Love (what it really is)

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love says:
"I see conditions that I prefer. And conditions that I don't prefer.
And my feeling of love, my feeling of alignment, my alignment itself,
is dependent only upon the direction of my thoughts.

I do not need to control conditions, in order to come into alignment!"

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

What is up with Homosexuality?
(Most gay people come as teachers of unconditional Love!)

HS:
I only have 84,000 questions...

Abe:
Well we only have one answer, so give us your best. (laughter)

HS:
Okay great. Um, I've heard you speak often about sexuality, and one of my... one of several questions is: Where do gay relationships, gay love, gay sex fit into broader perspective with the whole scheme of things?

Abe:
Well, that subject fits in just like every other subject- that you are the creator of your reality.
In other words, we're going to come fully around all of this, but we we want to say -as a basis of this-, that humans, through time, in their not-conscious alignment with who they are, are often looking for someone to establish a set of rules that they can follow, in their desire to be righteous or good.

And that set of rules does not exist from a non-physical perspective!
In other words, there is not a set of rules.

You have not been sent here into this physical environment, to identify the rules and to keep them. And it's good for you that that isn't the case, because you have a real scrambled set of rules going on on your planet right now! In fact, you're killing each other in record numbers today, over your arguing about who's got the right set of rules!

-When what you came forth understanding is, that you are pure positive energy.
-And you came forth into this physical environment, wanting the variety to cause you to give birth to desires!
-And you knew that your joy was only dependent upon your coming into alignment.

You knew, that your fulfilling of your reason for being was only dependent upon you, coming into alignment with who you really are! So, you may have noticed that there are many beings coming forth- in the last generation or two, and even more in these powerful days- of energies, coming forth from Source, who are in a stronger way determined to be unconformable. Because, so much of the world says: "I see that condition and it makes me feel pretty good. So I would vote for a lot more of that! And I see that condition, and I don't like the way I feel- so I would not vote for that. So we need to change all of these conditions, to be what make me feel good, so that I can feel better." -A very conditional love, that is impossible!

Unconditional love says:
"I see conditions that I prefer. And conditions that I don't prefer.
And my feeling of love, my feeling of alignment, my alignment itself, is dependent only upon the direction of my thoughts.
I do not need to control conditions, in order to come into alignment!"

But of course everyone wants to feel better, don't they? So, there are huge numbers of people on the planet today, who even though many of them are speaking unconditional love, they don't understand it at all. Because they're still trying to change this condition and this condition- so that they can have a better feeling response to it you know?

You've really reached the place of being an allower, when you're able to allow those who aren't allowing you.

So there are people coming forth, energies coming forth into human form, in record numbers, who come with this determination to be unconformable. Meaning, that -no matter how much you need this condition to change so that you can feel better- this is not a condition that's going to change, so that you can feel better!

"So, if you're going to feel better, you're going to have to change the way you are looking at things.
Because I'm not going to be the reason that you feel better!"

So, children are coming forth... gay children are coming forth, autistic children are coming forth, with all kinds of what humans want to call maladies, that we call determination to be secure in their teaching of unconditional love.

A man said to us one day, years ago: "Abraham, why why would I come forth intending to be gay? Why would I bring all of this grief to myself? My mother hates me. My father hates me. I have a hard time!" -and we said: "How do you feel about your mother?" and he said: "I hate her, too. I hate her, because she hates me." And we said: "So, neither one of you are coming into alignment with who you are! And you're using each other as your excuse, why not to come into alignment.

When what you've come forth to teach is: Alignment, anyway.

What you've come forth to teach is: "I can align with the source within me, regardless of what those outside of me are reflecting back to me. And this is the most significant thing about this! Almost everyone, even those who've been listening to us for a while, cannot separate how they feel about things from how other people feel about things.

So, most people... in other words, almost the first thing you do with your children is: You teach them patterns of behavior, that make your life better or that you think will make them have an easier time in the society in which they will live. And as you convince your children, that they should do what you want them to do: "you should do what makes them feel better", rather than what closes their gap for them!

In early ages you teach them to listen outside of themselves.

That's why we have a room full of people in every city that we visit, who are accustomed to listening more to what's coming from another person... in other words, approval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people. And disapproval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people.

And we want that disapproval or approval, that comes from other people- even if it's your mother!- to not matter to you as much as the way you feel!

And that's what we said to this man, "that's what you've come forth to teach!"
You've come forth to teach. Because when you say to your child: "You need to do such and such, so that I will feel better"- then you set them up to listen to another and another and another. Until before long, most everybody is more interested in what everybody else thinks! And then they've lost track of their ability to quantify their journey.

We're visiting with a woman one day who had pain in her body and she said: "Abraham, how can I think positive thoughts when my body hurts so much? And we said: "we know what you're living is what it is. But there's a difference between having pain in your body, and feeling fear- and having pain in your body and feeling hope.

And the difference between fear and hope is the vibrational difference between recovery or not.

In other words, we were trying to teach her how to quantify the journey between sickness and wellness. How to feel her way, you see, where most people aren't encouraging anybody to feel their way into vibrational alignment, in order to have a better life! They're trying to teach them, they're trying to motivate them to respond to this rule, and to respond to this law, and respond to this disapproval or this approval.

So it is rampant in this civilization today- it is rampant almost nobody is listening to their own guidance!
Almost nobody is deliberately closing their gap.
Almost everybody cares what somebody else says or thinks, about what they're doing!

And so many people are coming forth, saying "well, try this one on, because this is an orientation that was set forth, before I came forth into this physical experience! And I can't change it, even if you want me to", you see. And so, there are all kinds of ornery little buggers being born- and we don't mean that from our point of view. We mean:

Pioneers of deliberate, powerful creation.
Teachers to the core of their being!

But they're being greeted by those who are immediately slapping labels on them. Like, oh there are so many. Like nonconformist with lots of different labels... "uncontrollable". Uh, "you have this disorder and this disorder and this disorder and this disorder!" -and we say:

Yay for the disorders! All of these disorders coming forth! The non-conformist coming forth, to teach unconditional love!

You see... and so, it is so delightful when you are able to assist someone. It's a great gift you give to someone, when you say:
"Well this is what is. And I'm not going to change it, so that you can feel better! This is what is."

And it's a hard thing to do, because you want them to be happy. So, when Kate wants to come to see Esther, and Esther really wants Kate to come- but Esther's got a big long list of things that she needs to do. So, Esther says "be better if we don't do it today!" and Esther hears the disappointment in Kate's voice. It's hard for Esther not to change something, to make Kate feel better. Because Esther would run over herself with the bus, if she thought it would make Kate feel better. But we want Esther to let Kate work it out on her own! And, she would, every time. She'd be upset for a minute, but it's her nature to feel good. So she wouldn't be upset for very long!

But this is a bigger issue: You can't change gayness to please another, right? And so, what a gift of unconditional love you bring with that. You say:

"Here I am. Take it or leave it, it's up to you. Be unhappy with me as I be, or be happy with me as I be. But I be as I be! This is my gift to you, you see!"

From the youtube-clip "ABRAHAM HICKS | WHY SOME CHOOSE THE TOUGH LIFE OF BEING BORN HOMOSEXUAL"

[spiritualcookie]

"So when you say to someone not just "I LOVE you,"
you say to them,
"I LOVE loving you.
It is MY pleasure.

I am loving myself as greatly as I could ever love by my love for you.
I need NOTHING back from you in return.
It is MY focus upon YOU and the way it FEELS as I focus it.

It's MY focus upon you, future creation of mine,
future empire that I am building,
future job that I'm working on,
future whatever it is that I'm gathering.

It's my love and appreciation, that YOU EXIST as an object of attention
to which I can give my undivided attention,
my undivided attention- as
I PURR myself into ALIGNMENT."

Portland, OR on 8/11/12

-


On the feeling of Falling in Love

When you have that feeling of falling in love-
what it REALLY is,
is alignment with Source,
while you hold another as your object of attention.

- Abraham

[spiritualcookie]

Difficulty finding love is the result of your contradictory thoughts & beliefs about finding love

People are not finding it difficult to find the mate of their dreams
because that person is not out there,
but because of their own contradiction to their own desire
in the thoughts they offer about the subject every day.

When you consistently offer thoughts about your future relationship
that feel good while you think them,
that means you are consistently matching the desires that you have
discovered as you have lived life.

And under those conditions, only someone in agreement
with your desires could come to you.
Under those conditions, no need for control is necessary.

Through each exposure to interacting with others,
you launch continuous rockets of desires of what you prefer.
And only when you are a Vibrational Match to the culmination
of those desires will you allow your rendezvous with someone
who matches those intentions that you have gathered
along your physical trail.

Excerpted from The Vortex on 8/31/09

-

Comment on this topic from Abeforum member Hands in the Clay from the old Abeforum:

You're not meeting them because you're not a vibrational match to them.
And you're not a vibrational match to them because you're giving more focus to those who are NOT what you want and believing in a "shortage of Aber sorts."
That's all. So...cut that out.
Stop focusing on, talking about, pigeonholing, feeling frustrated with all those people who DON'T meet those criteria.
Instead Imagine what you WANT is like:
find the feeling place of it,
practice in your mind what it would be like to hang with folks like that.

[spiritualcookie]

Tips for finding the right partner to Love

You´ve gotta say:
"Hey man, I really care about you!
And I like you almost more than life itself.

But I don´t like you more than being on this (high) disc.
And so far, you put me on this (low) disc.
So, I´m leaving you off in the bushes for a little while,

and I´m getting on this (high) disc!
And I´ll see who comes out of the bushes,
and plays with me."

from the clip
Abraham Hicks - Perfect, willing, 2013 Fred's clone [My disk is more important than YOU!]

-


We would not go on match.com
BEFORE we are on the high flying disc.

Because, you will get what matches YOU [where you are NOW in your unaligned state / not feeling-good state]
not what matches what you WANT.

Boca Raton, January 18, 2014

[spiritualcookie]

Source never gives up on you and always has happy relationship potentially lined up for you

(people tell the HSer she will never find her perfect mate)

Abe:
"They don´t know what they´re talking about!
Because: he is in your vibrational escrow.
We have seen him."

HS:
"Can you give him my number?" (hilarious laughter)

Abe:
"...and your email-adress, and your exact location, 24 hrs a day.
Iow, universal forces are arranging circumstances and events
for coordinated meetings, again and again and again.

But you don´t show up- because you don´t feel worthy.(audience making very sad sounds and then laughing about that, again)
And we´ll never stop arranging it! We´ll never grow tired of it.
No one here says "4857 potential rendezvouses and she hasn´t come yet- should we stop?""

HS:
"So, it´s possible?"

Abe:
(deep sigh, audience laughs)
"People say: Well, I missed the boat."
And we say: there´s another, and another, and another and another.
Iow, there is no end... there are 20 or 30 viable rendezvous-points
in EVERY DAY
for EVERYTHING that you want.

And the better you feel, the more you line up with them!
The worse you feel, the more you zig while they zag.
(...) your work is not to MAKE it happen,
your work is to LET it happen.

And you let it happen, by possibility-thinking, not by negativity-thinking.
By hopeful thinking, not by doubtful thinking.
By believing that it´ll come, rather than by doubting that it´ll come.
By hoping that it´ll be good.
By reading the fairy-tales.
By acknowledging the wellbeing.
By not listening to the people who don´t have what they want,
but listening to the people who do have what they want.

Go up to every couple you see who obviously are living happily ever after,
and say: "Tell me your story of how you came together."
And listen to the incredible tales that they will tell you, of how
the Universe arranged their rendezvous.

(...) There are endless paths, and the Universe is SO clever in the ways that it
orchestrates things, and all you have to do is say:
"I´m ready! I´m READY!" -that´s the thing we can see within you, that has been keeping you
from letting it happen, NOW!

You´ve created this MASTERPIECE of a relationship- and this MASTERPIECE of a partner,
and every day you say "I´m not ready for that!"(...)"

HS:
"I´m ready. I´m ready..."

Abe:
"You ARE ready."

HS:
"I´m ready. So- you´ve SEEN him?"

Abe (laughingly)
"Yes. And he´s not the ugliest person in the world!"

from the clip
Abraham-Hicks: Can you give him my phone number?

[spiritualcookie]

"What is unconditional love, anyway?
Unconditional love is:
I´m happy!
I´m HAPPY.
I´m happy- in this moment.

Unconditional love is:
I have the ability to focus in love on my happiness."

from the clip
Abraham Hicks - He feels pulled to expansion, but she

[Paradise-on-Earth]

The TRUE POWER of my Being is the Resonance that I find from Source.
It always comes on the wings of Appreciation!
It always comes on the wings of Love.
It always comes on the wings of Empowerment!

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Soulmates and Twinflames

HS:
My question is: Soul mate versus twin flame. And how the differences between that... um, like, when you have synchronicities with someone intensely, what does that mean?

Abe:
Well, people want to romanticize Alignment.
And that really is what it is! In other words, you all come in clusters. Your relationship to your own family, is a very strong vibrational connection. And so, what you're really describing is- when you feel a connection to someone, what's happened is: You've just met them on a vibrational wavelength, and you can meet on any vibrational wavelength- and it can feel like a strong connection! Sometimes you can meet somebody, who's just willing to complain with you about the same things you're complaining about, and they feel like your long lost soulmate! (Laughter)

Because, they'll stand by you, they'll be with you, they'll support you and defend you, you see!

And, so the best way to know that you've connected with someone who is really your non-physical counterpart, is for you to hang around in that high good feeling vibration for plenty of time. So that you can tell when you've taken a dip! Because until you know whether or not you've taken a dip, you won't know how to recognize someone else! Because as we were saying earlier, when you connect with something, there is momentum even in the connection. When you're offering a vibration and someone else is offering the same vibration, it's brought together by law of attraction. There is always a spark that feels like interest, you see! And so, that's why you're wanting to differentiate between twin flame and soul mate. And to all of those things, we want to say:

ALL of you are soul mates to everyone of you!
In other words, that's the way you feel from your non-physical energy vantage point!

Every single one of you has the potential of enormous harmony with every other being, who is present in this time-space reality. But of course as you've lived life, you've put into your vortex other preferences, besides just being energetically aligned. You want some of your physical awarenesses to be the same. There are many things that life has caused you to want, and you have the potential of satisfying every one of them, you see! And so we would spend no time looking around a crowd, and trying to acknowledge which ones are soul mates and which ones aren't. Because

the only thing that matters is, are you a mate to your own soul in this moment?
Are you a vibrational mate-, are you vibrational in alignment with your own soul?

And if the answer to that is yes, then you'll be able to find those who are a vibrational match to theirs. And two who come together, who are each individually in vibrational alignment with who they are, is what we consider to be the greatest harmony. Not sameness. Not same attitude about all same things! But same vibrational harmonics, which makes for the best kind of relationship.

Enough difference in interest, but the ability to be in alignment- so from that you can extract the best from each other, at all times, yes!


from the youtube clip Abraham Hicks - Soulmate Vs. Twin Flame - When You Feel A Strong Connection To Another

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Apologies and Forgiveness are letting go of what is holding you OOTV.
(Source never apologizes, because sources never condemned to begin with!)

HS:
My question is how does source energy see apologizing, or apology?

Abe:
Unnecessary. Source never does it. Source never apologizes, because sources never condemned to begin with!


So there's no undoing to do.
But from a practical standpoint, in terms of what we are talking about here today-

anything that makes you feel better is a good thing.

So our friend was talking about wanting to undo the center. And an apology is a little bit like trying to undo an argument. Only you can't undo the argument -you just reactivate it! Because you're undoing it from outside the vortex. Because you're focused on it, which takes you outside the vortex.

That's why our answer about how source sees it- it was so blunt we've said source doesn't get into forgiveness, because it's like overcoming the judgment! But source didn't judge to begin with. So there's no overcoming. And yet, someone who- let's speak in human terms, you're asking about source. Let's talk about you!

So, when you forgive, it would be like going into the vortex.
It would be like letting go of what was keeping you out of the vortex, and going in!

And maybe, "apology" and "forgiveness" or are sort of the same thing: It's letting go of what's holding you out. It's like saying to whoever you're forgiving, or whoever you're apologizing to, it's like saying: I'm no longer going to use this as my excuse to not be in the vortex. But but it's a little bit risky. In you're no longer using it, you're still focused on it!

HS:
It might reactivate it!

Abe:
Yes. Precisely.

HS:
Yeah, well, I've noticed that. At least before today that I had an addiction to being right.

Abe:
It's an epidemic. (Huge laughter) You'r not the only one who has it! It was born out of the competitive world of measuring the piles, and comparing them. And so a lot of people... Esther wrestles that to the ground, at least once a day! Because there's something about being right, that you've been taught that seems to have some reward.

And and we just want being in the vortex to be a higher criteria, then being right!
Because, everyone gets to have their perspective.
Which means, everybody gets to be right.

And just because you differ in your perspective, and so you differ in what you believe is right, doesn't make... it's not a very good argument, for anything that feels good, or will benefit you!

HS:
When I'm in the middle of being right or wanting to be right or being driven or feeling driven to be right, it's like...

Abe:
Just ride it out. It's like jumping out of an airplane with no parachute: Don't worry! It'll be over, soon. (Big laughter)
In other words, sometimes in that free fall, there isn't anything else you can do! Because you've already got the momentum going. But in light of a conversation that we've had today, you could make a decision to get really general, really fast! In other words, for example, you want to talk about a situation where you wanted to be right?

HS:
Yes okay it's with my daughter. And I push against the way...

Abe:
All right! That's as far as you need to go with that!
So, let's say that you have a disagreement about something. And you're sure you're right, and you're expressing it, and you're not feeling good. And now it's compounded, because now you're out of the vortex. And now it seems like the reason you're out of the vortex is, because of this situation! Which makes you resent it even more.

And so, the more specific you try to be, the more out of the vortex you are!

So now in light of the conversation that we've had here today, you decide to take a more general stance. And so you think, specific to the situation, you know you're right, and she's wrong. And specific to the situation she's sure she's right, and you're wrong- specific to the situation!

But generally speaking, and in terms of emotion, you adore this girl.
You love her! You love her! You love her. She loves you!
Generally speaking, you really love each other!!
Specifically, you're really hard to deal with.

Generally speaking, you really... and so, as you get general- you go in the vortex!
Isn't that a really good understanding? You're right in the vortex. And then you say: "Oh, now I'm in there. I love her. Now maybe we can work that out?" ohhhh don't go there!! It's too soon!

Don't go there, don't go there.... till you're stable in the vortex!
Don't don't go there! Don't don't sacrifice the vortex for the specific of needing to be right.
STAY in there.

That's what is unconditional love is: Remaining in the vortex, no matter what.
Because that matters more!

And so now what happens next:
You hang around there, more. Now- the vortex, who has already orchestrated circumstances and events to give you exactly the specifics that you're looking for, can now begin to reveal to you the specifics, you see! You don't want to be right, and her to be wrong. You want both of you to be right! You just think in order for both of you to be right, she has to agree with you!

HS (laughing and crying at the same time): Right!! She thinks the same way!

Abe:
And what's interesting about that is: Everybody thinks that! "I want you to be right with me. So, come over here, and believe like I do!" and how is that working out? It's not working out very well, is it?

So, unconditional love is seeing the subject at hand through the eyes of source.
And source always finds a reason to love.

And when you do, no matter how many reasons you've found not to- that's irrelevant!- right here, right now, where all of your power is, where you meet YOU- you come into alignment completely, with who you are. And love the feeling of it! We saw how you love the feeling of it! You love the feeling of love. And so, as you come into alignment with that ,and you practice the feeling of that, then more specific thoughts come, that complement and enhance and dovetail with that vibration!

Then the relationship just continues to expand, and evolve, and be all of the things, that all those moments in time were issues have caused you to ask for the specifics- every argument you had, caused the creation of something that you want. But we would like to say to all of you, and we think you're ready to hear it now! Where, maybe at the beginning of yesterday morning, you might not have heard it so easily. We really like saying this to you, knowing that now you're going to get it in the way that we mean it:

The specifics that you think you want, are not anywhere close to what the vortex is able to deliver!

Because you've been putting those pieces there so incrementally, you have no real conscious idea of what the big picture, that you've created, is! You can sense it. You can sort of kind of feel it. But you can't articulate it yet!

But as you hang around in the vortex longer, you'll be able to translate it into real-life experience. Which will make you feel that "hands in the clay"- feeling of creating your own experience. THATS that feeling of pride! And appreciation, for your ability to create!

And there isn't anything that makes you feel RIGHTER than that.

Because you begin to recognize all the little pieces that you put together!

from the clip Abraham Hicks Apologies And Being Right