Quotes on Controlling Others - Wanting to Influence Others

[Paradise-on-Earth]

The others ALWAYS feel towards you, what you feel towards them!
(famous clip!)

You teach each other your respective responsive vibrations. In other words, you don’t feel any way about anyone,
without their helping you to feel that way! It’s really co-creation.


We’ll even go further, and bolder, and louder, and blunter:
If there’s somebody you don’t like, they don’t like you either!
We have never seen it otherwise.

We have never one time, ever, known someone to adore someone,
that the one that they were adoring, didn’t adore them back!

Now, some are thinking...
“Oh wait a minute. There was that man that I loved with all my heart, and he didn’t love me back.” And we say,
you were offering him insecurity. You were offering him worry. It wasn’t that pure vibration of love!
When you are tuned in, tapped in, turned on — when you are connected to your Source, and holding someone
as your object of attention, and you are genuinely offering that feeling of love and appreciation
— they can’t offer you anything else!

Abraham

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Very famous segment!
"Stalking disinterested Fred?"


Guest:
I want to talk about a man. We’ll call him Fred. I saw him about 4 years ago, and everything inside me went, “SHAZAM, that’s just a beautiful person.” I felt all champagne bubbly inside. And I know that I had a good 15 years of momentum behind me that was negative, and he manifested right out of my experience before I had a chance to know him or he had a chance to know me.

So you and I talked about this a couple of years ago, and you told me not to get caught up in the form and if thinking of a person specifically caused negative feelings, then I should back off and focus on the essence of him and what I liked about him. And I tried that for awhile, but I never felt as good as I did when I thought specifically of Fred. And I criticized myself for doing it wrong. And then about a year ago I said, screw it, I’m just going to think about Fred in all the loving ways I can imagine. So I did that for a year and it was wonderful.

And just the other day, I saw him driving down my street! And I thought, this stuff really works!

So, I went to where he was staying and I ran the buzzer, and I did not get the response that I was imagining. It was, in fact, very, ah, weird, and not good at all. So I soothed myself by telling myself that maybe I’m not really as terrible at this as I think. Maybe he just doesn’t know what a good idea I am, and what a good idea we would be together.

At the same time, I thought, maybe I’m stopping the real love of my life from coming to me because I’m thinking of the specific thing. But I can’t let go of the specific thing.

Abraham:
Well, the most important question we want to put to you is, at what point did you decide that instead of working it out vibrationally to jump in with action? Why was it so compelling to jump in with action?

Guest:
You mean, why did I go ring the bell that day?

Abe:
Yes. You were creating it in thought. You were working it around and you had finally found a way to relax. You’ve been working on this for awhile and some thoughts were comfortable, and some thoughts were not. But brought yourself into quite a place of comfort. Then you began seeing some evidence of your motion forward, and rather than letting the Stream continue to carry you to the fruition, you must have lost your faith in the Stream’s ability to take you where you wanted to go and you decided to go ring the buzzer.

Guest: Yes!

Abe:
This is just our way of saying that you don’t have the timing the Universe has. And you want to say, is the Universe really taking me to Fred? We say that if you can trust the Universe knows all the good stuff that you got from Fred, and all the good stuff you got from John, and all the good stuff you got from Jim, and all the good stuff…If you could accept that you’ve been sifting through the sands of men for a quite very long time, and you have created a magnificent relationship of which Fred is a part, but not all inclusive. There is stuff that is really dominant in Fred that is nowhere near what is dominant in your vibrational escrow.

Meanwhile, the Universe knows full well what you want and knows where all of it is, and is calling you toward it and giving you evidence that you are focusing well, and all of a sudden, you want to jump in with both feet and all of your action and go ring Fred’s doorbell. And the Universe is saying, “wrong doorbell. Wrong doorbell.” (lots of laughter from the audience)

Guest:
But if Fred’s not right for me, shouldn’t I get to have some experience with Fred to decide that. But why does the Universe get to say, “Fred’s not yours”? (even more laughter)

Abe:
If you and Fred were really as much of a match as you portrayed it right now, you would already be in the midst of an extraordinary relationship. But Fred has all kinds of things activated that are not a match to your vibrational escrow. And we want to step back from the person we’re calling Fred, whose real name shall remain nameless to protect the innocent (more laughter). We want you to step back from the specifics of this and just accept that through all of this, that you are creating something wonderful.

What we’re really doing is encouraging you to have more patience and less action for a little while. But there’s nothing wrong with your action. You jumped in with action and you got a rebuff that you don’t want which kind of set you back a little bit. We’re not encouraging you to not act because you’ll ring the doorbell and mess up your creation. We are just encouraging you to let the Flow carry you a little further so that the inspiration is so compelling that nothing can keep you from it. Because when you respond in action under those conditions, then you don’t get the rebuffs.

In other words, if you act too soon before the energy’s lined up, you almost always get a backlash. That is the whole point of the Art of Allowing. The Art of Allowing is just release the resistance and allow. Releasing resistance and allowing are the same thing. Release the resistance and therefore allow. Release the resistance and therefore allow.

Release the resistance and therefore allow. Release the resistance and therefore allow. And as the Stream begins to carry you, the ideas that occur to you will always bring you the results you are wanting.

It’s not possible for you to not get what you are wanting. We’re just asking you to look a little further down the road. We just want you to act less and create with your mind a little more.

And you say, Abraham, I was doing that and frankly, I just tired of doing it. And we say you can’t get tired of doing that because that is the work. Even now, you have start where you are. You rang the doorbell and it didn’t turn out well, and you start again. And you say, it was easier before I rang the doorbell, and now I’ve got that to overcome. But we say, but still you can. But still you can. And as you do, more things will come your way.

Guest:
I want to know how do I let go? Because there’s a part of me that’s very tired. Not just over Fred, but of wanting that match. And if I have to let go of Fred, if Fred can’t be in my future for whatever reason…

Abe:
(interrupting) We don’t want you to let go of Fred. We don’t want you to let go of the essence of Fred. We don’t want you to let go of the idea of the relationship. We just want you to let go of the resistance. Which means we want you to let go of the need to control Fred.

How will you feel when you have let go of the control and you are letting the Universe do its work on your behalf? How can you tell?

Guest:
Supposedly, I’ll feel really good and I feel relief and I feel comfortable. Whenever thoughts of him come up and I feel comfortable, then I know I’m in the Stream. I’m letting go.

Abe:
And what kind of thoughts are you having when you are doing the opposite?

Guest:
When I think, he’ll never like me. It’s never going to happen. This is ridiculous. What am I doing? I’m fixated on something…

Abe:
And which kinds of thoughts do you think you think most? In terms of airtime? Percentage-wise? On a daily basis, do you have more positive or negative feelings about relationship?

Guest:
More of the time I’m working on it. Do you know what I mean? It’s a constant working on it with me.

Abe:
Now you’ve come ‘round to the subject of this discussion: is working on it helping???

Guest:
Obviously not.

Abe:
So how does one stop working on a situation? How do you stop doing that?

Guest:
I guess you try to stop thinking about all of it altogether.

Abe:
What you do is let your desire for relief be more important than your desire for Fred for now. Because both of them are in the same direction. And that’s why when you say, I’m just weary of this, we say, that’s a very good sign. Because when you’re weary, you’re getting ready to stop the struggle.

You see, we want to convince you that you can’t NOT get what you want, but you can prolong its coming by struggling against the current. And the reason we’re belaboring this with you, is because we want everybody to stop for a little bit and identify what are your reasons for pushing against things.

In other words, we know that you ultimately want the relationship that you want, so what is it that you, and almost everyone else, is unwilling to just let it go, to just drop it. Say, Step 1, Step 2, Step 3. Step 1: Boy, I’ve done that. I’ve launched my desires. Step 2 is Source answers which means it is already done, which means I’m being called toward it. Step 3 is I just have to allow myself to float freely on the current that moving toward what I want in a free flowing environment until I get there. If you know what you want is there and you know you’re floating, then why would you feel anything but joy?

We say, you wouldn’t, if you were floating. It’s the paddling upstream thing that makes it not fun. So just stop that. We would encourage you to just get off the subject for awhile. Find some other things that are important to you. Don’t belabor it. Don’t keep working at it. Don’t keep up the struggle. You see, every subject is really two subjects; what is wanted and the lack of it. It’s a fine line when you activate the subject of your desire, whether you activate it with the flow or against it. If you habit is to worry about it, then every time you activate it, you’re going to worry about it. You’ve got to find some way from disengaging from that need to do something about it.

We don’t want you to give up on your goal or give up on your desire. In fact, we know you can’t. You cannot be less than life has caused you to become. But you can allow yourself to go toward it or you can keep yourself from going toward it, and you can tell in the moment of discussion which you are doing.

So now, give us some reassuring words that let us know you are able to release the struggle and go with the flow.

Guest:
I very much want to believe that I can look upon something and say I want that, and not get wound up about it. And not get tensed about it. I want to be able to create specifically one day. I want to figure out how I can create specifically and be letting go at the same time.

Abe:
That’s the question of the day. In fact, it’s the question of this workshop. It’s the question of creating. It’s the best question we’ve ever heard. How do I find my place within this? If the Universe is orchestrating and if I am deciding through the deciphering, then how do I know if I’m getting in my own way? We say, tension starts to come over you. How do I know if I’ve gotten out of the way? I start to feel more relaxed. How do I feel when I’m hindering it? I don’t trust it. How do I feel when I’m helping it? I feel more trusting. How do I know when I’m going with the flow? It’s fun. How do I know when I’m not? It isn’t fun. How do I know when I’ve let go? I feel good. How do I know when I haven’t let go? I feel tense. How do I know when I’m free flowing? I feel ease. How do I know when I’m pushing against the current? I feel tense. How do I know when I’m succeeding and I’m going to get what I want? I’m flowing free. But, Abraham, I’m flowing free, but I don’t have Fred, so how do I know it’s working? And we say, because you’re flowing free.

Flowing free has to be what you’re after. Fred’s downstream. If you’re flowing free and Fred’s downstream, what is inevitably going to happen?

Guest:
I’ll run into him.

Abe:
You will! And when you do, it won’t be something that you’ve orchestrated. It won’t be false. It won’t be contrived. It won’t be manipulative. It will be a rendezvous that flowing Streams have orchestrated. And when it happens, and I come into contact, and I recognize and I see through the way I feel the perfection of this relationship, I won’t say, are you Fred? Because it won’t matter.

- North Los Angeles, 8-5-2006

[Paradise-on-Earth]

You CAN "mold" others! But do it from ITV

If nothing is more important to you than that you feel good,
you can form a fantasy about someone who is in your life,
and they WILL begin to modify to meet your fantasy,
because Law of Attraction is a very powerful thing.

Abraham-Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

About "being right"...

We're saying to all of you, who are so interested in finding the "reality" of things, and trying to find the rightness of reality, and sorting out alllll of the components of life on the planet, we say:

Ooh what a big job you have, first of all! And what really a waste of time it is to try to sort it all out, and put it into good piles and bad piles, when what you really want to do, is let life cause you to expand. And then, do the only thing that is necessary, or that you can do, or that is a value to you, or that will help you fulfill your reason for being!

Abraham

[Paradise-on-Earth]

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Does the Planet need us to stop driving our SUV's?


HS:
One of the big topics these days, that is a subject of a lot of heated discussion and political activity is climate change. Global warming, and, uh, there's a lot of people that are very invested in suggesting that we are responsible for global warming and climate change, and therefore we can or should do something to alleviate it. In understanding that you look at things from a different perspective than most of us, I was wondering if you could enlighten us, as to whether or not we should be considering buying hybrids, and uh, getting rid of our SUVs, and uh, generating power in green ways, and all those other things- to see if we can, uh, lower the temperature of the planet? Or are we just wasting our time, and it will all take care of itself anyway?

Abe:
Well, it will all take care of itself, that is certain.
It's a sort of tricky subject, because when we say to you that you create your own reality, we mean that in every sense of the word. You create your own reality! But you do not create someone else's reality. So, as we have these discussions, it is of great interest to us to help you recognize your vibrational gap, and manage it.

But you never hear us talking about managing someone else's vibrational gap!

So, as we are interacting with humans, sometimes we meet someone- in fact almost all humans that we meet, your vibrational gap seems to be continually influenced by what other people are doing. Not because they have power in your experience, but because you've got your nose in their business! So, two people- let's say, two people who want... (stay with us: we're really answering your question! It just seems a bit off the way!) ...two people, who -let's say they're living together, who seem to want two different things.

If this one would focus upon what he wants, and become a vibrational match to it, the universe must deliver it to him, in the fullest sense of the word. And if the other wants what they want, -even though it's different from what the other wants!- and if this one focuses upon it completely, then the universe must deliver it!

And so, both
-even when they're living together,
-even when they're cooperating together,
-even when they're working together,
each of them can receive exactly what they want. Provided, each of them focuses upon exactly what they want!

But what happens with most humans is: This one wants what they want, but notices what that one wants. So, this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want! And this one knows what they want, but notices what that one wants- so this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want.

So now neither one of them are a match to what they want.
Neither one of them are getting what they want-
and they're both blaming each other for it.

Now let's take a human and a beast, one of the magnificent animals on your planet. The more you domesticate them, the more they begin to act like you do! But animals, for the most part, don't have a difficult time managing their own gap. They live their contrast, they give birth to what they want, they line up with it and...

the beasts of your planet are doing a better job of allowing, than most humans are!

The beasts of your planet are much better allowers than the humans of your planet. They are born in vibrational alignment with Source! Nothing that they live gets them much out of alignment with Source, and they are inspired from that calling. And human... when human watches the beasts of your planet, human calls it Instinct in the Beast. We call it alignment! Alignment, and seeing the world through the eyes of source, and responding to the world through the eyes of source!

Now let's talk about the planet. And we want you to understand that the planet -like you!- is a being also!
In other words, it is infused with Spirit. It has Soul, as you do. Just as every particle of Consciousness, even that which you call dirt does, so your planet is an extension of source energy. It was once an idea or a thought, that was thought upon. But it is a being in its own right! And it is having its experience of expansion, as are all of the participants upon it.

So, in the same way that we were leading you to understand
-that human can align with what he desires, and accomplish it easily;
-that the beast is more likely to do that, because he is less Intoxicated by the resistance-prone ideas; and
-your planet is even more than the beast in alignment with its own expansion.

Now, human is easily influenced by other humans.
Beasts are rarely influenced by other humans!

Earth is never influenced by human!


So what that means- in other words, it's like a very small flea on the back of a very big dog, the amount of influence that you actually have about it!
So, what we notice about humans, and this goes back to what we were talking about as we began here today, -as you explore this contrast, so many of you want to find a problem in order to be motivated to a solution. So many of you want to find a way to control conditions, so that you can have better feeling responses to conditions! But when any of you begins to see your world through the eyes of source- then you understand.

And this is what the last part of your statement is: That you have nothing to worry about!
Because you understand, that in the same way, that anything that any of you live in contrast, causes you to ask for something more, that the source energy -which is feeding everything from its origin, is always answering from that Leading Edge perspective! We'll say that in another way: Even if humans could affect the planet... let's just play that game for just a moment! So let's say that your planet is really out of balance.

Which causes all of the people on the planet in the evaluating of that contrast, to desire the realignment of the planet!

-As you're giving birth to that desire, and source is answering that desire, and old ornery resistant ones are croaking, and new in-alignment ones are being born, and those like you, who are old and ornery and coming into alignment... what you begin to understand is: That with every problem there is a solution! With every question, there is an answer.

Which means, you will never get yourself, in terms of your Earth-life, in a place where where you are so out of balance, that you cannot receive the answer, or the improved life-experience that you are asking for! It's just too big of an environment, with so much well-being.

We touched on this briefly, as we began about the the enormous well-being of the source-energy part of you. And how law of attraction is responding to that, so much so, that we could say accurately: Every human on the planet could get so out of whack vibrationally, that you could be depriving yourself for the most part of the well-being that is there for you, and all you would do is create a miserable life for yourself, again and again and again self self self self self -all the trillions of you.

But in all of that, you're launching further rockets! So, that the new ones being born, are even more in a place of alignment than the generation that came before! In other words, the expansion is always better! What comes next is always better than that, which came before. And it is just such an interesting thing to watch, generation after generation, look around their planet to find things that are wrong with it! And try to use what's wrong as their justification for then asking for something, or letting something be improved... When it's just the natural process of all things!

The population of your planet is managed from that broader non-physical perspective.

Don't you find it remarkable, that humans have not been able to gather enough dirt together, to launch into orbit, to create another planet? In other words, that is so illogical! And so, when you step back just a little bit and you try to see your planet through the eyes of source, you understand
it is not diminishing.
It is not fading.
It is not in trouble!
It is thriving!
And it is thriving in the next generation even more, than the last generation. And it has always been thus! And it always will be thus!

HS:
And I understand that, and I know that. And my concern is, that more and more people are coming from the other viewpoint of thinking, somehow they can do something...

Abe:
Doesn't matter! All they are doing, is using that one thing, one more thing, as their excuse to not allow their own alignment with Source. That's all!

In other words, we know -even in an audience as enlightened and leading edge as this one, we can feel your confusion on this topic. Because your logic says, almost all people have been taught from the begin of their experience, that you are either born flawed or that you are reaching a peak, that you are sliding away from later. In other words, you're all worried about this, this, uh "prime of life" that you are then sliding down from. And somehow you've got yourself convinced that the Earth has gone past her prime, and now she is sliding down into into endedness.

And we want you to understand: It does not work this way!
The universe is this expansive, ever increasing, always, always evolving experience! It is. It has always been true, and always will be!

So, what comes next will always be more expansive. More expressive, and potentially more enjoyable than what came before!

So the worst thing that could happen to an individual, is that he could find something -whether it's global warming or terrorism or government, or spouse, or anything that he uses as his excuse to not allow himself alignment with that broader perspective. Think about what we're talking about here today! How you are Source energy. You come into this experience, and the contrast causes you, as Source-energy, to become yet more.

And it's only when you don't go, to that which you become, that you feel worse.
So, think about that in terms of this conversation over global warming! Think about why it is so disruptive and so uncomfortable for people, who are beating the drum of those sorts of of things, when every fiber of your non-physical non- beingness knows that we are all eternally expanding.

And knows, that this time-space-reality is the stuff that causes the Catalyst for the expansion! And so, to have all that life-experience, that's accumulated in the eternal nature of your being, and then to be focused in saying "but wait, there's a flaw in this whole process! And this Earth, upon which I am standing is dying. And it is my fault!"

-Have you ever heard a string of sentences, that is more out of alignment with what you know your Source knows about all of those subjects??

HS:
So, do I spend my time following my Bliss, staying in alignment with me, focusing on what I want and and putting the emotion behind it, and ignore all the folks out there, that want to, uh, change the way I live, and how I'm taxed, and what I'm allowed to do... because they are so concerned, uh, uh, and they think that somehow I'm... because I'm driving a car and using premium gasoline, I'm going to destroy their habitat... or do I, do I pay any attention to any of that? Or do I just recognize what I know to be true, that you've just explained so eloquently, and just go on, about finding my own bliss?

Abe:
Well we'll we'll reflect that question back to you in another way. In more the Abraham-speak, that we gave you earlier: Can you control those conditions?

HS:
Certainly not.

Abe:
And, and... can you be happy without controlling them?

HS:
I'm working on it.

Abe:
You see, that's got to be the answer! They must be allowed to feel, however they feel! Just as you must be allowed, to feel however you feel. We're saying, they may very well be using you, and what they think you're doing to your planet, as their excuse to not allow their connection with source. And in their not allowing their connection with with Source, they may, very well, then be trying to motivate people to action. Because, after all- so many people of the world are trying to affect conditions, so that they feel better, in looking at those conditions!

But it's too big and they try and try on subject after subject- and they eventually give it up. Everything always falls of its economic weight! It always does.


From the youtube-clip:
Abraham Hicks 2024 || Get Ready A Big Global Shift Is Coming ! || Abraham Hicks


Outtake:

Planet Earth

Let's talk about the planet. And we want you to understand that the planet -like you!- is a being also!
In other words, it is infused with Spirit. It has Soul, as you do. Just as every particle of Consciousness, even that which you call dirt does, so your planet is an extension of source energy. It was once an idea or a thought, that was thought upon. But it is a being in its own right! And it is having its experience of expansion, as are all of the participants upon it.

So, in the same way that we were leading you to understand
-that human can align with what he desires, and accomplish it easily;
-that the beast is more likely to do that, because he is less Intoxicated by the resistance-prone ideas; and
-your planet is even more than the beast in alignment with its own expansion.

Now, human is easily influenced by other humans.
Beasts are rarely influenced by other humans!

Earth is never influenced by human!

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

True, unconditional LOVE- and true FREEDOM.

Source sees you, and feels only appreciation for that which you are- regardless of the condition that you're living!
Because source is so practiced in this knowing of well-being that the condition that you are currently living, does not dissuade it from its knowledge of well-being.

Unconditional love is:
Staying in the vibration of source, regardless of the condition.

Conditional love says:
"I want to feel good when I see this- I do, when I see that- I don't.
So, this condition has to change: so, that I can feel better!

Unconditional love says: I am source. and I am love,
regardless of the condition.

So, that's why man translates that to say: "God is love", or: "God loves all".
Unconditional love- that's what you're all reaching for.

You want to be tuned in, tapped in, turned on, to who you are. And living in this world it's the best of everything to be! In this world, where you're mixing it up, getting new ideas, and then coming into alignment with it.

The only freedom that you will ever find is the freedom from the bondage of resistance.
In other words, what resistance is is not allowing yourself to be who you really are!

All pain and suffering are about diverging from who you really are. All joy and alignment is about coming into vibrational frequency with who you really are! And that is the epitome it is most descriptive word for what love is.
Love is the absence of resistance.
Love is vibrational alignment with that which is source.
Love is tuned in, tapped in, turned on.
Love is vibrational alignment with source!
Unconditional love is vibrational alignment with source, even when there is something that I don't want happening.
You're a lot of trouble, you know!

HS:
So, can can you offer us some words that would de-socialize us, so that we get to the point... well, what are... what are some words we could practice, when we're by ourselves, that would shore up this notion of putting how we feel above, what others...

Abe:
"I love you so much, I don't care what you think."

HS:
Saying that to the peanut gallery?

Abe:
To anyone! "I love, I love you so much- I don't care what you think."

Now, think about what that's saying:
"I SO care about being in vibrational alignment with who I am! Because, if I am in vibrational alignment with who I am, then I have love to give. But if I am catering to what you want, rather than to my own guidance- then I've not tuned in, tapped in, turned on! I have nothing to give! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." or: "I love you so much, I must tune to the source within me, and I cannot tune to the source within me and tune to what you want, at the same time! Don't make me choose between alignment with source, and what you think you want, at this moment! If you will allow me, or whether you do, or not, to align with who I am -then I can shine the energy of source upon you. And you will thrive!

But if you convince me that I should cater to you, rather than align with Who I am, then I'll be out here on the raw and ragged edge with you. And we'll just fight it out, and blame each other, for how bad we feel. with you I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK."

When you get there, and can deliver that with a straight face, you'll have it.

Those do not understand: Well, what do you mean? If you'd love me, you'd care what I think!?" -well it goes like this: "I do love you! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." -"What do you mean?" -"Well, you think I'm wrong. But in order to love you, I must know that I'm source. And I can't know that I'm source, and know that I'm wrong at the same time! So,

in order to love you, I have to be in alignment with source.

And when I'm in alignment with source, I don't care what you think! In other words, it's solid." It's just hard to get them to hear it, because you know how irrational people are, when they're out on the raw and ragged edge... in other words, you you can't get sick enough to help sick people get well- and yet, you think that you can get disconnected enough to get disconnected people to be connected!

You can only help people align with source, from your vantage point of being aligned with source.

And you can't be aligned with source, and catering to what they think at the same time. You just can't do it! Maybe there are other words, that would be better:
-"I love you so much I don't care what you think." We like that. That's our first choice!

-"I see you as you really are. Not as you are being in this moment. I know the power of your being, and I know the reason that you are so upset right now, is because you are right now not allowing yourself to be the brilliant, beautiful, tuned in, tapped in, turned on person, that I fell in love with to begin with. And if you don't mind, I'm gonna go away, and I'm gonna hold the thought of who I know you really are, rather than wallow with you in this disconnected state." Getting better! (Audience cheering) How about this:

-"I've seen you in your alignment. And I've seen you not in your alignment. And I like you best, when you're in your alignment, but when I'm in my alignment- it doesn't matter." That's good, too!

-"When I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on- you can be any way you want to me. Because my love for you is unconditional! I am no longer gonna hold you responsible for how I feel!" What freedom you give to anyone that you would say that to!

-"I no longer hold you responsible for how I feel. I'm in charge of how I feel! I'm in charge of how I feel, and I so know that, that I don't even have to ask the same back from you." That was good, too!

-"I'm so good at unconditional love that I don't need you to know how to do it!" ...think about what we're saying here:

"I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on. I'm thriving, no matter what you do. You're not the boss of me: I am. I have the ability to align with source, regardless of the conditions that surround me. I get unconditional love."


From the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - Practice the feeling of Unconditional LOVE / No Ads during"

[spiritualcookie]

On people who want you to conform to their way of thinking and doing, & Why they feel threatened by rebels who don't want to conform

You [who want others to conform to your ways of doing things] feel threatened [by rebels who refuse to conform] because you do not understand the Laws.

You feel threatened because you believe that if that other one does something that is not in harmony with what you want, somehow it will get into your experience.

And we say, it cannot get into your experience if you do not give it your attention, because you invite through thought. [...]

Think about something else.
You cannot remove a thought, but you can think another one.

- AH

[Paradise-on-Earth]

There is no assertion. There is only attraction! And Attraction comes to all vibrating being. So, there is power of influence.

If you, by following your emotion, can come into alignment with who you are and what you want, and who this person is, and what this person wants; if you can come into vibrational resonance with the wellbeing of this person, then you can hold the vibration of that. And there is a strong likelihood that the rest of this person will join you in that alignment, and wellness will insue.

Abraham-Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Giving to others is the ultimate getting for yourself!
(It's not your job to keep the momentum.)

HS:
(...) I care. I love to care. And I love to care about others. And I get such fulfillment, uh, everyday, and focusing my energy on others that I care for...

Abe:
You are desirous for others. It's also in your vortex, isn't it?

HS:
Yeah, yeah! and I could almost go through my whole life, just focusing on the people I care about! The thing that interests me, the giving of myself...

Abe:
Let's stop just for a moment, we're only going to interrupt briefly, but we think it is a good thing to say right here, right now:

when you care for others, when you want to care for others and you do, and you feel satisfied, you're getting something you want, aren't you?


(HS: YES!) So you can't separate your desire to be in uplifter; from your desire for getting what you want, Because you want to be an uplifter a hundred percent. -We just want to make sure, that was really clear to everyone! Because sometimes people think "I'm either a giver or a taker." They don't realize, that giving to others is the ultimate getting for yourself!!

HS:
I always easily find momentum in helping others, or you know, coming to support.things, things that I care about. What I have such a longing for, you know, no matter how much of myself I put into that. I have such a longing to create, and tell stories...

Abe:
Before you go into that- we're happy to go there, we want to say one other thing, that is: When your desire is to help others, and so your desire is to uplift them, your desire is to help explain the avenue for their calibration to their own connection, to their own source energy. We just wanted to be very clear, that

in the desire to help others is a fine line, between helping and implying "I do this for you, because I see you can not do it for yourself."
And so, as long as that's in place, then you're good to go.

OK, so what are you working on here? What's your question?

HS:
As much as I put into that, on a day to day... what my calling is, I feel so strongly about telling stories. Creating, um, stories. Making films and, when it's the day to day, oh my friend, has this going on? Oh, there's this job to work on, give it my all, it's easy to find momentum in that. (But) when it comes to times that I'm leaving that to work on stories I want to elaborate on, projects that I want...

Abe:
What will happen to you as you are living in your world, and you are being called as you often are, by your inner being to the fulfilment of something, your gathering of stories to tell will be so immense, that nothing will keep you from doing that!

HS:
I find it very challenging to keep the momentum to actually do it well.

Abe:
It's not your job to keep the momentum! It's your job to stay true to your focus, and the momentum will follow naturally.

So, whats distracting you from your focus?

HS:
I think... if I feel like I have no more momentum by the time I get to that.

Abe:
But we think it's something different!
(HS: okay.) It's that! But here's WHY: One on one, as people come across your path, it seems like the most natural thing in the world for you to just proceed. But it doesn't yet, to you, feel like the most natural thing in the world, to write a script or to produce a product like that. That feels like a bigger stretch for you, and so you contradict your energy by saying, "I'm not ready" -when you are ready! Because it is as easy to create a castle as a button. It's the same process, exactly.

So, what we're saying to you is: As you allow yourself to enjoy the living of life, the observing of life, the conclusions that come to you about life... and you follow those impulses, and you find yourself really effective at uplifting, then you'll feel that momentum, once everything's in alignment for you. (...)

It's not that the world isn't ready for you. It's that you're not quite ready for your own intention!

And it mostly has to do with thinking that it's harder to do big things, than small things. It isn't true, but it feels like that, in the beginning. The momentum will be so strong, you will not be able to stop yourself from moving forward in that way. Also, -this is gonna make a lot of sense to you, because you already think like a movie maker. You like to watch movies. So, we're going to offer some words here, that will come to mean a lot to you, as you become this movie maker.

A movie, your movie, has to be vibrationally accurate- or they will not please you.

So, life is vibrationally accurate. And so, in some cases, you help people and its easy in some cases, you help people and its not so easy. In other words, you're good at helping them, but they're all not in the receiving mode, are they? And so, you are coming to understand in real terms, how the laws of the universe work. But more important, how people are responding to them.

How some have some awareness, how some don't. How some picked up their awareness from a wise grandmother, and how some got it from a basketball coach. How some didn't know it until they met you, but they were eager for it. ...You'll come to realize, that some people with really, really strong desire -who don't believe it at all, but their desire is so strong! Their desire is strong enough, that it carries them through. And you'll be able to explain that, through your movies. And you'll be able to explain why some people, who don't want it that much- who have every way in the world to do it, they could believe it if they wanted to, they just don't, don't make anything happen.

You'll have all of these combinations, and you'll be able to put all of them into your movie! So, that you will leave your watchers of your movies with an understanding of how this really works.

There's just not some pat little formula, that works for everyone, all the time! There are laws that are consistent, but there are lots of different approaches to it. Which, if you give your self enough opportunity to have ...trial and error is not the right word, but you know what we mean... the opportunity to succeed more with some, than others. And to evaluate what happened, and to watch a consistent breakthrough-pattern begin to happen, when you say such and such.

You're going to hone your craft at what you want to teach, before you teach it on a large scale!

HS:
How do I make that more of my every day?

Abe:
By doing what you do every day! Can you feel how it's the exact same intention, and we will tell you that you were born with!? It's the exact same intention that you feel, that you want to help this person who's standing right in front of you, who could benefit from some guidance, as it is the desire to produce something large, that will be received on a big scale. It's the same desire. It's the identical desire. It's just that your belief factor is more with the one on one, than it is with the other, (but it won't always be that way), you talk to those.

And we encourage that you do it! Seek out interviews with those who are now succeeding at what you intend to do, and listen to them. They will tell you what we just told you. Sometimes their intentions are out ahead of their belief... here's something really good. You're going to get this really clearly: You heard us just now say, that sometimes someone that you're wanting to help, their desire is so strong... like the mother, who picks the piano up off her child. Who never thought she could pick a piano up, off her child -until her child needed a piano picked up off of them!

And then suddenly her desire was so strong, that she was able to do something that she never ever believed that she could do. Because the desire factor kicked in and surpassed everything else.

So you're gonna meet people like that, and then you're gonna become one of them. When your desire is strong enough to overcome the beliefs you've been carrying around... tell this story through all kinds of different ways, but here are a couple of ways, and you can sort out which works best for you!

We like to say: If your car is going a hundred miles an hour and it hits a tree, it's a bigger problem than if it's going five miles an hour and hits a tree. Well, people come away from that story with two different conclusions. Sometimes people say "I'm never gonna drive fast because I don't want to hit trees. And some people say, if I'm gonna hit a tree, I wanna hit it when I'm going slow, but

what we mean by it is, if you're going fast enough, the tree will not be in the way.

In other words, you can go fast enough that your resistance will not be a problem, so then we go on with our explanation of deliberate creation. And we say to you:

"You don't want to try to rid yourself of desire! What you want to do is release resistence".

-So you want to release beliefs, that are keeping you from believing.
-You want to practice thoughts, that are about what you want, and
-you want to no longer practice the thoughts about "where will I get the funding, and how will I get the support..." and all of that.
Don't practice those thoughts! Those thoughts don't mean anything, and they don't help you. And they're not necessary!

When it's time for that, you'll be guided to it! Nothing could keep you from that!

You say... in religious terms, people talk about faith.
And what they mean is, believing in something they can't see yet. Well, that's what we're asking of you! We're asking you to believe in what you want, without seeing the immediate path to get to it. Because that's how it works! When you want it, your inner being is all over. It it's happening. The only question is, how much are you gonna go through, before you let yourself believe it?

And as you listen to others, you'll hear lots of stories about how finally it just clicked in with them, but mostly you know what will happen to you. You'll keep meeting people, who would be so benefitted by what you know, that you'll just develop this powerful desire to -once and for all- find a way to explain it to them.

HS: thank you!

Abe:
Sometimes, it takes a lot of trouble to stir up a desire in somebody. Sort of, why you all said: "Yeah, I'll pick this time on planet Earth! Seems like, they'll be quite a bit of trouble. Just enough! Not so much to paralyze me, but enough to get me going!" -yeah, good!


from the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - It's not your job to keep the momentumThe law of attraction"

Outtake:


You don't want to try to rid yourself of desire!
What you want to do is release resistence.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

How we teach and get taught to listen to others- instead of following our inner guidance

A man said to us one day, years ago: "(...) My mother hates me. My father hates me. I have a hard time!" -and we said: "How do you feel about your mother?" and he said: "I hate her, too. I hate her, because she hates me." And we said: "So, neither one of you are coming into alignment with who you are! And you're using each other as your excuse, why not to come into alignment.

When what you've come forth to teach is: Alignment, anyway.

What you've come forth to teach is: "I can align with the source within me, regardless of what those outside of me are reflecting back to me. And this is the most significant thing about this! Almost everyone, even those who've been listening to us for a while, cannot separate how they feel about things from how other people feel about things.

So, most people... in other words, almost the first thing you do with your children is: You teach them patterns of behavior, that make your life better or that you think will make them have an easier time in the society in which they will live. And as you convince your children, that they should do what you want them to do: "you should do what makes them feel better", rather than what closes their gap for them!

In early ages you teach them to listen outside of themselves.

That's why we have a room full of people in every city that we visit, who are accustomed to listening more to what's coming from another person... in other words, approval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people. And disapproval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people.

And we want that disapproval or approval, that comes from other people- even if it's your mother!- to not matter to you as much as the way you feel!

And that's what we said to this man, "that's what you've come forth to teach!"
You've come forth to teach. Because when you say to your child: "You need to do such and such, so that I will feel better"- then you set them up to listen to another and another and another. Until before long, most everybody is more interested in what everybody else thinks! And then they've lost track of their ability to quantify their journey.

Abraham Hicks