When someone tries to discourage you...
When somebody says to you: "Your whatever does not support the desire that you hold!" say to them:
"I know you mean well. Even though you're breaking my heart with your words! I know you may be well-meaning, but you, Sir, are misinformed. Because I now understand that, if this time-space-reality has the wherewithal to inspire a desire within me, that this time-space-reality has the wherewithal to deliver it to me.
So, if I can want it, I CAN achieve it. And I can achieve it easier, by not listening to your words, than if I listen to your words. So, I won't be asking for your commentary anymore. Because your commentary takes me upstream, which is counter to what I want."
from the youtube clip How can I change my physical appearance using the Law of Attraction? | ABRAHAM HICKS
What to say in difficult situations
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spiritualcookie wrote: ↑Mon Dec 25, 2023 10:05 pm When someone says you're not being realistic about something, and they offer you their "realistic" perspective that negates what you want, what's a good comeback to them?
Abraham: What is your intent in "coming back?" [If it is] to stimulate them to the knowing that you have come to, this is what you would say:
"I have come to know that my realism holds me right here,
for if I will only allow what is presently real in my experience,
then I will never grow beyond it.
And so, I have decided to forget about current reality
and to think about future reality.
And the future holds much more for me than the present,
for I am getting better at creating every day."
And the one who is seeking will say, "... What?!"
- Abraham
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While this example is no "difficult" situation, I thought the quote fits here as well...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WH4GIj ... blications
The HS of this interaction is the founder of the original Abe-Forum, David Gordon. He was extremely often in the HS, but he was very humble and shook it off, when we celebrated him for it... by the way, he also got the guidelines of how to manage and keep up an Abraham Forum in a channel-session with Abe.
I feel his nonphysical-presence, now, while I enjoy seeing his face again! I KNOW he loves that we built up Abe-Forum, new!
Looking for an "ELEVATOR SPEECH" of Who or What is Abraham?
(HS is on an Abe cruise, and attendants of the Abe-Seminar wear name-tags, as a sort of entrance-card to the theater)
Abe, choosing the HS: Stand if you think it's you. Yes!
HS:
When I go in the elevator, they see the tag. And some folks say: "what is that?" And so, an elevator speech would be needed, uh, ten or fifteen seconds in length. What is Abraham Hicks? You know, if you could put that in one or two sentences?
Abe:
So the question is: What are you doing here and-
HS:
Who are you? What do you want? Who- you know- What do you represent? What is it?
Abe:
But- but that's a question that YOU're asking, and we gave you that on the Mexican cruise. Play the tape, it was really good! (HS: Oh Yeah!) -But you're asking a different question here.
HS:
Yeah what do I tell someone who asks me in an elevator?
Abe:
You're asking what- how can you explain us briefly. Right. And more important you see, they're not- they're not asking who Abraham is, as much as they are asking what you are finding there. In other words, this is a question that is directed to you not to us! Ok And so if we were standing in your physical shoes this is what we would say: "This is an environment - (you can use whatever word you want) a seminar -
this is an environment, where I explore the art of selfishly devouring the beauty of life.
Now, that's the right answer. But there are a few things wrong with that answer! In other words, everybody's not going to like it, are they? And a teacher is only as effective as his ability to understand where his student is, yes? (HS: Mm hmm. Yes.) So, when you use the word selfish, immediately they think you're doing hedonistic sexual things in here. Or something. Maybe. (big laughter) So you want to find a word that will resonate with them in a way. And so, you look for something that everyone wants, that is softer and so you say:
Oh- or... "I'm on a joy quest, and I found it."
Or, um- "I'm discovering the art of living life from a state of joy, no matter where I'm standing, or what I'm looking at!"
Or "I'm discovering how to tune myself to the best that this world has to offer! And the better job I do, of tuning myself; the better job this world has, of offering it to me!"
(HS: Mm Hmm. Absolutely.)
Or- or "I come for the fun of it, and boy am I having fun! Are you?" (HS: Mm Hmm. Yeah.)
-That sort of thing!
But before you can exude your joy of what you've discovered, you've got to be there you see!
And so- and if you are there, the people that Law of Attraction is causing you to rendezvous with, are either there, too- and will really get what you say, or they're somebody who's reaching for it. And so, not very many words are necessary. Often just a smile, just a - just a sigh of contentment. Just "Ahhh, ah isn't this just a beautiful day?" ...in other words, we really really want you to remember that it is not your work to proselytize anyone! -Or bring them to this work! Let Law of Attraction do its work, and you just be the joyful being that you are. And let Law of Attraction do its work, and just say whatever comes from your joyous heart through your joyous mouth, whenever you feel like it!
But in no way try to talk anybody into anything. We know you know that, but we just thought we'd throw that in. So, an elevator ride really doesn't need to be anything more than an elevator ride.
HS:
Very good. The smile- The smile and the heart say it all very quickly.Thank you. Excellent. A pleasure.
from the official youtube clip TEACHINGS OF ABRAHAM "ELEVATOR SPEECH" - Esther & Jerry Hicks
Recorded on the July, 2007 Alaskan Cruise.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WH4GIj ... blications
The HS of this interaction is the founder of the original Abe-Forum, David Gordon. He was extremely often in the HS, but he was very humble and shook it off, when we celebrated him for it... by the way, he also got the guidelines of how to manage and keep up an Abraham Forum in a channel-session with Abe.
I feel his nonphysical-presence, now, while I enjoy seeing his face again! I KNOW he loves that we built up Abe-Forum, new!
Looking for an "ELEVATOR SPEECH" of Who or What is Abraham?
(HS is on an Abe cruise, and attendants of the Abe-Seminar wear name-tags, as a sort of entrance-card to the theater)
Abe, choosing the HS: Stand if you think it's you. Yes!
HS:
When I go in the elevator, they see the tag. And some folks say: "what is that?" And so, an elevator speech would be needed, uh, ten or fifteen seconds in length. What is Abraham Hicks? You know, if you could put that in one or two sentences?
Abe:
So the question is: What are you doing here and-
HS:
Who are you? What do you want? Who- you know- What do you represent? What is it?
Abe:
But- but that's a question that YOU're asking, and we gave you that on the Mexican cruise. Play the tape, it was really good! (HS: Oh Yeah!) -But you're asking a different question here.
HS:
Yeah what do I tell someone who asks me in an elevator?
Abe:
You're asking what- how can you explain us briefly. Right. And more important you see, they're not- they're not asking who Abraham is, as much as they are asking what you are finding there. In other words, this is a question that is directed to you not to us! Ok And so if we were standing in your physical shoes this is what we would say: "This is an environment - (you can use whatever word you want) a seminar -
this is an environment, where I explore the art of selfishly devouring the beauty of life.
Now, that's the right answer. But there are a few things wrong with that answer! In other words, everybody's not going to like it, are they? And a teacher is only as effective as his ability to understand where his student is, yes? (HS: Mm hmm. Yes.) So, when you use the word selfish, immediately they think you're doing hedonistic sexual things in here. Or something. Maybe. (big laughter) So you want to find a word that will resonate with them in a way. And so, you look for something that everyone wants, that is softer and so you say:
Oh- or... "I'm on a joy quest, and I found it."
Or, um- "I'm discovering the art of living life from a state of joy, no matter where I'm standing, or what I'm looking at!"
Or "I'm discovering how to tune myself to the best that this world has to offer! And the better job I do, of tuning myself; the better job this world has, of offering it to me!"
(HS: Mm Hmm. Absolutely.)
Or- or "I come for the fun of it, and boy am I having fun! Are you?" (HS: Mm Hmm. Yeah.)
-That sort of thing!
But before you can exude your joy of what you've discovered, you've got to be there you see!
And so- and if you are there, the people that Law of Attraction is causing you to rendezvous with, are either there, too- and will really get what you say, or they're somebody who's reaching for it. And so, not very many words are necessary. Often just a smile, just a - just a sigh of contentment. Just "Ahhh, ah isn't this just a beautiful day?" ...in other words, we really really want you to remember that it is not your work to proselytize anyone! -Or bring them to this work! Let Law of Attraction do its work, and you just be the joyful being that you are. And let Law of Attraction do its work, and just say whatever comes from your joyous heart through your joyous mouth, whenever you feel like it!
But in no way try to talk anybody into anything. We know you know that, but we just thought we'd throw that in. So, an elevator ride really doesn't need to be anything more than an elevator ride.
HS:
Very good. The smile- The smile and the heart say it all very quickly.Thank you. Excellent. A pleasure.
from the official youtube clip TEACHINGS OF ABRAHAM "ELEVATOR SPEECH" - Esther & Jerry Hicks
Recorded on the July, 2007 Alaskan Cruise.
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Re: What to say in difficult situations
On Things You Desire Still Not Being Manifested
There will ALWAYS be incomplete desire! ALWAYS!
Because new desires are continually being born. Learn to be happy in the incompletion!
Because, as eternal Beings, fulfillment of your desire will ALWAYS be incomplete! We never get it done. (...)
Since you are eternal, then there will always be another exposure to another contrasting experience, which will cause you to give birth to yet another new desire, which, since you just gave birth to it, is not complete. And what we want you to come away from this gathering, feeling very powerfully, is that the exhilarating crevice is
between having given birth to a new idea, to a new preference, and it not yet being completed, but you’re on your way to the completion of it because it’s on the way.
It’s that on-the-way crack, that is your life.
You keep thinking that you want to get through the crack, through the crevice, and over to the place where the manifestation is complete! And we say well, you can do that, and you will -
you’ll get your new house,
you’ll get your new car and
you’ll get your new lover -
you’ll get your new stuff.
It will constantly come to you, because when you ask, it is always given! But the thing that we really want you to feel is, that now you’re just going to be standing in another new place! With other contrasting experiences- which are going to give birth to another yet new desire, which is still going to be incomplete! So we see so many of you standing in this place where you feel incomplete, but you’re unhappy in your incompletion.
“I will feel so much better when my lover comes.
I will feel so much better when my money comes!
Or when my new house comes.”
And you have to get over that.
You have to feel good in the crack!
You have to feel happy in the crevice of incompletion.
And unless you are, then you’re going to hold yourself in this negative, annoyed, resistant, irritated, unhappy, incomplete-feeling, inadequate, insecure attitude, that will prevent what you’re asking for from coming to you. Did that just make sense?
You have to be happy in the crack; you have to be excited about wanting something that hasn’t come yet!
So you want to get to the place that when people say to you “Has that thing you’ve been talking about come yet?” -You want to say: "No" (calmly), not "Noooo!" (in despair). -“No, it hasn’t come yet, which means I’m still alive, which means I’m still adjusting, which means I’m still adjusting my vibration.”
And what is it that you are adjusting your vibration to?
-You’re adjusting your vibration, not from not having this thing you want to having this thing you want, you’re adjusting your vibration from being unhappy about not having it, to being happy, even though you don’t have it!
When you’re happy even though you don’t have it, then you’ll have it! But as long as you’re unhappy about not having it, that unhappy is a vibration that holds it away. When you’re unhappy about not having it, you’re practicing the art of resistance. And when you’re resisting, you can’t have it. “Well, how do I get happy about not having something that I really want?” -Well, it takes practice! It takes understanding you’re eternal. It takes understanding that you’re on your way. It takes beginning to enjoy the process.
If we were standing in your physical shoes (and we often are), and we were on our way to something that is in our mind -we’re looking forward to it, we’re not there yet, we haven’t achieved it yet
-we would feel anticipation,
we would feel eagerness,
we would feel optimism;
we would feel enjoyment or pleasure, at watching how clever the Universe is in organizing a way to give it to us.
We wouldn’t be beating the drum of “It’s taking too long”, we’d be beating the drum of
-“Well look at that, well look at that, well wasn’t that interesting - look how it is unfolding!”
because when you start beating the drum of "I’m happy in my incompletion", things speed up so fast.
When you ask, it is given every single time.
~ Abraham-Hicks, Sedona, AZ 8/27/2005
There will ALWAYS be incomplete desire! ALWAYS!
Because new desires are continually being born. Learn to be happy in the incompletion!
Because, as eternal Beings, fulfillment of your desire will ALWAYS be incomplete! We never get it done. (...)
Since you are eternal, then there will always be another exposure to another contrasting experience, which will cause you to give birth to yet another new desire, which, since you just gave birth to it, is not complete. And what we want you to come away from this gathering, feeling very powerfully, is that the exhilarating crevice is
between having given birth to a new idea, to a new preference, and it not yet being completed, but you’re on your way to the completion of it because it’s on the way.
It’s that on-the-way crack, that is your life.
You keep thinking that you want to get through the crack, through the crevice, and over to the place where the manifestation is complete! And we say well, you can do that, and you will -
you’ll get your new house,
you’ll get your new car and
you’ll get your new lover -
you’ll get your new stuff.
It will constantly come to you, because when you ask, it is always given! But the thing that we really want you to feel is, that now you’re just going to be standing in another new place! With other contrasting experiences- which are going to give birth to another yet new desire, which is still going to be incomplete! So we see so many of you standing in this place where you feel incomplete, but you’re unhappy in your incompletion.
“I will feel so much better when my lover comes.
I will feel so much better when my money comes!
Or when my new house comes.”
And you have to get over that.
You have to feel good in the crack!
You have to feel happy in the crevice of incompletion.
And unless you are, then you’re going to hold yourself in this negative, annoyed, resistant, irritated, unhappy, incomplete-feeling, inadequate, insecure attitude, that will prevent what you’re asking for from coming to you. Did that just make sense?
You have to be happy in the crack; you have to be excited about wanting something that hasn’t come yet!
So you want to get to the place that when people say to you “Has that thing you’ve been talking about come yet?” -You want to say: "No" (calmly), not "Noooo!" (in despair). -“No, it hasn’t come yet, which means I’m still alive, which means I’m still adjusting, which means I’m still adjusting my vibration.”
And what is it that you are adjusting your vibration to?
-You’re adjusting your vibration, not from not having this thing you want to having this thing you want, you’re adjusting your vibration from being unhappy about not having it, to being happy, even though you don’t have it!
When you’re happy even though you don’t have it, then you’ll have it! But as long as you’re unhappy about not having it, that unhappy is a vibration that holds it away. When you’re unhappy about not having it, you’re practicing the art of resistance. And when you’re resisting, you can’t have it. “Well, how do I get happy about not having something that I really want?” -Well, it takes practice! It takes understanding you’re eternal. It takes understanding that you’re on your way. It takes beginning to enjoy the process.
If we were standing in your physical shoes (and we often are), and we were on our way to something that is in our mind -we’re looking forward to it, we’re not there yet, we haven’t achieved it yet
-we would feel anticipation,
we would feel eagerness,
we would feel optimism;
we would feel enjoyment or pleasure, at watching how clever the Universe is in organizing a way to give it to us.
We wouldn’t be beating the drum of “It’s taking too long”, we’d be beating the drum of
-“Well look at that, well look at that, well wasn’t that interesting - look how it is unfolding!”
because when you start beating the drum of "I’m happy in my incompletion", things speed up so fast.
When you ask, it is given every single time.
~ Abraham-Hicks, Sedona, AZ 8/27/2005
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Re: What to say in difficult situations
Non-Reaction is the key
to maintaining Alignment
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When you talk about WHAT you want,
and WHY you want it,
it always brings you to your Center.
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"Today, I will focus on what I want,
and trust that the Universe will bring it to me."
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True, unconditional LOVE- and true FREEDOM.
Source sees you, and feels only appreciation for that which you are- regardless of the condition that you're living!
Because source is so practiced in this knowing of well-being that the condition that you are currently living, does not dissuade it from its knowledge of well-being.
Unconditional love is:
Staying in the vibration of source, regardless of the condition.
Conditional love says:
"I want to feel good when I see this- I do, when I see that- I don't.
So, this condition has to change: so, that I can feel better!
Unconditional love says: I am source. and I am love,
regardless of the condition.
So, that's why man translates that to say: "God is love", or: "God loves all".
Unconditional love- that's what you're all reaching for.
You want to be tuned in, tapped in, turned on, to who you are. And living in this world it's the best of everything to be! In this world, where you're mixing it up, getting new ideas, and then coming into alignment with it.
The only freedom that you will ever find is the freedom from the bondage of resistance.
In other words, what resistance is is not allowing yourself to be who you really are!
All pain and suffering are about diverging from who you really are. All joy and alignment is about coming into vibrational frequency with who you really are! And that is the epitome it is most descriptive word for what love is.
Love is the absence of resistance.
Love is vibrational alignment with that which is source.
Love is tuned in, tapped in, turned on.
Love is vibrational alignment with source!
Unconditional love is vibrational alignment with source, even when there is something that I don't want happening.
You're a lot of trouble, you know!
HS:
So, can can you offer us some words that would de-socialize us, so that we get to the point... well, what are... what are some words we could practice, when we're by ourselves, that would shore up this notion of putting how we feel above, what others...
Abe:
"I love you so much, I don't care what you think."
HS:
Saying that to the peanut gallery?
Abe:
To anyone! "I love, I love you so much- I don't care what you think."
Now, think about what that's saying:
"I SO care about being in vibrational alignment with who I am! Because, if I am in vibrational alignment with who I am, then I have love to give. But if I am catering to what you want, rather than to my own guidance- then I've not tuned in, tapped in, turned on! I have nothing to give! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." or: "I love you so much, I must tune to the source within me, and I cannot tune to the source within me and tune to what you want, at the same time! Don't make me choose between alignment with source, and what you think you want, at this moment! If you will allow me, or whether you do, or not, to align with who I am -then I can shine the energy of source upon you. And you will thrive!
But if you convince me that I should cater to you, rather than align with Who I am, then I'll be out here on the raw and ragged edge with you. And we'll just fight it out, and blame each other, for how bad we feel. with you I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK."
When you get there, and can deliver that with a straight face, you'll have it.
Those do not understand: Well, what do you mean? If you'd love me, you'd care what I think!?" -well it goes like this: "I do love you! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." -"What do you mean?" -"Well, you think I'm wrong. But in order to love you, I must know that I'm source. And I can't know that I'm source, and know that I'm wrong at the same time! So,
in order to love you, I have to be in alignment with source.
And when I'm in alignment with source, I don't care what you think! In other words, it's solid." It's just hard to get them to hear it, because you know how irrational people are, when they're out on the raw and ragged edge... in other words, you you can't get sick enough to help sick people get well- and yet, you think that you can get disconnected enough to get disconnected people to be connected!
You can only help people align with source, from your vantage point of being aligned with source.
And you can't be aligned with source, and catering to what they think at the same time. You just can't do it! Maybe there are other words, that would be better:
-"I love you so much I don't care what you think." We like that. That's our first choice!
-"I see you as you really are. Not as you are being in this moment. I know the power of your being, and I know the reason that you are so upset right now, is because you are right now not allowing yourself to be the brilliant, beautiful, tuned in, tapped in, turned on person, that I fell in love with to begin with. And if you don't mind, I'm gonna go away, and I'm gonna hold the thought of who I know you really are, rather than wallow with you in this disconnected state." Getting better! (Audience cheering) How about this:
-"I've seen you in your alignment. And I've seen you not in your alignment. And I like you best, when you're in your alignment, but when I'm in my alignment- it doesn't matter." That's good, too!
-"When I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on- you can be any way you want to me. Because my love for you is unconditional! I am no longer gonna hold you responsible for how I feel!" What freedom you give to anyone that you would say that to!
-"I no longer hold you responsible for how I feel. I'm in charge of how I feel! I'm in charge of how I feel, and I so know that, that I don't even have to ask the same back from you." That was good, too!
-"I'm so good at unconditional love that I don't need you to know how to do it!" ...think about what we're saying here:
"I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on. I'm thriving, no matter what you do. You're not the boss of me: I am. I have the ability to align with source, regardless of the conditions that surround me. I get unconditional love."
From the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - Practice the feeling of Unconditional LOVE / No Ads during"
Source sees you, and feels only appreciation for that which you are- regardless of the condition that you're living!
Because source is so practiced in this knowing of well-being that the condition that you are currently living, does not dissuade it from its knowledge of well-being.
Unconditional love is:
Staying in the vibration of source, regardless of the condition.
Conditional love says:
"I want to feel good when I see this- I do, when I see that- I don't.
So, this condition has to change: so, that I can feel better!
Unconditional love says: I am source. and I am love,
regardless of the condition.
So, that's why man translates that to say: "God is love", or: "God loves all".
Unconditional love- that's what you're all reaching for.
You want to be tuned in, tapped in, turned on, to who you are. And living in this world it's the best of everything to be! In this world, where you're mixing it up, getting new ideas, and then coming into alignment with it.
The only freedom that you will ever find is the freedom from the bondage of resistance.
In other words, what resistance is is not allowing yourself to be who you really are!
All pain and suffering are about diverging from who you really are. All joy and alignment is about coming into vibrational frequency with who you really are! And that is the epitome it is most descriptive word for what love is.
Love is the absence of resistance.
Love is vibrational alignment with that which is source.
Love is tuned in, tapped in, turned on.
Love is vibrational alignment with source!
Unconditional love is vibrational alignment with source, even when there is something that I don't want happening.
You're a lot of trouble, you know!
HS:
So, can can you offer us some words that would de-socialize us, so that we get to the point... well, what are... what are some words we could practice, when we're by ourselves, that would shore up this notion of putting how we feel above, what others...
Abe:
"I love you so much, I don't care what you think."
HS:
Saying that to the peanut gallery?
Abe:
To anyone! "I love, I love you so much- I don't care what you think."
Now, think about what that's saying:
"I SO care about being in vibrational alignment with who I am! Because, if I am in vibrational alignment with who I am, then I have love to give. But if I am catering to what you want, rather than to my own guidance- then I've not tuned in, tapped in, turned on! I have nothing to give! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." or: "I love you so much, I must tune to the source within me, and I cannot tune to the source within me and tune to what you want, at the same time! Don't make me choose between alignment with source, and what you think you want, at this moment! If you will allow me, or whether you do, or not, to align with who I am -then I can shine the energy of source upon you. And you will thrive!
But if you convince me that I should cater to you, rather than align with Who I am, then I'll be out here on the raw and ragged edge with you. And we'll just fight it out, and blame each other, for how bad we feel. with you I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK."
When you get there, and can deliver that with a straight face, you'll have it.
Those do not understand: Well, what do you mean? If you'd love me, you'd care what I think!?" -well it goes like this: "I do love you! I love you so much, I don't care what you think." -"What do you mean?" -"Well, you think I'm wrong. But in order to love you, I must know that I'm source. And I can't know that I'm source, and know that I'm wrong at the same time! So,
in order to love you, I have to be in alignment with source.
And when I'm in alignment with source, I don't care what you think! In other words, it's solid." It's just hard to get them to hear it, because you know how irrational people are, when they're out on the raw and ragged edge... in other words, you you can't get sick enough to help sick people get well- and yet, you think that you can get disconnected enough to get disconnected people to be connected!
You can only help people align with source, from your vantage point of being aligned with source.
And you can't be aligned with source, and catering to what they think at the same time. You just can't do it! Maybe there are other words, that would be better:
-"I love you so much I don't care what you think." We like that. That's our first choice!
-"I see you as you really are. Not as you are being in this moment. I know the power of your being, and I know the reason that you are so upset right now, is because you are right now not allowing yourself to be the brilliant, beautiful, tuned in, tapped in, turned on person, that I fell in love with to begin with. And if you don't mind, I'm gonna go away, and I'm gonna hold the thought of who I know you really are, rather than wallow with you in this disconnected state." Getting better! (Audience cheering) How about this:
-"I've seen you in your alignment. And I've seen you not in your alignment. And I like you best, when you're in your alignment, but when I'm in my alignment- it doesn't matter." That's good, too!
-"When I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on- you can be any way you want to me. Because my love for you is unconditional! I am no longer gonna hold you responsible for how I feel!" What freedom you give to anyone that you would say that to!
-"I no longer hold you responsible for how I feel. I'm in charge of how I feel! I'm in charge of how I feel, and I so know that, that I don't even have to ask the same back from you." That was good, too!
-"I'm so good at unconditional love that I don't need you to know how to do it!" ...think about what we're saying here:
"I'm tuned in, tapped in, turned on. I'm thriving, no matter what you do. You're not the boss of me: I am. I have the ability to align with source, regardless of the conditions that surround me. I get unconditional love."
From the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - Practice the feeling of Unconditional LOVE / No Ads during"
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Re: What to say in difficult situations
Advice to a HS- a Singer- with Bipolar-Disorder
(What means the label of being bi-polar?
How does strong wanting play into it?- How to deal with strong desires?
Is healing possible for her?
How about taking the medicine?)
HS:
The first question I have is:
If I want to heal myself of bipolar disorder, no matter what. Can I do it? Is it possible, if all the doctors say, I cannot? And, years ago when I got off my medicine... let's say, 7 years ago when I was experimenting and didn't want to accept that I had this label. Um, I ended up in in the hospital many times, and it was very painful. So I guess, my my first question is: Do you believe that I can heal my bipolar disorder?
Abe:
Absolutely!
Talk to us about how it manifests!?
HS:
Um, well, I'm on medicine. So it doesn't get to come out very often.
Abe:
Then, is it an issue?
HS:
That's the second part of my question! I'm doing great on the medicine. So, should I just keep taking my medicine, and... and, what the hell, and live like that?
Abe:
Here's what we would do:
We would continue the medicine, feeling appreciation for the balance that it provides for you.
And at the same time, we would identify what our strong desire is!
In other words, your desire is to be what?
HS:
I'm a singer. And when I get up on a stage, it's to be just like my old self, before I got manic.
Abe:
What is that?
HS:
Excited, without getting anxious, or without having balancing desire, and medication.
To go in the bathroom and pray and calm down, or (tearing up) ...put a pill under my tongue...
Abe:
There is not anything inappropriate about continuing with the medicine! In other words, because it is giving you this stable footing for now! And so we would continue that. Do you get a sense of what we mean, when we say that?
Out of your life experience are born powerful desires. And so- when you, through life experience come to conscious awareness of things that you want, there's a vibration that activates within you, that's very powerful. And that's what the vibration of Desire is! So, when -however it happens, you give birth to some powerful desires, that you -for whatever reason, for whatever other influence in your life, aren't believing, then there's this really strong tug of war that's taking place within you. And we think that is the best description of this label that they have given you, of anything else. Every time we have seen it -and we see it every time that it is labeled, in other words- it is not something that you are making up!
Every single time, it is a person who has powerful, off-the-chart wanting, that they have figured out how to receive.
Your emotions tell you everything that you need to know about your relationship with your Source energy. And by that we mean, how much Source energy am I pulling through me, right now? Or another way of saying that is,
-how great is my desire? And as my desire is very powerful in pouring through me,
-how much of that am I allowing to pour through me, or how much of that am I not allowing to pour through me?
If I didn't want very much, my resistance would be a non-issue. In other words, if you're going 2 mph, it doesn't matter how many trees are in the way. You can guide around them. But if you're going 200 mph, the trees start to matter more!
When you have a powerful desire and so you're summoning lots of energy through you, and you have beliefs that contradict your own desire- now there's this clashing going on. And that's what the medicine helps you to soften. In other words, it softens your focus. It softens your angst. Of course, it changes the chemicals in your body, which is what is doing that. But the process through which it is happening is not as important as understanding what is happening! What is happening is:
There is a splitting of energy within you. And so, even while you are taking the medicine as you talk about your desire, and why you want it, it's not possible for you to think about what you want and why you want it, and be in as contradicted a vibration, as when you are thinking about what you want and the fact that you don't have it!
We would far rather see you with strong strong desire, that you're not allowing- than we would with no desire.
And you were born with this powerful inclination toward desire! You are a powerful focuser. Which means, it's not possible for you to reign in your desire! We don't encourage that ever, anyway. And so, what you're wanting to do, is let your desire run as rampant as it wants to run- and it is pretty strong! And then you work, to bring yourself into alignment with your desire, as best you can.
Soothe yourself into alignment!
And you soothe yourself into alignment, with words that feel soothing, when you hear them from others, or from yourself!
HS:
My husband tapped into it. He said, "Candace, just could you be quiet in your spirit?" -we were just at the bar, and before I was going on stage and he's like, "just be quiet in your spirit", and it was just... it was like somebody put a little pill under my tongue. I completely understood. And when I'm writing a song, I've learned how to be completely focused, and very quiet in my spirit. And the composition just comes out! It's amazing. And it just writes itself! And so, that's what I am learning, how to do as far as you know, trying to heal myself, as...
Abe:
Focus on those times, that that happens.
In other words, the more you remember, as you were speaking that to us- right then, you were in perfect alignment with what you were speaking! In other words, as you remembered that time, you were there again. And also it is helpful for you to recall, that you can be there- and you cannot be there, that sometimes you're able to bring yourself back into alignment with thought.
Sometimes you bring yourself back into alignment by putting the pill under your tongue! It doesn't really matter.
You can bring yourself back into alignment and when you remind yourself, that you can come into alignment. -Then it makes you not so fearful that you will get out of alignment! And when you are not so fearful that you will get out of alignment, then you don't get out of alignment so much. -And it just gets better and better and better and better!
You are born with powerful desire! And when you go with the desire, you thrive.
When you fight against it, you don't.
And so, that desire was to stand out!
That desire was to make a difference.
That desire was to be heard.
That desire was to get tuned in, and be an example to others who can be tuned in!
And so, when you think thoughts like "I'm not good enough", or "I'm not ready", or "they won't accept me" or "they don't understand me... why don't I have a record deal yet..." those thoughts are so opposite of your desire, that that's what sets you out of alignment! Where, thoughts like "It's coming. All is well. Everything in its perfect time"...
And if we were standing in your physical shoes, we would focus on the writing of the song! And we would let the Universe take care of the aligning with the contracts. In other words- you get in that creative mode! ...It's always lovely to speak with someone, who understands that creative mode! Because you know when you're there, and you know when you're not. And when you're there, you're in that place of allowing!
So, what we'd like to say to you:
You want to get into that place of allowing, relative to your record contracts, too! Yeah! Write a song about your record contract! In other words, get...
HS:
Yeah, I just finished it. It's called "The jet plane takes off", and it's about what you teach! So perfect!! I got it! Okay, um.... I think, you say genius is focus. Does Focus take practice? Or is it just something you pull out of the sky, when you're letting it in?
Abe:
Focus does take practice.
What focus is, is isolating a vibration from a maze of vibration, and focusing upon it long enough that it becomes a dominant vibration.
And so, sometimes because you are a very energetic person who's eager about a lot of different things, you have a lot of active vibrations in your experience and it's possible for you to have many things that are moving forward, all at the same time. But if there is something that is bothering you, that is getting quite a bit of your attention.
Sometimes it causes the dominance of your vibration to be not in a place of letting in the other things, that you wanting! You've been letting the Universe know, in lots of different ways, what you want. And you do not need to sit down right now, and say "I want this, and I want this, and I want this, and I want this...", because you've done an excellent job- through the contrast that you've been living- of pointing all of that out!
Now your work is to get into a place where you're a match to what you are wanting.
You're a match, when you're feeling good. You're not a match when you're not feeling good! -And so, that worries you. Because you say, "but when I don't feel good I really don't feel good."
And we say: but what that means is, you really really want it!
In other words, that's good news, not bad news, you see! Just relax more. Be more playful about it.
Continue to take your medicine at the same time,
that you continue to acknowledge that you don't need it.
Let it be something that's like a friend that helps you along the way!
Don't push against it. It is a friend, not an enemy!
And and give yourself as much time in the creative phase as you can. Because when you'r in that creative phase, that's when you'r in your place of allowing. And so, do you find that you can achieve that, almost anytime? You sit down to do it... (HS: oh yes!) ...you know how to do it, relative to the creative music. Now get into it relative to anything, that you desire! You could pet your cat. You could never think another thought about any of this- and the Universe will yield you a contract!
And the time it takes, between now and when the contract is yielded, has to do with how many thoughts you have that are worrisome in nature, that keep that from happening. The well-being is on its way to you, unless you do that thing you do. And the good news is: Every time you do that thing you do, you feel negative emotion!
So, negative emotion is not an enemy or not a bad thing. It's your friend!
It's saying: Hey what you want is on its way to you! But you're slowing it down just a little bit by this train of thought!
HS:
So, when somebody says to you "You're 33. You better hurry up! Because if you don't... you know my mother says "well that's just ridiculous, you know! You need to think of maybe going back to college!" or, you know... hey, I just opened for Coolio at the Menton in L.A. "Oh, that's great, honey! Hey... la la la la la" -and she's talking about something else. So and then, um, you know somebody from a record company says "Well you know, you have talent you're an amazing composer and you're this and that. But gez... you're really getting up there in age!" ...you know, because I've listened to you and listened to your tapes and everything, and read your book and I don't necessarily get keyed into that so much... but still, the little devil goes "huh!"
Abe:
You might say something to them, like: "Are you saying that the entry point has to be a certain age? Because there are a lot of people a lot older than I am, that are still at the top of their game. So is the age thing just about the entry point? Or are there some other qualifications, that I'm not aware of?"
Who gets to decide other than you? NO ONE, you see! it's usually someone who feels defensive... in other words, if you're hiring somebody to represent you and they're not finding any inroads, then sometimes they feel like they need to justify why things aren't going better. So they're looking for excuses and trying to lay it back on you. And what you want to do is, if you are not putting them in the position where you are making them feel like you think that they are responsible for what's happening,
they'll offer you less of that, as you begin to accept that you are the creator of your own experience.
And so, you're not laying it on your agent's table... in other words, you're in this together, but you're not making them feel defensive. They won't throw that stuff up at you. That's just their defense mechanism. Just laugh, and say "Oh, there's been a whole lot of a lot older buggers than me, making great success. Now get off of that, and let's move on! (HS: right, right!!)
...Be playful about it. Because age has nothing to do with anything! EVERYTHING is about vibrational alignment.
What we notice as we watch you, as you are moving through time, all of you as a mass consciousness, is that the majority of your desires are happening early on in your life. And if you are in a place where you can allow it, then much of your success comes very early in life. And there are people who will say "if your success does not come early, then it will not come!" -and the reason that they say that, from what they observe, is because mostly they're not really allowing themselves to want! -Only when they are young. And usually, by the time they are older, they've blocked off most of the allowing anyway. And so, they're not wrong in their observation. In other words, that is the usual rule. But that is not who you are!! In other words,
You're going to keep wanting long long long into your 80s and 90s!! And you're going to allow long long long!!
In other words, age is irrelevant. It doesn't have anything to do with it, and so- if somebody says that to you, and you want to be playful to them, just say:
"Oh, I think that what you're getting at, is that young people are usually more eager about things. But you'll never find anybody more eager than I am!"
From the youtube-clip "Talk to Your Cells, Will Change Your Life!
Abraham Hicks 2024"
(What means the label of being bi-polar?
How does strong wanting play into it?- How to deal with strong desires?
Is healing possible for her?
How about taking the medicine?)
HS:
The first question I have is:
If I want to heal myself of bipolar disorder, no matter what. Can I do it? Is it possible, if all the doctors say, I cannot? And, years ago when I got off my medicine... let's say, 7 years ago when I was experimenting and didn't want to accept that I had this label. Um, I ended up in in the hospital many times, and it was very painful. So I guess, my my first question is: Do you believe that I can heal my bipolar disorder?
Abe:
Absolutely!
Talk to us about how it manifests!?
HS:
Um, well, I'm on medicine. So it doesn't get to come out very often.
Abe:
Then, is it an issue?
HS:
That's the second part of my question! I'm doing great on the medicine. So, should I just keep taking my medicine, and... and, what the hell, and live like that?
Abe:
Here's what we would do:
We would continue the medicine, feeling appreciation for the balance that it provides for you.
And at the same time, we would identify what our strong desire is!
In other words, your desire is to be what?
HS:
I'm a singer. And when I get up on a stage, it's to be just like my old self, before I got manic.
Abe:
What is that?
HS:
Excited, without getting anxious, or without having balancing desire, and medication.
To go in the bathroom and pray and calm down, or (tearing up) ...put a pill under my tongue...
Abe:
There is not anything inappropriate about continuing with the medicine! In other words, because it is giving you this stable footing for now! And so we would continue that. Do you get a sense of what we mean, when we say that?
Out of your life experience are born powerful desires. And so- when you, through life experience come to conscious awareness of things that you want, there's a vibration that activates within you, that's very powerful. And that's what the vibration of Desire is! So, when -however it happens, you give birth to some powerful desires, that you -for whatever reason, for whatever other influence in your life, aren't believing, then there's this really strong tug of war that's taking place within you. And we think that is the best description of this label that they have given you, of anything else. Every time we have seen it -and we see it every time that it is labeled, in other words- it is not something that you are making up!
Every single time, it is a person who has powerful, off-the-chart wanting, that they have figured out how to receive.
Your emotions tell you everything that you need to know about your relationship with your Source energy. And by that we mean, how much Source energy am I pulling through me, right now? Or another way of saying that is,
-how great is my desire? And as my desire is very powerful in pouring through me,
-how much of that am I allowing to pour through me, or how much of that am I not allowing to pour through me?
If I didn't want very much, my resistance would be a non-issue. In other words, if you're going 2 mph, it doesn't matter how many trees are in the way. You can guide around them. But if you're going 200 mph, the trees start to matter more!
When you have a powerful desire and so you're summoning lots of energy through you, and you have beliefs that contradict your own desire- now there's this clashing going on. And that's what the medicine helps you to soften. In other words, it softens your focus. It softens your angst. Of course, it changes the chemicals in your body, which is what is doing that. But the process through which it is happening is not as important as understanding what is happening! What is happening is:
There is a splitting of energy within you. And so, even while you are taking the medicine as you talk about your desire, and why you want it, it's not possible for you to think about what you want and why you want it, and be in as contradicted a vibration, as when you are thinking about what you want and the fact that you don't have it!
We would far rather see you with strong strong desire, that you're not allowing- than we would with no desire.
And you were born with this powerful inclination toward desire! You are a powerful focuser. Which means, it's not possible for you to reign in your desire! We don't encourage that ever, anyway. And so, what you're wanting to do, is let your desire run as rampant as it wants to run- and it is pretty strong! And then you work, to bring yourself into alignment with your desire, as best you can.
Soothe yourself into alignment!
And you soothe yourself into alignment, with words that feel soothing, when you hear them from others, or from yourself!
HS:
My husband tapped into it. He said, "Candace, just could you be quiet in your spirit?" -we were just at the bar, and before I was going on stage and he's like, "just be quiet in your spirit", and it was just... it was like somebody put a little pill under my tongue. I completely understood. And when I'm writing a song, I've learned how to be completely focused, and very quiet in my spirit. And the composition just comes out! It's amazing. And it just writes itself! And so, that's what I am learning, how to do as far as you know, trying to heal myself, as...
Abe:
Focus on those times, that that happens.
In other words, the more you remember, as you were speaking that to us- right then, you were in perfect alignment with what you were speaking! In other words, as you remembered that time, you were there again. And also it is helpful for you to recall, that you can be there- and you cannot be there, that sometimes you're able to bring yourself back into alignment with thought.
Sometimes you bring yourself back into alignment by putting the pill under your tongue! It doesn't really matter.
You can bring yourself back into alignment and when you remind yourself, that you can come into alignment. -Then it makes you not so fearful that you will get out of alignment! And when you are not so fearful that you will get out of alignment, then you don't get out of alignment so much. -And it just gets better and better and better and better!
You are born with powerful desire! And when you go with the desire, you thrive.
When you fight against it, you don't.
And so, that desire was to stand out!
That desire was to make a difference.
That desire was to be heard.
That desire was to get tuned in, and be an example to others who can be tuned in!
And so, when you think thoughts like "I'm not good enough", or "I'm not ready", or "they won't accept me" or "they don't understand me... why don't I have a record deal yet..." those thoughts are so opposite of your desire, that that's what sets you out of alignment! Where, thoughts like "It's coming. All is well. Everything in its perfect time"...
And if we were standing in your physical shoes, we would focus on the writing of the song! And we would let the Universe take care of the aligning with the contracts. In other words- you get in that creative mode! ...It's always lovely to speak with someone, who understands that creative mode! Because you know when you're there, and you know when you're not. And when you're there, you're in that place of allowing!
So, what we'd like to say to you:
You want to get into that place of allowing, relative to your record contracts, too! Yeah! Write a song about your record contract! In other words, get...
HS:
Yeah, I just finished it. It's called "The jet plane takes off", and it's about what you teach! So perfect!! I got it! Okay, um.... I think, you say genius is focus. Does Focus take practice? Or is it just something you pull out of the sky, when you're letting it in?
Abe:
Focus does take practice.
What focus is, is isolating a vibration from a maze of vibration, and focusing upon it long enough that it becomes a dominant vibration.
And so, sometimes because you are a very energetic person who's eager about a lot of different things, you have a lot of active vibrations in your experience and it's possible for you to have many things that are moving forward, all at the same time. But if there is something that is bothering you, that is getting quite a bit of your attention.
Sometimes it causes the dominance of your vibration to be not in a place of letting in the other things, that you wanting! You've been letting the Universe know, in lots of different ways, what you want. And you do not need to sit down right now, and say "I want this, and I want this, and I want this, and I want this...", because you've done an excellent job- through the contrast that you've been living- of pointing all of that out!
Now your work is to get into a place where you're a match to what you are wanting.
You're a match, when you're feeling good. You're not a match when you're not feeling good! -And so, that worries you. Because you say, "but when I don't feel good I really don't feel good."
And we say: but what that means is, you really really want it!
In other words, that's good news, not bad news, you see! Just relax more. Be more playful about it.
Continue to take your medicine at the same time,
that you continue to acknowledge that you don't need it.
Let it be something that's like a friend that helps you along the way!
Don't push against it. It is a friend, not an enemy!
And and give yourself as much time in the creative phase as you can. Because when you'r in that creative phase, that's when you'r in your place of allowing. And so, do you find that you can achieve that, almost anytime? You sit down to do it... (HS: oh yes!) ...you know how to do it, relative to the creative music. Now get into it relative to anything, that you desire! You could pet your cat. You could never think another thought about any of this- and the Universe will yield you a contract!
And the time it takes, between now and when the contract is yielded, has to do with how many thoughts you have that are worrisome in nature, that keep that from happening. The well-being is on its way to you, unless you do that thing you do. And the good news is: Every time you do that thing you do, you feel negative emotion!
So, negative emotion is not an enemy or not a bad thing. It's your friend!
It's saying: Hey what you want is on its way to you! But you're slowing it down just a little bit by this train of thought!
HS:
So, when somebody says to you "You're 33. You better hurry up! Because if you don't... you know my mother says "well that's just ridiculous, you know! You need to think of maybe going back to college!" or, you know... hey, I just opened for Coolio at the Menton in L.A. "Oh, that's great, honey! Hey... la la la la la" -and she's talking about something else. So and then, um, you know somebody from a record company says "Well you know, you have talent you're an amazing composer and you're this and that. But gez... you're really getting up there in age!" ...you know, because I've listened to you and listened to your tapes and everything, and read your book and I don't necessarily get keyed into that so much... but still, the little devil goes "huh!"
Abe:
You might say something to them, like: "Are you saying that the entry point has to be a certain age? Because there are a lot of people a lot older than I am, that are still at the top of their game. So is the age thing just about the entry point? Or are there some other qualifications, that I'm not aware of?"
Who gets to decide other than you? NO ONE, you see! it's usually someone who feels defensive... in other words, if you're hiring somebody to represent you and they're not finding any inroads, then sometimes they feel like they need to justify why things aren't going better. So they're looking for excuses and trying to lay it back on you. And what you want to do is, if you are not putting them in the position where you are making them feel like you think that they are responsible for what's happening,
they'll offer you less of that, as you begin to accept that you are the creator of your own experience.
And so, you're not laying it on your agent's table... in other words, you're in this together, but you're not making them feel defensive. They won't throw that stuff up at you. That's just their defense mechanism. Just laugh, and say "Oh, there's been a whole lot of a lot older buggers than me, making great success. Now get off of that, and let's move on! (HS: right, right!!)
...Be playful about it. Because age has nothing to do with anything! EVERYTHING is about vibrational alignment.
What we notice as we watch you, as you are moving through time, all of you as a mass consciousness, is that the majority of your desires are happening early on in your life. And if you are in a place where you can allow it, then much of your success comes very early in life. And there are people who will say "if your success does not come early, then it will not come!" -and the reason that they say that, from what they observe, is because mostly they're not really allowing themselves to want! -Only when they are young. And usually, by the time they are older, they've blocked off most of the allowing anyway. And so, they're not wrong in their observation. In other words, that is the usual rule. But that is not who you are!! In other words,
You're going to keep wanting long long long into your 80s and 90s!! And you're going to allow long long long!!
In other words, age is irrelevant. It doesn't have anything to do with it, and so- if somebody says that to you, and you want to be playful to them, just say:
"Oh, I think that what you're getting at, is that young people are usually more eager about things. But you'll never find anybody more eager than I am!"
From the youtube-clip "Talk to Your Cells, Will Change Your Life!
Abraham Hicks 2024"-
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Re: What to say in difficult situations
THE REASON WE'RE DIS-APPOINTED instead of "Living real time"...
(The difference between real physical life on the leading edge vs the perfection of "mere vibration" in the Vortex)
The reason why "falling in love" seems to be better than "living love"
So, we want to talk about every relationship you have.
And we want to say to you, that every relationship that you're currently living falls far, far, far, far short of the one that you've got in your Vortex, every single time!
Every relationship that you're living cannot even come close to measuring up to the one you've got into your Vortex. Stop asking it to, stop needing those relationships to be different than they are- so that you can feel better!
That's not the way this universe is established!
That was the bouncing off place for this.
This is where you want to put your attention, you see!
What we're getting at... so, it's really interesting. You have this dream of a perfect relationship, or a perfect breakfast or a perfect hotel or a perfect drive, or (...) you have this dream. You have this anticipation, tha,t from a distance, felt good to dream it. But now you're living the reality of it. And it's not living up! So, you feel deprived. You feel almost offended. You feel almost assaulted: You say to each other, "you don't bring me flowers anymore!" You say, "you promised to obey me!", or "you promised to hold me dear!" -and we say to you, we really... if you can just hear this!! -If you can just hear that:
NO relationship that is ever manifested, will ever measure up to the one you've got in your Vortex.
And if you will let them off the hook, and focus on your Vortex, you'll keep yourself joyful. And the relationships will improve, too.
But we are not giving you this information, so that the relationships can catch up and start pleasing you- so that you can then start turning around, and observing the relationships that are pleasing you! We SO want you to get it, that that you've always been reaching into who you are. And anything less than that will never feel as good!
Now let's talk about this, in really vivid terms.
So, those of you who have been in love, who now have relationships- you want to say: you're in love. But maybe you don't really feel it so much...? It's been a long time since you felt that "in love" feeling. Here's why:
In the beginning, that relationship was more of a dream than it was a reality.
You were building that relationship long before you ever hooked up with this particular person! It became who-you-really-are. You and that person became this wonderful wonderful wonderful relationship, and it's vivid and real, and it holds all that you are. You're kind to one another! You believe in one another. You're respectful of one another. You're looking for the best in each other. You're evoking more and more, you are the catalyst that keeps pulling more good stuff through each other.
You are humorous together! You're tuned in, tapped in, turned on. You move well together: You move through life well together. In other words, in the vortex... what a magnificent relationship that you've built! Because every awkward moment improved it. Everything that went wrong, made it right. Everything that was off made it on! In other words, are you getting the sense of this? YOU created this "now"!
Some of you want to call this an illusion. We want to call it the vibrational reality.
We want to call it the relationship that you have created!
We want to call it the the the world that you created from your non-physical and physical vantage point.
It is a reality, that is real- that you've got to be a vibrational match to or you won't feel good.
So, then- when you look at reality as it is- you can't help but compare.
...You're not as nice as you're supposed to be.
..."You're not as attended to me, as you're supposed to be."
..."Chivalry is dead over there."
...You're still alive over here!
In other words... and so... then you're hard on each other. Because then you want, that... you want them to perform in a way that matches up to this! And we're wanting you to understand: you're you're looking for love in all the wrong places!
It's in your Vortex! And it's not their responsibility.
Are you following this? So, when you get there, when you get there... then what happens is: You begin enjoying the alignment of your vision. Which fills you with the feeling of LIFE. Don't you know from your own experience, that when you're on your way to the relationship, you felt so much better, than when you actually got there? And it's because, when you got there, you started looking at it as it is.
And what it is, in terms of manifestation, is never up to speed with what it has become (in the Vortex)!
-It's already past tense. ...Well, you took that pretty well!
That's hard. It's a hard thing to hear. It's... what we're saying to you is, in terms of physics- it would be like saying to you "as you're driving down the road, you want to look where you're going. Not where you are! And and not where you've been!"
You want to look where you're going.
And while that's simplistic, and really almost silly- it's the same idea. We want you to look toward what will manifest, but we want you to look toward what is! We want you to feel the realness of who you are. So, now speculate just for a little bit... think about, how have you ever... let's find some some simple ideas. Have you ever got an idea, that you'd like to refurbish your house. Or buy new furniture. And, do you remember that, how good it felt? Did you ever look through catalogues, and kind of start forming an image of how you'd like it to look?
And didn't it feel better- than when you got into the throws of trying to gather it all up or pay for it, or find someone who could coordinate it?
In other words, isn't it easier- isn't it easier to feel good in the envisioning-stage? And what we want you to come along... and we can feel you starting to move with us, what we want you... if we could convince you,
that your life is about the way you feel!!
Then it wouldn't matter to you if you're dreaming the new furniture, or if you're placing it.
If we've really convinced you, that how you feel is where it's at!
So, movie-makers, just keep dreaming new movies!
Authors, just keep dreaming new books!
Songwriters, just keep writing new songs!
The creative people never rest on their laurels. They... the happy creative people only stay happy and creative, because they keep writing the next song, you see! What we're getting at... they keep painting the next painting. Do you really think the world needs another painting?? NO!! But painters want to paint! Sculptors want to sculpt. Songwriters want to write songs. Musicians want to make music! In other words... you're getting the hang of it, aren't you? In other words,
you want to flow the energy!
That's how you mold the clay. You want to flow the energy, you want to think the good feeling thoughts! You want to sing the good feeling songs. You want to think the good feeling thoughts!
You want to think the good feeling thoughts. You want to think the good feeling thoughts!!
You don't want to think bad feeling thoughts!
You want to think the good feeling thoughts.
Now, think about it, as we watch people building empires, as we watch relationships coming together, as we watch movements coming into being- do you know that far and away the majority of the movement happens before there is any physical stuff, that even comes into being? In other words, as as you dream your empire, as you dream your dream employees, as you dream your dream product, as you dream the world's response to it, as you dream that it's all pure... because there's no reality that's clashing with it, you got to dream it as you wanted to dream.
But when you start facing reality, and reality clashes with the dream- that's when you lose your connection.
And that's when your dream slows down.
Well you're almost there! You're closer than any audience has been, we'll tell you that you're closer than any audience has been, to us having convinced you of the reality of this Vortex.
And the benefit to you, to reach toward it- because, have you ever been on vacation, and you've been out on the road, and you've been sort of free, and in an attitude of discovery with no time commitments... just sort of free flowing, and you know that fresh feeling of the Universe just yielding to you fun stuff to see, and fun things to feel... it's that fresh feeling that you can have all day every day, once you start living this real time that we're talking about.
So, someone says: "Did you get your new car?" -you could say and mean, and smile and feel good as you say:
-"no I'm still dreaming about it."
And then they'll go (disappointed) "ohh!
ohhh." But you don't mean Oh. ...you mean: I'm still dreaming about it!
-"Did you meet that perfect... did you find your lover yet?" -"No. I'm still dreaming about him!" -"Oh! " -"No, you don't understand! He doesn't have to be here this red hot minute! The idea of him has breathed life into me, the likes of which I cannot even begin to explain."
-"Did you write your best-selling novel yet?" -"No. I'm just dreaming about it." -"Oh. haven't really gotten around to yet? Oh. " -"No no! The life is just showing me bits and pieces of it. I'm gathering it up, I can feel it formulating. I can feel the inspiration that's flowing through me! I've never felt so vivid or so alive!"
-"You moved into your new house yet?" -"No. I'm just still dreaming about it!" -"Oh! " -"No, no! That dreaming about it is good. I'm in the vortex! I'm tuned in with the vibrational reality of it! It's breathing life into me. Oh sure, it will manifest. But I found you can say to your friends, that the more that manifests, the more I have to insure it, the more I have to move it from place to place, the more I have to clean it!"
In other words, you watch people! The more they gather, the less good they feel. The less they've got- the better they feel. We're not trying to talk you out of manifestations, friends! We're not. Manifestations are so wonderful!
And there is nothing more spiritual than the manifestation of this spirit, that you are.
Nothing is more delicious than manifestation!
But manifestation that comes from alignment, is delicious.
Manifestation that is dragging you around by the hair is not!
And we think that, in general, our human friends are hung up on the what-isness of manifestations, and depriving themselves of the freedom, of the natural joy that comes from roving with the energy that is truly you. Now that's easy for us to explain to you, because we don't have a physical body that we're dragging around. We don't have to bathe it or clothe it or feed it. We don't live in a house that we have to pay rent on, or own or ensure. In other words, we live in a state of beingness. But here's the big picture for you!
So, does the larger part of you... you are Spirit!
You are not a thing. You are a being, not a doing. You are a being, not a having. You are a physical being, who has the potential of aligning with the clarity and the adventure and the love and the sureness and and the worthiness that is really you! And you can tell moment by moment, whether you've caught caught a glimpse of it. And when you do milk it milk it milk it milk it milk it milk it milk it until you say incessantly to those around you, who say "well, what do you need?" -you say:
"I really don't need anything! There's nothing that I need. But I'm always on the Quest for alignment!" -"What does that mean?" -"Well it's sort of a long story, but what it basically means is: I'm more than I see. Or that you see here, in this physical body! And I can feel the wholeness of who I am, through my emotions. And I'm always on the trail of that."
Now, most people won't get it. But you do! You get it.
And, in fact, you've gotten it so good, that you can't go back from it. We should have explained that at the beginning, that you now know too much. You now know too much- you can't go back. You know too much, you can't go back! You are Source energy, and physical bodies, and the way you feel is everything.
A woman said, "My lover left, and now I'm sad." And said, no you're not! -She said: "Abraham. My lover left, and now I'm sad!" We said, no you're not. She said: "Abraham!!" -she thought things she didn't say. Something about a ridiculous ghost... "Abraham, you ridiculous ghost! My lover left, and now I am sad!" and we said: No, you're not! She said, "Let me be very clear with you. I wasn't sad, and then my lover left, and now I'm sad. I'm sad because my lover left!" -and we said:
While you were interacting with that lover, you created a lover in your Vortex, that that lover was not a match to.
And when that lover left, you're using that as an excuse not to match up with the one that's in your Vortex. You're not sad because that lover left! You're sad because, right now in this red hot minute, you are not a vibrational match to the lover you have created. THAT'S why you're sad.
You're sad because you are not up to speed with who you are!
That's the only reason that you're ever sad.
It's the only reason that you're ever sick.
It's the only reason that you ever feel negative emotion:
You're not up to speed you're not up to speed you're not up to speed you're not up to speed.
Well, how do you get up to speed?
You care about how you feel and you practice reaching for the thoughts that feel better and until you find yourself in the vortex.
And then you practice being in the vortex, until you're chronically in the vortex. And then you're living real time! Then your Source energy is flowing through you. Now, as you're interacting with others, all of you is in that moment. Now you're offering one signal, not split energy!
Now you are living life as you've intended. That's what you came for.
from the youtube-clip "Once You KNOW How To Think In 4 Dimensions, You Can SEE The INVISIBLE ~
Abraham Hicks "
(The difference between real physical life on the leading edge vs the perfection of "mere vibration" in the Vortex)
The reason why "falling in love" seems to be better than "living love"
So, we want to talk about every relationship you have.
And we want to say to you, that every relationship that you're currently living falls far, far, far, far short of the one that you've got in your Vortex, every single time!
Every relationship that you're living cannot even come close to measuring up to the one you've got into your Vortex. Stop asking it to, stop needing those relationships to be different than they are- so that you can feel better!
That's not the way this universe is established!
That was the bouncing off place for this.
This is where you want to put your attention, you see!
What we're getting at... so, it's really interesting. You have this dream of a perfect relationship, or a perfect breakfast or a perfect hotel or a perfect drive, or (...) you have this dream. You have this anticipation, tha,t from a distance, felt good to dream it. But now you're living the reality of it. And it's not living up! So, you feel deprived. You feel almost offended. You feel almost assaulted: You say to each other, "you don't bring me flowers anymore!" You say, "you promised to obey me!", or "you promised to hold me dear!" -and we say to you, we really... if you can just hear this!! -If you can just hear that:
NO relationship that is ever manifested, will ever measure up to the one you've got in your Vortex.
And if you will let them off the hook, and focus on your Vortex, you'll keep yourself joyful. And the relationships will improve, too.
But we are not giving you this information, so that the relationships can catch up and start pleasing you- so that you can then start turning around, and observing the relationships that are pleasing you! We SO want you to get it, that that you've always been reaching into who you are. And anything less than that will never feel as good!
Now let's talk about this, in really vivid terms.
So, those of you who have been in love, who now have relationships- you want to say: you're in love. But maybe you don't really feel it so much...? It's been a long time since you felt that "in love" feeling. Here's why:
In the beginning, that relationship was more of a dream than it was a reality.
You were building that relationship long before you ever hooked up with this particular person! It became who-you-really-are. You and that person became this wonderful wonderful wonderful relationship, and it's vivid and real, and it holds all that you are. You're kind to one another! You believe in one another. You're respectful of one another. You're looking for the best in each other. You're evoking more and more, you are the catalyst that keeps pulling more good stuff through each other.
You are humorous together! You're tuned in, tapped in, turned on. You move well together: You move through life well together. In other words, in the vortex... what a magnificent relationship that you've built! Because every awkward moment improved it. Everything that went wrong, made it right. Everything that was off made it on! In other words, are you getting the sense of this? YOU created this "now"!
Some of you want to call this an illusion. We want to call it the vibrational reality.
We want to call it the relationship that you have created!
We want to call it the the the world that you created from your non-physical and physical vantage point.
It is a reality, that is real- that you've got to be a vibrational match to or you won't feel good.
So, then- when you look at reality as it is- you can't help but compare.
...You're not as nice as you're supposed to be.
..."You're not as attended to me, as you're supposed to be."
..."Chivalry is dead over there."
...You're still alive over here!
In other words... and so... then you're hard on each other. Because then you want, that... you want them to perform in a way that matches up to this! And we're wanting you to understand: you're you're looking for love in all the wrong places!
It's in your Vortex! And it's not their responsibility.
Are you following this? So, when you get there, when you get there... then what happens is: You begin enjoying the alignment of your vision. Which fills you with the feeling of LIFE. Don't you know from your own experience, that when you're on your way to the relationship, you felt so much better, than when you actually got there? And it's because, when you got there, you started looking at it as it is.
And what it is, in terms of manifestation, is never up to speed with what it has become (in the Vortex)!
-It's already past tense. ...Well, you took that pretty well!
That's hard. It's a hard thing to hear. It's... what we're saying to you is, in terms of physics- it would be like saying to you "as you're driving down the road, you want to look where you're going. Not where you are! And and not where you've been!"
You want to look where you're going.
And while that's simplistic, and really almost silly- it's the same idea. We want you to look toward what will manifest, but we want you to look toward what is! We want you to feel the realness of who you are. So, now speculate just for a little bit... think about, how have you ever... let's find some some simple ideas. Have you ever got an idea, that you'd like to refurbish your house. Or buy new furniture. And, do you remember that, how good it felt? Did you ever look through catalogues, and kind of start forming an image of how you'd like it to look?
And didn't it feel better- than when you got into the throws of trying to gather it all up or pay for it, or find someone who could coordinate it?
In other words, isn't it easier- isn't it easier to feel good in the envisioning-stage? And what we want you to come along... and we can feel you starting to move with us, what we want you... if we could convince you,
that your life is about the way you feel!!
Then it wouldn't matter to you if you're dreaming the new furniture, or if you're placing it.
If we've really convinced you, that how you feel is where it's at!
So, movie-makers, just keep dreaming new movies!
Authors, just keep dreaming new books!
Songwriters, just keep writing new songs!
The creative people never rest on their laurels. They... the happy creative people only stay happy and creative, because they keep writing the next song, you see! What we're getting at... they keep painting the next painting. Do you really think the world needs another painting?? NO!! But painters want to paint! Sculptors want to sculpt. Songwriters want to write songs. Musicians want to make music! In other words... you're getting the hang of it, aren't you? In other words,
you want to flow the energy!
That's how you mold the clay. You want to flow the energy, you want to think the good feeling thoughts! You want to sing the good feeling songs. You want to think the good feeling thoughts!
You want to think the good feeling thoughts. You want to think the good feeling thoughts!!
You don't want to think bad feeling thoughts!
You want to think the good feeling thoughts.
Now, think about it, as we watch people building empires, as we watch relationships coming together, as we watch movements coming into being- do you know that far and away the majority of the movement happens before there is any physical stuff, that even comes into being? In other words, as as you dream your empire, as you dream your dream employees, as you dream your dream product, as you dream the world's response to it, as you dream that it's all pure... because there's no reality that's clashing with it, you got to dream it as you wanted to dream.
But when you start facing reality, and reality clashes with the dream- that's when you lose your connection.
And that's when your dream slows down.
Well you're almost there! You're closer than any audience has been, we'll tell you that you're closer than any audience has been, to us having convinced you of the reality of this Vortex.
And the benefit to you, to reach toward it- because, have you ever been on vacation, and you've been out on the road, and you've been sort of free, and in an attitude of discovery with no time commitments... just sort of free flowing, and you know that fresh feeling of the Universe just yielding to you fun stuff to see, and fun things to feel... it's that fresh feeling that you can have all day every day, once you start living this real time that we're talking about.
So, someone says: "Did you get your new car?" -you could say and mean, and smile and feel good as you say:
-"no I'm still dreaming about it."
And then they'll go (disappointed) "ohh!
ohhh." But you don't mean Oh. ...you mean: I'm still dreaming about it! -"Did you meet that perfect... did you find your lover yet?" -"No. I'm still dreaming about him!" -"Oh!
" -"No, you don't understand! He doesn't have to be here this red hot minute! The idea of him has breathed life into me, the likes of which I cannot even begin to explain." -"Did you write your best-selling novel yet?" -"No. I'm just dreaming about it." -"Oh.
haven't really gotten around to yet? Oh. " -"No no! The life is just showing me bits and pieces of it. I'm gathering it up, I can feel it formulating. I can feel the inspiration that's flowing through me! I've never felt so vivid or so alive!"-"You moved into your new house yet?" -"No. I'm just still dreaming about it!" -"Oh!
" -"No, no! That dreaming about it is good. I'm in the vortex! I'm tuned in with the vibrational reality of it! It's breathing life into me. Oh sure, it will manifest. But I found you can say to your friends, that the more that manifests, the more I have to insure it, the more I have to move it from place to place, the more I have to clean it!" In other words, you watch people! The more they gather, the less good they feel. The less they've got- the better they feel. We're not trying to talk you out of manifestations, friends! We're not. Manifestations are so wonderful!
And there is nothing more spiritual than the manifestation of this spirit, that you are.
Nothing is more delicious than manifestation!
But manifestation that comes from alignment, is delicious.
Manifestation that is dragging you around by the hair is not!
And we think that, in general, our human friends are hung up on the what-isness of manifestations, and depriving themselves of the freedom, of the natural joy that comes from roving with the energy that is truly you. Now that's easy for us to explain to you, because we don't have a physical body that we're dragging around. We don't have to bathe it or clothe it or feed it. We don't live in a house that we have to pay rent on, or own or ensure. In other words, we live in a state of beingness. But here's the big picture for you!
So, does the larger part of you... you are Spirit!
You are not a thing. You are a being, not a doing. You are a being, not a having. You are a physical being, who has the potential of aligning with the clarity and the adventure and the love and the sureness and and the worthiness that is really you! And you can tell moment by moment, whether you've caught caught a glimpse of it. And when you do milk it milk it milk it milk it milk it milk it milk it until you say incessantly to those around you, who say "well, what do you need?" -you say:
"I really don't need anything! There's nothing that I need. But I'm always on the Quest for alignment!" -"What does that mean?" -"Well it's sort of a long story, but what it basically means is: I'm more than I see. Or that you see here, in this physical body! And I can feel the wholeness of who I am, through my emotions. And I'm always on the trail of that."
Now, most people won't get it. But you do! You get it.
And, in fact, you've gotten it so good, that you can't go back from it. We should have explained that at the beginning, that you now know too much. You now know too much- you can't go back. You know too much, you can't go back! You are Source energy, and physical bodies, and the way you feel is everything.
A woman said, "My lover left, and now I'm sad." And said, no you're not! -She said: "Abraham. My lover left, and now I'm sad!" We said, no you're not. She said: "Abraham!!" -she thought things she didn't say. Something about a ridiculous ghost... "Abraham, you ridiculous ghost! My lover left, and now I am sad!" and we said: No, you're not! She said, "Let me be very clear with you. I wasn't sad, and then my lover left, and now I'm sad. I'm sad because my lover left!" -and we said:
While you were interacting with that lover, you created a lover in your Vortex, that that lover was not a match to.
And when that lover left, you're using that as an excuse not to match up with the one that's in your Vortex. You're not sad because that lover left! You're sad because, right now in this red hot minute, you are not a vibrational match to the lover you have created. THAT'S why you're sad.
You're sad because you are not up to speed with who you are!
That's the only reason that you're ever sad.
It's the only reason that you're ever sick.
It's the only reason that you ever feel negative emotion:
You're not up to speed you're not up to speed you're not up to speed you're not up to speed.
Well, how do you get up to speed?
You care about how you feel and you practice reaching for the thoughts that feel better and until you find yourself in the vortex.
And then you practice being in the vortex, until you're chronically in the vortex. And then you're living real time! Then your Source energy is flowing through you. Now, as you're interacting with others, all of you is in that moment. Now you're offering one signal, not split energy!
Now you are living life as you've intended. That's what you came for.
from the youtube-clip "Once You KNOW How To Think In 4 Dimensions, You Can SEE The INVISIBLE ~
Abraham Hicks "