Dependence

[Blue__Butterflies]

Q: I have an eight month old at home, and I'm very curious about babies. I've heard you talk about as soon as they're conceived they have their stream going.
A: That stream is their Nonphysical awareness - that's that Nonphysical stream, and at the moment that they take their first breath and have some awareness of their physical environment, now they have two points of attraction and two points of consciousness.
Q: OK, so they have a little bit of resistance.
A: At birth.
Q: OK, I just want to clarify: They are vibrationally independent, as in they can choose for themselves?
A: Yes, and already have. And let's talk about that just for a moment based upon what we just said - none of you are really ever completely vibrationally independent from your Inner Being because your Inner Being is momentum that came forward with you.
Q: Can you say that again?
A: None of you are ever vibrationally independent from the goodness of who you really are. In other words, this Source Energy You is always the dominant Energy, and is always calling you to it. But when you try to accomplish independence from that, or let's say separation from that, you don't feel so good.
Q: Right, but I'm talking about vibrational dependence on or independence from other people.
A: We know you are, but in light of what we just said it was a nugget we couldn't pass up.
Q: Yeah.
A: Because so often you think you want your independence, but you don't want independence from clarity and you don't want independence from Source and you don't want independence from vitality - the reason you want independence is because you have a vibration going on that you don't like. But the seeking of independence is not really a healthy thing because it's a pushing against what you don't want usually. It's like with people who say "I want freedom," they always mean freedom from bondage, so bondage is a big thing in the vibration, bigger usually than the freedom that they're saying with the word.
Q: OK, so the independence we're seeking is really independence from our resistance?
A: The independence that you're really seeking is independence from those who aren't your guidance system, so that you can interconnect and integrate with what is your guidance. Can you see why it was important to clarify this?
Q: Yes. So the real dependence is my alignment with my Inner Being - I'm dependent on my Inner Being for the clarity, for the feeding me what I want - am I following?
A: Yeah, but that word dependent is one that smacks of something that you don't want. But it is an accurate use of it, so let's find a better feeling word to you than that. Let's call it collaboration of co-creation or integration or extension of or we're all in this together or that we are one or partnership - yes.
Let's not count all partnerships that aren't your Inner Being as flawed or not good, let's just understand the good ones feel one way and the not good ones feel another way.
Q: And put my focus on the good ones. OK.
~ Abraham-Hicks
San Francisco 7/24/2016

[Paradise-on-Earth]

We get to dictate to the Universe!

I'm going to tell the story and watch what happens. And tell the story and watch what happens. And tell the story and watch what happens.
This is my new occupation! I proclaim it to the world!
I am the teller of the story of the abundance of my life.

I know that I live in a cooperative Universe that will back up every sentence and paragraph that I write or speak.
What a wonderful profession I have!

I am going to dictate to the Universe,
for the purpose of aligning my energy, the details of the fantastic life that I am now embarking upon! All is well here.

San Francisco 8/10/08

[Paradise-on-Earth]

True, unconditional LOVE- and true FREEDOM.

Source sees you, and feels only appreciation for that which you are- regardless of the condition that you're living!
Because source is so practiced in this knowing of well-being that the condition that you are currently living, does not dissuade it from its knowledge of well-being.

Unconditional love is:
Staying in the vibration of source, regardless of the condition.

Conditional love says:
"I want to feel good when I see this- I do, when I see that- I don't.
So, this condition has to change: so, that I can feel better!

Unconditional love says: I am source. and I am love,
regardless of the condition.

So, that's why man translates that to say: "God is love", or: "God loves all".
Unconditional love- that's what you're all reaching for.

You want to be tuned in, tapped in, turned on, to who you are. And living in this world it's the best of everything to be! In this world, where you're mixing it up, getting new ideas, and then coming into alignment with it.

The only freedom that you will ever find is the freedom from the bondage of resistance.
In other words, what resistance is is not allowing yourself to be who you really are!

All pain and suffering are about diverging from who you really are. All joy and alignment is about coming into vibrational frequency with who you really are! And that is the epitome it is most descriptive word for what love is.
Love is the absence of resistance.
Love is vibrational alignment with that which is source.
Love is tuned in, tapped in, turned on.
Love is vibrational alignment with source!
Unconditional love is vibrational alignment with source, even when there is something that I don't want happening.
You're a lot of trouble, you know!

HS:
So, can can you offer us some words that would de-socialize us, so that we get to the point... well, what are... what are some words we could practice, when we're by ourselves, that would shore up this notion of putting how we feel above, what others...

Abe:
"I love you so much, I don't care what you think."

HS:
Saying that to the peanut gallery?

Abe:
To anyone! "I love, I love you so much- I don't care what you think."

Now, think about what that's saying:
"I SO care about being in vibrational alignment with who I am! Because, if I am in vibrational alignment with who I am, then I have love to give. But if I am catering to what you want, rather than to my own guidance- then I've not tuned in, tapped in, turned on! I have nothing to give! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." or: "I love you so much, I must tune to the source within me, and I cannot tune to the source within me and tune to what you want, at the same time! Don't make me choose between alignment with source, and what you think you want, at this moment! If you will allow me, or whether you do, or not, to align with who I am -then I can shine the energy of source upon you. And you will thrive!

But if you convince me that I should cater to you, rather than align with Who I am, then I'll be out here on the raw and ragged edge with you. And we'll just fight it out, and blame each other, for how bad we feel. with you I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK."

When you get there, and can deliver that with a straight face, you'll have it.

Those do not understand: Well, what do you mean? If you'd love me, you'd care what I think!?" -well it goes like this: "I do love you! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." -"What do you mean?" -"Well, you think I'm wrong. But in order to love you, I must know that I'm source. And I can't know that I'm source, and know that I'm wrong at the same time! So,

in order to love you, I have to be in alignment with source.

And when I'm in alignment with source, I don't care what you think! In other words, it's solid." It's just hard to get them to hear it, because you know how irrational people are, when they're out on the raw and ragged edge... in other words, you you can't get sick enough to help sick people get well- and yet, you think that you can get disconnected enough to get disconnected people to be connected!

You can only help people align with source, from your vantage point of being aligned with source.

And you can't be aligned with source, and catering to what they think at the same time. You just can't do it! Maybe there are other words, that would be better:
-"I love you so much I don't care what you think." We like that. That's our first choice!

-"I see you as you really are. Not as you are being in this moment. I know the power of your being, and I know the reason that you are so upset right now, is because you are right now not allowing yourself to be the brilliant, beautiful, tuned in, tapped in, turned on person, that I fell in love with to begin with. And if you don't mind, I'm gonna go away, and I'm gonna hold the thought of who I know you really are, rather than wallow with you in this disconnected state." Getting better! (Audience cheering) How about this:

-"I've seen you in your alignment. And I've seen you not in your alignment. And I like you best, when you're in your alignment, but when I'm in my alignment- it doesn't matter." That's good, too!

-"When I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on- you can be any way you want to me. Because my love for you is unconditional! I am no longer gonna hold you responsible for how I feel!" What freedom you give to anyone that you would say that to!

-"I no longer hold you responsible for how I feel. I'm in charge of how I feel! I'm in charge of how I feel, and I so know that, that I don't even have to ask the same back from you." That was good, too!

-"I'm so good at unconditional love that I don't need you to know how to do it!" ...think about what we're saying here:

"I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on. I'm thriving, no matter what you do. You're not the boss of me: I am. I have the ability to align with source, regardless of the conditions that surround me. I get unconditional love."


From the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - Practice the feeling of Unconditional LOVE / No Ads during"

[Paradise-on-Earth]

How we teach and get taught to listen to others- instead of following our inner guidance

A man said to us one day, years ago: "(...) My mother hates me. My father hates me. I have a hard time!" -and we said: "How do you feel about your mother?" and he said: "I hate her, too. I hate her, because she hates me." And we said: "So, neither one of you are coming into alignment with who you are! And you're using each other as your excuse, why not to come into alignment.

When what you've come forth to teach is: Alignment, anyway.

What you've come forth to teach is: "I can align with the source within me, regardless of what those outside of me are reflecting back to me. And this is the most significant thing about this! Almost everyone, even those who've been listening to us for a while, cannot separate how they feel about things from how other people feel about things.

So, most people... in other words, almost the first thing you do with your children is: You teach them patterns of behavior, that make your life better or that you think will make them have an easier time in the society in which they will live. And as you convince your children, that they should do what you want them to do: "you should do what makes them feel better", rather than what closes their gap for them!

In early ages you teach them to listen outside of themselves.

That's why we have a room full of people in every city that we visit, who are accustomed to listening more to what's coming from another person... in other words, approval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people. And disapproval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people.

And we want that disapproval or approval, that comes from other people- even if it's your mother!- to not matter to you as much as the way you feel!

And that's what we said to this man, "that's what you've come forth to teach!"
You've come forth to teach. Because when you say to your child: "You need to do such and such, so that I will feel better"- then you set them up to listen to another and another and another. Until before long, most everybody is more interested in what everybody else thinks! And then they've lost track of their ability to quantify their journey.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Honor others (and yourself!) for following their inner, unique guidance!
(Dealing with Pain, with gay people, with all sorts of Uncontrollables and "disorders"...)

We're visiting with a woman one day who had pain in her body and she said: "Abraham, how can I think positive thoughts when my body hurts so much? And we said: "we know what you're living is what it is. But there's a difference between having pain in your body, and feeling fear- and having pain in your body and feeling hope.

And the difference between fear and hope is the vibrational difference between recovery or not.

In other words, we were trying to teach her how to quantify the journey between sickness and wellness. How to feel her way, you see, where most people aren't encouraging anybody to feel their way into vibrational alignment, in order to have a better life! They're trying to teach them, they're trying to motivate them to respond to this rule, and to respond to this law, and respond to this disapproval or this approval.

So it is rampant in this civilization today- it is rampant almost nobody is listening to their own guidance!
Almost nobody is deliberately closing their gap.
Almost everybody cares what somebody else says or thinks, about what they're doing!

And so many people are coming forth, saying "well, try this one on, because this is an orientation that was set forth, before I came forth into this physical experience! And I can't change it, even if you want me to", you see. And so, there are all kinds of ornery little buggers being born- and we don't mean that from our point of view. We mean:

Pioneers of deliberate, powerful creation.
Teachers to the core of their being!

But they're being greeted by those who are immediately slapping labels on them. Like, oh there are so many. Like nonconformist with lots of different labels... "uncontrollable". Uh, "you have this disorder and this disorder and this disorder and this disorder!" -and we say:

Yay for the disorders! All of these disorders coming forth! The non-conformist coming forth, to teach unconditional love!

You see... and so, it is so delightful when you are able to assist someone. It's a great gift you give to someone, when you say:
"Well this is what is. And I'm not going to change it, so that you can feel better! This is what is."

And it's a hard thing to do, because you want them to be happy. So, when Kate wants to come to see Esther, and Esther really wants Kate to come- but Esther's got a big long list of things that she needs to do. So, Esther says "be better if we don't do it today!" and Esther hears the disappointment in Kate's voice. It's hard for Esther not to change something, to make Kate feel better. Because Esther would run over herself with the bus, if she thought it would make Kate feel better. But we want Esther to let Kate work it out on her own! And, she would, every time.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Uncheatable Uponable


HS:
I was feeling that way for the last nine months really up until the date the night before I came on this cruise which I was feeling awesome about and then I found out that he's been cheating on me for a really long time.

Abe:
We agree that you all have different levels of how much you're willing to put up with. And whether he's just annoying, or whether he is violating some commitment that the two of you have established- in other words, we get it that there are narrower and wider gaps! But we want to be so bold as to say that,

whoever you are interacting with, is going to violate the commitment
that almost all of you want them to keep!
And the commitment that almost everybody wants everybody
that they're up close to impersonal to keep is,
"I want you to promise to put me first- no matter what."

And that is a commitment that no one keeps!

Because you're not wired like that!
You were not born like that!
You you've come to establish... We would like your marriage vows, or your relationship vows, to go like this:

"Dear one, I want you to know that- as much as I love you, there's someone who comes first before you.
And that is my alignment with the source, within me!
That's my inner being, that's who I'm devoted to.
That's why I'm aligned to.
That's who I'm feeling for.
That's what my commitment is to.

And my promise to you is, that I will give you, as much as I can, the fullness of me!
Not as the separated me.
I'm going to do my best to satisfy my alignment, and therefore give you the gift of living with someone, who has aligned.
And what that will be for you, what that will mean for you, how that will play out for you, is:

I won't be needing or demanding from you behavior, in order to keep myself happy!
My happiness will be dependent upon my focus."

There are people who feel betrayed, if their partners think about other people.
There are people who feel betrayed if their partner doesn't give their undivided attention to them.
There are people who feel jealous if anyone feels happy at the thought, or in the conversation with somebody else!

There are all kinds of degrees of cheating on you, and for the most part, any part of someone else cheating on you just means: "You've taken your attention away from me! And I was dependent upon your attention, being upon me, so that I could feel good! And now you've taken your attention away from me...!" (Towards the HS) This is too strong for you.

But, we really want you all to not be dependent upon anyone for the alignment.
That it is the epitome of looking for love in all the wrong places!

And when you say you've cheated on me, we know. We know there are agreements that you make! We get what you're talking about.

But we would like you to be uncheatable-upon-able!
"I'm stable in my self-respect! My sense of well-being is not dependent upon your behavior."

So what you're really wanting to do, is decide what you want, and become a vibrational match to what you want. And you will attract a partner who is a vibrational match to what you want, you see! And so we're not suggesting that you will not find another partner!

We're just suggesting that you find true alignment with who you are before you go looking!

from the official Abraham Hicks youtube-clip "Uncheatable Uponable", 2014

[Paradise-on-Earth]

How to not needing Glasses anymore?
(Esther, performing "the Impossible")

HS:
I've worn glasses since I got out of college, and I'm wondering how can I see better? How can I see without my glasses? What can I do so, that I can improve my vision, like... it's a muscle that can be enhanced? So, is there any way where I could eventually either eat more carrots or do more eye exercises, right so I could see better, and maybe not even use these... is there a possibility of curing or bettering my eyesight?

Abe:
Yes there is.

The most important thing to understand about any desire that you hold is, that it's all about focus.

And it's interesting that we're talking about eyes and focusing at the same time, that we're talking about vibrational Focus! So the thing that is interesting about the way you feel about it, and even about the things that you said about it, is as- you took your glasses off. Your belief and expectation is that you could not see as well! And so, of course, have you noticed these differences? Have you noticed that when you are tired or even, you might say when your eyes are more tired, that your vision is more blurred? And have you noticed that when you wear your glasses, that your eyes do become dependent upon them?

In other words, the lenses do the focusing, so that your eyes can become lazier. That's why your prescriptions usually, as you go through time, become stronger and stronger. It isn't necessary that your eyes change! They just do, because you don't give them a reason to focus in the way they are capable of doing!

Don't you think that's an interesting thing? And so, behind everything... now we know, there are a lot of physical people and a lot of physical places- mostly optometrist offices who would disagree with what we've just said. Because they are looking at the results. They're looking at the manifestation of people's vision! They're not looking at the vibrational reason for it. They're not looking for the vibrational Focus. They're not looking for the emotional Focus! They're just looking for the results of whatever is going on.

And so, it would be helpful to begin saying things such as: "I'm really appreciating these lenses, which help me at times to focus more clearly. And then occasionally, don't put them on, and expect the same thing of your own eyes! The best example that we have of this to give you: Esther and Jerry moved from Arizona to Texas, and it required a new driver's test. And therefore, a new eye examination. And Esther looked into the little Contraption, and she said: "This is broken!" because the last time she looked in it, things were much clearer.

And so, the nice woman explained to her: "Well, no problem! If you can't see clearly, we'll- just come back. But in the meantime go get some glasses, so that you can see what's here." And Esther thought "that seems like a lot of trouble!" so she said to us: "Abraham, can you see can you see what's in here?" and so we just tipped her head a little bit this way, and a little bit that way. Asked her to breathe deeply, and look again- and she read the letters off from inside of the contraption.

And Esther was astounded by the experience!!
Because she knows they are the same eyes! It's just different point of focus, you see what we're getting at!?

So we can tell you're not really having any of this, yet. Because it feels like, there's something that you need to be doing that you're not doing! But you just haven't looked at it this way- before your beliefs get in your way! And there is a common belief that your eyes get worse as you get older, or "how you explain, Abraham that some of you are born with better vision than others!?" -In other words, sometimes children at an early age- we know, we know, we know! There are all kinds of manifestations that you use as your justification, to not have things the way you would really like them to be.

But you ask this question: How could I see more clearly through these eyes? -That's what we heard you ask. And the answer to that is, first understand that you can expect that it is possible! Don't get all excited, all at once. Don't try to be healed suddenly! It's not like that. Just care about your focus, sometimes, when you look at things. It depends upon what else is going on in the atmosphere also. And we want to say to you, that the new lights, that you are putting in your homes, are of a different vibrational frequency, and they make it more difficult for you to see, have you noticed?

And all of you are putting more strain on your eyes, as you are reorienting yourself to the world within the little thing in your hand, rather than the world out there. We're surprised you can see anyone's face, anymore- unless it's on Facebook! (laughter) And so, it really is a matter of using your eyes in a broader way. Look out into the distance, every day! Look up close, every day! In other words- in the same way you said, "eat carrots"- that's always nice. "Eye exercises?" Yes, yes! Use your eyes to focus!

But dependency on the lenses will keep you from deliberately focusing your eyes and then your vision, most likely, will require more and more focused lenses. [Applause]

HS:
I do get that. I do.

from the youtube clip "Should I Eat More Carrots Or Do More Eye Exercises? Say This To Stop Wearing Glasses. ~Abraham Hicks"