De-Activating or "Cleaning up" vs Pushing-Against

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Soothing yourself when people haven't been nice to you:
Helpful Self-Talk

(You get into a situation, that) activates that old belief, within you. And that old belief does not jive with what you now want, and you've got discord- and you've got it now. So, now you start soothing yourself. And you say to yourself, as best you can- you just feel around, until it feels better. So, you might say a bunch of things that don't work, until you stumble on one, that does.

But you keep going, until you find it!

So you say: "That person's response to me had far less to do with me, than it did with them."
"Okay somebody who doesn't feel good in the moment can't respond nicely to me, no matter how wonderful I am!"
"Law of Attraction lined us up to get what we got from each other. So there must be something in my vibration, that evoked that! Something that I'm going to gradually change. But I'm sure that this isn't such a personal thing."
"This person is probably behaving that way to a lot of people. It isn't about me."

"Everybody doesn't treat me that way. I have different relationships with different people, and so it can't be that I'm always the unloved or unwanted one! Because lots of times I have wonderful relationships with people. So this has to be something that we've cooked up together. Here it has something to do with the combination of what we're doing!"

"Actually I get along with people really well, and this is sort of an isolated incidence. This isn't the majority of what happens to me: This is an anomaly of what happens to me."

"When something happens like this to me, that gets me thinking! It's actually to my advantage. And whenever I know what I don't want, I always know more clearly what I do want. So what's this making me know, that I want more? Clearly well- I want to get along with people. and I don't want to care too much what anybody else is thinking about me! Because what they're thinking about me has far less to do with me, than what I'm thinking about me or what I'm thinking about them! Thinking about me- how to get to the place where I don't care so much, about what they're thinking about me. I just want to care about what I'm thinking about them! Or what I'm thinking about me. And I've got control of that. And while it's sort of hard right here in this moment, while they're scowling at me, or while they're acting out, or while they're behaving in the way that they are. And while I can't really do anything about it, when I get off to myself, I'm going to make some lists of things that I would rather feel in a moment like this.

"When I meet people, I like the best of both of us to rendezvous. I like to bring uplifting things from them! I like them to feel glad, that they saw me. I want them to greet me in a way, that lets me know that they're glad to see me!
But I realize, when they do that, it's more about who they are, than about who I am. I don't have control of the way people greet me, because I don't have control of how they feel, before I get there. And I'm going to stop taking credit for how they feel, when I get there! Because they already felt that way before I got there. But I'm going to start asking myself: how'd I get here? What is it in my vibration, that made me rendezvous with them in their ornery moment? -That's the question that I want to ask! And I think it's that I keep noticing, that I don't like it when I'm there. So I keep that part active, rather than remembering what I do like!

So I think that I'll write in my book what I liked about this meeting.
What I liked about this meeting, what was good about this, what was good about this, and I'll get all this good stuff so active in my vibration. And in activating the stuff that feels good, the stuff that doesn't feel good will be deactivated."

Although you can't deactivate something!
You have to activate something else.

Because when you try to deactivate it, you activate it!

"So you have to activate something else in order to deactivate it. But there's no such thing as deactivation. And there is such thing as activating something else. So, I'm just going to activate what feels good so much, that now everyone in the world will be a reflection to me, of what I've rendezvoused with. Not of my worthiness state! In other words: I can be ornery, I can be happy, I can be appreciative, I can be blameful, I can be anything. I can be all of those things- and none of them have anything to do with my worthiness!! They're just about my current vibrational state of being.
But these blessed others, who rendezvous with me, are such a reflection of where I am! Such a reflection of where I am. And since I'm trying to figure out where I am- because I'm trying to bridge my beliefs, isn't it beneficial to have all of these people reflecting back to me, where I am?"

So, when somebody says to you: "I don't like you!" -they say it with words or with body language, or with some sort of behavior, you want to stop and say to them:

"You have done such a service to me! Because you've made me realize that you don't like me. Which means I must be offering a vibration that's unlikable. But I'm not changing it, because I want you to like me!
I'm changing it because I don't want to rendezvous with you anymore.
I'm not changing my behavior so that you'll feel better- I'm changing my behavior so I don't keep rendezvousing with the likes of you!
I'm pure positive energy. I'm appreciation! I'm love! I'm upliftment! I'm a teacher of well-being. I'm running around, wanting to spread life in the world, and when I rendezvous with you, I can tell I'm not doing that in this moment!"

from the youtube-clip Abraham Hicks ~ SAY THESE EXACT WORDS WHEN THEY TREAT YOU BADLY ★AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS★

[Paradise-on-Earth]

If you want something to go away,
don't think about it.
Don't talk about it.
Don't try to understand it.

Just withdraw your attention from it!

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Esther & Jerry Hicks
The Law of Attraction - Money (Translation from the German version)
Page 38

Pivoting can realign my life

The pivoting- process is the conscious recognition that every thing actually consists of two things, and this means that the "desired" aspect of the thing can then be consciously spoken of, and thought about. The "pivoting" will help you activate the aspects of yourself that you desire in relation to each thing, and once you have achieved this, the essence of what you desire in each matter must come into your life.

At this point we need to clarify something important. If you use words that speak of something desired, while at the same time having "doubts" about your words, your words will not bring you what you desire, because the way you "feel" is the true indication of the creative direction of your thought vibration is. "The law of attraction does not respond to your words, but to the vibration that is emitted by you.

But since you can't talk about the "desirable" and the "undesirable" at the same time, the less you talk about the "undesirable," the more often you will talk about the "desirable." And if you are serious about telling it as it should be, rather than as it is, over time (and usually in no time) you will change the balance of your vibration. And if you talk about it often enough, you will feel what you say.

But there's something even more powerful about this "pivoting process": "When life seems to have negatively aligned you with the absence of something desired, and you then make the statement, 'I know for sure what I don't want, but what do I do want?", the answer to this question will arise from within you, and in that very moment, a vibrational shift will begin.

Pivoting is a powerful tool that will immediately improve your life.

[Paradise-on-Earth]

"Obliterating Problems Is My Job." - Military Man

HS:
I didn't want to come here. Somebody invited me, and I paid for us, and we came- and I was very skeptical. And I didn't know anything about you! I was surprised to find a woman standing on the stage, that's how little I know. (Laughter of the audience)

I have a pretty big vortex full of a lot of things that I won't... I'll be... I'll stay general, but I'm very fulfilled professionally. My education is complete and... but the one thing missing in my life is a family. And I've been firing millions of rockets, looking for a family, and I think I found what I was looking for. And for several months I've been working on this with a specific person, and everything was going fine. And then she has begun to perceive, that I'm still firing rockets, looking for family- maybe still with someone else. Or that I'm... she believes that I'm still firing rockets and she may have some reason to believe that, because of what's been in my vortex. And I'm only using these words, because I've heard them today for the first time, and, um...

Abe:
...And using them accurately! Which is unusual, to be this new to it, and up to speed so fast!

HS:
Oh, thank you! For...

Abe:
Well its... we're complementing ourselves. We're just really good! (Laughter) No. The compliment is yours!

HS:
I... don't want those things in my vortex! I don't believe that I'm firing rockets still...

Abe:
Well here's the thing. What's in your vortex is always the wanted part of everything. And something that's happening to you... it happens to almost everyone, is, that when you think you're talking about this family that you want: every subject is really two subjects! What is wanted, and absence of what is wanted. And so, when you use the words "relationship, family, something meaningful", you could be offering a vibration of the absence of it, rather than the presence of it! Which just keeps holding it at bay.

It's like- the feeling of loneliness is an indication. Your emotions are indications! So, the feeling of loneliness is an indication that you've got an active vibration about the absence of what you want. And you can't have an active vibration about the absence of what you want, and have it flow into your manifested reality!

You're holding it apart, without even knowing you do it.

People will say to us: "Abraham, I don't... you say I create my own reality. And I don't believe that I do! Because I wouldn't have created that, because I don't want it!" And we say: we didn't say you did it on purpose. But we did, say you did it! -There's a lot of misunderstanding. People think they put way more power in words than really they should. They put way more power in behavior-

when it's really the vibrational basis, that is at the heart of everything that comes to you.

So we like the way you began here. You said "I have success. I have success with education. I have success financially." So we want to ask you to just feel the difference in the way you feel, when you think about financial success or educational success, and the way you feel when you think about a relationship! Because in the one, you feel more confident. More sure, more satisfied. And the other you feel more wanting, more needing, more absence of it. Feel the difference! So, you got to find some way of either not talking about it... you know, you could get focused upon something else!

Recently someone says: "Everything in my life is good. There's just this one thing, that isn't good!" and we said, well then let's beat the drum of that one thing and use it as the excuse to mess up everything else! And they laughed about it. But they heard our point. We said:

You could have 10 things going terribly wrong and one thing going really well, and you could focus on the one thing and use it as your excuse to help the other things come into alignment.

Because the universe doesn't care! This law of attraction, that is responding vibrationally- it doesn't care what your reason for offering the vibrational signal is, that your offering. It's just responding to the signal. So, the fact of it is- you got to offer a signal about what you want, not about the absence of what you want! You want to talk about this? (HS: Sure!) Do you think that, as you've been sifting through the details of this relationship, and knowing what you do want, knowing what you don't want... are there many things about it that are pleasing to you? (HS: Yes of course!) Are there any things about it not pleasing to you?

HS:
Only this fear of rockets! That's the only thing. Only the fear of- well, her fear of that I'm firing rockets.

Abe:
So, the only thing that is missing is her response? In other words, she's insecure?

HS:
I don't know! She believes in the law of attraction, and that we are both... she believes sometimes, that we are both attracting the thing that we fear in each other, instead of the things that we want. And that we may have chosen the wrong...

Abe:
Well, nothing can go wrong, in this sense: So, you attract something that you don't want. It just causes you to launch your rocket! And you see, we're not the least bit worried about you, because we can feel the power with which you want to feel good! And we just want to say to you: It's really easy to talk to you. Simple! Because you're going to get this really easily.

All you got to do, is stay off the topic that makes you feel uneasy!

So, if we were standing in your physical shoes, we'd just make lists of positive aspects about the relationship. Keep going over in your mind, how you met, and how it felt, and how it feels, and what the physical attraction is! Just focus upon the parts that feel so good! Or focus on on other things that aren't about relationship,

because in your lack of attention to this thing that's bothering you, it will go away.

HS:
It's funny, because we've been making lists of the other. The opposite. (big laughter)

Abe:
Most people do! Most people do. "Got to find a problem and solve it!" -but in the law of attraction- world, which is the world you all live in, what that says is: "Let's make a list of things we do not want. We will just push hard enough against these things, we do not want! And we will obliviate them." And we say: No you won't!! You will amplify them. You'll make them active in your vibration, and you will use those active vibrations as your excuse to not allow yourself to resonate with who you really are, and what you want!

HS:
I'm in the military! So that's why I think that way. The other way, that you first described. That's probably what I've been doing. Obliterating problems is my job! (Audience laughing, HS smiles, understandingly).

Abe, very earnest:
We love you very much- but you are failing!

HS:
I know!

Abe:
The problems that you are attempting to obliterate, are getting bigger and bigger and bigger and bolder and bigger and bolder and bigger and bolder. IT DOES NOT WORK. It won't work in the world, it won't work with the army. It won't work in your personal world! It does not work! But you can stand right in the middle of a system, that's oriented that way, and you can find your alignment anyway! Because when you go general, there is so much that you want, that is right on target. You want a better functioning world. You want the majority of the people to live in peace and harmony! You want the children of the world to eat, and feel secure. You want physical well-being! You want it so much, that you're willing to do everything in your power, in order to achieve it, you see. So like we said to someone just now:

Don't worry about the action. Because there's momentum in that, but do your work with the alignment, you see!

HS: Thank you!

Abe:
We've enjoyed this interaction immensely!


from the youtube clip Abraham Hicks, "Obliterating Problems Is My Job." - Military Man
Excerpted from Abraham LIVE -- Boston, MA 9/29/12.

[spiritualcookie]

You don't have to go back and clean things up.
You just have to tune into your IB who will guide you through the path of least resistance.

- AH

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Don't have the conversation!
Don't ask what's wrong.
Don't worry about what's wrong.
Pull as quickly as you can away
from any thought that is giving you
the feeling of frustration.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

If the soothing doesn't come easily-
then distract!

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

IGNORE the problems in the World
and get HAPPY.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Wouldn't you like to see your bank-account
the way Source sees your bank-account?

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Ignore Reality!

Abraham Hicks