That Security that you seek is the same thing as
the Freedom that you seek-
It's ALIGNMENT, it's Control of how you feel.
And no one is ever going to to feel in Control of how they feel,
as long as it matters to them what somebody else is doing.
In other words, you HAVE to let go of their attention on you,
and give your undivided attention to the relationship between
you and your own Inner Being- and then, you've GOT IT!
The ultimate Allowing is Alignment with your Inner Being!
Abraham Hicks