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Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2024 5:44 pm
by Paradise-on-Earth
Any time you are wanting to accomplish something -because you have given birth to
a sincere desire, and now your chronic though, your habit of thought matches it, IT MUST BE, IT IS LAW!
But you will mess up your vibration any single time when you factor in other
people’s response to your desire. Because you can’t control their response,
and when you try, you don’t match your own vibration!
You can’t control their response, and if you care about what their response is,
you hold yourself in vibrational discord to your desire.
Excerpted from Toronto Workshop 9/20/2008
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Tue Feb 20, 2024 12:59 am
by spiritualcookie
How influence of others over you happens:
Sometimes you can (...) listen to somebody who was very important to you and spend enough time chewing with them maybe over dinner one evening or on the telephone one afternoon,
that you actually begin to vibrate as they are vibrating.
Well now the universe begins to respond to you in that way.
In other words it sets the tone of your vibration.
And when you're not aware of vibration, you tend to then conclude:
"This is the way the world is."
- Abraham
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The only opinion in all of the Universe that is of true importance to you, is your own,
and your own opinion of you affects the entire Universe.
- AH
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Wed Mar 06, 2024 8:07 pm
by Paradise-on-Earth
When people use their partners desires to discourage themselves...
As we are interacting with humans, sometimes we meet someone- in fact almost all humans that we meet, your vibrational gap seems to be continually influenced by what other people are doing. Not because they have power in your experience, but because you've got your nose in their business! So, two people- let's say, two people who want... (stay with us: we're really answering your question! It just seems a bit off the way!) ...two people, who -let's say they're living together, who seem to want two different things.
If this one would focus upon what he wants, and become a vibrational match to it, the universe must deliver it to him, in the fullest sense of the word. And if the other wants what they want, -even though it's different from what the other wants!- and if this one focuses upon it completely, then the universe must deliver it!
And so, both
-even when they're living together,
-even when they're cooperating together,
-even when they're working together,
each of them can receive exactly what they want. Provided, each of them focuses upon exactly what they want!
But what happens with most humans is: This one wants what they want, but notices what that one wants. So, this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want! And this one knows what they want, but notices what that one wants- so this one's vibration isn't in alignment with what they want.
So, now neither one of them are a match to what they want.
Neither one of them are getting what they want- and they're both blaming each other for it.
Abraham Hicks
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Sun Mar 10, 2024 11:51 pm
by spiritualcookie
We are wanting you to understand that, without exception, everything that you are living is brought to you by you and only by you.
As we are here together tonight, we are hoping to get rid of all of your scapegoats. We are wanting to remove all of your excuses and leave you standing naked in your awareness that you are the one, the only one, affecting your experience.
And while it may feel a little uncomfortable in the very early stages of this awareness, very soon, you will feel empowered by it.
- Abraham
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When you understand precisely how everything comes to you, then you are free of all fears of what others, in their differences, may do to you.
Then you are free of the economy, free of your government, free of your mother, free of all influence that you have been fearing. And finally you are in control of your experience. And usually, joyfully in control.
- Abraham
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Tue Mar 12, 2024 5:41 am
by Paradise-on-Earth
See yourself as a magnet!
If you are wanting to create something very quickly, focus upon that which you want- until more and more thoughts of what you are wanting are gathered unto, and then you will be a very powerful magnet, bringing into your experience the subject of your thought.
That which you really really want comes to you very quickly.
And when we use the word "want", what we are saying is: Giving thought in the direction of what is wanted, while at the same time, experiencing great powerful passionate positive emotion.
If you can see yourselves as a magnet, can you not understand that it is your state of being that attracts unto you?
If you are feeling poor from that state of being, you cannot attract prosperity- it defies law.
If you are feeling unloved, you cannot attract love.
If you are feeling fat or unattractive, you cannot attract beauty- it defies law.
Your mental state of being, or your attitude about self, is the basis from which you attract more unto you.
And so, law of attraction has many different points of view. It applies to thoughts that have magnetic power, that are attracted one to another.
It has to do with people who have magnetic power, who attract one to another.
It has to do with you, being a magnet, attracting thought, attracting people, attracting events, attracting lifestyle.
Indeed, everything that you bring into your experience, you bring because of this powerful law of attraction. And so the point is, to see yourself as you are wanting to be, as if it already is. And from that point of being, you will attract more that is the reason that the better it gets, the better it gets! And the worse it gets, the worse it gets. We are wanting to assist you in a process that will bring you to a view, or picture of yourself from which you will begin to attract.
So many of you do not see yourselves through your own eyes! You let others reflect back to you their vision of you, and as you look into their eyes and hear their words, what they see of you is not what you are wanting to see! But it is so "real", that it is from that perspective that you attract.
You become a magnet, that is created through the eyes and wanting of others, rather than a magnet, that is created by your own desire of who you are wanting to be.
We will offer you a process by which you will choose what sort of magnet you will be. No longer will you be subject to what others believe, or want or see- you will be the powerful creator of you and of your experience.
1987, from the youtube clip "Abraham Hicks ~ See Yourself as a Magnet"
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Tue Mar 19, 2024 6:44 am
by Paradise-on-Earth
How we teach and get taught to listen to others- instead of following our inner guidance
A man said to us one day, years ago: "(...) My mother hates me. My father hates me. I have a hard time!" -and we said: "How do you feel about your mother?" and he said: "I hate her, too. I hate her, because she hates me." And we said: "So, neither one of you are coming into alignment with who you are! And you're using each other as your excuse, why not to come into alignment.
When what you've come forth to teach is: Alignment, anyway.
What you've come forth to teach is: "I can align with the source within me, regardless of what those outside of me are reflecting back to me. And this is the most significant thing about this! Almost everyone, even those who've been listening to us for a while, cannot separate how they feel about things from how other people feel about things.
So, most people... in other words, almost the first thing you do with your children is: You teach them patterns of behavior, that make your life better or that you think will make them have an easier time in the society in which they will live. And as you convince your children, that they should do what you want them to do: "you should do what makes them feel better", rather than what closes their gap for them!
In early ages you teach them to listen outside of themselves.
That's why we have a room full of people in every city that we visit, who are accustomed to listening more to what's coming from another person... in other words, approval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people. And disapproval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people.
And we want that disapproval or approval, that comes from other people- even if it's your mother!- to not matter to you as much as the way you feel!
And that's what we said to this man, "that's what you've come forth to teach!"
You've come forth to teach. Because when you say to your child: "You need to do such and such, so that I will feel better"- then you set them up to listen to another and another and another. Until before long, most everybody is more interested in what everybody else thinks! And then they've lost track of their ability to quantify their journey.
Abraham Hicks
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Tue Mar 19, 2024 7:15 am
by Paradise-on-Earth
Honor others (and yourself!) for following their inner, unique guidance!
(Dealing with Pain, with gay people, with all sorts of Uncontrollables and "disorders"...)
We're visiting with a woman one day who had pain in her body and she said: "Abraham, how can I think positive thoughts when my body hurts so much? And we said: "we know what you're living is what it is. But there's a difference between having pain in your body, and feeling fear- and having pain in your body and feeling hope.
And the difference between fear and hope is the vibrational difference between recovery or not.
In other words, we were trying to teach her how to quantify the journey between sickness and wellness. How to feel her way, you see, where most people aren't encouraging anybody to feel their way into vibrational alignment, in order to have a better life! They're trying to teach them, they're trying to motivate them to respond to this rule, and to respond to this law, and respond to this disapproval or this approval.
So it is rampant in this civilization today- it is rampant almost nobody is listening to their own guidance!
Almost nobody is deliberately closing their gap.
Almost everybody cares what somebody else says or thinks, about what they're doing!
And so many people are coming forth, saying "well, try this one on, because this is an orientation that was set forth, before I came forth into this physical experience! And I can't change it, even if you want me to", you see. And so, there are all kinds of ornery little buggers being born- and we don't mean that from our point of view. We mean:
Pioneers of deliberate, powerful creation.
Teachers to the core of their being!
But they're being greeted by those who are immediately slapping labels on them. Like, oh there are so many. Like nonconformist with lots of different labels... "uncontrollable". Uh, "you have this disorder and this disorder and this disorder and this disorder!" -and we say:
Yay for the disorders! All of these disorders coming forth! The non-conformist coming forth, to teach unconditional love!
You see... and so, it is so delightful when you are able to assist someone. It's a great gift you give to someone, when you say:
"Well this is what is. And I'm not going to change it, so that you can feel better! This is what is."
And it's a hard thing to do, because you want them to be happy. So, when Kate wants to come to see Esther, and Esther really wants Kate to come- but Esther's got a big long list of things that she needs to do. So, Esther says "be better if we don't do it today!" and Esther hears the disappointment in Kate's voice. It's hard for Esther not to change something, to make Kate feel better. Because Esther would run over herself with the bus, if she thought it would make Kate feel better. But we want Esther to let Kate work it out on her own! And, she would, every time.
Abraham Hicks
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Thu Mar 21, 2024 8:43 pm
by Paradise-on-Earth
If you would stop talking to others,
who will talk you out of your crazy, wild dreams,
If you will stop trying to fit in with the others,
and justify to them through your normalcy
all kinds of what they will call MAGIC
that you will come to call NORMAL
will occur to you!
Abraham Hicks
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Wed Apr 03, 2024 9:37 am
by Paradise-on-Earth
Others will never benefit from you, not thriving so much. Or from you, struggling with them, as well!
You're trying to justify, for the benefit of the others! (laughter) In other words... (...) We understand what you're doing with that! In other words, you're not wanting people to see you in that light of perfection, too much! (Laughter)
Because it's hard for a struggler to appreciate a lucky one!
It's a little bit in there. And we would like you to never feel any desire, whatsoever, to express anything about your bad day. Because your bad day is such a freakish anomaly in the scope of what your life really is, you see!
We never hear you say: Well I've been well for so long. I think I'll be sick for a while, to allow more sick people to be well! I heard that there are 100,000 really sick people in my small community. And I've been so well- I've made a decision to call someone up. I'm going to be sick, so they can be well!"
Silly, isn't it? It's not related at all!! There is well-being, and you're letting it in. And whether they are, or not, has nothing to do with you!!
There is abundance there is well-being of all nature and as you let it in it has nothing to do with what anybody else is doing.
Abraham Hicks
Re: Quotes of Influence of Others over You
Posted: Thu Apr 04, 2024 8:16 pm
by Paradise-on-Earth
Massmurderers- can we help them?
Will they come after us?
Sometimes people worry when they hear us talking. Because they think, that we're encouraging mass murderers. And we say: no one ever does anything like that, when they're in alignment with source!
So if someone is having those kinds of experiences, you've got to know they're completely out of whack. And usually, the reason that they are so out of whack- if you follow the history of the serial killers, or those who are doing those what you call dastardly deeds to society, or to individuals; what you will find in every case is that they were someone, who was being misunderstood. Who was being touted, who was being controlled, who was being misunderstood! Who was being punished by a society, who did not understand what unconditional love is. And so, it just perpetuates more and more and more.
There is a war against crime, and more crime every day.
There is a war against teenage pregnancy, and more teenage pregnancy every day.
Everything that you push against becomes more!
Because the pattern of vibration holds stronger and stronger and stronger, so you just have to come to the place where you have to individually decide: want to feel good! And if you're tending to the thoughts, then you'll never get to the action. In other words, if you're having thoughts of unworthiness and thoughts of rage and revenge, and someone is counseling you into soothing yourself, and you're finding alignment with who you are, it's not going to escalate into taking a gun and killing someone!
But if you're feeling revenge and rage and somebody says to you: "You're wrong!" and feeling that, and you need to get control of your emotions, and they're not explaining what your emotions are- law of attraction is going to help that rage get more and more and more. Until the next logical step is some sort of violence, which then as a society and a whole, you push against all the stronger! And lock them up, and condemn them, and speak of them disrespectfully, you see. Nice to know isn't it? Nobody has to know this, but you, in order for you to live happily ever after!
If you found someone in the street bleeding, we know you'd help them.
If you find someone in the street writhing in agony, and wielding a gun- you don't feel so inclined to help them out! Even though they're asking in the same way that they would, if they were bleeding.
And if you want to know how source feels about them: source is adoring them. But they're so blocked off, they can't hear it. And that's why they're behaving the way they do! When life causes you to ask for something in a really strong way, and you find vibrational attitudes and ways of living, that keep you from hearing it, or feeling it, then you want it and want it and want it! But you're blocking it blocking it blocking it. It's logical, isn't it? Doesn't that make perfect sense of everything, that you see in the world?
Once you understand that, it doesn't take many to stand in a place- and it's easier if you have your distance from them!- where you are focusing upon them through the eyes of source.
Esther notices that, as she writes with Jerry, who is non-physical. Or Abraham, who is non-physical! She can feel when she asks for guidance about something that she's dealing with. She can feel an absolute awareness of where she is, and an absolute non-attachment to the negative emotion, that she feels: that's what step-five-living is!
It's understanding that stuff happens. But not letting it take you off of your balance, as you're observing it! And not feeling guilty about being in the middle of it.
Because it's part of the process of expansion, you see! Really good conversation! Yeah. Do you feel a need to control those, that you fear would harm you or your family? It's sort of a logical thing: To want to, at least, keep them away from you! But they won't come for you. If someone's agitated and in that place and you're in a place of love, they're not going to come for you! (It's) vibrationally inaccurate. They don't find you! They find those, who are in the same hatred. Have you ever heard someone say:
The dog bites those who are afraid of it? Well, that's why- because that fear is a vibration of aggravation.
from the youtube-clip Mass Murderers - That’s Why Someone Becomes A Murderer. ~ Abraham Hicks