Quotes on Relationships

[spiritualcookie]

Why do *I* always have to do the work when it may be the other person's fault?

Some say to us, "Abraham it is annoying to say the least that every suggestion you offer is about what *I* need to do. You never suggest that the other people in my life make changes. I don't think it's fair that I'm always the one who needs to make the effort or make the changes."
And we understand why it annoys you that our suggestions are always directed at you and the choices that you are making. But you can choose to look at that in either an upstream way or a downstream way.

I have to do all the changing. (upstream)
I hold the power to affect my own life. (downstream)

When you think that others need to do something differently than they are doing in order to make your life better, you are really in a place of disempowerment, because you cannot control the actions of others. So those thoughts are always upstream thoughts.

But when you understand that you can control the way you feel because you can choose the thoughts that you think, and that with practice you can come into alignment with who-you-really-are, regardless of teh topic, then not only are you in complete control of the way you feel, but your life must unfold in a pleasing way. Those are downstream thoughts.


- Abraham

[spiritualcookie]

All Relationships add value to the Universe

Every combination of minds, or of thought, adds unto the Universe.

Each time you interact with another, the combination of the two of you adds to the Universe in an absolutely unique way, for each of your holds a different set of intentions and expectations. The knowing within you is different. And as all of these varying aspects of those involved combine - value is added unto the Universe.

- Abe

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Those rascals that look like they've got you pinned to the ground,
who seem to be keeping you from things that you want-
are actually ANGELS IN DISGUISE who are causing you
to have greater CLARITY about what you want.

But holding them as the culprits in your judgement
keeps you away from the stuff you deserve.

Abraham Hicks

[spiritualcookie]

Pre-birth Intentions regarding Relationships:

As you made the decision to emerge into this physical body... you excitedly anticipated interacting with many old friends, sometimes specifically planning the details of your physical meeting.

And you also looked forward to your interaction with those with whom you have not met before, for you understood the absolute value in all interaction.

- Abraham, 1991


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Find something to appreciate about people and if you can't, avoid them

“No matter what, I’m going to be happy!
If I have to ignore everybody...
If I never have to see that person’s face again, I’m going to be happy.
If I have to see that person’s face, I’m going to find something to see in that person’s face that makes me happy.
I’m going to be happy.”

Excerpted from Sacramento, CA on 3/15/03

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My Most Important Relationship Is With My Source…
There is no relationship of greater importance to achieve than the relationship between you, in your physical body, right here and now, and the Soul/Source/God from which you have come.

If you tend to that relationship, first and foremost, you will then, and only then, have the stable footing to proceed into other relationships.

Your relationship with your own body; your relationship with money; your relationship with your parents, children, grandchildren, the people you work with, your government, your world . . . will all fall swiftly and easily into alignment once you tend to this fundamental, primary relationship first.

Excerpted from The Vortex: Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships, Daily Quote – January 12, 2024

[Paradise-on-Earth]

There are a lot of people in your life, that you are holding there
as if you would need to prove it to yourself,
that you can get along with everybody.

When the reality of it is, that the Path of Least Resistance
doesn't include most of them.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

The people in your life will always give you what you expect.
NO EXCEPTIONS.

Abraham Hicks

[Paradise-on-Earth]

The Acting-Process

HS:
As an actor sometimes I morph and I don't look at it as me, stepping outside of myself.
I look at as me becoming in the moment.

Abe:
What is your preparation when you are attempting, or getting ready to receive inspiration
about a character that you might express?
-Is the character placed in his mood or attitude?
-Is the character placed in his circumstance?

Because it's only once you understand those things, and you're actually able to
acknowledge and emanate the mood, the MOOD of your character,
that the appropriate words would then flow through.

HS:
On camera or in pictures, a lot of people say:
"That's not you!" or "that doesn't look like you at all!" and I say, "Isn't that cool? That's my job."
But I look at it as frames per second on camera as same as frames per second in time-space reality.
And just capturing the essence of who I am. So, if I focus that essence while it's being captured,
it's logical that what you watch back on the tape may not even physically resemble Who I am now,
because that was my focus but...

Abe (interrupting):
That is the best description of deliberate creation that we've ever heard!!
Because everyone is an actor in the sense, that they get to project whatever vibration that they
choose to project.

But if everyone who's listening in, would understand that deliberate creation is just exactly that:
-Understand the role you want to play,
-and find its vibrational emotional basis first,
-and then practice that, so that that's who you ARE.

When you are an actor with other actors around you,
they're responding to who you are, because you are emanating who you are.
And it would be illogical for them to not react to who you actually are.
Well, this is the way the entire universe is responding to you!
The universe is responding to EACH of you.

You are an actor in a role, and everything and everyone else is responding to that
which you are emanating, you see! So, you just need to decide:
Am I a prosperous person, standing here in this role that the universe is reacting to?
Am I a revered and respected co-worker in this environment-
or am I someone that gets beat up and picked on?

Who am I?
Who am I now, what has life brought me to? Who am I, as I stand in this point of Attraction?
Because everyone else is responding to who you are.

This is why everyone who has ever written a movie, wants a really good Cornerstone-
Key Actor. Because they know, you get an actor like that- you just need one actor
like that, an actor that is really in sync with who he is and what's going on!
He will extract from everyone that interacts with him the exact performance or behavior.

You can set the tone in your family!
You can set the tone at your work.
You can set the tone in the part of traffic that's driving where you are!
You are the center of this universe!

HS:
I've been in a situation of, an actor- maybe he's not up to speed, will kind of like
break the scene, and I'm like, how that happened? -Cuz, then I fall off the momentum
and I can feel falling off the momentum...

Abe:
We would spend no time figuring out how well someone is going to respond to you.
That's their job. And if you try to get in their head, then you've lost your character:
You've forgotten who you are.

That's what happens to people all day every day!
You get in the head of your kids, or you get in the head of your mates. Or, you get in
the head of your friends! When you try to dawn the perspective of another, you've
lost your point of attraction. And now, they don't know what to do, you see!

So, just stay in character, friends! Define who you are, and stay in character.
If they throw you off, then they were the dominant character, weren't they?
You're the lead! And everyone else is a cooperative component, who will read your script,
and fill in the pieces- exactly as you have defined it, by the vibrational frequency
that you offer.

Abraham Hicks,
from the clip Abraham Hicks - The Actor Process


Outtake:




DELIBERATE CREATION IS JUST EXACTLY THAT:
-UNDERSTAND THE ROLE YOU WANT TO PLAY.
-And find it's VIBRATIONAL; EMOTIONAL BASIS FIRST-
-and then PRACTICE THAT, so that's WHO YOU ARE.

When you are actor with other actors around you, they'r responding
to who you are. Because you are emanating who you are,
and it would be illogical to them to not react to who you actually are.

Well, this is how the whole Universe is responding to you!
The Universe is responding to each of you!
You are an actor in a role. And EVERYTHING and EVERYONE else
is responding to that which you are emanating, you see!

So, you just need to decide:
Am I a prosperous person, standing here in this role,
that the Universe is reacting to?
Am I a revered and respected co-worker, in this environment?
Or am I someone that gets beat up, and picked on?

WHO AM I?
Who has life brought me to? Who am I, as I stand in THIS point of attraction?


Abraham Hicks,
from the clip Abraham Hicks - The Actor Process

[spiritualcookie]

What part, if any do you play in the experiences of others?

You have each chosen this dimension, this time and place, to participate within, because you wanted the benefit of working with one another.

You recognized from your broader perspective, even before you emerged into this body, the value of many minds, of many thoughts.

You knew the power of thought, and you liked the idea of living in an environment where many thoughts abound, because you saw that as an advantage to your growth.

Just as you enjoy a broader selection of good s in your clothing or department stores, or just as you enjoy a wide selection fo sounds in your music stores, so you enjoy a wide selection of intention sand expectations and beliefs and experiences in your creative work place.


- Abraham

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The benefit of influence is the precise reason you have chosen this dimension, shared with so many others and so much influence.

You recognized before your birth here, the power of thought.
You understood the tremendous power of collective, harmonious thought.
You understood that it was not necessary for all thought to harmonize with your desires or thoughts.
You understood before your birth here that all that is necessary for you to benefit by this combined thought is that you control the direction of your own thought and corresponding feeling.

- AH

[Paradise-on-Earth]

Any time you are wanting to accomplish something -because you have given birth to
a sincere desire, and now your chronic though, your habit of thought matches it, IT MUST BE, IT IS LAW!

But you will mess up your vibration any single time when you factor in other
people’s response to your desire. Because you can’t control their response,
and when you try, you don’t match your own vibration!
You can’t control their response, and if you care about what their response is,
you hold yourself in vibrational discord to your desire.

Excerpted from Toronto Workshop 9/20/2008

[Paradise-on-Earth]

The others ALWAYS feel towards you, what you feel towards them!
(famous clip!)

You teach each other your respective responsive vibrations. In other words, you don’t feel any way about anyone,
without their helping you to feel that way! It’s really co-creation.

We’ll even go further, and bolder, and louder, and blunter:
If there’s somebody you don’t like, they don’t like you either!
We have never seen it otherwise.

We have never one time, ever, known someone to adore someone,
that the one that they were adoring, didn’t adore them back!

Now, some are thinking...
“Oh wait a minute. There was that man that I loved with all my heart, and he didn’t love me back.” And we say,
you were offering him insecurity. You were offering him worry. It wasn’t that pure vibration of love!
When you are tuned in, tapped in, turned on — when you are connected to your Source, and holding someone
as your object of attention, and you are genuinely offering that feeling of love and appreciation
— they can’t offer you anything else!

Abraham