Quotes on Controlling Others - Wanting to Influence Others

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Honor others (and yourself!) for following their inner, unique guidance!
(Dealing with Pain, with gay people, with all sorts of Uncontrollables and "disorders"...)

We're visiting with a woman one day who had pain in her body and she said: "Abraham, how can I think positive thoughts when my body hurts so much? And we said: "we know what you're living is what it is. But there's a difference between having pain in your body, and feeling fear- and having pain in your body and feeling hope.

And the difference between fear and hope is the vibrational difference between recovery or not.

In other words, we were trying to teach her how to quantify the journey between sickness and wellness. How to feel her way, you see, where most people aren't encouraging anybody to feel their way into vibrational alignment, in order to have a better life! They're trying to teach them, they're trying to motivate them to respond to this rule, and to respond to this law, and respond to this disapproval or this approval.

So it is rampant in this civilization today- it is rampant almost nobody is listening to their own guidance!
Almost nobody is deliberately closing their gap.
Almost everybody cares what somebody else says or thinks, about what they're doing!

And so many people are coming forth, saying "well, try this one on, because this is an orientation that was set forth, before I came forth into this physical experience! And I can't change it, even if you want me to", you see. And so, there are all kinds of ornery little buggers being born- and we don't mean that from our point of view. We mean:

Pioneers of deliberate, powerful creation.
Teachers to the core of their being!

But they're being greeted by those who are immediately slapping labels on them. Like, oh there are so many. Like nonconformist with lots of different labels... "uncontrollable". Uh, "you have this disorder and this disorder and this disorder and this disorder!" -and we say:

Yay for the disorders! All of these disorders coming forth! The non-conformist coming forth, to teach unconditional love!

You see... and so, it is so delightful when you are able to assist someone. It's a great gift you give to someone, when you say:
"Well this is what is. And I'm not going to change it, so that you can feel better! This is what is."

And it's a hard thing to do, because you want them to be happy. So, when Kate wants to come to see Esther, and Esther really wants Kate to come- but Esther's got a big long list of things that she needs to do. So, Esther says "be better if we don't do it today!" and Esther hears the disappointment in Kate's voice. It's hard for Esther not to change something, to make Kate feel better. Because Esther would run over herself with the bus, if she thought it would make Kate feel better. But we want Esther to let Kate work it out on her own! And, she would, every time.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

full interaction (including the last 2 quotes above)

What is up with Homosexuality?
(Most gay people come as teachers of unconditional Love!)

HS:
I only have 84,000 questions...

Abe:
Well we only have one answer, so give us your best. (laughter)

HS:
Okay great. Um, I've heard you speak often about sexuality, and one of my... one of several questions is: Where do gay relationships, gay love, gay sex fit into broader perspective with the whole scheme of things?

Abe:
Well, that subject fits in just like every other subject- that you are the creator of your reality.
In other words, we're going to come fully around all of this, but we we want to say -as a basis of this-, that humans, through time, in their not-conscious alignment with who they are, are often looking for someone to establish a set of rules that they can follow, in their desire to be righteous or good.

And that set of rules does not exist from a non-physical perspective!
In other words, there is not a set of rules.

You have not been sent here into this physical environment, to identify the rules and to keep them. And it's good for you that that isn't the case, because you have a real scrambled set of rules going on on your planet right now! In fact, you're killing each other in record numbers today, over your arguing about who's got the right set of rules!

-When what you came forth understanding is, that you are pure positive energy.
-And you came forth into this physical environment, wanting the variety to cause you to give birth to desires!
-And you knew that your joy was only dependent upon your coming into alignment.

You knew, that your fulfilling of your reason for being was only dependent upon you, coming into alignment with who you really are! So, you may have noticed that there are many beings coming forth- in the last generation or two, and even more in these powerful days- of energies, coming forth from Source, who are in a stronger way determined to be unconformable. Because, so much of the world says: "I see that condition and it makes me feel pretty good. So I would vote for a lot more of that! And I see that condition, and I don't like the way I feel- so I would not vote for that. So we need to change all of these conditions, to be what make me feel good, so that I can feel better." -A very conditional love, that is impossible!

Unconditional love says:
"I see conditions that I prefer. And conditions that I don't prefer.
And my feeling of love, my feeling of alignment, my alignment itself, is dependent only upon the direction of my thoughts.
I do not need to control conditions, in order to come into alignment!"

But of course everyone wants to feel better, don't they? So, there are huge numbers of people on the planet today, who even though many of them are speaking unconditional love, they don't understand it at all. Because they're still trying to change this condition and this condition- so that they can have a better feeling response to it you know?

You've really reached the place of being an allower, when you're able to allow those who aren't allowing you.

So there are people coming forth, energies coming forth into human form, in record numbers, who come with this determination to be unconformable. Meaning, that -no matter how much you need this condition to change so that you can feel better- this is not a condition that's going to change, so that you can feel better!

"So, if you're going to feel better, you're going to have to change the way you are looking at things.
Because I'm not going to be the reason that you feel better!"

So, children are coming forth... gay children are coming forth, autistic children are coming forth, with all kinds of what humans want to call maladies, that we call determination to be secure in their teaching of unconditional love.

A man said to us one day, years ago: "Abraham, why why would I come forth intending to be gay? Why would I bring all of this grief to myself? My mother hates me. My father hates me. I have a hard time!" -and we said: "How do you feel about your mother?" and he said: "I hate her, too. I hate her, because she hates me." And we said: "So, neither one of you are coming into alignment with who you are! And you're using each other as your excuse, why not to come into alignment.

When what you've come forth to teach is: Alignment, anyway.

What you've come forth to teach is: "I can align with the source within me, regardless of what those outside of me are reflecting back to me. And this is the most significant thing about this! Almost everyone, even those who've been listening to us for a while, cannot separate how they feel about things from how other people feel about things.

So, most people... in other words, almost the first thing you do with your children is: You teach them patterns of behavior, that make your life better or that you think will make them have an easier time in the society in which they will live. And as you convince your children, that they should do what you want them to do: "you should do what makes them feel better", rather than what closes their gap for them!

In early ages you teach them to listen outside of themselves.

That's why we have a room full of people in every city that we visit, who are accustomed to listening more to what's coming from another person... in other words, approval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people. And disapproval is so meaningful to you, when it comes from other people.

And we want that disapproval or approval, that comes from other people- even if it's your mother!- to not matter to you as much as the way you feel!

And that's what we said to this man, "that's what you've come forth to teach!"
You've come forth to teach. Because when you say to your child: "You need to do such and such, so that I will feel better"- then you set them up to listen to another and another and another. Until before long, most everybody is more interested in what everybody else thinks! And then they've lost track of their ability to quantify their journey.

We're visiting with a woman one day who had pain in her body and she said: "Abraham, how can I think positive thoughts when my body hurts so much? And we said: "we know what you're living is what it is. But there's a difference between having pain in your body, and feeling fear- and having pain in your body and feeling hope.

And the difference between fear and hope is the vibrational difference between recovery or not.

In other words, we were trying to teach her how to quantify the journey between sickness and wellness. How to feel her way, you see, where most people aren't encouraging anybody to feel their way into vibrational alignment, in order to have a better life! They're trying to teach them, they're trying to motivate them to respond to this rule, and to respond to this law, and respond to this disapproval or this approval.

So it is rampant in this civilization today- it is rampant almost nobody is listening to their own guidance!
Almost nobody is deliberately closing their gap.
Almost everybody cares what somebody else says or thinks, about what they're doing!

And so many people are coming forth, saying "well, try this one on, because this is an orientation that was set forth, before I came forth into this physical experience! And I can't change it, even if you want me to", you see. And so, there are all kinds of ornery little buggers being born- and we don't mean that from our point of view. We mean:

Pioneers of deliberate, powerful creation.
Teachers to the core of their being!

But they're being greeted by those who are immediately slapping labels on them. Like, oh there are so many. Like nonconformist with lots of different labels... "uncontrollable". Uh, "you have this disorder and this disorder and this disorder and this disorder!" -and we say:

Yay for the disorders! All of these disorders coming forth! The non-conformist coming forth, to teach unconditional love!

You see... and so, it is so delightful when you are able to assist someone. It's a great gift you give to someone, when you say:
"Well this is what is. And I'm not going to change it, so that you can feel better! This is what is."

And it's a hard thing to do, because you want them to be happy. So, when Kate wants to come to see Esther, and Esther really wants Kate to come- but Esther's got a big long list of things that she needs to do. So, Esther says "be better if we don't do it today!" and Esther hears the disappointment in Kate's voice. It's hard for Esther not to change something, to make Kate feel better. Because Esther would run over herself with the bus, if she thought it would make Kate feel better. But we want Esther to let Kate work it out on her own! And, she would, every time. She'd be upset for a minute, but it's her nature to feel good. So she wouldn't be upset for very long!

But this is a bigger issue: You can't change gayness to please another, right? And so, what a gift of unconditional love you bring with that. You say:

"Here I am. Take it or leave it, it's up to you. Be unhappy with me as I be, or be happy with me as I be. But I be as I be! This is my gift to you, you see!"

From the youtube-clip "ABRAHAM HICKS | WHY SOME CHOOSE THE TOUGH LIFE OF BEING BORN HOMOSEXUAL"

[Paradise-on-Earth]

What is Art?
How to attract money for your Art?
Can I save people with my Art?


HS:
So I have three questions.
The first is: What is art? I want to hear it straight from source! What is art, and what is the purpose of it all? (...)

Abe:
We love the question because it gives us an opportunity to continue the conversation that we were just having, in a very powerful way.

(Art) exists for satisfaction and for pleasure, period.

...And that twists the brains of most practical humans into a knot! "It's for fun? It's the pleasure? Doesn't it have some more practical purpose?? Does it save lives? Does it put food in cans? ...But the point that we're making is, that It gives us an opportunity to say, that things that are pleasurable are of MOST importance. And that's what it's for! The satisfaction factor is a big big factor, and so, that's what it's about. It's interesting, because

an artist puts into -whatever he is sculpting or painting or creating, he/she imbues it with how they feel, while they're doing it.

And then the law of attraction gathers others, who feel the same way to it. So when you buy a painting, you're sort of high-fiving the artist! -Sort of like saying "oh yeah, man. I felt like that. I feel like that- I see desperation in your painting! High-five!" Or: "Hey man! I see joy in that! High-five!"

HS:
What I feel like, is that the art that I create, and from listening to you, lowers the resistance for people to come closer, to who they are.

Abe:
Maybe, but that's not your job. (HS: that's not my job...?)
Because if you are considering someone's lower vibration, you're putting it in your painting! You can't consider it, without putting it in your painting. So it's your job to tend to who you are.

And that's their job to find harmony with that, or not! You know what teachers like you... you know what your biggest discomfort is? You keep wanting to go save people. But in order to save them, you have to harmonize where they are! And then you don't save them.

So talk to us more about that, if you want to! We believe in bridges. If we were standing in your physical shoes, we would tune to the highest frequency in every individual on the planet. Our attitude would be: "I'm painting from source. And when you are in tune with source, you're gonna love what I paint, or what I sculpt, or...

HS (almost crying):
Yeah. Metal sculpture. Metal sculpture is what I do, and...

Abe:
What's touching you in that tender place?

HS (crying)
Like, am I now going to give myself the permission to create the sculptures? It's JUST between source and I...?

Abe:
Here's what's bothering you. You sense- and this is not inaccurate, you see- you're a high fiver. You are a deliberate harmonizer. So many artists of music and artists of... ART! Artists of all creative fashion have discovered, that harmonizing with people who are wadded up in their discomfort- there's a bigger audience. In other words, most of the love songs are love-gone-bad! Because more people high five to that.

So when you say "give yourself permission", you see- you ALWAYS sculpted from where you are! Are you now telling us, that you feel regret, that some of your sculpting was from a lesser vibration, than where you now are? (HS: I don't regret it.) Ohh, we're so so happy to hear that!

HS:
No no! It's growth, its growth, yeah!

Abe:
And it will never stop! The evolution will never stop. So, what's troubling you?

HS:
My desire is to create beautiful art that feels good to me. That I enjoy making it, and to be paid very very well for it. I am stopping myself. The art is beautiful, but finding the affluent clients, are allowing the affluent clients...

Abe:
Here's the thing. You're gonna like this, and you know this already. But hearing it will be good:

The same connection required to create the beautiful art- it's a same connection required, to find the affluent seekers of your art. It's the same thing.


So if you can do one; if you are doing one- you are doing the other! Except that you're talking about not doing the other, you see. This is a really common thing with so many of you, we love you so much! The things that you are doing on your own, when you accept something, one of the things that is so freeing for artists is, that they often feel that it's just between them and their source. And so, there aren't a lot of other factors to consider. So, that part of it comes easily to you. Because you know when you get tuned in- it flows! And when you're not tuned in, it does'nt.

And so you tune in and it flows. But when you think about other people, you don't have confidence in them, being tuned in! You don't trust them. Why? Because they're not trustworthy! We don't want you to trust other humans! ...Stay with us: we don't want you to put your trust in them.

We want you put your trust in your point of Attraction!

One who's connected to source is a million times more powerful than one who is not. And so, never mind what they're doing. It's NOT your job to sort it all out. It's your job to harmonize with your source and feel the joy, that is evidenced when you are with your source, and let that take care of everything else! But in the sentence that you spoke to us, that was based with some momentum of vibration, what you said is: "I'm really good at this. But I'm not good at that!" "But I'm really good at this. But I'm not good at (that.) But I'm really good at this! But I'm not really good at (that)!

So, just talk about what you're good at. And leave it there:

"I'm really good at this. And my intervene as good at the rest of it. I'm really good at this." -It's attraction, attraction, attraction, attraction, attraction! Its attraction. Now if you can cure this, and we think you can! Because we are stubbornly gonna stay here, till you do! It's attraction. It's your attraction. Its attraction! It's your attraction! Its attraction. It's your attraction. Those patrons- they're irrelevant: Its attraction. Its attraction. Its attraction! If you put your mind on who you think they are, you screw up your attraction, because you've decided that they are something (that some of them are). But you've decided, that all of them are something, that all of them aren't!

The world is awash in money!

There are people with soo much money, just looking for something meaningful, and satisfying to do with it! And your Inner Being is finding those cooperative components. That's NOT your work! Your work is to keep your vibration in the place where what your source lines up for you, and the co-operative components there lined up for you- you're not blocking with your negative belief.

It's attraction. That's attraction.
It's NOT about what they're doing, about what you're doing! It's about what you're doing.

Because there's enough of them that are doing what you need them to do for you, to live happily ever after- for 20 or 30 or 40 or 50 lifetimes. The proportion is huge. It isn't what they think it's what you think, that they think. That is messing up your point of Attraction! And you're making it up. You've known so many people that didn't have any money, that you've decided to feel that way about everybody!

HS:
I feel like, my life is just gonna get easier now! Because if I only have to worry about me and myself, and the art that I love to create... so...

Abe:
Now that you've said that, we're going to offer a ridiculous analogy, just to confirm what you just said. Because you heard clearly what we said to you! -Let's say that you're someone who really wants to feel good. And you still are looking to others for their confirmation, and affirmation, and approval. And you're so determined to feel good, and now you're an Internet-genius. You know how to create programs, and you know all about optimization. And so, you send out your profile to the world. You hook in to every meaningful search engine in the world, and here's your picture, and it says "This is me. This is my name, and these are my requirements of you. So when you meet me- I might be in an airport, I might be in the grocery store, I might be walking down the street in any number of cities... keep your eyes open and watch out for me. And when you see me, behave in these ways..."

OR, you could just accept that it's your point of Attraction, and do something about that!
In other words, you could ineffectively and absurdly try to control the behavior of one other, or all others, OR you could accept that it's attraction. Attraction, attraction, attraction, attraction, attraction, attraction, only attraction! Only attraction. Only attraction. Only attraction! Only attraction! Only attraction.

And just clarify your own point of attraction, by getting out ahead of it. It's so easy to let a situation be your reason for calibration! Something happens to you, somebody says something to you, you overhear something, you observe something... is so easy to observe that, until you have harmonized with it, and then your point of Attraction is affected by that. And it has affected you strongly! -So you keep thinking about it, and regurgitating it, and even talking to others about it -so that it really gets a foothold. Then more and more and more and more and more and more of it comes to you, until it becomes a belief, that it's hard for you to get around. But... if you could just wipe your mind of those kind of beliefs! We're gonna make a really strong statement here, that is absolutely accurate. Hard to do, but really accurate.

All you have to have, is a desire. Period! And the Universe will answer your desire.
But if you have a desire in an opposing belief- nope. Not.

Because the Universe isn't answering it! It IS- but because you're not letting it in, so you're missing all the clues. So if you could just have desire, that's why new desires feel so good! Because you haven't figured out how to trample them. That's why new relationships feel so good: you don't know anything about each other. It's so fun to calibrate! To calibrate to the clarity of your Inner Being! To your Inner Being who knows your value, and knows what you want, and cares about it, and knows every person on the planet, who is looking for what you're offering!

If you're not blocking it with past experience, or law of averages. Law of averages is nothing!! Law of averages is just a consensus of the negative thoughts of the humans of the planet.

It's the law of attraction, that matters.

from the clip: Abraham Hicks 2020 The Real Purpose of Art NEW

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Is there really Gender- Inequality?
(Jerry steps in!)

HS:
(I want) the chance to really see a world, in which men and women have equal opportunity, equal power. Equal access...

Abe:
Well, just ask your Inner Being! If you have an opinion already- which you do, where men and women do not have equal power -so, "this is the stance from which I look." So, what could you possibly see, other than inequality, from that vibrational stance? -And you say, "no I'm looking at reality!" We say: You're looking at old news!

And then you say: "Well, I want to create a new!" and we say: then don't look at the old news. So, what do you think the old news has put into your vortex? Something different! Are you looking there? Not right now!

So, when you realize, that law of attraction doesn't say (disgusted voice): "Ah, it's a girl. Let that go." Or all the intervenes of all the women: (Disgusted voice again) "Ahh. Not so much."

And that's where all of your power is! So, if you want to say to us -and we'll go along with you- that there are some women, who- in their belief that there is inequality, block some of the power, that is flowing to them. We will go along with you in that! And if you say "oh, and there's some men that kind of like it that way." -we might even go along with you about that, too!

But we will NEVER acknowledge, that there is inequality of your face under the Sun. Or your beingness in this environment. Or your relationship with non-physical energy!
So, if there is any diminishment of anyone, it is ALWAYS self-inflicted.
And once you understand that, then you have your power, you see!

You see... this is so clear. Here's a clear way of explaining it to you, that would be like you, saying: "I've been noticing that the law of gravity is discriminating against women. It holds them closer to the ground! Men float more free than women." And we say: Perception is everything! What you think and continue to think, becomes a belief, that is sort of hard to let go of.

But your beliefs are the only limitations you have!
There's only a separation between your desire and what you believe.

...A contradiction in that energy, which is always evidenced to you by negative emotion- which is your indicator: you're doing it now! You're doing it now, you're doing it now. You're doing it now! You're doing it now! (HS seems speechless. Audience is laughing)

-We know. When we say: What you believe- based upon what you've witnessed, what you've lived, doesn't have to be that way. You want to say... in fact, here is Jerry! (HS adored Jerry, Esthers croaked husband). He said: "I'd like to get on your side for a minute, here. He said to us... (Audience laughs and Abe are playful about Jerry stepping in in this way) ...There's a whole lot, like this. This is one of his favorite haunts, yeah!

He (Jerry)... he said often: "But, Abraham!!! I didn't feel that way about that, until that happened. So that reality influenced the way I feel! So isn't the way I feel therefore valid?" and we said: of course it's valid! And if you want more of it, keep focusing on it! (laughter) (HS: Yeah.) Because it didn't seem to him like he went out looking for that relief! It felt to him like, the world demonstrated. And he observed. And so, "that's how it is!" And he'd like to change it. And we say, we know that's why you came: You came to change things, that are not the way you want them to be.

But you never do it by claiming inequality!
You never do it by pushing against what you don't want!
That just causes your influence to become more about what you don't want.

And today we want, more than anything, to help you feel: You're part... you're important part!- in your expressing your influence. Your influence in the world, you see! Your Inner Being- oh, your Inner Being is flowing to you and through you. The influence for everything that you want, especially on this subject, is huge. But sometimes you get crosswise. You don't let your own inner being influence you! Because you've got some belief walled up, that doesn't let you receive it. But don't worry! As long as you hold that desire... because your Inner Being knows. Your inner being will inspire you to the experiences, that will help you unfold into the desire, that you want!

Because your Inner Being... oh this is such a wonderful thing for you to know!
Your inner being knows where you stand, in terms of what you've allowed to unfold, in relationship with what's in your vortex, and what you're asking for... so,

your Inner Being knows where the path is. What the path is! -The path of least resistance.

Which is to say, the path considering every belief you've got, that's in your way! Your Inner Being isn't saying "clear the path, and then you will know." Your Inner Being is saying: "You got quite a resistant path!" and will show you through it. We will show you through it, and some times -and this is really important for you!-

sometimes, the path to clarity about what you want, is going right through those unpleasant neighborhoods, that cause you to launch more rockets of desire- until the rockets of desire outweigh your feelings of disgruntlement. And then, off you go! .

Sometimes you have to meditate your way there. Because your thoughts won't let you go there- you've practiced too many, you've read too many books, you've marched in too many movements, you've watched too many programs, you're too mad at too many men... and so, it just can't get in. But when you meditate and clear your mind, stop your thought altogether, and your vibration rises to the equivalency of what your Inner Being knows- then what your Inner Being knows, begins to occur to you.

The other day Esther said: "I want my influence to help this situation. But when my influence helps this situation, and that situation improves- then what I think about the current situation won't be right." She's picked out someone, that she wants to blame for a whole lot of things! And she wants to help it... but then, all of her complaints would be invalid!

Because, sometimes you want more to be right than you do to feel good.

And so you gather up all the evidence of how right you are, and as you gather up all that evidence about how right you are- and you might very well be right about a situation!! But you're messing up the future! And it's not the path of least resistance, but the path of most resistance.

And the way you feel, which is everything that matters, indicates that. -Helpful?

HS:
Yeah. This just connects another thing... since I saw you, two weeks ago, I've been gathering evidence for the Universe is conspiring for me to be happy! And every time something happens, I put it in my little PDA, you know, and... and capture it. And then I celebrate it, and I realize: I haven't been doing that with gender equality! I haven't been building a case, and building evidence.

Abe:
Because building the case for something you want goes against what you believe, and nobody wants to do that. But, when what you believe is a sucky thing- that you would like to change...?? (laughter) Yeah, yeah! Really good!

from the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - [NO ADS] There Is NO Gender Inequality"




Excerpts:


How the Inner Being guides us

Your inner being knows where you stand, in terms of what you've allowed to unfold, in relationship with what's in your vortex, and what you're asking for... so,

your Inner Being knows where the path is. What the path is! -The path of least resistance.

Which is to say, the path considering every belief you've got, that's in your way! Your Inner Being isn't saying "clear the path, and then you will know." Your Inner Being is saying: "You got quite a resistant path!" and will show you through it. We will show you through it, and some times -and this is really important for you!-

sometimes, the path to clarity about what you want, is going right through those unpleasant neighborhoods, that cause you to launch more rockets of desire- until the rockets of desire outweigh your feelings of disgruntlement. And then, off you go! .

Sometimes you have to meditate your way there. Because your thoughts won't let you go there- you've practiced too many, you've read too many books, you've marched in too many movements, you've watched too many programs, you're too mad at too many men... and so, it just can't get in. But when you meditate and clear your mind, stop your thought altogether, and your vibration rises to the equivalency of what your Inner Being knows- then what your Inner Being knows, begins to occur to you.

from the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - [NO ADS] There Is NO Gender Inequality"



Gender-Inequality is (as all hardship) always self-inflicted!

Law of attraction doesn't say (disgusted voice): "Ah, it's a girl. Let that go." Or all the intervenes of all the women: (Disgusted voice again) "Ahh. Not so much."

And that's where all of your power is! So, if you want to say to us -and we'll go along with you- that there are some women, who- in their belief that there is inequality, block some of the power, that is flowing to them. We will go along with you in that! And if you say "oh, and there's some men that kind of like it that way." -we might even go along with you about that, too!

But we will NEVER acknowledge, that there is inequality of your face under the Sun. Or your beingness in this environment. Or your relationship with non-physical energy!
So, if there is any diminishment of anyone, it is ALWAYS self-inflicted.
And once you understand that, then you have your power, you see!

You see... this is so clear. Here's a clear way of explaining it to you, that would be like you, saying: "I've been noticing that the law of gravity is discriminating against women. It holds them closer to the ground! Men float more free than women." And we say: Perception is everything! What you think and continue to think, becomes a belief, that is sort of hard to let go of.

But your beliefs are the only limitations you have!
There's only a separation between your desire and what you believe.

from the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - [NO ADS] There Is NO Gender Inequality"



Wanting to be Right more, than wanting to be happy!

The other day Esther said: "I want my influence to help this situation. But when my influence helps this situation, and that situation improves- then what I think about the current situation won't be right." She's picked out someone, that she wants to blame for a whole lot of things! And she wants to help it... but then, all of her complaints would be invalid!

Because, sometimes you want more to be right than you do to feel good.

And so you gather up all the evidence of how right you are, and as you gather up all that evidence about how right you are- and you might very well be right about a situation!! But you're messing up the future! And it's not the path of least resistance, but the path of most resistance.

And the way you feel, which is everything that matters, indicates that.

from the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks - [NO ADS] There Is NO Gender Inequality"

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Others will never benefit from you, not thriving so much. Or from you, struggling with them, as well!

You're trying to justify, for the benefit of the others! (laughter) In other words... (...) We understand what you're doing with that! In other words, you're not wanting people to see you in that light of perfection, too much! (Laughter)

Because it's hard for a struggler to appreciate a lucky one!

It's a little bit in there. And we would like you to never feel any desire, whatsoever, to express anything about your bad day. Because your bad day is such a freakish anomaly in the scope of what your life really is, you see!

We never hear you say: Well I've been well for so long. I think I'll be sick for a while, to allow more sick people to be well! I heard that there are 100,000 really sick people in my small community. And I've been so well- I've made a decision to call someone up. I'm going to be sick, so they can be well!"

Silly, isn't it? It's not related at all!! There is well-being, and you're letting it in. And whether they are, or not, has nothing to do with you!!

There is abundance there is well-being of all nature and as you let it in it has nothing to do with what anybody else is doing.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

You never know what is best for others!



Being Happy
is a VERY PERSONAL thing,
and it really has NOTHING to do with anyone else.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Trying to introduce stuff to those that aren't ready
causes the wobble!

Abraham Hicks

[spiritualcookie]

You have come forth in an environment where there are many others -
because you are wanting to exercise your power of influence.
And what is it you are wanting to influence toward? A state of joy.


- Abraham

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Uncheatable Uponable


HS:
I was feeling that way for the last nine months really up until the date the night before I came on this cruise which I was feeling awesome about and then I found out that he's been cheating on me for a really long time.

Abe:
We agree that you all have different levels of how much you're willing to put up with. And whether he's just annoying, or whether he is violating some commitment that the two of you have established- in other words, we get it that there are narrower and wider gaps! But we want to be so bold as to say that,

whoever you are interacting with, is going to violate the commitment
that almost all of you want them to keep!
And the commitment that almost everybody wants everybody
that they're up close to impersonal to keep is,
"I want you to promise to put me first- no matter what."

And that is a commitment that no one keeps!

Because you're not wired like that!
You were not born like that!
You you've come to establish... We would like your marriage vows, or your relationship vows, to go like this:

"Dear one, I want you to know that- as much as I love you, there's someone who comes first before you.
And that is my alignment with the source, within me!
That's my inner being, that's who I'm devoted to.
That's why I'm aligned to.
That's who I'm feeling for.
That's what my commitment is to.

And my promise to you is, that I will give you, as much as I can, the fullness of me!
Not as the separated me.
I'm going to do my best to satisfy my alignment, and therefore give you the gift of living with someone, who has aligned.
And what that will be for you, what that will mean for you, how that will play out for you, is:

I won't be needing or demanding from you behavior, in order to keep myself happy!
My happiness will be dependent upon my focus."

There are people who feel betrayed, if their partners think about other people.
There are people who feel betrayed if their partner doesn't give their undivided attention to them.
There are people who feel jealous if anyone feels happy at the thought, or in the conversation with somebody else!

There are all kinds of degrees of cheating on you, and for the most part, any part of someone else cheating on you just means: "You've taken your attention away from me! And I was dependent upon your attention, being upon me, so that I could feel good! And now you've taken your attention away from me...!" (Towards the HS) This is too strong for you.

But, we really want you all to not be dependent upon anyone for the alignment.
That it is the epitome of looking for love in all the wrong places!

And when you say you've cheated on me, we know. We know there are agreements that you make! We get what you're talking about.

But we would like you to be uncheatable-upon-able!
"I'm stable in my self-respect! My sense of well-being is not dependent upon your behavior."

So what you're really wanting to do, is decide what you want, and become a vibrational match to what you want. And you will attract a partner who is a vibrational match to what you want, you see! And so we're not suggesting that you will not find another partner!

We're just suggesting that you find true alignment with who you are before you go looking!

from the official Abraham Hicks youtube-clip "Uncheatable Uponable", 2014

[spiritualcookie]

How you can encourage change in others

You can't stop doing something. Did you know that?
No matter how hard you try you can't stop doing something.
You can start doing something else. (...)

And so all that you are wanting when you are wanting somebody to stop doing something, is to put their focus upon something else.
To begin doing something else.
To replace one behaviour with another.
To replace one thought with another.
To replace one feeling with another.

- Abraham