Quotes on Rascals

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Dealing with a back seat driver

Hotseater seeks advice on dealing with her backseat driver husband who is constantly telling her what to do when she's driving. She feels uncomfortable about not being able to follow her own instincts in order to please him.

Abraham:
From your place of annoyance and frustration you can find no solution. (...)
And so, unless you change the way you feel about this situation, nothing can improve. (...)

What you really want is to align with your Broader Perspective so that you can receive the benefit of that broader view.
What you really want is to be so aligned with the total resources of your Being that you excel in whatever you are doing.
It is our promise to you that when you are in alignment with your Broader Perspective, you are then acting from a place of deftness, clarity and precision. Your instincts are sharp and clear, and you make good decisions. And even though your mate may still want to play with you in making the best possible choices as you move about in your vehicle, he would not be offering his suggestions to you because of his doubt in your ability, but instead, in his desire to play and co-create productively.

You have no way of changing your mate.
You cannot modify your behaviour enough to soothe that, but you CAN come into alignment with You - and when you do, everything will improve. (...)

If you try to sort out why your husband behaves in the way he does (Did he have a bad experience with past drivers? Does he feel bored if he's uninvolved? Does he have a control issue? Am I really such a terrible driver that I evoke this reaction from him?) you will make yourself crazy. Things will only get worse. You do not have to understand the things that may have led up to this situation, but you must stop offering the vibration here and now that matches it.

Observing what is only perpetuates it.
Trying to figure out how it got started only perpetuates it.
Taking action while feeling negative emotion only perpetuates it.
An improved situation will only come once you have improved the way you feel.

So begin where you are and reach for better-feeling downstream thoughts. Notice the gradual improvement as you make a statement and then try to make the next one even better feeling.

[Example moving downstream rampage]

I don't like the way my husband tries to guide my every move while I'm driving.
If he's so sure he has all the right answers he should drive.
Sometimes he does offer a helpful suggestion.
Since he doesn't have to watch where I'm driving, he can look around for alternative options.
Two heads are often better than one.
He's never unpleasant when I make a mistake while driving.
He isn't trying to make me feel bad.
His suggestions are well-meaning.
When we flow together, we really do flow.
It's nice to have an interested partner.
It does feel like were in this together.
I appreciate his interest.
I do appreciate his help.
I'm a good driver.
I'm a good driver wit ha good helper.
We do make a good team.

- Abraham

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Hotseater is unhappy in his workplace. He enjoys putting his full effort into his work, but sees others around him hold back from putting their heart into their work, and he feels they resent him for his enthusiasm because it makes them look bad and raises expectations of what they should be able to accomplish. He is thinking of leaving this work place because of his feelings that others resent him but he likes the work and he has already been at three different workplaces and the same story has happened in all of them.

Abraham:

The following Upstream / Downstream Process will help you to get into alignment with what you now want from your work environment. (...) Try to find some thoughts that give you a feeling of relief:

I'm not at a critical point where I need to make a decision about staying or going.

I don't really know what the company owners know or don't know about their employees.

They aren't asking for my opinion, so I'm doing nothing wrong by not telling them what I see.

I really know very little about the other people who work here.

I don't really understand the motivation behind their actions.

What others do or don't do really isn't m business.

I like the variety in the work I do here.

I can nearly always find something to do that's interesting.

I can make whatever task I'm doing interesting to me.

I'm actually only unhappy here when I'm pushing against something or someone.

I do have the ability to keep myself happily in balance if I decide to.

It's to my advantage to tune out others' opinions of me.

I really have no way of accurately accessing others' opinions of me.

I only have MY opinion of their opinions of me.

I can control my opinions if I decide to do it.

Everything that I experience causes me to vibrationally ask with greater specificity for improved situations.

So actually everything in this job that bothers me just sets me up for an improved future experience.

How fast I get to that improved experience depends only upon me and the thoughts of alignment or misalignment that I choose.

I can choose upstream thoughts or downstream thoughts-
but either way they are my choices.

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Find something to appreciate about people and if you can't, avoid them

“No matter what, I’m going to be happy!
If I have to ignore everybody...
If I never have to see that person’s face again, I’m going to be happy.
If I have to see that person’s face, I’m going to find something to see in that person’s face that makes me happy.
I’m going to be happy.”

Excerpted from Sacramento, CA on 3/15/03

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Those rascals that look like they've got you pinned to the ground,
who seem to be keeping you from things that you want-
are actually ANGELS IN DISGUISE who are causing you
to have greater CLARITY about what you want.

But holding them as the culprits in your judgement
keeps you away from the stuff you deserve.

Abraham Hicks

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Liars: Dealing with Lies & People who you know are Lying

If you feel drawn to someone, but you are annoyed because you think that they are telling you some lies,
try to look beyond the lies and try to focus upon the feeling.

People offer all kinds of words for all kinds of different reasons.
Most lies are offered to try to keep things in alignment.

We’re not encouraging it,
but the motive behind lying is usually a pretty honorable motive.

In other words, when a child lies to their parents,
it’s usually because they want to be free to do what they want to do,
and they don’t want their parents to be upset about it.
It’s about wanting an alignment.

Physical ears have a hard time hearing this.
You keep talking about “We need to be honest.”

And we say,
we don’t meet any of you who are honest.
Even those who claim to be the most virtuous, are not honest,
but your vibration always is.

We would trust the feeling more than the words.

Excerpted from Houston, TX on 1/13/01

[Paradise-on-Earth]

There are a lot of people in your life, that you are holding there
as if you would need to prove it to yourself,
that you can get along with everybody.

When the reality of it is, that the Path of Least Resistance
doesn't include most of them.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

DON'T WORRY ABOUT THIS WORLD, it is not broken.
And don't worry about others. You worry more about them, than they do.
There are people waging war; there are people on the battlefield
who are more alive than they've ever been before.
Don't try to protect people from life; just let them have their experience
while you focus upon your own experience.

Abraham-Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Doomsday-Prophets:
Should man be concerned about global warming or over population?


HS:
Hi, thank you!
I consider myself an environmentalist and I think about the concept of expansion. And I think of it
in terms of the expansion of the human population, and what someone called the carrying capacity
of this world that we live in, the earth. And I wonder if- when you speak about expansion, you speak
about things in the physical realm expanding in the same way, as the metaphysical context in which
you speak of it? And if so, how does this organism, the earth, handles our physical size?

Abe:
Well, you have to remember that every moment that you are deciphering your environment you are
radiating rockets of desire that are asking for improvement!
So it may seem odd but it would be accurate to say, that in some cases an expanded idea of
improved life might be a diminishing of something. In other words, for example let's say, you have a
disease in your body and you're wanting the absence of it. Well, the absence of it is the expansion
of the idea and the expansion of the life experience.

But it is a diminishing of the disease itself, you see. What we're getting at, and so you don't need
to worry about the balance, or overpopulation for example, of your planet- because if you were to
begin to have more population then your planet could comfortably and joyously sustain, then
many of you would begin to radiate rockets of desires that would ask for something different.
And future generations would be adjusted accordingly, and so we like to say that you don't need
to worry about those things, because they're managed from a broader perspective.

But we want to say, while they are managed from a broader perspective, meaning the decision to
come forth is from broader perspective, it is certainly understood, because of what you are
emanating from your leading-edge vantage point here and now.
So it really is not something that you need worry about!

HS:
The reason I asked is because we hear about things like global warming and so forth, that after a
certain point in time the the ability to change the pattern no longer exists and our ability to react
and change our desires, in order to prevent an impending problem would be to be too late...

Abe:
We understand human concern, and we also acknowledge that the concern is spoken from
humans who have not managed to scrape enough dirt together to launch an earth into orbit. In other
words,
it's an interesting thing to stand in a place of lack of knowledge, and from your basis of
lack of knowledge to then make your predictions that are also baseless.

HS:
So, should we not be concerned about our behavior in relationship to the world in which we live?

Abe:
Concern is an interesting word. Because when you are concerned about something, you're
pushing against what you don't want. And when you're pushing against what you don't want,
you cannot allow what you do want.

So, the good news is, with all of the beating of the drum of global warming and all of the awareness
of the situation -and it's not as great as people might think!- but there are a lot of people talking
about it. With all of that awareness, then all of those rockets of desires that are emanating from
mass consciousness in human form on the planet... in other words, who want longevity of the
planet and want a place for their children and their children to live- as you are launching those
Rockets of desires, you certainly are amassing this improved life experience on planet Earth!

Which, for most of you, will not be realized until those of you who are concerned croak.
We're not saying that your concern is keeping it from happening. We're saying, your concern
will keep you from getting to experience the benefit of it.

It's a funny thing, Jerry and Esther have been really enjoying this summer. It's been cooler
everywhere they've been. Everywhere they've been, they have their air conditioners on in their
bus while they're sitting in place or sleeping at night, all this long summer. And they tease and
say, it must be about global warming! And they were visiting with a friend the other day, who was
talking about the the cool in their area of San Antonio. How much cooler it has been there,
and Jerry is teasing: "It must be about global warming!" and she said, "yes, I think that is the
reason for it!" and Jerry and Esther laugh, because everything that's happening, is now
because of global warming. Whether it's warmer or colder- it's all because of global warming.

And we understand what the scientists are saying. Global climate changes, global climate
changes... what they're talking about. But you must not look with such narrow view! In other
words, even if you look over the last decade or two, you have had as much or more fluctuation
in your planetary weather, than you're having now.

It's just that now it is the topic that makes you want to point toward that, and we are not wanting
to burst anyone's bubble if you have found something that you want to beat the drum of, and it
makes you feel more alive! We're not speaking of you, necessarily. We're speaking of anyone.
We certainly would not want to distract you from the contrast that causes you to shore up
your intentions about your desire for a good life on this planet! In fact, all of that contrast is about
that!

We're just saying to you, that you cannot live the joyful life that you came here to live, when you
are looking at some aspect of something that causes you concern, and you're continuing to hold
yourself in that mode!

And so, while there are scientists who would say "but we know what we're talking about! And we
must get awareness, and we need to get people to be responsive to this negative thrust, that we
are offering!"
-we will never agree that a negative thrust is good for you in the short run or the long run, ever.

And so, you can't possibly control all of the people and get them to do all of the things that they
need to do in order to stop this global warming. So now all that's happened is, that you've been
informed about something awful! You feel powerless to do anything about it, and now you're
depriving yourself of well-being, as you're using that as yet another excuse to not allow the
well-being to flow to you.

So you don't allow the well-being to flow to you, and then you pronounce on your deathbed:
"See, I told you. Things were going bad."
And so what we're saying is, the premise that we would use if we were standing in any of your
physical shoes no matter what, the concern is -whether its financial, or it feels more personal,
like I can do something about it. Or global, which feels so out of control that I don't know that there's
that much that I can personally do about it!

If you'll step back into a more general statement and reach for whatever thought that you can
think that make you feel better- you'll come into alignment. And this is the way we are
soothing our physical friends who are in angst over the planet:

You're not controlling your planet from your physical standpoint!

It is being managed from a broader view.
This Earth spins in its orbit in perfect proximity
to other planets. You've got to understand, that
there's a bigger plan behind it, than Congress!

In other words, the well-being is huge in comparison and so, all of you can find whatever excuse
you want, to nitpick over things and use your temporary excuse to not allow the well-being that is
all queued up for you to you, to be yours. But we promise you, five years from now, in ten years
from now, and 20 years from now and 30 years from now- you'll look back on this impetus, and
you'll say as you said about so many things, like y2k or the harmonic convergence or on and on
it comes- every new prophet brings another thing for you to worry about!
-It was much ado about nothing again, you see. Again.

And we're not trying to get you to be environmentally irresponsible. We're saying to all of you:
It's not your environmental irresponsibility, that's killing you off, in great numbers!
It's your vibrational irresponsibility.

And so, what's happening here with this global warming- thing, is that so many of you are using
your desire to be responsible environmentally, and you feel utterly out of control and now you're
being vibrational irresponsible to yourself! So, you're using it as a reason to pull yourself apart.

You are not better off beating the drum of global warming.
You're better off beating it a little, which makes you know that you want to appreciate your planet,
and you want to do your part to care for it, you want to be considerate to other people around you.
In other words, we're not for a moment suggesting that you should just go crazy.

We're saying: Find personal alignment.
And when you, as an individual, find personal alignment, you'll be inspired to the ideas that will
allow the expansion. The economy of your environment- go back even a hundred years, or
200 years, and look how small your economy, world wise, was- compared to now. And many
would say, "well, our population is bigger!"

Your population is bigger, but it is not percentage-wise. When you measure the population 200
years ago against a population today, this economic growth is incredible. And it's not because
you're trucking in resources from other planets! It's because you're doing a better job of mining
the resources that you have, because of your contrast, which is causing desire to be born. And
it will always be that way.

You will never be in a place as people upon this planet, that the current condition does not inspire
to you to something more. And that this environment does not then yield to you something more!
You're constantly going to be morphing in ideas in ways of living. And it is our promise to you,
that life will -as it always has- it will continue to improve.

Because there is no going back.
That is the duality that most people don't want to talk about: it's that idea of good versus evil. And
we don't want to talk about that sort of duality either. We want you to understand, that things
are good and getting better, and that is the eternal experience of this eternal evolving universe,
you see! And so, when someone looks at anything, a pocket of anything, and uses it as evidence
that denotes otherwise.

We say, you're out of sync with the entire expanding universe, which must say: Expansion is
inevitable. And expansion must always be good! Why? Because the contrast caused you to ask
for the improvement. And source went to the improvement!

It's only those who beat the drum of what's wrong,
that hold themselves apart from the improvement, are giving those
doomsday scenarios, you see. You cannot be tuned in, tapped in,
turned on to the knowing that is you- you can't be that one energy,
that is in alignment with source AND worry about global warming!
The two do not go together!

You cannot be in alignment with the eternal being- you cannot see
this world through the eyes of source, AND worry about global
warming at the same time. Because they don't match up.


from the clip "Abraham Hicks - Global Warming and Over Population"

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On Aggressive Rascals

Surely you have witnessed those who, in their feeling of insecurity act out aggressively.

They try to compensate with their action to make up for the feeling of lack.

But they cannot make up for it in action that tries to compensate, for that action only adds powerful emphasis to the deep lack within.
And that lack that they feel is their point of attraction.

They must focus upon their desire to feel secure first - and the action that will enhance their feeling of security will be inspired.

- Abraham

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On Critical Rascals

It is our observation that very often, the very action that you take in your attempt at getting what you believe is lacking, pushes that which you want away even more. Or more correctly stated: You attract the lack of what you want, to you, by the very feeling of lack that started the whole episode.

You may have experienced someone in your life who has very little appreciation for himself, or a low self-image.

Because he has a very deep, and very strong, desire to have value and to appreciate himself, he often offers behavior to make himself feel more important:

He is often critical of others in an attempt to like himself more.
Because he wants to like himself, he finds fault with others.

But his action does not get him where he wants to go.
For by the power of the Law of attraction, as one offers criticism, he is criticized, and as he is criticized, he is not uplifted, but deflated.
Therefore his action is of no value. In fact, it is detrimental to his intent to appreciate himself.

- Abraham

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On Grumpy / Unhappy / Ornery/ Complaining Rascals

Let's say that you're watching someone who is not joyful;
someone that you care about who you want to be joyful. (...)

You're unwilling really to walk over there all the way and teach them what you know because you understand that on a vibrational basis they're not going to hear you anyway.

You've tried that. You've tried to explain.
They're sort of rooted in their beliefs and they're not coming to where you're coming.

And you're going over there [to where they are] isn't going to help them anyway.

But in this process of seeing this person not feeling good, you have put the new
and improved version of them (which means - the better feeling version of them) in your vibrational escrow.

And so there they are.
And the broader part of you has focused upon the better feeling version of them.

But you, in your human form are not focused upon the better feeling version of them.
You're looking at them where they are. And in doing so you've separated yourself from who you are.

And you're blaming them, or at least giving them the credit for that.

And so and then you come to the conclusion that:
This is a feeling of loneliness that I'm having, because they don't get me, or because they don't get [what I'm trying to tell them about] what they need to get in order to feel better.

And we say it's a feeling of loneliness ([or more broadly speaking] that is a feeling of negative emotion) that is present because you're looking at them in a way that the
broader part of you is not now looking at them.

Your exposure to them caused you to expand your version of them

They, in what you observed them lived, caused you to give birth to an expanded version of them that you're not living up to.

True upliftment is living up to the expanded version of people that you have seen.

And they're not going to help you because they're not in the expanded version of them.

So they're over there, living life the way they've been living,
complaining about the things that they've been complaining about.
They're not helping you out at all.

And we can see how it would feel uncomfortable;
That you might even feel resentment or anger, or loneliness about not being able to just grab them and drag them over there where they belong.

But we want you to understand as you let go of that need to control what's going
on with them, and as you say things to yourself such as:
"It's temporary" and
"That part of them is really none of my business."
"This part of them is what I want to give my undivided attention to"

Before you know it you will discover that as you come into alignment with your expanded better feeling version of them, and you maintain it consistently -
you maintain that positive optimistic [thought], because you practice it when
you're not with them -

As this version of them becomes even only slightly - not a paradigm shift, just even
slightly more dominant in your vibrational beingness than where they are,
what will happen is Law of Attraction will start lining you up with this version of them rather than this version of them.

You'll be zigging and zagging and missing that version of them and you'll be hooking up with this version of them.

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From the youtube clip: ABRAHAM HICKS RELATIONSHIPS~ HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEELING OF LONELINESS ?