On the subject of beauty and physical appearance

[Jet'aimeAussi]

There are many things I'd like to manifest on this subject :

- I'd like to find a way to be consistently happy about my physical appearance. I'd love to feel beautiful all the time and more carefree about this subject.

- I'd like to stop being jealous of other beautiful women and put myself down immediately by comparing myself. I'd love to replace this feeling of inferiority by a feeling of appreciation for other people manifesting beauty.

- I'd like to be able to morph my body and face into exactly the type I would like to be.


If I'm honest with myself, a lot of this desire for physical beauty comes from the desire to find a man. Deep down, I feel like I need to be perfect for my future guy to love me or at least to feel worthy of him. It's also why I get jealous of other beautiful women thinking they can get everything that I desire and even take it from me. I don't want to go into why I feel this way because Abraham says it doesn't help to analyse that but typing all this I realise how much pressure I've put on myself.

So far, I've managed to get off the subject and find little things I like about me. But I'd like to stop oscillating between loving myself and feeling unworthy of the guy I want.

Any quotes or thoughts to help me with this?

[Paradise-on-Earth]

There are many things I'd like to manifest on this subject :

- I'd like to find a way to be consistently happy about my physical appearance. I'd love to feel beautiful all the time and more carefree about this subject.

- I'd like to stop being jealous of other beautiful women and put myself down immediately by comparing myself. I'd love to replace this feeling of inferiority by a feeling of appreciation for other people manifesting beauty.

- I'd like to be able to morph my body and face into exactly the type I would like to be.

(...)

Any quotes or thoughts to help me with this?

I guess it's best you take a look yourself in the Quote-Subforum. A huge help is the index, that awesome spiritualcookie has created, and that gets updated all the time, by her:

ABRAHAM HICKS QUOTES INDEX (in alphabetical order)
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For starters, I would advice:
Quotes on Beauty & Physical Attractiveness
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and
Quotes on Jealousy & Envy
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Here is a whole segment, that might give you a bold overview:

It's Ok To Want To Be Beautiful!

HS:
How how did you feel about me, wanting to look more attractive?
I mean, I... as I was writing today about that, in my positivistic book- I remember that one time, I felt that it was important for me to accept...

Abe:
You are upon something very important here!
See, here is the way it has come about, not just with you, but with almost all that we know. You have this desire; you are born with it, for freedom and growth and joy. And as you look around the world, you choose things that you want. But because, for the most part, you have not understood (you or anyone else) the power of thought, or how it all fits together, you have found yourself seeing things that you want, that you're not believing that you have.

Or even in the comparison, seeing someone who is beautiful and comparing yourself, and not feeling as beautiful. And so, in the comparison you say: "I don't want those grapes anyway, for they're sour." and so, from that has become the attitude, that it is not proper to be vain! In other words, "one should not give so much attention to something so vain as beauty... after all, beauty is only skin-deep" or, "after all, the true merit of a being is within." -That sort of thing. And all of that is alright. We are not saying that that is not all right to feel that way! What we are saying is, that

when you don't feel that way, but you say the words, then you are resisting.
You're actually adding unto the thing that you do not want!

When you are seeing... let us say that you see a beautiful woman, and everything about her is really just right. Her figure is just right. Her attitude is dynamic, she seems free and happy. She is really the picture of a happy woman! And as you see her- if that picture uplifts you, then that is an indication to you, that you are on your way to that. That which you see harmonizes with that what you want, and in your moment of positive emotion, your InnerBeing is saying: "you and the energy of the universe and that which you are seeing, and the feeling that you have, are all one! You are in harmony with this."

But if you see it, and you find reason to be critical... "Probably never worked a day in her life. Probably just sits around and puts mud packs on her face! Probably has no stress, but..." -you are getting the picture!- then what is happening is: You are in your position of lack, now trying to justify your position of lack. And doing so, by putting the other one down, so to speak. It is a common thing. (...) doesn't matter what it is that they have, that you want- that you don't feel you have, anytime you are feeling jealousy (and you know the feeling!) ...there are only two emotions. One feels good, and one feels bad.

But you know the one called jealousy! The one, when you see something that another has and you want it. But you don't have it, and your Inner Being is shouting to you loudly and clearly that you want this. But you're focused in opposition of it, right now- you're taking the non-physical energy of the universe and sending it in opposition of what you really want. And so, what we would say to you is:

It is alright for you to want anything!!
And we would not call you vain. We would call you a Wanter!

The reason that you have come to feel vanity or see it in others, is because you are coming from position of lack. And then you are trying to ease the pain of that position of lack, by saying "I don't want that anyway", you see. There are only two ways to get rid of negative emotion! First of all, let us remind ourselves what is negative emotions.

Negative emotion is your Inner Being reminding you, that you're resisting whatever you're giving this thought to.

If someone you did not know called you on the telephone and said: "I will never call you again", you would say: "What? Who cares?" -in other words, you didn't want them to begin with, so they're going away wouldn't involve you. And so there would be no negative emotion. But if someone very important to you were to call you on the telephone and say: "I will never see you again!" -you would feel lack. You would feel negative emotion. You're getting the point. Therefore, what we are saying is: Whenever you are feeling negative emotion, your Inner Being is saying: "you are not allowing this, that you'r wanting. You are resisting it."

You take part of the non-physical energy and you say: "I want."
And then in your negative feeling, you are taking part of the non-physical energy and say: "I want it, but I'm not going to get it."
And so, that is resistance. That is what that is, a little tug of war. That his why it is uncomfortable. You're not in the flow of things, you see.

HS:
Now I enter a sketching class that I took. The teacher said... we sketched each other, we were looking at it in two pairs. And she said, an older person who is much more interesting to sketch... there's a lot more to sketch there. Well, a young person doesn't have the interesting lines, and that's what came to my mind, and that may be part of even the negative... I was wondering. Should I be... What you're saying to me is in the sense that "what I want is legitimized. That's all there is. I want it.

Abe:
...And that is ENOUGH.

HS:
...And that's ENOUGH!

Abe:
You cannot want something without having the potential of having it! It defies law. If you are wanting it, it can be yours.

And you have this glorious guidance system, telling you every time (when) you're going astray from having it! Every time you feel negative emotion, that is your guidance system telling you: you're pushing against something you want! Relax! Change the thought and let it be.

HS:
I do! It feels like I want my body to catch up with the rest of me! It seems like, in terms of money and and relationships, and there's a lot of things which I will feel as if I've made quantum-leaps of what I was before I knew! But if...

Abe:
Absolutely.

HS:
And then... and I thought I were trying too hard.

Abe:
That is part of it. Trying too hard is resisting! For this reason... when you think about this... if you decide that you want to go to the grocery store and buy a quart of milk. Did you ever find yourself trying too hard? Or do you just go get it? And the reason you just go get it is, because you have absolute knowledge! ...You know that you have the ability to go. You know you have the money in your purse. You know the milk will be there. When you get there... in other words, that there is no doubt! And so there is no trying against anything!

And so, whenever you're trying too hard, what is happening is: There is a part of you, that is not believing that it can be. And so, in your wanting to compensate with action, you offer more action. And what we are wanting you to understand is, that you cannot act enough.

There is not enough action in the world to compensate for your taking part of the energy, and sending it in the other direction in the form of negative emotion.

If you've got negative emotion about something, you're stuck there. And no action is going to change it!

The only thing that's going to change it, is by releasing the thought.

Which is bringing forth the negative emotion, and replacing it with the thought that brings positive emotion. And then, the action will come joyfully, you see!

HS:
Yes, many many examples are flashing through my head now...

Abe:
If you'll just look for reasons to feel positive emotion! And the best time to do it, is in a time when you're feeling negative emotion. In other words your positive aspect book will serve you very well. Even a mental one, if you will stop for a moment and say: "Now, wait a minute. I'm feeling rotten here." -Don't try to figure out why you're feeling rotten! What you tend to do is, you try to justify it, because at the core of your being, you're wanting to be right. You're wanting to be balanced, you're wanting to feel good. And so, when you don't feel good, the tendency is to try to justify.

We heard Esther, regarding the hotel that kept being not prepared for them. And so, as she is making her statements of criticism to them, she is feeling negative emotion. And then she feels like she must defend her statements of criticism! And so she says things like: "I have called them just today. I wrote them a letter. What kind of... why don't these people listen? What kind of staff do they have?"

All the while she is now picking on them, attracting more negative from them in an attempt to justify her own negative emotion! And we say:

You don't have to justify your negative emotion!
Your negative emotion is your guidance.
Acknowledge your negative emotion!

Nobody's judging you! You don't have to justify your position. Acknowledge your negative emotion, recognize you'r resisting something that you want- and then look for the positive aspects within this. And as you look for the positive aspects, you are feeling changes. And as soon as you're feeling changes, you're no longer resisting, and as soon as you're no longer resisting: You're getting what you want.


From the youtube clip "Abraham Hicks - It's Ok To Want To Be Beautiful"


outtake:

What Jealousy is

But you know the one called jealousy! The one, when you see something that another has and you want it. But you don't have it, and your Inner Being is shouting to you loudly and clearly that you want this. But you're focused in opposition of it, right now- you're taking the non-physical energy of the universe and sending it in opposition of what you really want. And so, what we would say to you is:

It is alright for you to want anything!!
And we would not call you vain. We would call you a Wanter!

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

If I'm honest with myself, a lot of this desire for physical beauty comes from the desire to find a man. Deep down, I feel like I need to be perfect for my future guy to love me or at least to feel worthy of him.

You know best about yourself, ALWAYS! Others outside you can't really know. But, I still want to challenge this statement, as I went through this stance myself for seemingly all my life, and *I* find so much more to this than this (probably helpful for some, but shallow, anyway, phrases...)


What if you look into the mirror, and you immediately feel terrible, and this is guidance that source know, that this is not THE REAL TRUTH of you?

I am certain that many many people would argue about this, and YES, you can argue about it. I am NOT fat-shaming, I am NOT telling you that people who think they have flaws are really having flaws. Because, in the Vortex (and therefore, for Source), there does nothing as "flaw" or "mistake" exist. IT IS ALL GOOD. Your body is always always always the exact mirror-image of what you think and feel about him and your worthiness and your appearance in this physical world- and what you CAN decipher in the mirror. And that- from your specific vantage-point, it is always TRUE. But there is more to "truth" than meets the eye!

-When a person who is far OOTV looks into a mirror, they will see a terrible distortion of what-really-is. And it will -which is guidance- feel terrible to them (no matter if others think the mirror-image is beautiful!). From OOTV, you CAN NOT see clearly, and you CAN NOT see what Source (or ITV-people) see.

-When a person who is somewhere in the middle of the EGS looks into the mirror, they will see still SOME distortion of what-really-is. Because, around boredom and frustration and maybe hope, you still are not in vicinity of the CLARITY and KNOWINGNESS of your worthiness, that you would have on top of the EGS, where you sense what Source knows to be true!

-When a person who is highly ITV and who feels happy and thankful and free and joyful looks into the mirror, they will LIKE what they see. They are absolutely fine with their "mirrorimage" and enjoy the love that they see in their own eyes, and love the wrinkles that tell about their life, and the figure, that tells about their fears and tiredness that still are within them, as a physical person that meets contrast every day. A highly ITV-person embraces all of that with love, and is ok with "where they are" physically.

AND, they still might want this to be different!
As the long transcript I gave you in the last post states- we are BORN WANTERS. What life has caused us to put into our Vortex will eternally CALL us. We want more! We want to catch up, with what is in our Vortex. And when we don't, we suffer. We do not need to suffer so much that we fly out of the Vortex (and feel envy or jealous or even worse, as worthless, ashamed and unwilling to live...). But we FEEL a certain dis-alignment. And that is healthy. It is GUIDANCE.

It literally means, you are in your Vortex a more joyful, more free, more empowered, more BEAUTIFUL version of yourself than you decipher from where you are! And of course, you want to catch up with that version!

That has NOTHING to do with how others see you, in the first place. It is something solely between you and YOU!
When you are now OOTV, and you judge yourself about this gap, it feels bad (which is no "true" statement about you being ugly, but guidance that source know this to not be true.)
And then, when you ponder how others might see you from an OOTV-stance, you get your own judgement 100edfold backso to speak (no matter what they would really think!!) Which still has nothing to do with you being ugly, but with you, getting momentum on realizing the gap between you and YOU.

The solution would be, to go ITV (where you can see clearly again what REALLY is), and find your perfect solution. Spoiler alert: Non-aligned Action-journeys as taking diets that you hate, workouts that you are not inspired to, or even plastic surgery that hurts as hell, are NOT what can allow your "gap" between you and YOU to close! It MUST be a vibrational Alignment, first.

It's also why I get jealous of other beautiful women thinking they can get everything that I desire and even take it from me.

Well, this are several topics all mingled together.
-First, you never know what others really think.
-Second, when they try to "steal" or diminish you or deliberately trample over you, they must be totally OOTV and all they do is a byproduct of that, which has nothing to do with their outer beauty.
-I do NOT think you are really jealous of them (as this would mean, you want what they have- and all they have really, is misery). I guess, you are simply mad as hell!

I don't want to go into why I feel this way because Abraham says it doesn't help to analyse that but typing all this I realise how much pressure I've put on myself.

That's wise on one hand- on the other hand, I would look at stuff UNTIL I feel a clicking, a understanding. But of course, do what YOU feel drawn to!

So far, I've managed to get off the subject and find little things I like about me. But I'd like to stop oscillating between loving myself and feeling unworthy of the guy I want.

See it as a game. Be nicer to yourself. Laugh more about the situation in a loving, lighthearted way. Have I said, BE NICER to yourself?
Go ITV totally off topic, in all ways that work for you!

Going ITV takes care of ALL problems.

It makes you ABLE to see clearly what is, and to handle things with less pressure and pain. Take babysteps! It IS a journey. Enjoy the roses on the wayside, hold your face into the sunlight, enjoy the cooling breezes. HAVE FUN, unconditionally!! Watch movies (or even porn) where the heroine is fat or has a giant nose or snorts while she laughs- they are sooo helpful to go lighter with yourself, and to see the beauty, and the goodness, in what society deems to be not beautiful!

[spiritualcookie]

If I'm honest with myself, a lot of this desire for physical beauty comes from the desire to find a man.

It sounds like there are two beliefs here that are introducing resistant energy that your Inner Being does not agree with:

1.) "I am not beautiful enough"

2.) "I must look a certain way to attract a man"

The fact that these don't feel good to you mean that in reality, both of these statements cannot be true!

Perhaps it would give some relief to strengthen some beliefs that feel better and resonate as more true to your Inner Being
Let me see if I can help:

In reality, different people have different views of what "beautiful" is, and what you may not think of as beautiful, someone else will think IS beautiful.

One of my friends for example has a thing for bald men. I imagine many a bald man may be insecure about that kind of thing - but here is a woman who thinks it's the most attractive thing ever! I've spoken to men who find a plumper woman extremely attractive and are not attracted to slim women. We cannot guess other people's tastes! Perhaps there are men out there who would find attractive even the very features you are most insecure about!

Also, there is the energetic vibe dimension of things. Beyond the physical, we are drawn to people's energy. Sometimes we find ourselves attracted to people even if we don't find them particularly physically attractive, simply because we love their vibe, we are attracted to their personality, to their sense of humour, to the way their mind works, to the way they make us feel when we're with them. This is a huge component to attraction!

If you look around the world, you will notice that not everyone who is in a relationship looks like a model! Have you ever heard of the reality show "The Undateables" where people who think they are undateable find love? It is proof that you do not need to be a certain way to attract your person. You just need to be you, and someone out there will find that the most attractive thing ever - even more attractive to them than the so-called "beautiful" women may be - they won't be able to compete with you because they simply aren't you!

[Paradise-on-Earth]

If I'm honest with myself, a lot of this desire for physical beauty comes from the desire to find a man.

It sounds like there are two beliefs here that are introducing resistant energy that your Inner Being does not agree with:

1.) "I am not beautiful enough"

2.) "I must be beautiful enough to attract a man"

The fact that these don't feel good to you mean that in reality, both of these statements cannot be true!

Perhaps it would give some relief to strengthen some beliefs that feel better and resonate as more true to your Inner Being
Let me see if I can help:

In reality, different people have different views of what "beautiful" is, and what you may not think of as beautiful, someone else will think IS beautiful.

One of my friends for example has a thing for bald men. I imagine many a bald man may be insecure about that kind of thing - but here is a woman who thinks it's the most attractive thing ever! I've spoken to men who find a plumper woman extremely attractive and are not attracted to slim women. We cannot guess other people's tastes! Perhaps there are men out there who would find attractive even the very features you are most insecure about!

Also, there is the energetic vibe dimension of things. Beyond the physical, we are drawn to people's energy. Sometimes we find ourselves attracted to people even if we don't find them particularly physically attractive, simply because we love their vibe, we are attracted to their personality, to their sense of humour, to the way their mind works, to the way they make us feel when we're with them. This is a huge component to attraction!

If you look around the world, you will notice that not everyone who is in a relationship looks like a model! Have you ever heard of the reality show "The Undateables" where people who think they are undateable find love? It is proof that you do not need to be a certain way to attract your person. You just need to be you, and someone out there will find that the most attractive thing ever - even more attractive to them than the so-called "beautiful" women may be - they won't be able to compete with you because they simply aren't you!

I love every word of this. So true!!
And it backs up the quote that I just had found and that is on my copy-key right now...

this really is NOT about you and the others... it is between you and YOU. And, as with every other desire, what you want is an expansion of who you are, that you think will make you more happy. And each time, "when life causes you to desire something" -this "rocket of desire" goes straight into your Vortex, where source embraces it fully and BECOMES (!) it, and always keeps updating it as soon you desire even more (or more specifics)- it BECOMES "who you really are" in your Vortex and that CALLS you from there on towards it. "And you must follow that call, if you want to be happy" (Abe)

You must learn to embrace it, love it, line up with it, and follow the joyful impulses that you get on the way to it. Not because otherwise you wouldn't be beautiful or unloveable. But, because your IB became it, and now you must line up with that.

[Jet'aimeAussi]

So much to answer, I'll try to keep it short. Thanks for the replies!

What if you look into the mirror, and you immediately feel terrible, and this is guidance that source know, that this is not THE REAL TRUTH of you?

I like this thought.
The way you describe the mirror reflecting something different based on how we feel is definitely something I've noticed and I'm glad to see someone else mention it. It's actually something that frustrates me often because I feel that my reflection is not consistent (one day I'll see a smoking hot woman, the next I'll see a troll ). The difference between the two is so dramatic that it's like I'm two different women. I'll often avoid looking into a mirror when I feel down because of this.

And then, when you ponder how others might see you from an OOTV-stance, you get your own judgement 100edfold backso to speak (no matter what they would really think!!) Which still has nothing to do with you being ugly, but with you, getting momentum on realizing the gap between you and YOU.

This is a big one for me. I'll often do that.

The solution would be, to go ITV (where you can see clearly again what REALLY is)

I think I still have a little trouble understanding/believing on a deep level that whenever I feel rotten, it's because my inner being disagrees and that my inner being sees what really is.

See it as a game. Be nicer to yourself. Laugh more about the situation in a loving, lighthearted way. Have I said, BE NICER to yourself?
Go ITV totally off topic, in all ways that work for you!

Going ITV takes care of ALL problems.

It really does seem to be the answer to everything, doesn't it? How come I keep forgetting it?


At this point I'd like to say that I'm actually trying to add weight on my frame It's the opposite problem than most I guess but it's the same struggle in reverse. I'd also like to manifest bigger boobies!

It sounds like there are two beliefs here that are introducing resistant energy that your Inner Being does not agree with:

1.) "I am not beautiful enough"

2.) "I must look a certain way to attract a man"

The fact that these don't feel good to you mean that in reality, both of these statements cannot be true!

Yes, I need to find a way to soften those beliefs.

One of my friends for example has a thing for bald men. I imagine many a bald man may be insecure about that kind of thing - but here is a woman who thinks it's the most attractive thing ever! I've spoken to men who find a plumper woman extremely attractive and are not attracted to slim women. We cannot guess other people's tastes! Perhaps there are men out there who would find attractive even the very features you are most insecure about!

This doesn't help because it attract another problem that I have which is focusing on odds and statistics.

Also, there is the energetic vibe dimension of things. Beyond the physical, we are drawn to people's energy. Sometimes we find ourselves attracted to people even if we don't find them particularly physically attractive, simply because we love their vibe, we are attracted to their personality, to their sense of humour, to the way their mind works, to the way they make us feel when we're with them. This is a huge component to attraction!

This is so true. I've experienced it myself. Paradise on Earth gave me a quote a few weeks ago that resonate with this a little bit :

We have never one time, ever, known someone to adore someone,
that the one that they were adoring, didn’t adore them back!
- Abraham hicks

Maybe I just need to remind myself that being an appreciator is enough to be appreciated back. And that vibrating insecurity is what gets me insecurity vibrated back to me. It's just so hard when I'd love to just have a magic wand to transform into exactly what I'd want to be and go from there!

[spiritualcookie]

another problem that I have which is focusing on odds and statistics.

I believe Abe teach that it's never about odds and statistics. It's only about your thoughts, beliefs and vibrational setpoint and whatever these attract via the Law of Attraction.
If you're aligned with feeling deserving of attracting a man / feeling that it's easy, you'll attract a man.
If you're aligned with thinking you aren't beautiful enough / aren't deserving / "it's too difficult" to attract a man, you won't attract a man.
If you've got mixed vibrations going (sometimes aligned / hopeful / feeling good about yourself, sometimes not) then it could go either way.

[Paradise-on-Earth]

So much to answer, I'll try to keep it short. Thanks for the replies!

It's a pleasure on my side!
No need to keep it short, if we all get a fascinating discussion or insight and greater understanding from it!

What if you look into the mirror, and you immediately feel terrible, and this is guidance that source know, that this is not THE REAL TRUTH of you?

I like this thought.
The way you describe the mirror reflecting something different based on how we feel is definitely something I've noticed and I'm glad to see someone else mention it. It's actually something that frustrates me often because I feel that my reflection is not consistent (one day I'll see a smoking hot woman, the next I'll see a troll ). The difference between the two is so dramatic that it's like I'm two different women. I'll often avoid looking into a mirror when I feel down because of this.

I think we really are here on to something, that many are missing!

I think I still have a little trouble understanding/believing on a deep level that whenever I feel rotten, it's because my inner being disagrees and that my inner being sees what really is.

As you said later in your reply, the answer to this is more time ITV, as well.
I can't repeat it often enough, that OOTV, we do not have clear insight or true understanding. We have sort of radio-interference, instead! The frequencies are so off, that no clear picture, no clear thought, no good receptivity for what really is going on, exists. We just "don't get it"- in all meanings of the phrase.

But when you start to live mostly ITV, or at least MORE consistently, so much that from OOTV seems "normal", falls by the wayside. It just dissolves into nothingness. (and you never miss it!)

You can't really work on "worthiness", or on "clarity", or even on feeling "love", "empowerment", "peace (together with security) or "freedom". All this are FREQUENCIES that you either are getting because you are in Alignment with them, or not. But when you are- all doubt falls by the wayside. All that is less than "who you really are" dissolves ALL BY ITS OWN.

Your job is to not claw into what feels bad, but let it go and deliberately focus on what feels better- or even really good. Chill out, and get happy, in all the "mundane" tiny, seemingly not relevant ways. It REALLY is "the work"!

It really does seem to be the answer to everything, doesn't it? How come I keep forgetting it?

Because you have (like most of us) trained the opposite for so long. What you train comes easy! No matter if it makes you happy or sucks the life out of you...

At this point I'd like to say that I'm actually trying to add weight on my frame It's the opposite problem than most I guess but it's the same struggle in reverse. I'd also like to manifest bigger boobies!

Whatever life has caused you to desire, you can do, be or have in full physical form!

Abe

This doesn't help because it attract another problem that I have which is focusing on odds and statistics.

So, how does this FEEL to you?

You can use ANY "excuse" (as Abe call those) to either get happy or live misery. That is completely YOUR CHOICE.
The question is: How do you want to live? Because, you will get more of what you choose, and more of how that already feels.

Maybe I just need to remind myself that being an appreciator is enough to be appreciated back. And that vibrating insecurity is what gets me insecurity vibrated back to me.

Exactly.

It's just so hard when I'd love to just have a magic wand to transform into exactly what I'd want to be and go from there!

As Abe did sometimes, I, too, will use an erotic analogy here to describe what you would miss when you could do this:

-Then you would miss all the fun of getting to UNDERSTAND it (=the coming into Alignment, aka the awesome time of finding more and more arousal and joy ), and all the thrill, pride, triumph and lust of "Closing the Gap between you and YOU (aka the Orgasm).

You would sit WITHOUT all the lustful experience (aka the "journey", "the ride") and feel some satisfaction, in having gotten your stuff (=the phase AFTER the Orgasm!).

Do you really want to miss all the FUN?
(don't worry about it. It's not possible! In real life things happen ORGANICALLY. It doesn't work otherwise.)

[Paradise-on-Earth]

[Jet'aimeAussi]

I believe Abe teach that it's never about odds and statistics. It's only about your thoughts, beliefs and vibrational setpoint and whatever these attract via the Law of Attraction.

I found a quote yesterday while digging the forum and it said "The odds don't matter at all. Because the odds of Law of Attraction are 100%" I'd love to find a collection of stories about coincidences or stuff like that, I think it would help me believe this more deeply.

I can't repeat it often enough, that OOTV, we do not have clear insight or true understanding. We have sort of radio-interference, instead! The frequencies are so off, that no clear picture, no clear thought, no good receptivity for what really is going on, exists. We just "don't get it"- in all meanings of the phrase.

That was me today Radio interference is a brilliant way to put it. Anytime I tried to tune in, I'd get interference thoughts that I didn't want. I spent my day having to consciously let go of unwanted thoughts/doubts.

But when you start to live mostly ITV, or at least MORE consistently, so much that from OOTV seems "normal", falls by the wayside. It just dissolves into nothingness. (and you never miss it!)

I love that. The truth of this really resonates with me right now.

You can't really work on "worthiness", or on "clarity", or even on feeling "love", "empowerment", "peace (together with security) or "freedom". All this are FREQUENCIES that you either are getting because you are in Alignment with them, or not. But when you are- all doubt falls by the wayside. All that is less than "who you really are" dissolves ALL BY ITS OWN.

Your job is to not claw into what feels bad, but let it go and deliberately focus on what feels better- or even really good. Chill out, and get happy, in all the "mundane" tiny, seemingly not relevant ways. It REALLY is "the work"!

Ok, yes. I can do that!
It's really true that when I focus on joyful things consistently enough, I'll end up finding myself really pretty. And when I'm not "high", I don't. And then when I don't, I panic that I won't be able to get the stuff I want (husband, good life) which I want to make myself happy with.
By making myself happy now, I cut out the middlemen.

Because you have (like most of us) trained the opposite for so long. What you train comes easy!

That's true. And most people around me and society at large still live like this so it's not easy to go against the grain and ignore reinforcement of the opposite.

Whatever life has caused you to desire, you can do, be or have in full physical form!

Woohoo!

So, how does this FEEL to you?

Terrible. I don't like thinking what I want is rare or unlikely to happen.

As Abe did sometimes, I, too, will use an erotic analogy here to describe what you would miss when you could do this:

-Then you would miss all the fun of getting to UNDERSTAND it (=the coming into Alignment, aka the awesome time of finding more and more arousal and joy ), and all the thrill, pride, triumph and lust of "Closing the Gap between you and YOU (aka the Orgasm).

You would sit WITHOUT all the lustful experience (aka the "journey", "the ride") and feel some satisfaction, in having gotten your stuff (=the phase AFTER the Orgasm!).

Do you really want to miss all the FUN?
(don't worry about it. It's not possible! In real life things happen ORGANICALLY. It doesn't work otherwise.)

You're right (as usual). I suppose it's why we've come here anyway, no? We didn't come here to say "and then everything will be perfect and I'll have no contrast and therefore manifest nothing new".