Quotes on Relationships

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Links to Quote Threads on Specific Kinds of Relationships

• Controlling Others - Wanting to Influence Others
• Divorce
• Family
• Independence & Dependence
• Influence of Others Over You
• Parent-Child Relationships
• Pleasing Others
• Rascals - Relationships with Difficult People

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Q: Why do we get into relationships?

A: Because it's so lovely to have an object of attention to which you can flow your love and appreciation and respect.

Q: But we should expect that from those people, right?

A: Well, you shouldn't need it from them before you feel it.
In other words, what we want you to understand about relationships with life - with relationships with anything - you want to be a presenter of your energy; an actor, not a reactor. And so we just don't want you to need from other people what your Inner Being is always offering you. We don't want you to replace that Source that is flowing to you all of the time with others who can't possibly flow to you all of the time, because they weren't born to be your Source or your resource or your replenishment; it's a misunderstanding of who they are. Having someone up close to you to adore and appreciate, that's the best part of a relationship. It's not about what they give you, because you don't want to be needy, it's about the opportunity to experience your loving.

Really, if we were standing in your physical shoes, this would be our explanation of why relationships are so wonderful: Because when you are with someone who understands the Laws of the Universe as you do, it is so much fun to witness the unfolding with someone else, to witness the confirming, compounding momentum. It's so fun when you've been with someone, and together you've established a mood, you've established this vibrational offering, and then together you get to witness the unfolding of that. It just doesn't get any better than that. That's what a relationship would mean to us if we were standing in your physical shoes.
We would never say, "I need you so that I can feel that way," we would say, "I like to feel that way with you, and I like the experience of, together, experiencing what feeling like that is."

Q: And that's what co-creation is.

A: Co-creation is a broader term that that, co-creation is any energies getting together for any reason. In other words, co-creation at its best is that, but you are co-creating with those who are stabbing you in the back, too.

Q: That's right, yeah. I got it.

~ Abraham-Hicks
North Los Angeles 1/23/2016

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We just don't want you to need from other people
what your Inner Being is always offering you.

We don't want you to replace that Source that is flowing to you all of the time
with others who can't possibly flow to you all of the time.
Because they wreen't born to be your Source or your resource or your replenishment.

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DON'T RELY ON OTHER PEOPLE LIKING YOU IN ORDER FOR YOU TO FEEL GOOD:

Mostly you want other people to get you.
You're wanting to be understood by them.
Which means you are trying to perform in ways that will please them.
But that's a lot of trouble, have you noticed?

It's so much more joyful and powerful
and possible
for you to find alignment with your Source
and therefore all that you have so far asked for,
and in the sbence of resistance,
when your point of attraction is so powerful,
to then let in the results that you're looking for.

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DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT?

Esther saw something on the television the other day:
it was a old relationship mantra that said ~
Do opposites attract ?
And she said~ "Hell no ! That’s old school."

In other words, (the old-school thought is)
we need balance:
I will be needy and you be a giver,
I will be a taker and you be a giver and then we will get along well.

And Esther said "NOT!"
That’s vibrational discord.
There’s no harmony in that.

Nothing is more exhilarating than two aligned people coming and co creating.
And nothing is more miserable than two non-aligned people come together and co creating
and its almost as bad, if one is (aligned) and one isn’t.

Abraham-Hicks.

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WHEN SOMEONE ISN'T UP ON THE SAME HIGH VIBRATIONAL LEVEL AS YOU

Q: When you're surrounded by a spouse or husband or partner or whatever, that isn't always on the same vibrational level and you're trying so hard to stick to who you are and follow your gut and...

A: But, you see, in this case you're not trying hard to stick to who you are because you've just pointed out that they're not in alignment with you,
so by your observation of them you've already introduced resistance into your experience.

And you want to blame it on them for not being up to speed with you,
but really you're the only one who is not up to speed with you.

They can be not up to speed with you and you can be up to speed with you, and you won't even notice if they're not up to speed if you're up to speed with you.

Q: OK.

A: They'll just look cute.

They'll just look like somebody trying to learn something, like your children when they're learning to walk and they fall down - you don't say "Get up you little dummy," you think it's cute how they can't walk, you think it's cute how they try.

So the same is true of yourself or anyone who isn't up to speed with who you are:
Isn't it cute as they are out of alignment with who they are?

~ Abraham-Hicks
Boston 5/21/2016

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IS IT A GOOD IDEA TO TRY AND REKINDLE AN OLD RELATIONSHIP?

Q: I’m wanting to know if I can rekindle a relationship with someone I love and dear to my heart, that has been interrupted for a time, with a committed, loving, caring relationship, if this is in my highest good. Or, should I move on?

A: Well, here’s what we would do:
We would rekindle the relationship vibrationally, and then let the Universe deliver the goods,
And we wouldn’t nitpick over the face that it comes on.

If it helps your forking to picture that face, then do so.
If it hinders your forking to picture that face, then don’t do so.
Only you know the advantage that focusing upon that specific relationship does.
If it makes your heart sing, then it’s to your advantage.
If it makes you feel loss, then it isn’t.

But the relationship that we want you to rekindle is the one between you and You.
And then everything appropriate to who you are flows easily into your experience.

Sometimes attention to a subject that feels like it’s unfulfilled just keeps opening that unfulfilled door and holding yourself in the doorway longer.

So what we’d like to say to you is -
you’ve lived enough life to know what you want
and you’ve launched it into your Vibrational Escrow future,
and it’s there, ready to reveal itself to you.

But we have a very powerful feeling that if you could distract yourself from this subject,
it would come in faster than if you keep working on this subject,
because the more you work on it, the more you’re forking off in the wrong direction.
A lot of people do that.
It’s like “Well, if I just gave it a little more attention, maybe then it would happen”

We say sometimes it’s better to just say
“I’ve given it all the attention it needs;
it’s happening.
Now, what’s for lunch?” (Fun)

Q: Let it go and go on. OK. Thank you very much.

A: Yes, indeed.

~ Abraham-Hicks
San Diego, CA 8/13/2005

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SHOULD YOU CALL THEM?

all that I want to do is to follow my bliss, follow my bliss.

That person bums me out; I don't feel like calling them."
Don't. (Fun)
"They'll feel bad."
Maybe.
"I need to call them."
Don't do it. Does it make your heart sing when you think about doing it?
"No."
Then don't do it.

"I feel like calling that friend."
Do it; do it. (...)

Be nicer to yourselves - don't let the bargains that you've made with other people that bind you in an attitude of bondage and service, don't let that deprive you of your connection to the Energy that creates worlds, to the true leverage.

~ Abraham-Hicks
Atlanta, GA 3/23/2019

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ON RELATIONSHIPS THAT TRIGGER GUILT

Be nicer to yourselves - don't let the bargains that you've made with other people that bind you in an attitude of bondage and service, don't let that deprive you of your connection to the Energy that creates worlds, to the true leverage.

just minimize the service part and maximize more of doing things that please you.
And when people ask why did you do that, say "I wanted to."
Don't let anybody guilt you into a justification.
"Well, I thought if I did that, that it might enhance your experience in some way, Sweetheart." No!
"I wanted to. I felt like it. I felt called to it. I felt guided to it. I got an inspiration and I knew it was the right thing for me to do."
Or say "I don't feel like explaining anything."

Be nicer to yourselves.

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RELATIONSHIP RAMPAGE

It feels like warmth.
It feels like sharing.
It feels like well being
security, appreciation, appreciating, being appreciated
stability, respect, fun, spontaneity, clevertness, humor, life, zest.
It feels sensual.
It feels like being alive... eagerness... just right.
[It feels like] home, wellbeing, fun, stability, appreciation, appreciating,
sponteneity, being on vacation, home comfort, home,
wellbeing, Who I Am, Love, Source, Clarity.
It feels full.
It feels... no wonder you want it!

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And when you as an individual, discover that no one else is here to please you,
but that they are here to help you in your expansion
and that it's your job, and your job alone,
to line up with the expanded version of you,
then you begin to say to all others,
"Friend, lover, child of mine,
parent of mine, stranger of mine,
I hold you not responsible for my joy,
but thanks for the expansion.
Joy is my job.
Alignment is my job.
Not your job to line up with my Inner Being.
My job to line up with my Inner Being.
Your job to line up with yours.

~ Abraham-Hicks

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Don't ask anybody else to GET YOU.
It's not their job to get you.
It's not their job to support you.
It's not their job to understand you.
That's the job of your inner being.
And your inner being is doing it 24/7, 365 days a year, non-stop.