Some people feel criticism for people who look for their own positive aspects,
calling them arrogant or self-serving.
We reply that to be self-serving is a good thing.
For when you care enough to bring yourself into alignment with the greater part of who you are,
while you have certainly served yourself (and you know that because you feel so much better)
you now are in a position to be of value to others.
But in your depression, you are of no value to any other,
for you are separate from the Stream of Well Being from which you offer value.
- Abraham Hicks
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Care for Yourself & for your Connection
If we were standing in your physical shoes, that would be our dominant quest:
Entertaining Yourself,
pleasing Yourself,
connecting with Yourself,
being Yourself,
enjoying Yourself,
loving Yourself.
Some say, “Well, Abraham you teach selfishness.”
And we say, yes we do, yes we do, yes we do,
Because unless you are selfish enough to reach for that connection,
you don’t have anything to give anyone, anyway.
And when you are selfish enough to make that connection—
you have an enormous gift that you give everywhere you are.
Excerpted from San Antonio, TX on 4/21/01, Daily Quote – January 19, 2024
Quotes on Selfishness & Arrogance
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Care about how you FEEL, first and foremost,
MORE THAN EVERYTHING ELSE.
More than everything else, put together.
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Quotes on Selfishness & Arrogance
We have been accused of teaching selfishness -
As if being aware of self is a negative thing!
It is our knowing that all that you perceive is through the discerning eyes of self,
therefore there is nothing more important than keeping a healthy balance of self.
One who does not feel love for himself has no love to offer another.
One who is not happy can not uplift another to joy.
You simply cannot offer to another that which you do not have.
As you feel, you ooze or radiate outwards. And in your radiation outward you attract unto you - and you offer influence unto the world, indeed, unto the Universe.
- Abraham
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About "being right"...
We're saying to all of you, who are so interested in finding the "reality" of things, and trying to find the rightness of reality, and sorting out alllll of the components of life on the planet, we say:
Ooh what a big job you have, first of all! And what really a waste of time it is to try to sort it all out, and put it into good piles and bad piles, when what you really want to do, is let life cause you to expand. And then, do the only thing that is necessary, or that you can do, or that is a value to you, or that will help you fulfill your reason for being!
Abraham
We're saying to all of you, who are so interested in finding the "reality" of things, and trying to find the rightness of reality, and sorting out alllll of the components of life on the planet, we say:
Ooh what a big job you have, first of all! And what really a waste of time it is to try to sort it all out, and put it into good piles and bad piles, when what you really want to do, is let life cause you to expand. And then, do the only thing that is necessary, or that you can do, or that is a value to you, or that will help you fulfill your reason for being!
Abraham
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When people use their partners desires to discourage themselves...
As we are interacting with humans, sometimes we meet someone- in fact almost all humans that we meet, your vibrational gap seems to be continually influenced by what other people are doing. Not because they have power in your experience, but because you've got your nose in their business! So, two people- let's say, two people who want... (stay with us: we're really answering your question! It just seems a bit off the way!) ...two people, who -let's say they're living together, who seem to want two different things.
If this one would focus upon what he wants, and become a vibrational match to it, the universe must deliver it to him, in the fullest sense of the word. And if the other wants what they want, -even though it's different from what the other wants!- and if this one focuses upon it completely, then the universe must deliver it!
And so, both
-even when they're living together,
-even when they're cooperating together,
-even when they're working together,
each of them can receive exactly what they want. Provided, each of them focuses upon exactly what they want!
But what happens with most humans is: This one wants what they want, but notices what that one wants. So, this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want! And this one knows what they want, but notices what that one wants- so this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want.
So, now neither one of them are a match to what they want.
Neither one of them are getting what they want- and they're both blaming each other for it.
Abraham Hicks
As we are interacting with humans, sometimes we meet someone- in fact almost all humans that we meet, your vibrational gap seems to be continually influenced by what other people are doing. Not because they have power in your experience, but because you've got your nose in their business! So, two people- let's say, two people who want... (stay with us: we're really answering your question! It just seems a bit off the way!) ...two people, who -let's say they're living together, who seem to want two different things.
If this one would focus upon what he wants, and become a vibrational match to it, the universe must deliver it to him, in the fullest sense of the word. And if the other wants what they want, -even though it's different from what the other wants!- and if this one focuses upon it completely, then the universe must deliver it!
And so, both
-even when they're living together,
-even when they're cooperating together,
-even when they're working together,
each of them can receive exactly what they want. Provided, each of them focuses upon exactly what they want!
But what happens with most humans is: This one wants what they want, but notices what that one wants. So, this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want! And this one knows what they want, but notices what that one wants- so this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want.
So, now neither one of them are a match to what they want.
Neither one of them are getting what they want- and they're both blaming each other for it.
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Desires are Selfish, in the very best way. And that does NOT hinder the wellbeing of others!
We all came as a Divine Creators!
The Ferrari is AS important as World-Peace!
-Become a POINTER: Point at- and update what you want.
Abe:
You know that you are more than you see here, in these bodies!? Do you?
Are you beginning to realize, that you in your human form- and a lovely form it is!- in your human personality, that you are an extension of source energy, and that you've come as source energy to create in a time and place in a time and space, under the vibrational laws of the universe,
with the explicit intention of consciously becoming more, and getting to witness the more that you are becoming?
You've come here into this time-space reality, to turn thoughts to things!
And sometimes you've... especially those of you, out here on this leading edge! On this leading edge of spirituality and deliberate intent, deliberate creation- sometimes you argue with yourself about the importance or the value, or even the correctness, of wanting to create things. Like, maybe you should be more interested in spiritual things? ...More heavenly things. Maybe, you should care more about World Peace, and not so much about the Ferrari?
And we want you to understand, that your Ferrari won't stop world peace!
You're carving out for yourself holding your thoughts upon something that you care about, to the point that you learn not to deviate from the things that you care about. In other words, thinking about what you want and not thinking so much about its absence, and not using the absence of things you want as justification for flowing your thoughts toward more virtuous things! There's no supply line that has been cut off.
In fact, you get to create whatever it is, that you focus upon!
In fact, you DO create whatever it is, that you focus upon!
And by creating one thing, you don't disallow another. You can have it all!!
Did you hear that? So, what keeps you leading edge creators, what keeps any of you from experiencing, from having, from possessing, from living, from owning, from knowing, something that you desire?
What does pinch it off?
If it isn't that: "There just isn't enough to go around. And the greedy ones are getting it all!" -if it's not that, and it isn't! -if it isn't that, someone else has decided what you're worthy of, or not worthy of. And holding back on your behalf, then what is it?
It is, that only you can hold yourself apart, from something that you want.
And the only way that you do it is by focusing upon the absence of what you want.
Because what you're pointing at, with your thoughts and with your words, is what you're practicing a vibrational frequency of. And that's what you're getting! That's what you're letting in. But you get confused about it, because sometimes when you are in a state of desiring something, you're pointing right at what you desire, and you feel good when you're thinking about it. There's no resistance! There's no pinching it off, when you feel like that!
But when you feel jealous of what someone else has, or angry at yourself that you haven't created more effectively or efficiently, when you feel negative emotion- that's when you are pointing in opposition to what you want. And the reason that we are so sure about that is, because every time you pointed at what you wanted, your Inner Being pointed at it! And Law of Attraction began amassing around this powerful pointing of you and YOU. And even when you, in your human form, got discouraged and stopped pointing at what you want, but instead began pointing at all the reasons that you are using to justify why you don't have it-
your Inner Being continued to point in the direction of what you want!
And that is, in fact... that pointing difference is what your emotions are all about. Esther has been saying to anyone who asks, and since hardly anyone does, she tells a lot of people who aren't asking, if they say "what do you do?" -she says "I'm a Pointer." And that's usually about as far, as that conversation goes, because she looks crazy, you know. But what she means is:
"I point at what I want! And law of attraction and the Universe take care of it!
Cooperative components are gathered, and what I want begins to take shape.
And the more I point at what I want, then the more of what I want comes into form.
And the more I point at it, the more awarenesses I have, of other things that I think, might be helpful to assist me in the receiving of it!"
Sometimes you point at something like a new house. And then you need to point at someone who's going to build it, unless you're going to do it yourself! And Esther's not going to do it herself, so she points at the idea of the new house, and as it comes into being, then she points at all kinds of things about the house.
"I'd like that, for the floor. And I would like that for the paint color. And I would like that for the tile, and I would like that, and I would like that one, I would like that, and I would like all of those people who know how to do it, just the way I like it, to come and assist!"
I'm a pointer! I'm a pointer. I'm a pointer: that's what a creator is!
A pointer and a deliberate creator is someone, who continues to point at what you want.
But as humans- and it's all right!!- you've come to sift and sort. And to come to conclusions about what you prefer, in the sifting and sorting process! Often you're pointing at what you don't want. In fact, you usually point at what you don't want, before you get clear about what you do want! But what we've noticed about so many of you is, even though you come into greater clarity about what you do want, as you've been aware of the things that you don't want- so often, and we love you so much!- you continue to point at what you don't want while you talk about what you do want.
You keep noticing how things are.
And what we really want you to hear is, that your life is so full and fantastic! And you have so many facilities in order to observe it! Your physical senses, your hearing and seeing and smelling and tasting and touching- everything that's around you, and that makes you more likely to keep pointing at what you see! But if you are pointing at it, just because it is: "look over there!" (happy voice) -you say, "well, look at that" (cynical, bummed out voice). How often rather than(happy eager voice) "look at that!", you're saying (disgusted voice) "well, look at that!" and you can tell by your own attitude when you're saying "look at that", it might not be something that you really want to point at!
Because you're going to move in the direction of what you point at!
Jerry learned that with Esther. They're driving down the highways, and the big old 45-foot bus with the car behind it, yesterday. Esther did most of the driving, and Jerry would say: "Look at that rainbow!" and then he would notice, that Esther would start moving in the direction! It wasn't long before he learned to only point out things to her that were right ahead!
Because you do move in the direction of what you're pointing at, at what you're looking at!
And so we want you to just pay attention over the next few days especially, at how many things you're pointing at, coming to your experience, in a very very strong way! Because law of attraction is relentless. The law of attraction brings back to you- and fast- what is active in your vibration. Sometimes, something happened in your experience, maybe 20 years ago. And of course you observed it! You were pointing at it, maybe a lot of people were pointing at it. It was something really worth pointing about! It was a big deal in your experience!
But then, that time passed. But you kept pointing at it. Remembered, talked about it... 19 years ago, and 18 years ago, and 17 years ago... talked about it yesterday! Talked about it this morning, in fact! You talk about it:
-Sometimes, because it's entertaining.
-Sometimes, because you overcame something!
-Sometimes because it's interesting! Mostly, because it's entertaining or because it's stuck in your vibrational craw. But MOSTLY,
-because you have forgotten, that what you point at keeps coming with you.
So if there are things that happened 20 years ago, that you want to re-create in today's experience, then by all means, we encourage you to keep pointing at them! And keep pointing them out, and keep talking about them!
But if it's something that you really don't want to be coming up in your experience over and over again- then don't keep updating it!!
Don't keep renewing it!
Esther notices that if she doesn't update her software, pretty soon her machine doesn't work anymore. You've noticed that? -Gotta kind of keep updating, to keep things current! Well, when it regards things that you care about, and things you want to keep being active in your experience, by all means keep updating them! Keep talking about them. Keep them active in your vibration. But if there's something that you've lived, or something that you've observed, that you don't want to be present in your day's experience-
then do your best to take your attention from it which means give your attention to other things:
Decide, that you're going to point toward the things that you really want.
from the youtube clip "‘I am a Pointer’ | You can have it all"
We all came as a Divine Creators!
The Ferrari is AS important as World-Peace!
-Become a POINTER: Point at- and update what you want.
Abe:
You know that you are more than you see here, in these bodies!? Do you?
Are you beginning to realize, that you in your human form- and a lovely form it is!- in your human personality, that you are an extension of source energy, and that you've come as source energy to create in a time and place in a time and space, under the vibrational laws of the universe,
with the explicit intention of consciously becoming more, and getting to witness the more that you are becoming?
You've come here into this time-space reality, to turn thoughts to things!
And sometimes you've... especially those of you, out here on this leading edge! On this leading edge of spirituality and deliberate intent, deliberate creation- sometimes you argue with yourself about the importance or the value, or even the correctness, of wanting to create things. Like, maybe you should be more interested in spiritual things? ...More heavenly things. Maybe, you should care more about World Peace, and not so much about the Ferrari?
And we want you to understand, that your Ferrari won't stop world peace!
You're carving out for yourself holding your thoughts upon something that you care about, to the point that you learn not to deviate from the things that you care about. In other words, thinking about what you want and not thinking so much about its absence, and not using the absence of things you want as justification for flowing your thoughts toward more virtuous things! There's no supply line that has been cut off.
In fact, you get to create whatever it is, that you focus upon!
In fact, you DO create whatever it is, that you focus upon!
And by creating one thing, you don't disallow another. You can have it all!!
Did you hear that? So, what keeps you leading edge creators, what keeps any of you from experiencing, from having, from possessing, from living, from owning, from knowing, something that you desire?
What does pinch it off?
If it isn't that: "There just isn't enough to go around. And the greedy ones are getting it all!" -if it's not that, and it isn't! -if it isn't that, someone else has decided what you're worthy of, or not worthy of. And holding back on your behalf, then what is it?
It is, that only you can hold yourself apart, from something that you want.
And the only way that you do it is by focusing upon the absence of what you want.
Because what you're pointing at, with your thoughts and with your words, is what you're practicing a vibrational frequency of. And that's what you're getting! That's what you're letting in. But you get confused about it, because sometimes when you are in a state of desiring something, you're pointing right at what you desire, and you feel good when you're thinking about it. There's no resistance! There's no pinching it off, when you feel like that!
But when you feel jealous of what someone else has, or angry at yourself that you haven't created more effectively or efficiently, when you feel negative emotion- that's when you are pointing in opposition to what you want. And the reason that we are so sure about that is, because every time you pointed at what you wanted, your Inner Being pointed at it! And Law of Attraction began amassing around this powerful pointing of you and YOU. And even when you, in your human form, got discouraged and stopped pointing at what you want, but instead began pointing at all the reasons that you are using to justify why you don't have it-
your Inner Being continued to point in the direction of what you want!
And that is, in fact... that pointing difference is what your emotions are all about. Esther has been saying to anyone who asks, and since hardly anyone does, she tells a lot of people who aren't asking, if they say "what do you do?" -she says "I'm a Pointer." And that's usually about as far, as that conversation goes, because she looks crazy, you know. But what she means is:
"I point at what I want! And law of attraction and the Universe take care of it!
Cooperative components are gathered, and what I want begins to take shape.
And the more I point at what I want, then the more of what I want comes into form.
And the more I point at it, the more awarenesses I have, of other things that I think, might be helpful to assist me in the receiving of it!"
Sometimes you point at something like a new house. And then you need to point at someone who's going to build it, unless you're going to do it yourself! And Esther's not going to do it herself, so she points at the idea of the new house, and as it comes into being, then she points at all kinds of things about the house.
"I'd like that, for the floor. And I would like that for the paint color. And I would like that for the tile, and I would like that, and I would like that one, I would like that, and I would like all of those people who know how to do it, just the way I like it, to come and assist!"
I'm a pointer! I'm a pointer. I'm a pointer: that's what a creator is!
A pointer and a deliberate creator is someone, who continues to point at what you want.
But as humans- and it's all right!!- you've come to sift and sort. And to come to conclusions about what you prefer, in the sifting and sorting process! Often you're pointing at what you don't want. In fact, you usually point at what you don't want, before you get clear about what you do want! But what we've noticed about so many of you is, even though you come into greater clarity about what you do want, as you've been aware of the things that you don't want- so often, and we love you so much!- you continue to point at what you don't want while you talk about what you do want.
You keep noticing how things are.
And what we really want you to hear is, that your life is so full and fantastic! And you have so many facilities in order to observe it! Your physical senses, your hearing and seeing and smelling and tasting and touching- everything that's around you, and that makes you more likely to keep pointing at what you see! But if you are pointing at it, just because it is: "look over there!" (happy voice) -you say, "well, look at that" (cynical, bummed out voice). How often rather than(happy eager voice) "look at that!", you're saying (disgusted voice) "well, look at that!" and you can tell by your own attitude when you're saying "look at that", it might not be something that you really want to point at!
Because you're going to move in the direction of what you point at!
Jerry learned that with Esther. They're driving down the highways, and the big old 45-foot bus with the car behind it, yesterday. Esther did most of the driving, and Jerry would say: "Look at that rainbow!" and then he would notice, that Esther would start moving in the direction! It wasn't long before he learned to only point out things to her that were right ahead!
Because you do move in the direction of what you're pointing at, at what you're looking at!
And so we want you to just pay attention over the next few days especially, at how many things you're pointing at, coming to your experience, in a very very strong way! Because law of attraction is relentless. The law of attraction brings back to you- and fast- what is active in your vibration. Sometimes, something happened in your experience, maybe 20 years ago. And of course you observed it! You were pointing at it, maybe a lot of people were pointing at it. It was something really worth pointing about! It was a big deal in your experience!
But then, that time passed. But you kept pointing at it. Remembered, talked about it... 19 years ago, and 18 years ago, and 17 years ago... talked about it yesterday! Talked about it this morning, in fact! You talk about it:
-Sometimes, because it's entertaining.
-Sometimes, because you overcame something!
-Sometimes because it's interesting! Mostly, because it's entertaining or because it's stuck in your vibrational craw. But MOSTLY,
-because you have forgotten, that what you point at keeps coming with you.
So if there are things that happened 20 years ago, that you want to re-create in today's experience, then by all means, we encourage you to keep pointing at them! And keep pointing them out, and keep talking about them!
But if it's something that you really don't want to be coming up in your experience over and over again- then don't keep updating it!!
Don't keep renewing it!
Esther notices that if she doesn't update her software, pretty soon her machine doesn't work anymore. You've noticed that? -Gotta kind of keep updating, to keep things current! Well, when it regards things that you care about, and things you want to keep being active in your experience, by all means keep updating them! Keep talking about them. Keep them active in your vibration. But if there's something that you've lived, or something that you've observed, that you don't want to be present in your day's experience-
then do your best to take your attention from it which means give your attention to other things:
Decide, that you're going to point toward the things that you really want.
from the youtube clip "‘I am a Pointer’ | You can have it all"
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Re: Quotes on Selfishness & Arrogance
Many people will say... "What you are teaching is selfishness."
We say, "Indeed we do.
Because if you are not selfish enough to make yourself happy,
you have nothing of value to offer the world as ar as we are concerned."
Because every time you ooze or radiate that which is less than happy,
you are going against your greater intent
and certainly working against that which we [Abraham] work for.
We are wanting to uplift and to bring joy.
Any time you are feeling other than that, you are oozing it.
- Abraham
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Most of the world sees selfish as something that is bad.
You've heard them say to you, "Oh you are so selfish" as if that is something that you should stop doing.
Have you noticed that they call you "selfish" when you are not doing what THEY selfishly want?
And when we say, "Ohhh you delightful magnificent selfish being"
what we mean is, you cannot see other than through the eyes of self.
and if you are not pleasing self,
you are oozing negativity,
and if you are oozing negativity, you are not uplifting anyway.
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Do you prefer to be right- or happy?
We're just going to give this to you, in a really strong way. Because it happens to everyone! It happens to Esther sometimes, too!
If you can get past preferring to be right than to feel good, you'll click into this so much faster. Because, sometimes you'll have a problem and you know you're right about your perception of this problem. You know when it happened, you know who's involved, you know whose fault it is, and you know...
So, then when you ask for solutions, sometimes you don't let the solutions in, because you'd rather be right than feel good. And so, it's helpful for a little while, while you're really deliberate about establishing this conscious connection with your own Inner Being, to not care so much what anybody else thinks about it! Esther made Jerry promise he wouldn't tell anyone about this. And for a long time, he kept his promise to her- because she didn't want anybody to know what a freaky thing was going on!
So you have to leave the peanut gallery out of the equation, and just let your relationship with your Inner Being be what matters in regards to all things- not just that!
from the youtube clip "Abraham Hicks 2024 - The need to be right
The law of attraction"
We're just going to give this to you, in a really strong way. Because it happens to everyone! It happens to Esther sometimes, too!
If you can get past preferring to be right than to feel good, you'll click into this so much faster. Because, sometimes you'll have a problem and you know you're right about your perception of this problem. You know when it happened, you know who's involved, you know whose fault it is, and you know...
So, then when you ask for solutions, sometimes you don't let the solutions in, because you'd rather be right than feel good. And so, it's helpful for a little while, while you're really deliberate about establishing this conscious connection with your own Inner Being, to not care so much what anybody else thinks about it! Esther made Jerry promise he wouldn't tell anyone about this. And for a long time, he kept his promise to her- because she didn't want anybody to know what a freaky thing was going on!
So you have to leave the peanut gallery out of the equation, and just let your relationship with your Inner Being be what matters in regards to all things- not just that!
from the youtube clip "Abraham Hicks 2024 - The need to be right
The law of attraction"