The Abe Forum

You are not alone and you never have been

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“We’re not trying to talk you into being alone.
We just want you to understand that you don’t need to be
with anyone else to have full alignment.
And in full alignment, others who have full alignment will join you.”

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So now let's go back to the clearing clutter for clarity game, and let's say that you've decided to play the game with us. And so you say, "I'm destined to be alone forever." Now, this is something that's active in your experience. It's cluttering your room, so to speak, but when you ask the question, "Do i want this to be active in my experience? Do i want this particular subject?" and in this case, this little block of thought, "Do i want it to clutter up my experience? Do i want to keep it in the room with me, active?" We're pretty sure you'd say, "No, that's an unnecessary thing," and you might toss it in box number one.
-- "Destined to be alone?" Exerpt from Abraham NOW recording. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUg95lvmsds

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Hotseater feels lonely when she sees others are are so far away from the feel-good vibration she is seeking in others.

HS:
[In doing all the Abraham work, and learning to align, and look for the positive]
I ended up somehow in this place that's very lonely.
Like, I'm happy myself but I want more people who understand -

Abe:
You're looking for love in all the wrong places. (...)

Most of you are trained to be aware of the response that you're getting from others.

And so you have this sort of Duality going on where

[1] you innately know that it is your work to come into alignment with who you are.
And you've been working to do that and been seeing the success of that alignment on
so many occasions that now you really know it - you've got it - And you can never step back from that understanding.

[2] But then you find yourself feeling lonely because the majority of people don't get what you get; don't know what you know; can't relate to you. (...)

Here in this place of freedom and love and appreciation, most of the population is not steadily there.

And that's why so often - when people see someone living something that they want to live, it sort of aggravates their awareness that they're not there,
And then they almost get on the attack (they don't mean to. They really are more
well-meaning than it seems).

[People like it when others understand them, and are on their familiar level]
They are sort of striving for a sort of empathy.
They want you to come over there so that you can have a conversation with them.

And part of you, the physical part of you, would sort of like to go over there too. (...)

[But if you lower your vibration to get to their level, from there]
you cannot uplift from your place of not being uplifted.
[It's always of value to retain your alignment and not join people in their misery for the sake of feeling togetherness.] (...)

Your greatest value to everyone that you know and those that you are coming to know, is in your alignment.

So then you say, like so people so often say:
"It's lonely at the top."

And we say,
"It's lonely at the higher vibrations if you are looking for numbers,
but if you are understanding that the feeling of loneliness,
- just like every other negative emotion -
is not about the absence of something that is physical, or someone that is physical Rendezvousing with you;

That feeling of loneliness is about: you thinking a thought that holds you in a vibrational frequency that's different from the thought that your inner being thinks. (...)

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This is a feeling of loneliness that I'm having, because they don't get me, or because they don't get [what I'm trying to tell them about] what they need to get in order to feel better.

And we say it's a feeling of loneliness ([or more broadly speaking] that is a feeling of negative emotion) that is present because you're looking at them in a way that the
broader part of you is not now looking at them. (...)

And we can see how it would feel uncomfortable;
That you might even feel resentment or anger, or loneliness about not being able to just grab them and drag them over there [to the feeling-good place] where they belong.

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When you say: "They make me feel lonely"
We say: "They're just a reflection of your discordant vibration with who you really
are."

And as you understand that and start working to bring yourself into alignment, then no one ever makes you feel bad.
Your feelings become unhurt-able.
And it's not lonely.
There is no inkling of loneliness in steady alignment

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- Abraham Hicks
From the Youtube Clip: ABRAHAM HICKS RELATIONSHIPS~ HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEELING OF LONELINESS?

You are never alone.

- Abraham

What fear really is, is feeling pinched off from Yourself:
Empty, "Lonely".
You soften it when you care for being more SATISFIED!


HS:
There's a little bit more I'd like to know about the fear, or the worry, that comes out... um, you rang my bell earlier, when you talked about my desire for action and need for control. Which slips away, perhaps, in the night. So, can you say a little bit more about, maybe even a technique, or...

Abe (teasing)
We'd like to exaggerate your fear! You have control of nothing! ...Let's say, that everything that you're afraid of, is really after you! (Laughter).

All fear is, is a difference of opinion between your Inner Being and you, about the subject that's on your mind, when you feel the fear.

It's just an indicator: "Hey, there's another way of looking at this, that would feel better! You want to see if, you can find it!"
But if you've waited until it's fear, rather than dissatisfaction, it's really hard for you. Because what you end up doing is, defending your fear. Justifying your fear, rationalizing your fear, compounding your fear, exaggerating your fear- keeping the momentum of your fear going. Rather than finding the relief from it!

And then, the subsequent romping in the direction of what you're wanting... what do you think you're afraid of? If you want to tell us? What is that you fear?Most would say, "fear of not being in control", but what are you afraid of?

HS:
I think... I would say, of being alone!

Abe:
Well, that really really really applies! Because, fear is the indicator that you've pinched off the whole of you, and you are sort of out on the ragged edge, without the whole of you flowing through. So, your fear is justified!

"When I feel fear, it feels like I'm out here on the raw and ragged edge, without my clarity. Without my stability. Without my wholeness. Without my wisdom! Without my love- core!"

It's logical, isn't it? So you want us to say, "well you're the one exception in all of the universe: when you feel fear, it means you're locked on!" (HS, laughing: No!) ...So next time you find yourself feeling fear, say: "Yeah, that's about right! I've got myself pinched off from the whole of Who-I-Am." And this feeling of emptiness... doesn't fear feel like emptiness? Vulnerability, void... these words are all too strong, but it's "I've pinched myself off from my resources. And now I feel pinched off from my resources!"

And stop looking for other reasons that you feel fear. You feel fear, because you've pinched yourself off from your resources, period! It's not because you're afraid of that, or that, or that, or that, or that. You did the best job of articulating what you're afraid of, of anyone that we've ever asked that question! And we've asked hundreds of people.

"I feel fear of being without my Inner Being- which fear is the indication, that I pinched myself off from my Inner Being! And so, I'd like my Inner Being to come back. Even though I have fear!" and your Inner Being says: "We're here! You gotta let go of whatever thought you're thinking, in order to let us back!" and you say: "I can't. I'm afraid." And then your Inner Being says: "Then go to sleep." and you say: "I can't sleep!" -No hope at all for you! (Laughter) -You know what to do!

HS:
I do know what to do!

Abe:
And we liked how you started out with us! That you know, that satisfaction is the key. And that's just gonna open things up! If we were to visit with you a week or two or three, down the road,
you would have already discovered that that reaching for satisfaction is just softening that! Softening that, softening that, softening that, softening that!

from the youtube-clip "Abraham Hicks What is fear?"

Being Happy
is a VERY PERSONAL thing,
and it really has NOTHING to do with anyone else.

Abraham Hicks

"Obliterating Problems Is My Job." - Military Man

HS:
I didn't want to come here. Somebody invited me, and I paid for us, and we came- and I was very skeptical. And I didn't know anything about you! I was surprised to find a woman standing on the stage, that's how little I know. (Laughter of the audience)

I have a pretty big vortex full of a lot of things that I won't... I'll be... I'll stay general, but I'm very fulfilled professionally. My education is complete and... but the one thing missing in my life is a family. And I've been firing millions of rockets, looking for a family, and I think I found what I was looking for. And for several months I've been working on this with a specific person, and everything was going fine. And then she has begun to perceive, that I'm still firing rockets, looking for family- maybe still with someone else. Or that I'm... she believes that I'm still firing rockets and she may have some reason to believe that, because of what's been in my vortex. And I'm only using these words, because I've heard them today for the first time, and, um...

Abe:
...And using them accurately! Which is unusual, to be this new to it, and up to speed so fast!

HS:
Oh, thank you! For...

Abe:
Well its... we're complementing ourselves. We're just really good! (Laughter) No. The compliment is yours!

HS:
I... don't want those things in my vortex! I don't believe that I'm firing rockets still...

Abe:
Well here's the thing. What's in your vortex is always the wanted part of everything. And something that's happening to you... it happens to almost everyone, is, that when you think you're talking about this family that you want: every subject is really two subjects! What is wanted, and absence of what is wanted. And so, when you use the words "relationship, family, something meaningful", you could be offering a vibration of the absence of it, rather than the presence of it! Which just keeps holding it at bay.

It's like- the feeling of loneliness is an indication. Your emotions are indications! So, the feeling of loneliness is an indication that you've got an active vibration about the absence of what you want. And you can't have an active vibration about the absence of what you want, and have it flow into your manifested reality!

You're holding it apart, without even knowing you do it.

People will say to us: "Abraham, I don't... you say I create my own reality. And I don't believe that I do! Because I wouldn't have created that, because I don't want it!" And we say: we didn't say you did it on purpose. But we did, say you did it! -There's a lot of misunderstanding. People think they put way more power in words than really they should. They put way more power in behavior-

when it's really the vibrational basis, that is at the heart of everything that comes to you.

So we like the way you began here. You said "I have success. I have success with education. I have success financially." So we want to ask you to just feel the difference in the way you feel, when you think about financial success or educational success, and the way you feel when you think about a relationship! Because in the one, you feel more confident. More sure, more satisfied. And the other you feel more wanting, more needing, more absence of it. Feel the difference! So, you got to find some way of either not talking about it... you know, you could get focused upon something else!

Recently someone says: "Everything in my life is good. There's just this one thing, that isn't good!" and we said, well then let's beat the drum of that one thing and use it as the excuse to mess up everything else! And they laughed about it. But they heard our point. We said:

You could have 10 things going terribly wrong and one thing going really well, and you could focus on the one thing and use it as your excuse to help the other things come into alignment.

Because the universe doesn't care! This law of attraction, that is responding vibrationally- it doesn't care what your reason for offering the vibrational signal is, that your offering. It's just responding to the signal. So, the fact of it is- you got to offer a signal about what you want, not about the absence of what you want! You want to talk about this? (HS: Sure!) Do you think that, as you've been sifting through the details of this relationship, and knowing what you do want, knowing what you don't want... are there many things about it that are pleasing to you? (HS: Yes of course!) Are there any things about it not pleasing to you?

HS:
Only this fear of rockets! That's the only thing. Only the fear of- well, her fear of that I'm firing rockets.

Abe:
So, the only thing that is missing is her response? In other words, she's insecure?

HS:
I don't know! She believes in the law of attraction, and that we are both... she believes sometimes, that we are both attracting the thing that we fear in each other, instead of the things that we want. And that we may have chosen the wrong...

Abe:
Well, nothing can go wrong, in this sense: So, you attract something that you don't want. It just causes you to launch your rocket! And you see, we're not the least bit worried about you, because we can feel the power with which you want to feel good! And we just want to say to you: It's really easy to talk to you. Simple! Because you're going to get this really easily.

All you got to do, is stay off the topic that makes you feel uneasy!

So, if we were standing in your physical shoes, we'd just make lists of positive aspects about the relationship. Keep going over in your mind, how you met, and how it felt, and how it feels, and what the physical attraction is! Just focus upon the parts that feel so good! Or focus on on other things that aren't about relationship,

because in your lack of attention to this thing that's bothering you, it will go away.

HS:
It's funny, because we've been making lists of the other. The opposite. (big laughter)

Abe:
Most people do! Most people do. "Got to find a problem and solve it!" -but in the law of attraction- world, which is the world you all live in, what that says is: "Let's make a list of things we do not want. We will just push hard enough against these things, we do not want! And we will obliviate them." And we say: No you won't!! You will amplify them. You'll make them active in your vibration, and you will use those active vibrations as your excuse to not allow yourself to resonate with who you really are, and what you want!

HS:
I'm in the military! So that's why I think that way. The other way, that you first described. That's probably what I've been doing. Obliterating problems is my job! (Audience laughing, HS smiles, understandingly).

Abe, very earnest:
We love you very much- but you are failing!

HS:
I know!

Abe:
The problems that you are attempting to obliterate, are getting bigger and bigger and bigger and bolder and bigger and bolder and bigger and bolder. IT DOES NOT WORK. It won't work in the world, it won't work with the army. It won't work in your personal world! It does not work! But you can stand right in the middle of a system, that's oriented that way, and you can find your alignment anyway! Because when you go general, there is so much that you want, that is right on target. You want a better functioning world. You want the majority of the people to live in peace and harmony! You want the children of the world to eat, and feel secure. You want physical well-being! You want it so much, that you're willing to do everything in your power, in order to achieve it, you see. So like we said to someone just now:

Don't worry about the action. Because there's momentum in that, but do your work with the alignment, you see!

HS: Thank you!

Abe:
We've enjoyed this interaction immensely!


from the youtube clip Abraham Hicks, "Obliterating Problems Is My Job." - Military Man
Excerpted from Abraham LIVE -- Boston, MA 9/29/12.

How to achieve Heaven on Earth

HS:
My question is this- I've been reading a book called "The Urantia Book" which has been described as The Fifth Epochal Revelation, and there is a question... because you've mentioned previously that heaven doesn't exist. And so I don't know whether you're familiar with the book or the teachings of it...

Abe:
We can feel the vibration of it, as you talk about it!

HS:
Mmhmm yeah. And I guess it... I just wanted to ask what your perception that is. Because it really resonated with me. But yet, it also, you know... your teachings obviously also resonates. I'm left a little bit confused about where the existence of heaven... I guess I'm asking it.

Abe:
Well the nice thing is, our opinion of your opinion is irrelevant! In other words, if you're reading something that feels uncomfortable, that discomfort that you feel is your indicator that the source within you is not in agreement. Not necessarily of what's written, but of your perception of what's written. There are a lot of realities that are being lived in this physical time-space reality. And

there are not two of you, who are perceiving identically!

So what humans are commonly doing with each other, is that you yearn so much- you do! You yearn for someone to understand your perspective! And we want you to cut that out. Because in your trying to explain yourself to each other in a way, to get agreement from others- very often you are training yourself away from your own guidance system. You're training yourself away from your own expansion. And the more life causes you to expand, and the more you train yourself away from that expansion, the more uncomfortable you feel. And so let us say this to you:

We have never seen any of you pick up anything that has been written, created, produced by any other human that was in every case a perfect vibrational match to you, and what's in your vortex!

That isn't the premise that you came forth, into this physical body!
You didn't say "I'll go forth and I'll find the right path, and I'll get with the right pack, and we'll travel in the right circles!" -and we'll say, "...and do the right things. THAT is what you said! You said: "I'll go forth and I'll mix it up. And I will come to my individual awarenesses, because you have become who you've become, before you came into this physical body! There was already plenty in your vortex that lets you know who you are:

You are a LOVER. You were, when you got here!

And the first day that you found a reason to hate someone, you felt the discord of that hate. Because the source within you, no matter how justified you think you are in the pushing against of that injustice, or that thing that you did not want to see- the source within you will not join you in that hatred, you see. And so, this is a conversation that could go on for hours and hours and hours, because there are so many facets to the environment in which you live and so many premises that people are presenting from, and there is a whole lot that people are saying about non-physical, that is so far from what it really is.

The basic premise of most religions could not be more off from the way that it is!
Most religion has you hear, you'r being tested. None of that is true.
Most religion has you hear, you'r inferior to that which is supreme. None of that is true!
Most religion has you isolated and separated from that which is source, and condemned and punished for actions and behaviors. Source isn't doing any of that!

That's why in fact guilt even exists at all: You couldn't feel so bad, if source didn't love you so much!

What about that:
If source wasn't constantly loving you, you wouldn't feel so awful when you find a reason not to feel loved?
And if source wasn't constantly loving everyone else, you wouldn't feel so awful when you're blaming them, either, you see!

So, once you show yourself actively your own guidance,
once you stand in any moment in time and you say "here I am! And source, I know you have an opinion about this child that I'm looking at." And you feel yourself welled up with appreciation, you can feel that your opinion, your approach, your perception right here right now, is so in sync with the source within you, that you are full of the completion of that which is source. That's what positive emotion is!

The better you feel, the more you are completing or allowing the extension of source, right here and now, in this moment in time.
And the worse you feel, the more your desire to be that, is- but the more you are disallowing it, you see.

So we would graze our way across the libraries of your world and across the data fields of your world, we would look for resonance. We would be constantly looking for resonance, but we would not be doing what most humans do- which is exploring the manifestations. Most humans are running around, not even aware that they are vibrational creators, looking at the results of the vibrations that people have been offering.

And then letting their whole life be based upon those manifestations, so then they sort the manifestations in piles: "These are good ones, these are not so good, these are terrible". And, "our religion judges those manifestations as completely inappropriate, and those manifestation is better, and then we conjure some fictitious "Heaven", that is someplace else-

...when your Heaven or your Hell that you are living is your resonance, or your lack of it!
It's your alignment, or you're not!
It's your allowing of the source within you, now. Or not, you see!

Source is never departing from you!
You didn't lose your connection with source, when you came into this physical experience. Source came right here with you. But you can choose thoughts to pinch you off pretty good from it. And you can choose thoughts, that align you with it, right away, you see.

You can live a life of alignment- and you will discover Heaven on Earth.

And from our perspective, what Heaven on Earth really is, is sifting through some contrast and recognizing some negative emotion: That's delicious guidance. "I have guidance within me! I know that I'm off the track of something. But I also know, I gave birth to something more! And the source within me resonated with the more, and became it immediately. And the only reason that I can feel negative emotion right now, is because I expanded, and didn't go! -That's Heaven on Earth. And now, I'm consciously aware of my guidance system- now I can find thoughts that feel a little better. I can give myself some ease in relief!"

-You call that forgiveness. We call it coming back into alignment.
"It's the releasing of the resistance, and the resonance with the source within me. And now I'm back in resonance! And now, my grid is filling in, and now wonderful things are happening everywhere I turn. Sweet people talking to me, intellectual conversations going on, physical stamina and vitality, and flexibility is mine! A feeling of well-being, everywhere I look at is beautiful. I'm zigging and zagging with the best of life. I'm on that vortex that all good things are mine. And there people may be clamoring around, saying "hey, life isn't good! Life isn't good, life is a good, life isn't good..." but I don't hear them: I'm not in the vibrational vicinity of them! -I'm living pure positive energy.

I'm living life in the way that I came forth to live, and standing this example of well-being to others. And when others come into my experience, maybe they were born into my family, maybe I was born to them- maybe I married one of them, maybe I go to school with one of them... some of these clamoring in a vibration that doesn't feel so good. They're saying "hey you, what have you got your head in the clouds? What are you so happy about? You should be down here with us: Living life in the reality that we all live! You should be sifting and sorting through the stuff of life. And- you should be perceiving life more as WE perceive it." And we say: You can't perceive other than you perceive.

And when you tune yourself to the frequencies of well-being, well-being is what will be revealed to you, everywhere you go.

If we were standing in your physical shoes,
we would no longer sift and sort the piles of manifestation!
We would spend ALL of our conscious awareness in looking for the best feeling thought that we could find.
We would tune ourselves constantly to the frequency that allows well-being!
And we would stand as an example of that: So, that when those who see us, see us, they would understand that we are living the well-being that we have been talking about! Teaching to the clarity of our example as best you can. And, you never get it done!

You never get it done, and you cannot get it wrong. And the reason that you cannot get it wrong, is because it is never done!

So, let's say you're standing in a place and you don't feel so good, and with good reason. Something happened, you looked at it, it hurt your feelings. You're out of whack.

The very fact that you can feel negative emotion means, there is a love right now that you are denying.
You couldn't feel pain, if love were not there!

Don't you like knowing that? If there were not love that is more right for you, and more available to you- you would never feel loneliness. Loneliness only exists because you're denying yourself the alignment with what you want! Are you getting this?

From the youtube-clip Abraham Hicks - 2014 Confused About The Existence Of Heaven