The Abe Forum

There is NO "set of God-given right rules" to live by!

We want to say -as a basis of this-, that humans, through time, in their not-conscious alignment with who they are, are often looking for someone to establish a set of rules that they can follow, in their desire to be righteous or good.

And that set of rules does not exist from a non-physical perspective!

In other words, there is not a set of rules.
You have not been sent here into this physical environment, to identify the rules and to keep them.

And it's good for you that that isn't the case, because you have a real scrambled set of rules going on on your planet right now! In fact, you're killing each other in record numbers today, over your arguing about who's got the right set of rules!

When what you came forth understanding is, that you are pure positive energy.
And you came forth into this physical environment, wanting the variety to cause you to give birth to desires!
And you knew that your joy was only dependent upon your coming into alignment.

Abraham Hicks

Are our lives pre-planned by us?
Also: Dying clears ALL resistances and returns us into pure positive energy again!
THERE IS NO KARMA!

HS:
That's the world I seem to live in lately- well, since I was little. But there's a lot of people seem to always talk about like Michael Newton, about coming down here on Earth, and we pick our families.

Abe:
You do vibrationally pick everything.

HS:
Vibrationally, right. Right. Can we talk a little bit about that?

Abe:
Yeah, it's because from non-physical, in absence of resistance, you make deliberate choices about what you think is the best platform. From which you will launch your creative experience, here. So, that the things that really matter to you, are available to you in that springboard, that you call birthplace, and the first family.

HS:
So, let's talk about what happens on the other side. I mean, it seems like Michael Newton talks a lot about that. And I'm in that world, too. I do hypnosis myself, too, and he speaks that, when we make our transition, we go back to our families of (...) and we plan our lives.

Abe:
Well, the thing about that is is, that you re-emerge immediately into the vibration that is YOU. But it's expanded! you're not going back! You're going forward.

It sounds like back, because you were there- and then you were here. But it's not back! Because that part of you never left "there"! That part of you never left there, and so as you come and expand, then the expanded version of you returns to all of that.

HS:
But then we seem to plan our lives, coming back down here. But then you've talked about, that there really is no plan?

Abe:
Well instead of using the word "plan", let's use the word "intent". In other words, who you are and the vibration that you're offering- we made an attempt at explaining this a few minutes ago, so we're going to circle back around and do it again. Because we want to help you to realize, that you don't create through action. You create through point of Attraction. And when you come into this physical body, you come with intention.

But the intention expands, and evolves, as a result of your participation here!

So, it's not quite the way you are describing it!

HS:
So, are we responsible for our actions? Because I know... I had a conversation with someone else and I'm a firm believer, that yes, we are responsible! Because that's the life, that we choose to come down here. Then there's that karmic reaction, that we all seem to have, like, let's say we had a past life and we were horrible, let's say. And we go back and it was meant to be, but now we have to come back, and...

Abe:
But here's the flaw in that premise. So when we talk about source and the vibrational place for lack, an easier way to just say it quickly- that

you've come from that vibrational non-physical being, that is non-resistant, pure positive energy, Liquid Love, pure positive energy, pure intent and pure desire, and worthy beyond description, and eager to continue the creative process!

So, then a part of that comes into this physical time-space-reality. And is the personality, that you know as "you". And so, to the degree that you are in Alignment with who you are, you are living joyful moments. To the degree that you're resisting who you are, you are living less than joyful moments! But that's as big as the Badness gets!

In other words- there is this stream of goodness, which you allow or don't, in any moment in time. But when you make your transition back into non-physical, you stop the resistance and you are purely received by non-physical! And so it's like the non-physical was the clearing. Because, you left behind all of the resistant parts.

That's why the notion of Karma and Redemption is so skewed. It is inaccurate! It cannot possibly be!

Because that would say, that you take all of that with you, and you don't!
That would say, that that high flying vibration would also include those lower vibrations- and it can't.

It's vibrationally inaccurate! It's vibrationally impossible. That's not the way that it is! But humans try to explain bad things that they see, in all kinds of ways. And so, there are a lot of interpretations about things like that, that cannot be. And so the karma- we will go along with that, in the sense that you come and you expand, and you become, and you come again,

but you're coming not to climb the rungs of the karmic ladder. You come again for the joyous creating!

Because that's who we all are.
Because creation is what we do!
Because expansion is inevitable.
Because in the eternalness that is us, nothing else makes sense! Does it?

HS:
No, yeah, so... it's more like a learning process, that we're coming down here...?

Abe:
Of course you learn, you can't help it.
But you're not coming for the learning! You're coming for the joy!
There's this Triad of intentions, that you come in on: freedom and growth and joy. And that's the basis of Who You Are.

You're so free, you can choose bondage. And growth is inevitable. So, you come for the joyous experience! But all of it is part of what you ARE.

HS:
So there really is no planning involved? That's we...

Abe:
Yes, there is! Yes there is!
There's the plan to live happily ever after!
There's the plan to feel who you really are!
There's the plan to discover what's new!
There's the plan, to feel more momentum!
There's the plan to be of value!
There's the plan to help others experience Heaven on Earth!
There's the plan to be in the moment!
There's a plan to feel your empowerment!
There's the plan to be physical, and to be tangible!
There's a plan to translate vibration into something that's even more tangible!

Source seeing- imagine that!!! -Source being in an environment, with all this beauty to see! Yeah there's a plan!! There's an intention!!

HS:
So there's an intention of picking our family, for a purpose, you know? This particular group... I picked my parents, you know...?

Abe:
Well, you're not a puppet on a string from even those intentions! Because those intentions are general and you fill the specifics in- because that's what's fun!

HS:
Okay, so if I wanted to experience, like I said, more metaphysical... being in contact with... that's all my own planning, as I came down here to experience for the joy of it?

Abe:
You know how you can tell that you're on your life purpose- plan?

HS:
That's a good question, yeah!

Abe:
...By the way you feel on your path.

The happier you are, the more you are satisfying that so-called plan, that you keep insisting on calling it. And the worse you feel, the more off the path you are in the moment. So, yes of course there's intention. But the thing that you're pointing us toward, and we are refusing to go to, is that you're wanting to assign a plan that must be followed.

And we're wanting you to understand, it was this Broad and Powerful, but General plan, that you are creating the specifics off from HERE, from THIS format!

And the closer you are to those non-physical intentions, the better you feel. And oh, this is the part that we want to tell you the most!! Oh, if you want to call it a plan, do! WE want you to know, that every day you live, that plan evolves. And that's the way we've been describing it. That as you sift through this environment, and know what you don't want, you launch rockets. And who-you-are becomes that "more". And so, as that "more" happens vibrationally -not future tense, but present tense!! -it is a reality, that now exists.

Now you get to experience the deliciousness of catching up with that newly plotted plan!

HS:
That's good! (Abe: it is good!) That's good very good! Yeah. So basically when, like the lady was talking about astrological charts and things like that, just it's fun to play with, but it's not really...?

Abe:
We're not asking you ever to discount anything!
Because there's value in everything! And sometimes, some of those things that we're really not talking about a lot from this platform, they were exactly on your path, along the way. In other words, they were the next logical step for you! Because it caused you to realize, that there was something more. And it made you think about you, before you were here in this physical body. And it introduced to you the idea of intentionality. And it made you realize, that you are much more than you see, here in this physical body! There was value in that!! But eventually, we want you to get around to the acknowledgment of your own guidance system, and once you click into that knowledge, everything else that you're using as guidance, is less significant to you. And- you can't go back! There's no regression! In other words- religion's just fine. As long as it leads you to your own alignment!
But if it replaces your alignment, it's not so fine for you.


from the youtube clip Abraham Hicks - FEEL YOUR EMPOWERMENT

If you are really tuned into who you are,
you CAN'T see a flaw in someone.
And if you see a flaw in someone-
it's not THEIR flaw.

Abraham Hicks

Imo, this belongs here as basis....

Uncheatable Uponable


HS:
I was feeling that way for the last nine months really up until the date the night before I came on this cruise which I was feeling awesome about and then I found out that he's been cheating on me for a really long time.

Abe:
We agree that you all have different levels of how much you're willing to put up with. And whether he's just annoying, or whether he is violating some commitment that the two of you have established- in other words, we get it that there are narrower and wider gaps! But we want to be so bold as to say that,

whoever you are interacting with, is going to violate the commitment
that almost all of you want them to keep!
And the commitment that almost everybody wants everybody
that they're up close to impersonal to keep is,
"I want you to promise to put me first- no matter what."

And that is a commitment that no one keeps!

Because you're not wired like that!
You were not born like that!
You you've come to establish... We would like your marriage vows, or your relationship vows, to go like this:

"Dear one, I want you to know that- as much as I love you, there's someone who comes first before you.
And that is my alignment with the source, within me!
That's my inner being, that's who I'm devoted to.
That's why I'm aligned to.
That's who I'm feeling for.
That's what my commitment is to.

And my promise to you is, that I will give you, as much as I can, the fullness of me!
Not as the separated me.
I'm going to do my best to satisfy my alignment, and therefore give you the gift of living with someone, who has aligned.
And what that will be for you, what that will mean for you, how that will play out for you, is:

I won't be needing or demanding from you behavior, in order to keep myself happy!
My happiness will be dependent upon my focus."

There are people who feel betrayed, if their partners think about other people.
There are people who feel betrayed if their partner doesn't give their undivided attention to them.
There are people who feel jealous if anyone feels happy at the thought, or in the conversation with somebody else!

There are all kinds of degrees of cheating on you, and for the most part, any part of someone else cheating on you just means: "You've taken your attention away from me! And I was dependent upon your attention, being upon me, so that I could feel good! And now you've taken your attention away from me...!" (Towards the HS) This is too strong for you.

But, we really want you all to not be dependent upon anyone for the alignment.
That it is the epitome of looking for love in all the wrong places!

And when you say you've cheated on me, we know. We know there are agreements that you make! We get what you're talking about.

But we would like you to be uncheatable-upon-able!
"I'm stable in my self-respect! My sense of well-being is not dependent upon your behavior."

So what you're really wanting to do, is decide what you want, and become a vibrational match to what you want. And you will attract a partner who is a vibrational match to what you want, you see! And so we're not suggesting that you will not find another partner!

We're just suggesting that you find true alignment with who you are before you go looking!

from the official Abraham Hicks youtube-clip "Uncheatable Uponable", 2014

You'r never in the wrong place.
But sometimes you'r in the right place,
looking at things in the wrong way.

Abraham Hicks

Expect your every need to be met!
Expect the answer to every problem.
Expect abundance, on every level!
Expect to grow spiritually!
You are NOT living by human laws!

Abraham Hicks

Monogamie, Freedom, Deepest Alignment and Sexual Variety

Alignment is not about another one, but solely about YOUR focus:
"The object of attention to which you flow your love is much more irrelevant than anyone understands!"


HS:
I in my situation, I meet a variety of women which you spoke about, when you come into um... and I'm being honest, I can't... when you come into this experience, it's for the variety! And I've almost rationalized this in my head right now. That, maybe, a monogamous relationship or a marriage to one person, "forever" is an unreasonable expectation. Simply because every day I turn around, I see another beautiful woman, and I see a another beautiful woman, and I feel like "wow". I literally feel something sometimes... and so I'll stop, and just say "excuse me, you are gorgeous!" -and I don't mean anything. But I just want to leave, but I'm impressed by that.

And again, that's what I want to feel here! So I don't notice it as much there, so because I'm putting my attention to other places- like, out of habit in the past relationships... I mean I haven't been, you know, I guess, well, faithful. Simply because I rationalized in my head "well, hey I'm supposed to explore! And this is what I'm doing!" So now, I don't think it's a good thing. Because I feel like it's unfair to her, if I continue this way. And I want to... I want to commit! Be completely here, where... but then I feel like I'm limiting myself if I do that. If I stay. And there... so many other things to explore! Or people to explore.

Why would I stay, and just be happy forever? I'm supposed to stay forever. For 50, 60 more years! I guess you know, and not explore the rest of this? (Audience starts to laugh) I'm... I'm not sure if that was a question, like... I'm not sure if I can be happy here, and stay here forever. I can do that, but then I feel like, now if I decide to stay here and do that, I miss out on all this wonderful other things to explore!

Abe:
Well, you're expressing the sentiment of approximately 50% of your population, or or more! Well, let's sort this out.

First of all, it's important to acknowledge that there is not a giant right and wrong in the sky, and that the rules that have been written about that, that have been interpreted through man, are always interpreted through the lens of what is seen to be most beneficial to the one, who is interpreting it. And so,

there really is not a right or wrong about whether you are monogamous or whether you have multiple relationships!

There just isn't.
And you are right about the variety, because the variety stimulates your awareness of what you want! And through all of it, you expand and become more. But we want to say, that it IS possible to- because you said as you began here today, something really significant: You said "I want to love this person." And while it sounded like what you were saying is: "I want to love this person. I want to be able to omit all of the others, and just give my undivided attention to this one person, and I want this one person to satisfy me. I want to just love this one person!" -did you notice how we took it to mean, what it really means? Which is: "I want to be in a continual state of love." In other words,

the object of attention to which you flow your love is much more irrelevant than anyone understands!

And this speaks to what we've been talking about: The backwardness of all relationships, but especially these love relationships. Because what most people are saying is: "I want to feel this love. And you need to be everything that I need you to be: So that I can feel it.

And no one, no singular person has the capacity to be all of that, for any other person!

So then we say to you: You're wanting to take the responsibility for that alignment!
It's not an object of attention, that aligns you that you want you want alignment and when you show yourself that you can find that alignment, then everything in your experience is going to take on a different level of necessity.

Now we're not trying to talk you out of exploring all of the variety, and enjoying it. That's not the point of this conversation! The point of this conversation is to help you to realize, that what you're reaching for- this deep level of alignment- is possible.

And that, when you find it, then often these relationships that you enter into, these monogamous relationships can be so rich and delicious because you're standing in one place with one person so to speak, while the two of you are evolving together. So there's never-ending of the exploration! So, it doesn't get boring!

In other words, you keep discovering more depth and breadth in the relationship that you have.
Which isn't possible in the relationships as you're moving from place to place!

You already said, it doesn't last very long. Because it's not based upon what's coming from the inside! It's me, trying to affect the inside from the outside. So now, relative to the subject of what's right for any individual in terms of having one partner, or many- as we said, there's not a giant right or wrong in the sky about it. But here's what goes wrong:

So, most men are really seeking freedom. And we're teaching you, that the freedom that you're seeking is the freedom from the bondage of resistance that is always self-imposed. But most men are looking for Freedom, most women are looking for security. Security, that they'll only find when they come into alignment with who they are. But they're looking for it through a partner. So, she's looking for more security, which makes him feel less free. He's looking for more freedom, which makes her feel less secure. And so, that's the basis of most contention in most relationships!

So let's say that you meet someone, and you've already decided that you really like exploration on all subjects. You don't want to spend all your time with one person, in regard to anything! And you've shown yourself, that you can be tuned in, tapped in, turned on- and you're experiencing a lot of variety on a lot of fronts, and you're really happy. And you're offering a vibration about that, that is purely that vibration: It's who you are. It's what you want! And: it's what you offer, vibrationally. Well, if it's what you offer vibrationally- the law of attraction is going to reach out there, and find you someone who resonates with that perfectly!

And if you decide that you want a long-term relationship, it's a long-term relationship with someone who agrees with you, on this subject of variety. So, there's no contention! There's no feeling less than Who You Are! It takes a really tuned in tapped in turned on person, to be able to be in a relationship with somebody else... in other words, that kind of relationship that you're looking for would require two people who are not looking to each other for their reassurances! Who have found their reassurances through alignment with source.

And then, what you're doing in terms of your physical behavior and activity, is irrelevant.
Are you hearing that? The the more you're depending upon the other person to be what you need them to be, so that you can feel better- that is at the basis of trying to control the behavior of others! In other words, there's nothing in all of the world more uncomfortable, than to try to control the behavior of someone, who intends something differently than what you want them to intend!

So let's go back to this. So, if you are a person who has decided that you want variety, and you are true to that intention , not feeling guilty about it, not worrying about it, not feeling that you're doing something wrong- but really in vibrational alignment with it, the universe will bring you a partner who feels the same way. And you will live happily ever after, together.
But let's say that that's what you want, but it's not what you think you want. But you worry about it, and you want it, but you've had so many relationships with other people who didn't want you to have it, and so:

You want it- but. You want it, but. You want it, but. You want it, but! You want it, but... so, you're going to attract to yourself someone who is a vibrational match to the very thing that you worry about! and then you're going to have that sort of strain or struggle going on, within YOU!

Let's say, it's two people who have decided that they are happier in a committed relationship.
Let's say that they're aware of the pitfalls in a lot of sexual exploration. You've had enough variety that you're pretty much clear about what you want: You're no longer looking for other people to fulfill you. You found a way to find alignment with who you really are, and so, you are really in alignment with the idea of having an experience with someone, that is richer and deeper. It's what you want, and you're not feeling like you're missing out. You're not feeling that you're losing out- because you have brought yourself into alignment with that idea, so, that you're offering that pure intention well.

Then the law of attraction in the universe will deliver to you someone, who feels just like that, you see!

-No right or wrong in it. You really do want the universe to match you up with people, who are in alignment with your intentions! And what goes wrong in this relationship-thing is, that you've never really allowed yourself to think and believe and be, the way you think you want to be! You've got mixed energy all over the place about that subject, you see! And a way to bring that together is pretty much through meditation: quiet the mind and allow. Or, every time it comes up, come into alignment!

In other words, every time you see a beautiful woman, and you think: "oh, I would like to taste a little bit of that!" -and then, you feel the guilt wash over you- you feel the negativity of it. And you've gone right to the specifics! -Oh yeah. People die over this! People get shotguns over this. Uh, people get divorce over this! In other words, all the specifics begin to loom in you- go more General. (Then) you say: "Wait a minute, wait a minute! We aren't assigned a specific partner, in anything! The more we interact with others, the more broad and wonderful our experience is." And as you bring yourself into that better feeling, general place, again and again and again- so that your vibration is clear, and your vibration is pure, you see... The thing that you're grappling with here, you can hardly believe that you're visiting with Source energy.

...And, that Source energy is not only agreeing, but encouraging you to do something, that the majority of the population has been telling you for a very long time is a wrong thing!
But the majority of the population has been believing, that their happiness is dependent upon your behavior, in a lot of different ways, that have bound you!

We want you to give up your need to please others, relative to all things!
Because you will never have the happiness that you told us you want- the alignment and the love that you told us that you want, as long as you're resenting others, holding you in behavioral patterns that are not true to your desire.

That's huge!! That's huge, you see!


So the audience is all sitting here, most of them are completely traumatized, because they have resigned themselves to living within relationships, in order to please another. But we're not kidding you you're never going to be happy in a relationship that you feel, binds you, you see! And you are the only one who can unleash the binding. Because it's not about your behavior, and it's not about how many women you sleep with. It's not about any of that!

It's about what you do with your mind, that allows the fullness of who you are, to be present!

And it'll surprise you, how- when you come into complete alignment with who you are, how much less interaction you need with all those other people, that you were looking for, for that support to begin with!

In other words, when you tune in, to who you are, and you really allow source to flow through you, you're happy in a monogamous relationship. You're happy in any relationship setting, that you establish!
-Did we get there for you?

HS:
Yeah, yeah! Um, I think I got it. I'm going to have to listen to this a few times, over and over, uh...

Abe:
We were visiting with someone a few years ago, who had come to the decision that he was no longer happy with his current mate. And said in rather clear terms, that he was ready to move on, and wanted to know what we thought about it. And we said of course, "you can move on, and of course, there are a lot of other wonderful things for you to explore. But since we're aware of everyone that exists in the environment, and aware of what's in your Vortex, we said to this person: "If you move out of this relationship, looking for the things you want, you're less likely to find all of the things that life has shown you that you want, in any one place more, than this place! In other words, what we were saying:

-While you're dissatisfied when you move over >> there, you'll be dissatisfied because << these things will be missing.
-And when you move over << there, you'll be dissatisfied because >> these things are missing!

When you move over there, you'll be dissatisfied because these things are missing and there are a lot of beautiful faces around, that are missing so many of the other wonderful things that are really important to you: like really caring about the physical well-being of your daughter. In other words, your relationship is so much richer than you have yet allowed yourself to discover it. Because, you haven't been looking at it from the eyes of source!

Which is what you said that you wanted. So, we really would like the first question, that is so big, to be resolved within you, before you even move to the second one! Because once that first question is resolved, and you're in alignment with who you are, we think the second question will look entirely different to you.

HS:
All right, that makes sense so what what I gather right now is pretty much I can move and go into a different situation but if I'm looking for that one particular person, to hold everything to keep me in line, I'll never find it!

Abe:
Because that one particular person is YOU! And your relationship with your Inner Being!


from the youtube-clip "Abraham Finally Opens Up About Cheating And Multiple Partners! Abraham Hicks 2024"

-A sidenote about the name of this clip, that "Abe would finally open up" about the topic: It is not so, that Abe would have ever resisted to give this answer! There are much older workshops than this one, where they have already said the very same thing.