hotel, and the person at the front desk was in a terrible mood. and as Esther stood there, she couldn't help but take responsibility for her rendezvous point with it. And that even irritated her more. It's bad enough that somebody's being rude, but to accept your responsibility in meeting up with them...
And so, Esther thought about it and realized that it was sort of where she'd last left her vibration about that hotel.
And so it was logical.
And as she was talking to us about it, she was still wanting to say:
"But Abraham,, don't you think that maybe it would be beneficial for the hotel to know that they have a really rude person behind the desk?"
And we said: "Well, but which feels better, to pursue that thought, or to choose another thought that feels better?"
And Esther said: "Well, yeah, yeah yeah, But Abraham, don't you think that under these conditions, shouldn't somebody call somebody? Shouldn't something be done about this?"
The business person in Esther says: "Well, if my employees are mistreating people, I would like to know about it."
And we say, "No you wouldn't. You're better off not knowing about it."
In other words, let Law of Attraction shake it all down.
You don't have to be the monitor of that sort of thing.
- Abe
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Don't give energy to criticizm and complaining thoughts if it doesn't make you feel better
Which feels better, this thought of my mother, or this thought of my mother?
"But Abraham, you don't understand. This is who my mother is, mostly."
That wasn't the question.
Which feels better, this thought or this thought?
"But Abraham you don't understand..."
That wasn't the question.
Which feels better is the only question -
that's the only question that your Guidance System is asking.
Which feels better, this thought or this thought?
Which feels better, to praise or to criticize?
"Oh but you don't understand, there's nothing to praise and there's lots to criticize."
That's not our question: Which feels better?
Which feels better?
"But Abraham you don't understand. You didn't see what happened."
No we didn't. We're not vibrating there with you.
But our question to you is, which feels better? (...)
Nobody can get inside your head and make you think.
Sometimes it feels like it, because they're clamouring in your face so loud with whatever they're saying.
But you have the ability , if it is your desire, to feel good.
You have the ability to withdraw from whatever thought is bothering you,
get off to yourself and reclaim your connection to Source Energy.
And that is the freedom that you are looking for.
You have the ability to look here where there is not resistance.
Jesus said to turn the other cheek and that's exactly what he was talking about. (...)
Turn the other cheek and achieve vibrational harmony with that which feels better.
Abraham Hicks 1999
Quotes on Rascals
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HS: Thank you. I think what I'm wondering with my bag of marbles, the ones that I've carried from the past
Abe: They don't have to be active though. In other words, it's a big bag and it's full of--every thought you've ever thought still exists. The question is: Is it active? And is the law of attraction therefore responding to it? That's all. In other words, don't ask yourself to lose your marbles. Just activate the ones that serve you the best. And let it be all right wherever you are.
HS: Like for example with my family
Abe: Yeah?
HS: I love them and ...
Abe: Love some of the marbles about them, yes. Some of the marbles about them you really want to keep active; others, not so much. And does it make you a bad person to not want to keep some of them active? It makes you a selective sifter. It makes you someone who's calibrating to Source, not to needs and neediness of others.
"So if I'm going back to interact with them, how do I set myself up to activate the marbles I want and not the ones that bring up a lot of bad memories for me?"
The first way we approached this in terms of a process was The Book of Positive Aspects.
You just take a notebook and write you name on a page and just write their positive aspects, the easy matches.
But there's a tendency to try to turn negative aspects into positive aspects, and that still gathers up the marbles and activates them.
It's like deciding you're gonna quit smoking: You never, ever want to smoke so much as you've ever wanted to smoke this, when you decided you're not gonna smoke. It's active, yes?
Pick one in your mind. You don't have to name them or even describe them. But give us your best, easiest-to-find, most comfortable positive aspect of this family member.
HS: I like the feeling of being together.
Abe: There you go. There it is. That's really enough for a good rendezvous, anything else?
HS: A sense of belonging.
Abe: We get that.
We are encouraging your sense of belonging to be about your connection to your Inner Being rather than that, because those guys hold you hostage.
Wanna belong here? Gotta pay your dues, gotta be willing to talk about negative stuff with us,
HS: Right
Abe: Get off your high horse, talk about this stuff that makes you uncomfortable when you talk about it. Don't come around here, pretending like you love us unless you're going to join our misery because misery loves company. Yeah?
You gotta do a workaround. What's it gonna be? If you don't wait till you get there, the universe helps you because you'll have momentum already going.
So when you've made a list of positive aspects--start out with them just one of the time--it's easier.
You walk into an ambush, a vibrational ambush. It's kind of like that, but they're not doing the ambushing, you are. Your past thoughts about them are ambushing you.
HS: Yes.
Abe: That's why Esther just loved strangers. Because she doesn't have any marbles about them.
And so they just present themselves in such lovely ways. It's like my new best friend. I met another new best friend on the airplane today.
HS: So if I go back and visit, and say my brother teases me. I'm bringing that old marble back into the interaction. I'm bringing that back.
Abe: It's active within you, and so you're rendezvousing. It's a win-win, it's active, active,and so we're experiencing it.
But now you talked about that feeling of homecoming and that feeling of having a place, and so in that activation of that marble, isn't it a little fun to have somebody love you enough to tease you? be interested enough in you to make you laugh? Is that really a marble that you don't want activated, or is there part of you that always really likes that?
Have you ever been in a group where people were getting teased and you weren't? Because they didn't know you well enough to tease you, they didn't know enough about you, you didn't have any of that old funny history.
Esther's family teases her incessantly and she pretends that she doesn't like it, and she loves every minute of it and what she really loves is when she hears them telling those stories about her to other people.
HS: Is this what it is when you say your vibration is where you last left it?
Abe: Yeah, it's where I've practiced it to be, and it could change if I want to change it. But it's where I last left it, and so that's the position from which you will light up next, and so you can move it to a new place, and it won't light up the old way again once you've practiced the new way.
HS: I can create any new vibration in any situation I want.
Abe: Yes, you can. And the way you do it is by trying, and then you get the first one in the hot seat. “I just wrote that down, connect those dots.” And then you get a little momentum until you begin to really believe in your deserving worthiness to be the recipient of the steady constant unerring gaze of your own Inner Being. And once you practice that alignment, then you put that gaze on other people who have never experienced their Inner Being before. It's too wild of a concept. What? I was alive before I was in this body, that can't be true. There's a god. Oh,come on, that can't be true. There's a bigger picture than what's happening in this physical experience? That can't possibly be true. A lot of people, they are so focused on what-is then when you activate in their what-isness non-diluted appreciation--that's what we were describing about Jerry did to Esther. He focused so steadily on what he saw as her positive aspects that those positive aspects just had to be, and Esther had to feel them too. That's what the power of influence is. And we have to say, when you are in alignment with your Inner Being and you are focused upon someone, your power of influence is more powerful than millions of disconnected people giving you attention. Yeah,helpful?
HS: Yes.
Abe: Complete?
HS: yes,
Abe: Really good.
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What if my husband is Mr. Grumpy?
Q:
I'm new to this work. I've been doing it for about six months or so, and I've been doing the workshop and the meditation, which is wonderful. And one of the problems that I have is that my husband -– who is wonderful, I adore him -– but he's very negative, and I'll do my morning meditation and I do my workshop, and I just am elated and in total appreciation of the Universe, and I'm totally high and I'll go back in and he's Mr. Grumpy. And I'm....
Abe:
Well, the good news is: his vibration can't get into you. So whatever you are doing that is bringing you to that place of feeling good cannot be affected by his vibration, he cannot assert it into your experience.
Q: Right.
Abe:
And so, if you acknowledge him for a moment -– you walk in, he's Mr. Grumpy, it really hits you hard because he's in such a different place than you are. And you take the hit, and out of it you launch a rocket of desire which goes something like, "Gee, I wish he'd feel better. I wish he could find some of the joy I'm finding. I wish he felt as happy in this moment as I do."
And then you turn your full attention to this desire that's been born out of this experience, and you forget who he is and instead pretend he is this so that you let him stimulate your vibration relative to him in a way that feels good to you. And with a little bit of practice, you can begin seeing him as he really is, not as he temporarily is.
Q: Okay.
Abe:
In other words, he doesn't like feeling grumpy any more than you like him feeling grumpy, but here's the thing: so here you stand, let's say you've been meditating, you've been walking, you're feeling really good. You come in and, under normal circumstances, if you were just following your bliss you would just keep running, you wouldn't even stop at that house where the grumpy one is. (Laughter from audience.)
Because it's not a vibrational match to who you are!
But you have this obligation, in other words, you have this commitment, you have this paper that says you live there and so (more laughter) you stop there, you defy the guidance that is within you, and you do what you 'should' do rather than what your guidance would encourage you to do otherwise. In other words, don't you find yourself making as many excuses as you can to do all the other things that feel good and then you sort of drag yourself home because the – and so, there you are.
You've been hit with the negative vibration, or with the different vibration, and it doesn't feel very good, and now in that moment you have a choice: which thought feels better? So now you can look at him as he is, and as you address it, whether you're saying 'yes' to it or 'no' to it or you're saying 'this is what it is' -– it does not matter whether you're making any judgment about it or not -– as you observe his vibration, whatever it is, it begins to be included in your vibration.
Q: Yeah.
Abe:
And you begin to feel the drowning of your cork, you begin to feel the lowering of your vibration, you begin to feel the separation of you from your Source energy. And then the impulse for most –- we're not feeling it much in you, you're using light and fluffy sweet-like words about this grumpy darling (laughter) –- as you acknowledge that he is the temporary reason that you are not as connected to your Source energy as you once were.
Now here's where your choice comes in. You can call that a bad thing and really be unhappy about it, or you can acknowledge that he is just a particle of the Universe that has achieved his vibration in whatever way he has and let him vibrate however he chooses while you fill your head or your mind or your day with thoughts that feel better to you. And what will begin to happen is, you will be living in your endless loop while he is living in his endless loop, and one or the other of you will then make the decision to join the other.
Q:
Right. Part of what I -– and I'm a fixer, probably a typical woman, I want to help people, sort of... so I want to fix him, I want to share with him my delight and my joy, and I know that's part of where the problem is, going in and....
Abe:
Well, the problem with that, you see, nothing is more annoying to the one being fixed (laughter) than to be in the place of not feeling very good and have some bright-eyed, bushy-tailed person trying to fix them. In other words, nobody wants to learn that they're the creator of their own reality when they're in a place they don't like being. In other words, you're wanting to watch for his time of connection before you offer -– in other words, here's the rule of thumb: talk endlessly to your mate as long as you are feeling good while you are talking.
Q: Okay.
Abe:
In other words, share with him endlessly as long as you are feeling good. And the most important thing that we would say to you about this specific person is he is finding his own way of connecting, and his way may not be your way, and it doesn't make his way wrong or your way right or other way around. Because you are both wanting the same thing. We promise you that there is not anything that he would want for you more than for you to be joyful!
But sometimes when a person is really joyful and you want to be joyful but aren't, their joy just reminds you that you're not where you want to be. And the response looks like they don't really want you to be joyful when if you were to ask him, he wants your joy as much as he wants life itself. He loves the fact that you are joyful. And so what you have to do, is not give so much attention to how he's feeling.
In other words, how he's feeling is really much less of your business than you think that it is.
Don't give so much of your attention to how he's feeling. Let your attention be about how *you're* feeling. And now here's where it becomes a little complex, but here's where the answer is: "How am I feeling about how you're feeling?" (Laughter.) "How am I feeling about how you're feeling? Well, you're feeling crummy, and now I'm feeling crummy about your feeling crummy, which means you now have power in my experience." And so what you're wanting '– you're wanting to feel good about him feeling crummy. Now, how can you feel good about him feeling crummy? (Laughter.)
-By understanding that it's temporary, by understanding that he's not always [feeling crummy],
-by understanding that you sometimes feel crummy too but that you can raise your vibration,
-by understanding that in that crummy experience there is a rocket of desire that is going off, and
-by understanding that the rocket of desire is the nugget.
-By understanding that his life experience is honing out something that is very powerful.
And sometimes you can stand back at a distance while he's having this contrasting experience and as he gives birth to a rocket of desire sometimes you can get a glimpse of the rocket even though he can't. And so, when your grumpy friend launches a rocket and you start looking at the rocket instead of at your grumpy friend, now you're in a place that you're helping.
In other words, now you're anticipating on his behalf! That's what a true uplifter does –- you let the contrast produce the rocket and you fixate on his rocket of desire, even though he can't, because when you fixate on someone you love's rocket of desire, they are more likely to find vibrational harmony with it every now and again, too. It's like, you're a satellite dish beaming the signal and making it more accessible to him!
Q: Mm-hm.
Abe:
But when you do the opposite, which is to say, "Oh. You're feeling crummy. Now I'm feeling crummy," all that's happened is that he has influenced you into a lower vibration when what you want is to influence him into a higher vibration.
Q:
And that's not what he wants anyway. To bring me down. Yes.
Abe:
Last thing he wants. The last thing he wants is to be down himself, you see. Nobody gets discouraged on purpose. Nobody feels unworthy on purpose. None of you did it all at once. All of you did it just one little thought at a time, and you'll get out of it one little thought at a time, too.
Oh, it is so exhilarating, it is such a gift to give to a grumpy person (laughter), to be joyful yourself! Because every part of him wants that, and there is an osmosis that begins to take place. In other words, you just can't be around a joyful person without either being driven to crisis or becoming more joyful yourself. And in either case, another rocket of desire will be born. In other words, the crisis just produces stronger desire which makes the happy person that is around you even more influential.
Think about it! No one can lose, no matter what the circumstances are, because you can choose this end of the stick and focus upon it, which means Law of Attraction will embellish and enhance and give you more of that. Or you can focus on [the other] end of the stick which just means that sooner or later you're going to shoot off a rocket of desire. And so in either case the desire will be born within you, in either case you will be the fulfilling of the intention that you established.
The question that we are asking here is: how long are you willing to stand in a place of not being a vibrational match to your desires?
Why are you tolerating the uncomfortable vibration? We want to put it to you very bluntly, and so we will. (Laughter.) Why are you using your husband as even a temporary excuse to not feel as joyful as you want and deserve to feel? "I don't know, it's just habit. Doesn't feel very good, though." It's because most of you have not understood what your guidance system is, and most of you have not understood that you are wired selfishly! That you are wired to feel good. You are wired to feel good.
But so many of you think that "now that I'm wired to feel good, that means the rest of the world should stand on its head in order to provide something good-feeling for me to observe." And the rest of the world is not one bit interested in satisfying your selfish desire, because the rest of the world is after *its* selfish desire, and that's the way it must be!
That's why everything continues to evolve. The one-celled amoeba is out there in the ocean having its personal experience and having its personal exposure to its personal experience, and its desire is being born, and in the moment that its desire is being born Nonphysical is answering it, and that is why it is evolving as it is. That is why all things in this Universe are as they are. Everything is evolving because the Universe is answering every selfish desire.
Q:
The other thing, what you were just talking about is, it's kind of like when I get to feeling so good and I'm confronted with his mood, it brings to mind the question of since the rest of the world isn't as joyous and hasn't reached that state, how can I feel about being there myself when there's...?
Abe:
Because you are selfishly wired, and because when you look in the pile of sticks, there are plenty of things you can look at. And because what you're saying otherwise is, "How do I have the right to feel good when there are others who do not feel so good?"
Q: Right.
Abe:
And we say: you can't get sick enough to make the sick ones well.
Q: (Laughing.) Right.
Abe:
You can't get poor enough to make the poor ones prosperous. In other words, that's not the way that it works! The way that it works -– your only hope in helping anyone, is to connect to the stream, and when you connect to the stream, then the Source energy flows through you, and then- whatever you are giving your attention benefits, you see.
But you must be selfish enough to keep yourself in vibrational concert with that stream before you have anything to give anyone, you see.
You are joy-seeking beings who have come forth into what we see as the perfect environment for desire to be born within you. What this workshop is about –- we know you could speak it as clearly as we can now, we've said it enough times to you today -– what your work is about, is to bring yourself into vibrational harmony with allowing the energy that is you, to flow. And in simple terms, what that means is, your work is to look wherever you stand, whether you are looking in the past, present or future, your work is to consume your now with the thought that feels best. With the thought that feels best, with the thought that feels best, with the thought that feels best.
And there are always choices there for you! In other words, you can look at the hole in the wall or you can look at the beautiful painting. You can look at the lightbulb that is out, or you can see the lightbulb that is working. You can look at your mate in his positive aspect, or you can look at your mate in his negative aspect. You can look at your own body and find something that pleases you, or find something that doesn't. You can remember your childhood and find something of pleasure, or you can find something that makes you feel discouraged. You can remember a compliment or you can remember somebody down on you. You can remember your love- or you can remember your hate.
In other words, you have that choice in every moment, and you are the definers of that. You are focusers of energy, that's what a creator is. A creator is someone who stands in their now and focuses energy, and you are in the perfect environment to do that, you see. There.
Q:
I'm new to this work. I've been doing it for about six months or so, and I've been doing the workshop and the meditation, which is wonderful. And one of the problems that I have is that my husband -– who is wonderful, I adore him -– but he's very negative, and I'll do my morning meditation and I do my workshop, and I just am elated and in total appreciation of the Universe, and I'm totally high and I'll go back in and he's Mr. Grumpy. And I'm....
Abe:
Well, the good news is: his vibration can't get into you. So whatever you are doing that is bringing you to that place of feeling good cannot be affected by his vibration, he cannot assert it into your experience.
Q: Right.
Abe:
And so, if you acknowledge him for a moment -– you walk in, he's Mr. Grumpy, it really hits you hard because he's in such a different place than you are. And you take the hit, and out of it you launch a rocket of desire which goes something like, "Gee, I wish he'd feel better. I wish he could find some of the joy I'm finding. I wish he felt as happy in this moment as I do."
And then you turn your full attention to this desire that's been born out of this experience, and you forget who he is and instead pretend he is this so that you let him stimulate your vibration relative to him in a way that feels good to you. And with a little bit of practice, you can begin seeing him as he really is, not as he temporarily is.
Q: Okay.
Abe:
In other words, he doesn't like feeling grumpy any more than you like him feeling grumpy, but here's the thing: so here you stand, let's say you've been meditating, you've been walking, you're feeling really good. You come in and, under normal circumstances, if you were just following your bliss you would just keep running, you wouldn't even stop at that house where the grumpy one is. (Laughter from audience.)
Because it's not a vibrational match to who you are!
But you have this obligation, in other words, you have this commitment, you have this paper that says you live there and so (more laughter) you stop there, you defy the guidance that is within you, and you do what you 'should' do rather than what your guidance would encourage you to do otherwise. In other words, don't you find yourself making as many excuses as you can to do all the other things that feel good and then you sort of drag yourself home because the – and so, there you are.
You've been hit with the negative vibration, or with the different vibration, and it doesn't feel very good, and now in that moment you have a choice: which thought feels better? So now you can look at him as he is, and as you address it, whether you're saying 'yes' to it or 'no' to it or you're saying 'this is what it is' -– it does not matter whether you're making any judgment about it or not -– as you observe his vibration, whatever it is, it begins to be included in your vibration.
Q: Yeah.
Abe:
And you begin to feel the drowning of your cork, you begin to feel the lowering of your vibration, you begin to feel the separation of you from your Source energy. And then the impulse for most –- we're not feeling it much in you, you're using light and fluffy sweet-like words about this grumpy darling (laughter) –- as you acknowledge that he is the temporary reason that you are not as connected to your Source energy as you once were.
Now here's where your choice comes in. You can call that a bad thing and really be unhappy about it, or you can acknowledge that he is just a particle of the Universe that has achieved his vibration in whatever way he has and let him vibrate however he chooses while you fill your head or your mind or your day with thoughts that feel better to you. And what will begin to happen is, you will be living in your endless loop while he is living in his endless loop, and one or the other of you will then make the decision to join the other.
Q:
Right. Part of what I -– and I'm a fixer, probably a typical woman, I want to help people, sort of... so I want to fix him, I want to share with him my delight and my joy, and I know that's part of where the problem is, going in and....
Abe:
Well, the problem with that, you see, nothing is more annoying to the one being fixed (laughter) than to be in the place of not feeling very good and have some bright-eyed, bushy-tailed person trying to fix them. In other words, nobody wants to learn that they're the creator of their own reality when they're in a place they don't like being. In other words, you're wanting to watch for his time of connection before you offer -– in other words, here's the rule of thumb: talk endlessly to your mate as long as you are feeling good while you are talking.
Q: Okay.
Abe:
In other words, share with him endlessly as long as you are feeling good. And the most important thing that we would say to you about this specific person is he is finding his own way of connecting, and his way may not be your way, and it doesn't make his way wrong or your way right or other way around. Because you are both wanting the same thing. We promise you that there is not anything that he would want for you more than for you to be joyful!
But sometimes when a person is really joyful and you want to be joyful but aren't, their joy just reminds you that you're not where you want to be. And the response looks like they don't really want you to be joyful when if you were to ask him, he wants your joy as much as he wants life itself. He loves the fact that you are joyful. And so what you have to do, is not give so much attention to how he's feeling.
In other words, how he's feeling is really much less of your business than you think that it is.
Don't give so much of your attention to how he's feeling. Let your attention be about how *you're* feeling. And now here's where it becomes a little complex, but here's where the answer is: "How am I feeling about how you're feeling?" (Laughter.) "How am I feeling about how you're feeling? Well, you're feeling crummy, and now I'm feeling crummy about your feeling crummy, which means you now have power in my experience." And so what you're wanting '– you're wanting to feel good about him feeling crummy. Now, how can you feel good about him feeling crummy? (Laughter.)
-By understanding that it's temporary, by understanding that he's not always [feeling crummy],
-by understanding that you sometimes feel crummy too but that you can raise your vibration,
-by understanding that in that crummy experience there is a rocket of desire that is going off, and
-by understanding that the rocket of desire is the nugget.
-By understanding that his life experience is honing out something that is very powerful.
And sometimes you can stand back at a distance while he's having this contrasting experience and as he gives birth to a rocket of desire sometimes you can get a glimpse of the rocket even though he can't. And so, when your grumpy friend launches a rocket and you start looking at the rocket instead of at your grumpy friend, now you're in a place that you're helping.
In other words, now you're anticipating on his behalf! That's what a true uplifter does –- you let the contrast produce the rocket and you fixate on his rocket of desire, even though he can't, because when you fixate on someone you love's rocket of desire, they are more likely to find vibrational harmony with it every now and again, too. It's like, you're a satellite dish beaming the signal and making it more accessible to him!
Q: Mm-hm.
Abe:
But when you do the opposite, which is to say, "Oh. You're feeling crummy. Now I'm feeling crummy," all that's happened is that he has influenced you into a lower vibration when what you want is to influence him into a higher vibration.
Q:
And that's not what he wants anyway. To bring me down. Yes.
Abe:
Last thing he wants. The last thing he wants is to be down himself, you see. Nobody gets discouraged on purpose. Nobody feels unworthy on purpose. None of you did it all at once. All of you did it just one little thought at a time, and you'll get out of it one little thought at a time, too.
Oh, it is so exhilarating, it is such a gift to give to a grumpy person (laughter), to be joyful yourself! Because every part of him wants that, and there is an osmosis that begins to take place. In other words, you just can't be around a joyful person without either being driven to crisis or becoming more joyful yourself. And in either case, another rocket of desire will be born. In other words, the crisis just produces stronger desire which makes the happy person that is around you even more influential.
Think about it! No one can lose, no matter what the circumstances are, because you can choose this end of the stick and focus upon it, which means Law of Attraction will embellish and enhance and give you more of that. Or you can focus on [the other] end of the stick which just means that sooner or later you're going to shoot off a rocket of desire. And so in either case the desire will be born within you, in either case you will be the fulfilling of the intention that you established.
The question that we are asking here is: how long are you willing to stand in a place of not being a vibrational match to your desires?
Why are you tolerating the uncomfortable vibration? We want to put it to you very bluntly, and so we will. (Laughter.) Why are you using your husband as even a temporary excuse to not feel as joyful as you want and deserve to feel? "I don't know, it's just habit. Doesn't feel very good, though." It's because most of you have not understood what your guidance system is, and most of you have not understood that you are wired selfishly! That you are wired to feel good. You are wired to feel good.
But so many of you think that "now that I'm wired to feel good, that means the rest of the world should stand on its head in order to provide something good-feeling for me to observe." And the rest of the world is not one bit interested in satisfying your selfish desire, because the rest of the world is after *its* selfish desire, and that's the way it must be!
That's why everything continues to evolve. The one-celled amoeba is out there in the ocean having its personal experience and having its personal exposure to its personal experience, and its desire is being born, and in the moment that its desire is being born Nonphysical is answering it, and that is why it is evolving as it is. That is why all things in this Universe are as they are. Everything is evolving because the Universe is answering every selfish desire.
Q:
The other thing, what you were just talking about is, it's kind of like when I get to feeling so good and I'm confronted with his mood, it brings to mind the question of since the rest of the world isn't as joyous and hasn't reached that state, how can I feel about being there myself when there's...?
Abe:
Because you are selfishly wired, and because when you look in the pile of sticks, there are plenty of things you can look at. And because what you're saying otherwise is, "How do I have the right to feel good when there are others who do not feel so good?"
Q: Right.
Abe:
And we say: you can't get sick enough to make the sick ones well.
Q: (Laughing.) Right.
Abe:
You can't get poor enough to make the poor ones prosperous. In other words, that's not the way that it works! The way that it works -– your only hope in helping anyone, is to connect to the stream, and when you connect to the stream, then the Source energy flows through you, and then- whatever you are giving your attention benefits, you see.
But you must be selfish enough to keep yourself in vibrational concert with that stream before you have anything to give anyone, you see.
You are joy-seeking beings who have come forth into what we see as the perfect environment for desire to be born within you. What this workshop is about –- we know you could speak it as clearly as we can now, we've said it enough times to you today -– what your work is about, is to bring yourself into vibrational harmony with allowing the energy that is you, to flow. And in simple terms, what that means is, your work is to look wherever you stand, whether you are looking in the past, present or future, your work is to consume your now with the thought that feels best. With the thought that feels best, with the thought that feels best, with the thought that feels best.
And there are always choices there for you! In other words, you can look at the hole in the wall or you can look at the beautiful painting. You can look at the lightbulb that is out, or you can see the lightbulb that is working. You can look at your mate in his positive aspect, or you can look at your mate in his negative aspect. You can look at your own body and find something that pleases you, or find something that doesn't. You can remember your childhood and find something of pleasure, or you can find something that makes you feel discouraged. You can remember a compliment or you can remember somebody down on you. You can remember your love- or you can remember your hate.
In other words, you have that choice in every moment, and you are the definers of that. You are focusers of energy, that's what a creator is. A creator is someone who stands in their now and focuses energy, and you are in the perfect environment to do that, you see. There.
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Fear of getting judged
Questioner has fear of being judged.
A: Well, that’s a valid fear, because they will judge you.
Q. Right.
A. And so if that bothers you then..because people are going to observe you and they can only see you through their framework and so many people would feel better if you would comply to what they think they need you to do so that they will feel better... but you sort of got to get over that...(laughter)
Q: And how do I get over it? (laughter) ...
Q. I know when you do have a thought that you don’t feel good about...
A. Such as...
Q. Such as walking into a store in a new city and you’re afraid that people are looking at you and judging you and then I go in and I say, "Well, no, God’s within you, you are God, there is nothing wrong with you." Is that just putting a bandaid on it?
A.
Well, the reason it feels to you like you are putting a bandaid on it is that’s not solving the situation for you and here’s why:
So let’s say that for whatever reason you have been fostered in an environment where you were trained to care deeply about what other people thought and you’re not alone in that because most people need to control your behavior so that they can feel good, it happened in your home, it happens in the school system, it happens in the traffic. IOW there are so many things around you where they expect your behavioral compliance or they won’t feel so good and they’ll punish you because they want to feel good. IOW that’s sort of the way your physical world has come round to...
So lets say that for whatever reason in whatever way it happened to you, you are very sensitive to the opinions of others and you walk into an environment like you said and you feel them looking at you and disapproving and you think I don’t like this feeling.
I should jump into the bright-eyed bushy-tailed fluffy... I should love them. (laughter)
But you’re very far from that vibration and so when someone is looking at you, looking you over and you can see disapproval in their face, what is the first knee jerk reaction that comes from you, most of you, maybe not you? Don’t you wanna say... "Who are you?" Don’t you wanna say..."You wear those shoes and you’ve got the nerve to look at me?" Don’t you wanna say..."Who combed your hair today?" Doesn’t just a little feeling of revenge sort of bubble up like a life-giving breath of fresh air?
Now you and a lot of other people may not let yourself go there because you’ve been trained to believe that you should have love in your heart and you should not condemn them just because they are condemning you, but we wanna say to you that you can’t jump from being condemned and taking it hard all the way into love and sunshine and joy. You can’t do it; the frequencies are too far apart and we think that the knee-jerk response of revenge or anger is an approved vibration for you and what we feel from you and from so many who are sensitive and who want to be uplifters is that many of you have disallowed yourself the stepping stones along the way_on_the_way_ to your love and appreciation of everyone.
It’s sort of like... Jerry and Esther wanting to go from Phoenix to San Diego and finding themselves in Yuma and being so discouraged that they are not yet in san diego that they get disoriented and turn around and go back to phoenix.
So they go...(quickly)
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
and in time they say (dramatically and with angst), "We’ll neeeeever get to San Diegoooo. We must not be woooorthy of san diego. We must have done something in a past life that prevents us from getting to gooooo to san diego. There must be something in YUMA that is a higher puuuuurpose fooor us. God must want us to be in yuma. We must have done something really bad in a past life and karma tells us that _yuma_is_ our_ place_. (Huge audience laughter).
And we say, you come up with a lot of really funny things to explain why you don’t just line up with what you want, you see. So our message to you is you don’t line up all at once; you line up gradually.
Abraham, Boulder Workshop, CO 06-11-05
Questioner has fear of being judged.
A: Well, that’s a valid fear, because they will judge you.
Q. Right.
A. And so if that bothers you then..because people are going to observe you and they can only see you through their framework and so many people would feel better if you would comply to what they think they need you to do so that they will feel better... but you sort of got to get over that...(laughter)
Q: And how do I get over it? (laughter) ...
Q. I know when you do have a thought that you don’t feel good about...
A. Such as...
Q. Such as walking into a store in a new city and you’re afraid that people are looking at you and judging you and then I go in and I say, "Well, no, God’s within you, you are God, there is nothing wrong with you." Is that just putting a bandaid on it?
A.
Well, the reason it feels to you like you are putting a bandaid on it is that’s not solving the situation for you and here’s why:
So let’s say that for whatever reason you have been fostered in an environment where you were trained to care deeply about what other people thought and you’re not alone in that because most people need to control your behavior so that they can feel good, it happened in your home, it happens in the school system, it happens in the traffic. IOW there are so many things around you where they expect your behavioral compliance or they won’t feel so good and they’ll punish you because they want to feel good. IOW that’s sort of the way your physical world has come round to...
So lets say that for whatever reason in whatever way it happened to you, you are very sensitive to the opinions of others and you walk into an environment like you said and you feel them looking at you and disapproving and you think I don’t like this feeling.
I should jump into the bright-eyed bushy-tailed fluffy... I should love them. (laughter)
But you’re very far from that vibration and so when someone is looking at you, looking you over and you can see disapproval in their face, what is the first knee jerk reaction that comes from you, most of you, maybe not you? Don’t you wanna say... "Who are you?" Don’t you wanna say..."You wear those shoes and you’ve got the nerve to look at me?" Don’t you wanna say..."Who combed your hair today?" Doesn’t just a little feeling of revenge sort of bubble up like a life-giving breath of fresh air?
Now you and a lot of other people may not let yourself go there because you’ve been trained to believe that you should have love in your heart and you should not condemn them just because they are condemning you, but we wanna say to you that you can’t jump from being condemned and taking it hard all the way into love and sunshine and joy. You can’t do it; the frequencies are too far apart and we think that the knee-jerk response of revenge or anger is an approved vibration for you and what we feel from you and from so many who are sensitive and who want to be uplifters is that many of you have disallowed yourself the stepping stones along the way_on_the_way_ to your love and appreciation of everyone.
It’s sort of like... Jerry and Esther wanting to go from Phoenix to San Diego and finding themselves in Yuma and being so discouraged that they are not yet in san diego that they get disoriented and turn around and go back to phoenix.
So they go...(quickly)
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
phoenix yuma
and in time they say (dramatically and with angst), "We’ll neeeeever get to San Diegoooo. We must not be woooorthy of san diego. We must have done something in a past life that prevents us from getting to gooooo to san diego. There must be something in YUMA that is a higher puuuuurpose fooor us. God must want us to be in yuma. We must have done something really bad in a past life and karma tells us that _yuma_is_ our_ place_. (Huge audience laughter).
And we say, you come up with a lot of really funny things to explain why you don’t just line up with what you want, you see. So our message to you is you don’t line up all at once; you line up gradually.
Abraham, Boulder Workshop, CO 06-11-05
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Re: Quotes on Rascals
When ITV people are trying to help, they can be annoying rascals, too!
Nothing is more annoying, than to be in the place of not feeling very good,
and to have some bright eyed, bushy tailed person trying to fix you!!
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Re: Quotes on Rascals
You can form a fantasy about someone in your life,
and they will begin to modify to meet your fantasy.
Because Law of Attraction is a very powerful thing.
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Re: Quotes on Rascals
Abraham: Did His Father Abandon Him or Free Him?
Abraham - San Francisco, CA 8/10/02
G: It's simple to say that he (his birth father) abandoned me, but now...
A: Or freed you.
G: I hadn't thought about it that way, because...
A: ...Freed you to be the chooser of your life without the influence of someone already undecided and unsure.
G: And troubled, he had...
A: Someone who wants more than anything to be of value. Who recognizes that he cannot guide his own life, what possibility does he have of guiding another...
G: Oh Abraham, this is wonderful.
A: ...and wisely said, "You'll do alright."
G: He used to spend a lot of his time in his fishing boat. He didn't, he was very much a loner.
A: He was much more a connected being than you have ever been allowed to believe that he was. Because those who wanted to justify to you his absence, had to make his being gone, wrong.
G: Ahhhh, exactly.
A:They couldn't let his absence be a noble thing, or a virtuous thing, or a guided thing, or a connected thing. It had to be a wrong thing. So you were spoon fed misinformation.
G: Because he got a lot of this ying, ying, yang from his family.
A: Of course he did. He did not stay put. And he did not allow them to pigeonhole him. And he refused to suffer in the ways that they chose to suffer.
G: Well now, because of the vibrational match, now Abraham, I did the very same thing. I fathered a child in another part of the world.
A: And then that child is blessed as you have been blessed.
G: Ahhhaaa. When I think of all the cheap melodrama I've gone through in my own head about all this. I don't have any guilt anymore. I freed him, too. Didn't I?
A:
You did what so many of you intend to do. You come forth and provide an avenue for focused consciousness to have physical experience understanding that while guidance can be beneficial, that guidance is always coming from broader perspective and that Well Being is the order of things.
And so we're just using your example to sort of balance things out just a little bit. There's no right or wrong behavior. We're not saying it's wrong for a father to leave, or it's wrong for a father to stay. Or it's right to live in this way - wrong to live in that way. What we are saying is, you can't get it wrong. And your father didn't get it wrong. And you didn't get it wrong.
And anybody who's decided to make that wrong, is just using that as their temporary excuse to not allow themselves to have all of the riches that this environment is offering to them otherwise, you see.
You can use anything you want as your excuse to not allow Well Being in. And it is amazing how flimsy some of these excuses are. And on your world stage, many would say, "Abraham, this is far from a flimsy excuse...
We would focus in the more poignant now. We would make our relationship with our Source...
G: Oh, all right.
A: about things that you understand fully...
G: Yes, yes.
A: and not nebulous things you are piecing together. Since your father is not unhappy or unhealthy; since there is nothing that can be gained by going back and retracing it, then we just do not encourage it.
We encourage you instead to find something that is tangible in your NOW. And use that to activate your vibration and connect to your Source Energy, as a result of something that is more current.
It is exactly the reason that we think thses virtual realities are so lovely, and delicious, and life giving, and helpful. In other words, we would rather you get into a pure fantasy - than face any kind of factual reality, if the factual reality has the potential of taking you into a place that does not feel good.
Abraham - San Francisco, CA 8/10/02
G: It's simple to say that he (his birth father) abandoned me, but now...
A: Or freed you.
G: I hadn't thought about it that way, because...
A: ...Freed you to be the chooser of your life without the influence of someone already undecided and unsure.
G: And troubled, he had...
A: Someone who wants more than anything to be of value. Who recognizes that he cannot guide his own life, what possibility does he have of guiding another...
G: Oh Abraham, this is wonderful.
A: ...and wisely said, "You'll do alright."
G: He used to spend a lot of his time in his fishing boat. He didn't, he was very much a loner.
A: He was much more a connected being than you have ever been allowed to believe that he was. Because those who wanted to justify to you his absence, had to make his being gone, wrong.
G: Ahhhh, exactly.
A:They couldn't let his absence be a noble thing, or a virtuous thing, or a guided thing, or a connected thing. It had to be a wrong thing. So you were spoon fed misinformation.
G: Because he got a lot of this ying, ying, yang from his family.
A: Of course he did. He did not stay put. And he did not allow them to pigeonhole him. And he refused to suffer in the ways that they chose to suffer.
G: Well now, because of the vibrational match, now Abraham, I did the very same thing. I fathered a child in another part of the world.
A: And then that child is blessed as you have been blessed.
G: Ahhhaaa. When I think of all the cheap melodrama I've gone through in my own head about all this. I don't have any guilt anymore. I freed him, too. Didn't I?
A:
You did what so many of you intend to do. You come forth and provide an avenue for focused consciousness to have physical experience understanding that while guidance can be beneficial, that guidance is always coming from broader perspective and that Well Being is the order of things.
And so we're just using your example to sort of balance things out just a little bit. There's no right or wrong behavior. We're not saying it's wrong for a father to leave, or it's wrong for a father to stay. Or it's right to live in this way - wrong to live in that way. What we are saying is, you can't get it wrong. And your father didn't get it wrong. And you didn't get it wrong.
And anybody who's decided to make that wrong, is just using that as their temporary excuse to not allow themselves to have all of the riches that this environment is offering to them otherwise, you see.
You can use anything you want as your excuse to not allow Well Being in. And it is amazing how flimsy some of these excuses are. And on your world stage, many would say, "Abraham, this is far from a flimsy excuse...
We would focus in the more poignant now. We would make our relationship with our Source...
G: Oh, all right.
A: about things that you understand fully...
G: Yes, yes.
A: and not nebulous things you are piecing together. Since your father is not unhappy or unhealthy; since there is nothing that can be gained by going back and retracing it, then we just do not encourage it.
We encourage you instead to find something that is tangible in your NOW. And use that to activate your vibration and connect to your Source Energy, as a result of something that is more current.
It is exactly the reason that we think thses virtual realities are so lovely, and delicious, and life giving, and helpful. In other words, we would rather you get into a pure fantasy - than face any kind of factual reality, if the factual reality has the potential of taking you into a place that does not feel good.
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Re: Quotes on Rascals
Hotseater asks what to do about her kids who fight constantly.
Abraham:
You are on the outside of it, so to speak, wanting to effect change between two individuals;
and you are already sensing - from the lack of success that you have had and from the variety of attempts you have made at settling their differences - that you cannot control their relationship with one another.
People often attempt to gain control of the behaviour of their children, their employees, or the members of their clubs, political parties, or churches, by offering rewards for good behaviour and punishment for bad behaviour.
But we have never seen any beneficial behavioural change as a result of that.
Rules and punishments that are effected from the outside usually only cause a hiding of the unwanted behaviour - or an even stronger defiant offering of it - because people innately understand that they are not here living their lives to please others.
We often explain that you are the creator of your own experience, and that also means that you are not the creator of the experiences of others. They are the creators of their experiences. But we certainly understand that when they are creating their experiences under your roof, within the reach of your eyes and ears, their creation does affect you, and therefore you should have something to say about the way in which that affects you.
We also understand how when you observe a pleasing behaviour, you are pleased, and when you observe unpleasing behaviour you are not pleased.
We also understand how that is compounded even more when it is your own children you are observing.
It is our absolute knowing that if you believe that your happiness depends upon your ability to control the behaviour of any other, you will never find happiness. For control of others is not possible.
There are many who spend their entire lifetimes attempting to gain control of another, only to discover that absolute control of another requires the giving up of much of their own freedom as they turn their undivided attention toward that impractical effort that wastes their life experience, because it runs crosscurrent to the Laws of the Universe.
Parents often feel such a strong need to guide their children that these words are hard for them to hear, for they believe that they have been entrusted with the care and guidance of their children, so they are often looking for the best way to provide them with some guidance.
It is our desire that you come to understand that when you take the time to become fully aligned with all that you are, before you attempt to offer your guidance, your influence is much more powerful.
In simple terms, when you attempt to guide your children from your place of anger or frustration because you are out of alignment with You, your influence is flimsy. However when you offer your guidance while you are fully connected to all that you are, it is powerful.
"My children's behaviour makes me feel such frustration and anger that I lose my ability to guide them, and the harder I try, the more futile it becomes." But when you take the time to come into alignment with who you really are, you step into the powerful Current that is flowing toward everything that you desire.
Each time you witnessed the discord between your children, you launched a personal rocket of desire regarding their relationship. From your personal vantage point they provided you with detailed contrasting experiences which caused your personal preferences to evolve. And your personal preferences ARE your business. So now your work is simple: You must come into alignment with your desires.
The reason why your children's squabbling is upsetting you so much right now is because that behaviour does not match the ideal that all of their previous squabbling has helped you create.
In fact, even before their birth, while watching the children of other people, you were flowing your desires into your Vibrational Escrow.
Even before YOUR physical birth, you were making entries into that Vibrational Escrow account.
So it is no wonder that right now, as you witness something utterly opposite of what you have come to desire, you would feel the discord.
It is not simply because they are practicing bad habits of behaviour that it is upsetting to you.
Your view of them is causing YOU to flow in opposition to your evolving creation on this subject.
If you could accept that your discomfort is simply about your vibrational differences (what you are witnessing versus what it is in your Vibrational Escrow) and now really about what your children are doing (over which you have no control) you will begin to show yourself that you can choose thoughts that allow you to feel good (no matter what they are doing); and when you accomplish that, your power of influence will be tremendous.
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As it stands right now:
- You watch the misbehaviour of your children
- You feel bad.
- You think that you are feeling bad because of their behaviour, but you are actually feeling bad because you are out of alignment with your own desires.
- So you ignore what your children are doing and utilize your personal ability to focus in a way in which you can feel good.
- And in doing so, you are now fully connected to who you are.
- And also, you are a Vibrational Match to the picture of happy children enjoying each other that you have been in the process of creating for a very long time.
- And with all of that alignment going on, you are in your full Connection to who you really are; to the resources of the Universe ; to your Inner Being; and to the desires that you have set into motion regarding your children, your family and your life.
- Now your words and behaviour are perfectly timed. They evoke less resistance from your children and effect more positive change.
But you are not creating through words or through your action. You are creating through your personal alignment with the vibration of your own desires.
So when you think about getting your [children] to behave differently, you can feel the uphill battle in that.
But when you think about guiding your own thoughts, you can feel the possibility of that. Even, in time, the simplicity in that.
So wonderful things are about to take place in your experience.
Not only are you going to feel better right away by deliberately choosing your own thoughts, but you are going to effect behavioural change in your children without anyone knowing that you are doing it.
And on top of all of that, through the power of your own example, you will teach your children the value and power of personal alignment.
To show someone how to align with Source - in the face of circumstances that do not easily inspire it - is the most valuable. guidance that you could ever offer to another. That is the only guidance that you ever intended to offer your children: The power to guide their own lives.
- Abraham Hicks, 2007
Abraham:
You are on the outside of it, so to speak, wanting to effect change between two individuals;
and you are already sensing - from the lack of success that you have had and from the variety of attempts you have made at settling their differences - that you cannot control their relationship with one another.
People often attempt to gain control of the behaviour of their children, their employees, or the members of their clubs, political parties, or churches, by offering rewards for good behaviour and punishment for bad behaviour.
But we have never seen any beneficial behavioural change as a result of that.
Rules and punishments that are effected from the outside usually only cause a hiding of the unwanted behaviour - or an even stronger defiant offering of it - because people innately understand that they are not here living their lives to please others.
We often explain that you are the creator of your own experience, and that also means that you are not the creator of the experiences of others. They are the creators of their experiences. But we certainly understand that when they are creating their experiences under your roof, within the reach of your eyes and ears, their creation does affect you, and therefore you should have something to say about the way in which that affects you.
We also understand how when you observe a pleasing behaviour, you are pleased, and when you observe unpleasing behaviour you are not pleased.
We also understand how that is compounded even more when it is your own children you are observing.
It is our absolute knowing that if you believe that your happiness depends upon your ability to control the behaviour of any other, you will never find happiness. For control of others is not possible.
There are many who spend their entire lifetimes attempting to gain control of another, only to discover that absolute control of another requires the giving up of much of their own freedom as they turn their undivided attention toward that impractical effort that wastes their life experience, because it runs crosscurrent to the Laws of the Universe.
Parents often feel such a strong need to guide their children that these words are hard for them to hear, for they believe that they have been entrusted with the care and guidance of their children, so they are often looking for the best way to provide them with some guidance.
It is our desire that you come to understand that when you take the time to become fully aligned with all that you are, before you attempt to offer your guidance, your influence is much more powerful.
In simple terms, when you attempt to guide your children from your place of anger or frustration because you are out of alignment with You, your influence is flimsy. However when you offer your guidance while you are fully connected to all that you are, it is powerful.
"My children's behaviour makes me feel such frustration and anger that I lose my ability to guide them, and the harder I try, the more futile it becomes." But when you take the time to come into alignment with who you really are, you step into the powerful Current that is flowing toward everything that you desire.
Each time you witnessed the discord between your children, you launched a personal rocket of desire regarding their relationship. From your personal vantage point they provided you with detailed contrasting experiences which caused your personal preferences to evolve. And your personal preferences ARE your business. So now your work is simple: You must come into alignment with your desires.
The reason why your children's squabbling is upsetting you so much right now is because that behaviour does not match the ideal that all of their previous squabbling has helped you create.
In fact, even before their birth, while watching the children of other people, you were flowing your desires into your Vibrational Escrow.
Even before YOUR physical birth, you were making entries into that Vibrational Escrow account.
So it is no wonder that right now, as you witness something utterly opposite of what you have come to desire, you would feel the discord.
It is not simply because they are practicing bad habits of behaviour that it is upsetting to you.
Your view of them is causing YOU to flow in opposition to your evolving creation on this subject.
If you could accept that your discomfort is simply about your vibrational differences (what you are witnessing versus what it is in your Vibrational Escrow) and now really about what your children are doing (over which you have no control) you will begin to show yourself that you can choose thoughts that allow you to feel good (no matter what they are doing); and when you accomplish that, your power of influence will be tremendous.
-
As it stands right now:
- You watch the misbehaviour of your children
- You feel bad.
- You think that you are feeling bad because of their behaviour, but you are actually feeling bad because you are out of alignment with your own desires.
- So you ignore what your children are doing and utilize your personal ability to focus in a way in which you can feel good.
- And in doing so, you are now fully connected to who you are.
- And also, you are a Vibrational Match to the picture of happy children enjoying each other that you have been in the process of creating for a very long time.
- And with all of that alignment going on, you are in your full Connection to who you really are; to the resources of the Universe ; to your Inner Being; and to the desires that you have set into motion regarding your children, your family and your life.
- Now your words and behaviour are perfectly timed. They evoke less resistance from your children and effect more positive change.
But you are not creating through words or through your action. You are creating through your personal alignment with the vibration of your own desires.
So when you think about getting your [children] to behave differently, you can feel the uphill battle in that.
But when you think about guiding your own thoughts, you can feel the possibility of that. Even, in time, the simplicity in that.
So wonderful things are about to take place in your experience.
Not only are you going to feel better right away by deliberately choosing your own thoughts, but you are going to effect behavioural change in your children without anyone knowing that you are doing it.
And on top of all of that, through the power of your own example, you will teach your children the value and power of personal alignment.
To show someone how to align with Source - in the face of circumstances that do not easily inspire it - is the most valuable. guidance that you could ever offer to another. That is the only guidance that you ever intended to offer your children: The power to guide their own lives.
- Abraham Hicks, 2007
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Re: Quotes on Rascals
On Reaching for Better-feeling thoughts about difficult people in your life
Better-feeling thoughts do not gush from you just because you have decided that you would like to find them,
because the Law of Attraction does not offer thoughts that are far from your active vibration.
And since you've been thinking unpleasant thoughts regarding this person for quite a long time, you are not going to suddenly shift into wonderful-feeling thoughts.
But that is not necessary.
All that is necessary is that you shift a little bit.
All that is really necessary in order to begin turning in the Stream and flowing toward an improved situation is that you discontinue pushing against it.
It really is a matter of just releasing as best you can, the uncomfortable thoughts.
Each time you do so, you will feel a bit of relief that will seem to translate into a small amount of downstream momentum, making it now more possible to find another thought of relief.
Your goal right now is to just stop paddling upstream.
Stop trying to defend yourself, or your position, or your decision... or your rightness. Stop defending anything - and just float in your boat.
- AH
Better-feeling thoughts do not gush from you just because you have decided that you would like to find them,
because the Law of Attraction does not offer thoughts that are far from your active vibration.
And since you've been thinking unpleasant thoughts regarding this person for quite a long time, you are not going to suddenly shift into wonderful-feeling thoughts.
But that is not necessary.
All that is necessary is that you shift a little bit.
All that is really necessary in order to begin turning in the Stream and flowing toward an improved situation is that you discontinue pushing against it.
It really is a matter of just releasing as best you can, the uncomfortable thoughts.
Each time you do so, you will feel a bit of relief that will seem to translate into a small amount of downstream momentum, making it now more possible to find another thought of relief.
Your goal right now is to just stop paddling upstream.
Stop trying to defend yourself, or your position, or your decision... or your rightness. Stop defending anything - and just float in your boat.
- AH
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Re: Quotes on Rascals
Why do *I* always have to do the work when it may be the other person's fault?
Some say to us, "Abraham it is annoying to say the least that every suggestion you offer is about what *I* need to do. You never suggest that the other people in my life make changes. I don't think it's fair that I'm always the one who needs to make the effort or make the changes."
And we understand why it annoys you that our suggestions are always directed at you and the choices that you are making. But you can choose to look at that in either an upstream way or a downstream way.
I have to do all the changing. (upstream)
I hold the power to affect my own life. (downstream)
When you think that others need to do something differently than they are doing in order to make your life better, you are really in a place of disempowerment, because you cannot control the actions of others. So those thoughts are always upstream thoughts.
But when you understand that you can control the way you feel because you can choose the thoughts that you think, and that with practice you can come into alignment with who-you-really-are, regardless of teh topic, then not only are you in complete control of the way you feel, but your life must unfold in a pleasing way. Those are downstream thoughts.
- Abraham
Some say to us, "Abraham it is annoying to say the least that every suggestion you offer is about what *I* need to do. You never suggest that the other people in my life make changes. I don't think it's fair that I'm always the one who needs to make the effort or make the changes."
And we understand why it annoys you that our suggestions are always directed at you and the choices that you are making. But you can choose to look at that in either an upstream way or a downstream way.
I have to do all the changing. (upstream)
I hold the power to affect my own life. (downstream)
When you think that others need to do something differently than they are doing in order to make your life better, you are really in a place of disempowerment, because you cannot control the actions of others. So those thoughts are always upstream thoughts.
But when you understand that you can control the way you feel because you can choose the thoughts that you think, and that with practice you can come into alignment with who-you-really-are, regardless of teh topic, then not only are you in complete control of the way you feel, but your life must unfold in a pleasing way. Those are downstream thoughts.
- Abraham