The Abe Forum

If you are really tuned into who you are,
you CAN'T see a flaw in someone.
And if you see a flaw in someone-
it's not THEIR flaw.

Abraham Hicks

Uncheatable Uponable


HS:
I was feeling that way for the last nine months really up until the date the night before I came on this cruise which I was feeling awesome about and then I found out that he's been cheating on me for a really long time.

Abe:
We agree that you all have different levels of how much you're willing to put up with. And whether he's just annoying, or whether he is violating some commitment that the two of you have established- in other words, we get it that there are narrower and wider gaps! But we want to be so bold as to say that,

whoever you are interacting with, is going to violate the commitment
that almost all of you want them to keep!
And the commitment that almost everybody wants everybody
that they're up close to impersonal to keep is,
"I want you to promise to put me first- no matter what."

And that is a commitment that no one keeps!

Because you're not wired like that!
You were not born like that!
You you've come to establish... We would like your marriage vows, or your relationship vows, to go like this:

"Dear one, I want you to know that- as much as I love you, there's someone who comes first before you.
And that is my alignment with the source, within me!
That's my inner being, that's who I'm devoted to.
That's why I'm aligned to.
That's who I'm feeling for.
That's what my commitment is to.

And my promise to you is, that I will give you, as much as I can, the fullness of me!
Not as the separated me.
I'm going to do my best to satisfy my alignment, and therefore give you the gift of living with someone, who has aligned.
And what that will be for you, what that will mean for you, how that will play out for you, is:

I won't be needing or demanding from you behavior, in order to keep myself happy!
My happiness will be dependent upon my focus."

There are people who feel betrayed, if their partners think about other people.
There are people who feel betrayed if their partner doesn't give their undivided attention to them.
There are people who feel jealous if anyone feels happy at the thought, or in the conversation with somebody else!

There are all kinds of degrees of cheating on you, and for the most part, any part of someone else cheating on you just means: "You've taken your attention away from me! And I was dependent upon your attention, being upon me, so that I could feel good! And now you've taken your attention away from me...!" (Towards the HS) This is too strong for you.

But, we really want you all to not be dependent upon anyone for the alignment.
That it is the epitome of looking for love in all the wrong places!

And when you say you've cheated on me, we know. We know there are agreements that you make! We get what you're talking about.

But we would like you to be uncheatable-upon-able!
"I'm stable in my self-respect! My sense of well-being is not dependent upon your behavior."

So what you're really wanting to do, is decide what you want, and become a vibrational match to what you want. And you will attract a partner who is a vibrational match to what you want, you see! And so we're not suggesting that you will not find another partner!

We're just suggesting that you find true alignment with who you are before you go looking!

from the official Abraham Hicks youtube-clip "Uncheatable Uponable", 2014

Your Inner Being will never consider you "inappropriate" or doing wrong, or unworthy!

Abraham Hicks

The path to getting out of a place you don't want,
is to LIKE it.

Abraham Hicks

When you are ITV, Rascals are amusing.

In Unconditional Love lays your Power and your Freedom
(and how to not let your bad relationship with your mother pinch you off from it)

Now, here's the piece that we really want you to understand about this this is the subject of unconditional love:
Do you accept, that there is an inner part of you, that is offering a vibration that is calling you?
-That soul, that source, that inner vibration: you got to know it. Because it is the basis of your guidance. And so, if you don't know that, you want to get to know that, want to feel the familiarity of that! Begin to notice when you feel vital, and why. And when you feel depleted and why!

Begin to notice that your guidance has been giving you good information. So, if you accept that, that inner being part of you exists and that that inner being part of you is calling you, then this is what we want you to understand: This subject is how you create your own reality. It's how you turn thoughts if you will, to things. It's how you turn a vibration into a see-it-hear-it-smell-it-taste-it-touch-it experience!

So, here's a vibration. It's where everything starts, and maybe this vibration that we are demonstrating here, is not perceivable to you because maybe you're on a different wavelength. Maybe it's the vibration of your inner being who knows your value, who knows your worthiness, who is liquid love. Maybe that's what's going on, and maybe you have just come away from your mother and you're in a whole different vibrational state. So you can't even perceive this vibration!

But then let's say, for whatever reason, you're not in that state... maybe you meditated, maybe you've had your feet in the water, maybe you've been in the surf today, maybe you've (...) but you ARE not resistant to who you really are! And so, this vibration that before was not perceivable, now is being received by you in the form of the first manifestational phase: You have thoughts that are occurring to you. And you're having an emotional response to those thoughts!

So, vibration and mood, that's the thing that we want you to focus on here. Vibration and mood. So, right now your mood- hear this, is unconditional.
This mood, this vibration of love- it's a vibration of love, because that's who you are! Because it's natural to you!

You didn't say "If you'll do this, then I'll feel good. And if you'll do this, then I'll feel good." You are unconditional in this love, can you feel what we're talking about here? Now, you can get to any feeling of alignment with who-you-are in an unconditional way. But in the moment you say "my mother is in a bad mood", or "my mother is negative"- now you've made HER the condition that prevents you from this mood! That's not unconditional love! That's conditional love!

Now you need to control your mother.
Now you need to have better timing.
Now you need to teach her what you know! It's too long, you don't have enough years and neither does she! (laughter) In other words, you can't depend on somebody else to get it. You've got to be unconditional in your love, and before you are going to be able to be unconditional in your love, you got to understand what it is:
It's alignment with who I really am, and all that I've become. And it is an emotional journey that I can take, because I don't need the condition to support it!

Conditional love says:
Give me more money and I'll feel better.
Unconditional love says:
Apart from the money, if I can stay off that subject for a while, if I can give myself permission to feel good even before the money comes, and I can practice the unconditional vibration of prosperity without needing the condition of money to support it- or to substantiate it or to justify it or to validate it- if you can be unconditional in your vibration -and you can!!...

You were born unconditional in your vibration, you see!

But you co-dependently trained each other away from it!
You've lost track of this relationship with your Inner Being, because there are some rewards that others will give you: They will validate you. They will give you their attention. It's just that you're looking for love in all the wrong places! And it isn't consistent, and you're right: There's no one on this planet who wants to love you more than your mother does. But if she is not in sync with who she is, she has no love to give! What she has, is where she is!

And you've got to give yourself permission to hold yourself in a place, where you can consistently, unconditionally, line up with love. And then you can shine your never-ending attention upon your mother: Unattached!

Unattached from her behavior-
because you went to the source of the well.
-You went to the source of love!
-You found it, you did it often, you stabilized there,
-you cared about it.

Things happen occasionally- you get your back window blown out, it helps you to know what you're doing! You just keep regrouping and trying again, and finding alignment and finding alignment, until -before you know it- you're so stable and you're so sure, that no matter what happens, you don't get off your game!

You understand that you'r Source energy in a physical body, and that you're supposed to have a good time. And then you say those things that you said to us, and you're really really there! You say: "I love my mother. My mother is the Avenue through which I came into this physical life experience, and my mom's doing the best that she knows how to do. She's on her path of least resistance, and sometimes she takes a lot harder path than I want her to take. But, that isn't any of my business! I don't have any control over the path that she takes.

I only have control over the path that I take!

And right now I'm bordering on stumbling off my path, by turning my attention to something that is none of my business, and that I can't control, I think I'm going to be non-conditional unconditionalness and I think I'm going to return to my vibrational frequency that is really meant as:
You do that again and again and again, on subject after subject- because there are so many people willing to play with you! And help you get onto your path!

Get onto your path. Get onto your path! And before you know it, you'll be so steadily there, and people will look at you and they'll say: "What's with you? Why are you so stable all the time? How did you get so stable?" and you say: "I went directly to the source of stability." -long pause, audience begins to laugh... "What? What??" -"Well, let me make it easier. If I went directly to the source of happiness!" -"What??" (Laughter, Abe sigh in playing the HS who explains what he was doing...).

"Okay, man. I'll just tell you how it is: I became selfish. I gave myself permission not to play with those who aren't fun to play with, until I found the vibration of alignment of who I really am. And now everybody I play with, is fun, right?" -"Oh, did they all change?" -"No, they didn't change. I did!
I'm no longer looking to them for the resource. I got my resource! They can do whatever they want, and frankly they are amusing."

-They're amusing! They're amusing. You got that, didn't you?

from the youtube clip: "Unconditional Love: The Source of Happiness - Abraham Hicks"

If the conversation doesn't feel good,
smile and end it!

Abraham Hicks