Jet'aimeAussi wrote: ↑Tue Jun 18, 2024 10:54 pm
Hello lovely Paradise-on-Earth!
I remember your beautiful little face and username from the last forum! It's so nice to read you again!
Hi!
Im glad!! ...Did you have a different username then? I'm very sorry, but I don't remember yours...!?
Thank you for the quote, it hits right where it's supposed to! It feels really good and right to know that you can't not be loved if you love and vice versa. And it made me realise that I'm not vibrating love towards these handsome men, I'm vibrating doubt and insecurity. And I didn't even realise it!
Isn't that a good thing! To say it with Dr Phil: "You can't change what you don't acknowledge." That is the SO important first step!!
You are right that self love and self happiness is a must-have no matter what. And no! I do not want to attract a partner that vibrates lack of self love back to me!
Here's a quick update on what I did to make myself feel better :
- Got off the subject and back into my vortex
- Got the inspiration to find stuff to like myself more about
- Did a list of positive aspects about myself (careful not to trip over myself as it's a sensitive subject)
- Did a list of positive aspects about being single and started appreciating that more too.
- Looked at the photo of the handsome officer and did a list of things I appreciate about him
- Started affirmations like "handsome strong men find me very attractive and irresistible"
It changed my perspective a little and I don't have as many doubts on this as I did when I posted the question.
Wow. You are efficient!!
(careful not to trip over myself as it's a sensitive subject)
Awesome that you realize this, as well. We CAN NOT "bang things into shape" with willpower!
And I am certain you know this. You do not seem to be a newbie in this stuff, at all! You KNOW how it works.
Still, as I see a bird of same feather in you in the way that you know your stuff, and you like to have your hands in the clay, and you know what you want... up to being really stubborn about it -which is GOOD!!!
that (as I do, myself...
) you might "try to hard". And this MIGHT (no, it certainly will!!) work against you.
This physical game that we humans play, is set up as a "Co-Creation" between you and YOU, aka your physically focused "I" (=Ego) and your Inner Being/IB (that is NEVER separated from you, in fact, it IS you! It is who you REALLY are!)
So, Abe explained that we humans are like a "two headed monster": one not seperatable Beingness, that has two "heads" that both have their own focus. The "head" of your IB sees ALL the truth. It has the complete overview about all things, that regard the whole of you. It is aware of each tiny desire that you hold- and has fully embraced each single one. Even what you deem to be silly or minor. Your IB IS "you" having become who you rally want to be, and owns all the fulfillment that life caused you to desire. It is the fully whole version of you.
Your physically focused "head"- let's call it the Ego if you want, but please keep in mind that Abe NEVER teach to "kill" or bash or diminish in any way the Ego. It is what is NEEDED to lead a physical life, and it does always what it is capable of, giving the circumstances. But it has a MUCH smaller overview. It sees life through the heavy filters of all it's resistances and beliefs. (And all of that was planned from the very beginning, as we deliberately came here to forget who we really are to a certain degree. We couldn't come to new conclusions in this big way as we do, otherwise).
The clue is, to have both heads look in the same directions. Aka, to find ALIGNMENT with your IB. To TRUST the bigger overview knowing and clarity and the capability and desire of your IB to guide and lead you.
The more you do this, the more you "look through Sources eyes" in love, understanding, power, and insight, and the better you feel, and the faster you get what you REALLY want. Now, don't buck because of the "really want" phrase. You really want what you really want, right? But sometimes, you do not SEE what you really want, from your physical perspective. But, your IB knows and sees it, with it's resistance-free focus!
So, per example, when you want to go south (maybe because you want to travel to Africa from France), you MIGHT want to leave your house through the door (that -for the sake of our example) might be located NORTH! Of course you could try to walk straight south and through 2 walls that are straight south as well . But it would be easier and probably more joyful to FIRST go north for just some while. You get the analogy?
But here's where I'm at now and this is not the first time I'm there : now, I'm a little too obsessed with this picture and I'm starting to want that specific person which I know nothing about.
Let's take that bit by bit.
What do you mean with a "bit too obsessed"? Does this still FEEL good? Because, if it does- then never mind and allow yourself to solely ENJOY it! What feels good to you, IS good to you! You MAY bathe- and obsess- and indulge yourself with delightful daydreams and eager fascinated ideas about this guy! When it FEELS GOOD, it will bring you closer to your true dream, either in real physicality or (and probably, both), energetically.
But if you bash yourself for being "silly, cringy, too intense", or you start doubting if he would be good for you because you don't "know" him, you might miss the innocent, pure, divine joy that would be here for you, otherwise. Old-paradigm-society has that trained into us. Which is not helpful.
On the other hand, you might really feel off about this obsession, because it feels not REALLY joyful. And only you can know the difference.
We want you to be OBSESSED with being joyful! -Abe
Every time I have a crush on a guy, I end up like this.
Maybe this "ending up" could this time lead you to a new way of tackling it?
Stop blaming you for being open and willing to dive head over heels into something joyful, that lustfully, eagerly, happily RESONATES with your IB! Because still being so free of resistances that you dare to do so, is something VERY very good.
It's like he's the only one I want and I don't trust the Universe has plenty lookalikes in stock for me. I want THAT exact one OR ELSE!
Because I've been there plenty of times, I know I'm supposed to relax and just focus on the general qualities of the guy and the Universe will bring it to me.
But why does it feel like I'm being denied what I want? Or that I can't have exactly what I want? Why does it feel like I'll have to settle?
Do you realize what you are doing here?
Relaxing and trusting are a really good advice. They just make you feel better, and net you the capability (!!) to see your helpful, joyful, next step. And in the same time, they have NOTHING to do with any attempt to hold you off from having EXACTLY what you want!
You mingle those both together -maybe without even noticing it, because YOU have bashed yourself, most of the time, for wanting what you desire! Right?
YOU have told yourself again and again, that you would be -somehow- wrong in noticing this guy, in feeling him being irresistable, resonating with him in wonderfully good feeling ways, wanting him, feeling good about him, wanting more of him... it was YOU. Not source/your IB! YOU hold yourself back, in judging all of this as "too much"!
Maybe because this inner guidance (!) felt so bold that you fear to lose your control? While, you are not supposed to control being attracted and called. You can control what you do with it (which is a great thing! Don't become a stalker. Don't act ridiculous or without care and -self- respect. Only do what realllly feels throurougly good to you!)
But don't try to control or even suppress the attraction itself. It would mean, to hinder yourself to walk towards it.
And, never mind, to a degree we all do that. We got taught to do it from childhood up.
We all have somehow ingrained the insecurity that our desires would be nonsense. That "we can not know". But YES, we can!!! When it feels good to you, it IS good for you! And that is all we NEED to know, and to follow. If we did, we would get our stuff- and fast. And our Ego would never feel the urge to take the curb between it's teeth, as we Germans say, and bolt, like an angry wild horse.
You would just joyfully trust, that life has caused you to desire something- that source/your IB has heard and acknowledged it FULLY (never ever scolding you a silly dummy, that doesn't know what would be right for you!!!). And is, from here on, all in, in leading you and guiding you on the path that feels best and most joyful and most lustful and most fascinating, and has the least resistance for YOU-
to exactly what you want!
Do you lovely quote goddess have any quote for me about this?
What a title!
Let's see. I would recommend you reading through ALL the quotes about Desires (probably the normal "Desire-thread" and the "Big Desires-thread" AND the quotes of Step 2 (all in this Forum on the quote-subforum! Here is the index of all Quote-topics:)
viewtopic.php?t=373
Reading all of this 2 topics might train you into believing deeper, that you not only can, but SHOULD and OUGHT to have whatever life caused you to desire, in fully fleshed form. No matter what others think, how "impossible" it seems, or how silly or unreasonable YOU thought it is.
Source never tries to trick you out of your desires. What your "enemies" are, is your own (probably) long trained resistances, in which you are not trusting yourself. But, just trust your inner guidance: When it feels good, it IS good. And, what you desire is already DONE and source is behind it... and now CALLING YOU towards it. That is what "resonance" and "attraction" are!
One exception that is not really an exception: IF you had fallen in love with something that really is NOT what you desire, but served as a "carrot" to lure you to wat you truly want, you will notice that in perfect timing. But then, it will not matter anymore, because you get what is even so much better and then, you KNOW it. Abe described it as you maybe wanting to get the red Ferrari in the shop-window, not knowing that this particular car in the window has no engine. Which is no big deal, when you will get it delivered WITH an engine, right?
That's all of this. Nothing to tense against!
When you place yourself in high vibrational state,
you become aligned with all of the abundance that exists within the universe.
In this state there is no such thing as impossible, no dream too big, no desire too great.
You really can have, be or do anything.
Abraham
JtA! 
What a title!
So I remember your username very well, while you probably don't know me at all! I don't even remember what my username was. 
that's relief! I am TERRIBLE with remembering names and faces. I can remember a vibration of a certain person, but the rest... 
). It sounds as if you would be naturally passionate and eager (and capable, which truly is a special gift!) to dig deep. Keep yourself in that vicinity, don't try to talk yourself out of this fully. 
that's strange. What taught you to make frustrating cutbacks on your dreams?
this sounds WONDERFUL to me! When things feel SO good, they clearly are inspired- by loving, wise Source, who calls you straight into your Vortex! Do this long enough (it must be more airtime of this, than the airtime of your doubt!), and things will unfold into even more. But ALWAYS watch out if you still feel good (I know that you know this, I just repeat it!)
I am VERY glad. It is a joy to work with you!! 
