The Abe Forum

See also Non-Abe Quotes on Addiction, here: (1)


Why do people start taking substances? It's often because the person is hyper-sensitive and have a need to dull the extreme emotions

Hotseater and Abraham discuss a girl who has a problem with substance abuse.

Abe:
A lot of you here in this room (...)
You were hyper sensitive to energy,
that is how teachers of this energy always are in the beginning.
And in your hyper-sensitivity, a lot of you end up using drugs, end up using alcohol,
a lot of you end up using withdrawal, a lot of you end up doing all kinds of things
in order to somehow find some relief from this hyper-sensitivity.

Some of you numb yourselves out, you won't let yourself feel any emotion at all,

And here's someone who has the benefit of being born with this hyper-sensitivity.
What is this hyper-sensitivity all about?

Why does someone ever feel strong, strong, strong, strong emotion about anything?
Because it really matters.

In other words, this means that this child is born
with a stronger than usual, like so many of you, desire to understand in this life,
to understand contrast, to understand the laws of the universe,
to understand her own placement in this universe, you see.

And so as she stands in her hyper-sensitive skin, in a very heightened stance,
aware of the way she feels, her highs will be higher than almost anyone you know -

You've seen that already, her lows will be lower than almost anybody you've seen,
and your work will be to assist her in as many highs as possible.
And recognizing it isn't because you're running around making life perfect in order for it to happen.

- Abraham

Abraham gives some rampages to help stop an addiction from several places on the EGS

Jerry says that in order to stop smoking 40 years ago he "made a list of all the things that would be different in my life. All the things that would be improved in my life once i stopped smoking. And i had a list of about 60 items.
Even those days i was travelling constantly, i kept it over the visor of my car and for a whole month all i did was i just bring that and read that list over and read that list." He read the list even before he took any physical steps to physically stop smoking.
Jerry asks if this is a good technique to find alignment with stopping an addiction.

Abraham:
Well it's interesting because if you recall the focus wheel, what you're talking about is a similar thing.

In other words you focused upon the positive aspects of what you were reaching for.

You brought yourself into alignment, energy-wise, before you then offered the action or effort.

And that's really what we're talking about.

[But because every individual is starting out at a different place on the Emotional Guidance Scale], everyone's putting their boat in the stream at a different place.

In other words everyone who's addicted to something is not depressed
and everyone who's addicted to something is not in frustration...
In other words you are where you are .

Sometimes an addiction will begin from a psychological place and the psychological place ceases in time but the cellular calling is still in place .

So there are so many variables.

That's why you could not write a book and say: "Always do this."
That's why the 12 steps are beneficial to some and not so beneficial to others .

And so the rule of thumb is with anything that you're wanting to accomplish,
Find vibrational alignment with the idea of it first,
and then take the action that is inspired

and so the vibrational alignment that we are talking about all day every day - we're talking about closing the gap between who you're allowing yourself to be and who you really are.

And when you close that gap oh you feel ever so good

(...)

What we're wanting you to realize is the closing of the gap is a vibrational thing and the
physical thing then comes later .

So depending upon where you are where you're putting your boat in the stream we would begin a sequence of reaching for downstream thoughts that goes sort of like this -

[Starting point low on the Emotional Guidance Scale]
And let's say that you're really in a not good feeling place

So the first thought that you might reach for is:

"i really hate this addiction and it's hold that it has on me"

and if you are depressed and you are feeling hate or anger toward this then that is a breath of fresh air .

and you might beat the drum there for a few days.

you might say:

"i hate how it makes my fingers yellow
i hate how it burns holes in my clothes
i hate how it makes my breath stink
i hate how the children always back off from me
i hate that it costs so much to support this addiction"

in other words so you're in this really pushing against - but it it feels better than the powerlessness that you felt before

and then we would reach for thoughts that feel a little better:

" i don't like being out of control in my experience
i don't like not doing a good job of doing what i intend to do
i don't like something having control over me
i don't like waking up and wanting something that i really don't even want"

And so emotionally you are improving the way you feel because with this angry
approach you're feeling less and less powerless.

[From Hope on the Emotional Guidance Scale]
Now you may begin reaching for something that feels a little more relief which
might even be an attitude of hope.

You might say something like:
"I hope that i'll come up with an idea that will serve me
and i hope that i will be more in control of my physical experience
and i like the idea of being a deliberate creator
and i i'm getting the idea that the universe is cooperating with me
and i like the idea that i can create things
and certainly i should be able to control something that only i have something to do with
i cannot control what the government's doing. And i cannot control what my children are doing. And i cannot control the way my parents treated me. And i cannot control so many things. But i certainly should be able to control what i put in my own mouth.
I'm hoping that i'll find something that will work for me."

Now no big improvements happened here you're probably still utilizing the resources of whatever substance that you have been addicted to .

But you have come a long way with those statements .

At least you're not so much in that feeling of powerlessness that you were before

Now from a place of hope it's easy to find feelings that feel better from a place of hope you can then begin saying things such as you were saying on your list things such as:

[From a better feeling-place on the Emotional Guidance Scale]
"i'm so looking forward to being in control of my own experience
and i'm almost appreciating that i've had this experience because in knowing what i don't want i now know more clearly what i do want
and i like to be in charge of my own experience"

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From the youtube clip Abraham Hicks - Withdrawing From An Addiction by Abraham Hicks Insights

HS: Hotseater asks about withdrawal symptoms from addiction which make it hard to stop an addiction. He asks how can one bypass or remove the unpleasant withdrawal symptoms, to be free of addictions without experiencing the physical discomfort of the withdrawal process

Abraham:
Well there are two perspectives that it would be helpful for you to approach this subject from:

First anytime you introduce something to your magnificent physical apparatus,
the trillions of intelligent cells become aware that this new - whatever it is - has been introduced. Whether you ingest it or breathe it or shoot it or whatever -

As you introduce this foreign substance, the cells of your body immediately being the acclimators that they are, go to work - on digesting it, so to speak - on coping with
it - on dealing with it.
And in doing so they adapt to it literally.
In other words it's like "surviving under these conditions now".

That's why if you're getting a kick from something often you have to keep upping the amount of it that you give to your body because your body does such a good job of acclimating, that you don't get the same rush from it unless you introduce more and more.

So your body adapts to whatever it is that you are giving it and that adaptation actually translates to you, as a sort of craving.
And that's why you experience the withdrawal once you no longer give your body that.

Now, there's something to be said about maybe winding down from it.
That might make the withdrawal less.

So there are two things that we want you to think about relative to the addictions.

The first is that once you introduce it to your body, the cells of your body respond to it. So there is this, let's call it a "cellular addiction", just for clarification.

But there's also something else that's much more important to understand about the reason for it to begin with.

And that is always without exception a vibrational imbalance.

So what happens is people have got this vibration going on of who they really are, and this [other] vibration going on of the thoughts that they're giving thought to now.
So they've got that tug of war going on.

And often in the ingesting or the introducing of something, there is a lessening of their
awareness of that contradictory energy.

And so there is this psychological addiction, or this emotional addiction because there is a contradiction of energy going on that is unpleasant on so many levels of their being that often is soothed once something is introduced.

Let's say that someone decides that they're going to cease an addiction.
Whether it's one that is legal or one that is not.

And as they begin to no longer introduce that substance to their physical apparatus then they begin having those withdrawals that you're talking about, which further goes to upset that vibrational balance that was out of whack to begin with.

So we would get our ducks in a row.
We would line up our energy before we began any physical withdrawal from anything.
Line up the energy first.

So many people for most of their lives don't understand how to bring themselves
vibrationally into balance.
And yet we have never seen one person ever who had a successful withdrawal from addictions who did not understand how to bring themselves into vibrational alignment
first.

What we mean by that is anyone could just stop ingesting whatever it is that they've introduced to their bodies for three days, and in three days - we're not kidding you - it would be out of your system altogether.
In three days it's moved through and that cellular craving is no longer an issue.

But the psychological craving still is [an issue] because the reason that they wanted it to begin with in order to soothe that feeling of contradictory energy still exists.

So if you don't tend to BOTH of those, you've accomplished nothing.

And the majority of people who are just using willpower in order to stop some sort of addiction, but have done nothing about aligning the energies, just keep having a whole new fresh reason that they're wanting to ingest it again.

So if we were standing in your physical shoes we would first bring ourselves into vibrational alignment. And that's not a fast thing to do.

And we're going to be bold here:
We would say we would not make any effort to withdraw from the substance
experience.

We would put all of our attention toward lining up energy.

Because once you're addicted to something it will be easier for you to line up your energy during the addiction than when you're trying to stop the addiction.

We don't see anybody that has a successful experience of lining up energy while you're in the middle of withdrawal from things.
They just work against each other.

So stop beating up on yourself for doing this thing that somebody's convinced you is wrong.

Whoever it is you're counseling, help them to understand that bringing themselves into vibrational alignment is first and foremost.

And sometimes that takes days, sometimes it takes weeks.

-

In other words we don't think it would take anyone very long if :
- you could just accept that you are of non-physical energy first
- that there is this duality of vibration going on within you
- the law of attraction is responding to both of them
- that it's natural that you know what you don't want so that you know
what you do want
- that the stream is flowing and that you feel better when you let yourself move in the direction of the stream
If you could get that across to yourself or to anyone,
- you could help them reach for the feeling of relief so that people are no longer
beating up on themselves and holding those long resentments that they've had
for so long...

People got off balanced early in their life usually on this vibrational misalignment and the addiction is something that followed not too long after and so much of this has been going on for a very long time.

And [to] expect someone to cold turkey, [and to] all of a sudden start going with the flow - is illogical.

And it's also illogical to expect someone to go cold turkey on the withdrawal of any of the substance as well .

-

So if we were standing in your physical shoes, and we had had a long-standing addiction no matter what it was,
we would be saying to ourselves today:
"I'm not going to stop this substance abuse (or whatever it is that they're wanting to call it) today.
I'm going to work on bringing myself into vibrational alignment, which means
I'm going to try to begin to see myself and my world through the eyes of Source.
Which means I'm going to be a little kinder to myself
And I'm going to beat up on myself a little less.
I'm going to stop looking for reasons to not like myself

And I'm going to let the way I feel train me into coming into alignment with
who I am, until i begin to love myself as the Source within me loves me.

And once you've got that down then the three days of withdrawal will be easy.

Until then don't even bother.

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From the youtube clip Abraham Hicks - Withdrawing From An Addiction by Abraham Hicks Insights

Bipolar artist is scared to take her medication


HS:
The first question I have is:
If I want to heal myself of bipolar disorder, no matter what. Can I do it? Is it possible, if all the doctors say, I cannot? And, years ago when I got off my medicine... let's say, 7 years ago when I was experimenting and didn't want to accept that I had this label. Um, I ended up in in the hospital many times, and it was very painful. So I guess, my my first question is: Do you believe that I can heal my bipolar disorder?

Abe:
Absolutely!
Talk to us about how it manifests!?

HS:
Um, well, I'm on medicine. So it doesn't get to come out very often.

Abe:
Then, is it an issue?

HS:
That's the second part of my question! I'm doing great on the medicine. So, should I just keep taking my medicine, and... and, what the hell, and live like that?

Abe:
Here's what we would do:

We would continue the medicine, feeling appreciation for the balance that it provides for you.
And at the same time, we would identify what our strong desire is!

In other words, your desire is to be what?

HS:
I'm a singer. And when I get up on a stage, it's to be just like my old self, before I got manic.

Abe:
What is that?

HS:
Excited, without getting anxious, or without having balancing desire, and medication.
To go in the bathroom and pray and calm down, or (tearing up) ...put a pill under my tongue...

Abe:
There is not anything inappropriate about continuing with the medicine! In other words, because it is giving you this stable footing for now! And so we would continue that. Do you get a sense of what we mean, when we say that?

Out of your life experience are born powerful desires. And so- when you, through life experience come to conscious awareness of things that you want, there's a vibration that activates within you, that's very powerful. And that's what the vibration of Desire is! So, when -however it happens, you give birth to some powerful desires, that you -for whatever reason, for whatever other influence in your life, aren't believing, then there's this really strong tug of war that's taking place within you. And we think that is the best description of this label that they have given you, of anything else. Every time we have seen it -and we see it every time that it is labeled, in other words- it is not something that you are making up!

Every single time, it is a person who has powerful, off-the-chart wanting, that they have figured out how to receive.

Your emotions tell you everything that you need to know about your relationship with your Source energy. And by that we mean, how much Source energy am I pulling through me, right now? Or another way of saying that is,
-how great is my desire? And as my desire is very powerful in pouring through me,
- how much of that am I allowing to pour through me, or how much of that am I not allowing to pour through me?

If I didn't want very much, my resistance would be a non-issue. In other words, if you're going 2 mph, it doesn't matter how many trees are in the way. You can guide around them. But if you're going 200 mph, the trees start to matter more!

When you have a powerful desire and so you're summoning lots of energy through you, and you have beliefs that contradict your own desire- now there's this clashing going on. And that's what the medicine helps you to soften. In other words, it softens your focus. It softens your angst. Of course, it changes the chemicals in your body, which is what is doing that. But the process through which it is happening is not as important as understanding what is happening! What is happening is:

There is a splitting of energy within you. And so, even while you are taking the medicine as you talk about your desire, and why you want it, it's not possible for you to think about what you want and why you want it, and be in as contradicted a vibration, as when you are thinking about what you want and the fact that you don't have it!

We would far rather see you with strong strong desire, that you're not allowing- than we would with no desire.

And you were born with this powerful inclination toward desire! You are a powerful focuser. Which means, it's not possible for you to reign in your desire! We don't encourage that ever, anyway. And so, what you're wanting to do, is let your desire run as rampant as it wants to run- and it is pretty strong! And then you work, to bring yourself into alignment with your desire, as best you can.

Soothe yourself into alignment!
And you soothe yourself into alignment, with words that feel soothing, when you hear them from others, or from yourself!

HS:
My husband tapped into it. He said, "Candace, just could you be quiet in your spirit?" -we were just at the bar, and before I was going on stage and he's like, "just be quiet in your spirit", and it was just... it was like somebody put a little pill under my tongue. I completely understood. And when I'm writing a song, I've learned how to be completely focused, and very quiet in my spirit. And the composition just comes out! It's amazing. And it just writes itself! And so, that's what I am learning, how to do as far as you know, trying to heal myself, as...

Abe:
Focus on those times, that that happens.
In other words, the more you remember, as you were speaking that to us- right then, you were in perfect alignment with what you were speaking! In other words, as you remembered that time, you were there again. And also it is helpful for you to recall, that you can be there- and you cannot be there, that sometimes you're able to bring yourself back into alignment with thought.

Sometimes you bring yourself back into alignment by putting the pill under your tongue! It doesn't really matter.
You can bring yourself back into alignment and when you remind yourself, that you can come into alignment. -Then it makes you not so fearful that you will get out of alignment! And when you are not so fearful that you will get out of alignment, then you don't get out of alignment so much. -And it just gets better and better and better and better!

You are born with powerful desire! And when you go with the desire, you thrive.
When you fight against it, you don't.

And so, that desire was to stand out!
That desire was to make a difference.
That desire was to be heard.
That desire was to get tuned in, and be an example to others who can be tuned in!

And so, when you think thoughts like "I'm not good enough", or "I'm not ready", or "they won't accept me" or "they don't understand me... why don't I have a record deal yet..." those thoughts are so opposite of your desire, that that's what sets you out of alignment! Where, thoughts like "It's coming. All is well. Everything in its perfect time"...

And if we were standing in your physical shoes, we would focus on the writing of the song! And we would let the Universe take care of the aligning with the contracts. In other words- you get in that creative mode! ...It's always lovely to speak with someone, who understands that creative mode! Because you know when you're there, and you know when you're not. And when you're there, you're in that place of allowing!

So, what we'd like to say to you:
You want to get into that place of allowing, relative to your record contracts, too! Yeah! Write a song about your record contract! In other words, get...

HS:
Yeah, I just finished it. It's called "The jet plane takes off", and it's about what you teach! So perfect!! I got it! Okay, um.... I think, you say genius is focus. Does Focus take practice? Or is it just something you pull out of the sky, when you're letting it in?

Abe:
Focus does take practice.
What focus is, is isolating a vibration from a maze of vibration, and focusing upon it long enough that it becomes a dominant vibration.
And so, sometimes because you are a very energetic person who's eager about a lot of different things, you have a lot of active vibrations in your experience and it's possible for you to have many things that are moving forward, all at the same time. But if there is something that is bothering you, that is getting quite a bit of your attention.

Sometimes it causes the dominance of your vibration to be not in a place of letting in the other things, that you wanting! You've been letting the Universe know, in lots of different ways, what you want. And you do not need to sit down right now, and say "I want this, and I want this, and I want this, and I want this...", because you've done an excellent job- through the contrast that you've been living- of pointing all of that out!

Now your work is to get into a place where you're a match to what you are wanting.
You're a match, when you're feeling good. You're not a match when you're not feeling good! -And so, that worries you. Because you say, "but when I don't feel good I really don't feel good."

And we say: but what that means is, you really really want it!
In other words, that's good news, not bad news, you see! Just relax more. Be more playful about it.

Continue to take your medicine at the same time,
that you continue to acknowledge that you don't need it.
Let it be something that's like a friend that helps you along the way!
Don't push against it. It is a friend, not an enemy!

And and give yourself as much time in the creative phase as you can. Because when you'r in that creative phase, that's when you'r in your place of allowing. And so, do you find that you can achieve that, almost anytime? You sit down to do it... (HS: oh yes!) ...you know how to do it, relative to the creative music. Now get into it relative to anything, that you desire! You could pet your cat. You could never think another thought about any of this- and the Universe will yield you a contract!

And the time it takes, between now and when the contract is yielded, has to do with how many thoughts you have that are worrisome in nature, that keep that from happening. The well-being is on its way to you, unless you do that thing you do. And the good news is: Every time you do that thing you do, you feel negative emotion!

So, negative emotion is not an enemy or not a bad thing. It's your friend!
It's saying: Hey what you want is on its way to you! But you're slowing it down just a little bit by this train of thought!

HS:
So, when somebody says to you "You're 33. You better hurry up! Because if you don't... you know my mother says "well that's just ridiculous, you know! You need to think of maybe going back to college!" or, you know... hey, I just opened for Coolio at the Menton in L.A. "Oh, that's great, honey! Hey... la la la la la" -and she's talking about something else. So and then, um, you know somebody from a record company says "Well you know, you have talent you're an amazing composer and you're this and that. But gez... you're really getting up there in age!" ...you know, because I've listened to you and listened to your tapes and everything, and read your book and I don't necessarily get keyed into that so much... but still, the little devil goes "huh!"

Abe:
You might say something to them, like: "Are you saying that the entry point has to be a certain age? Because there are a lot of people a lot older than I am, that are still at the top of their game. So is the age thing just about the entry point? Or are there some other qualifications, that I'm not aware of?"

Who gets to decide other than you? NO ONE, you see! it's usually someone who feels defensive... in other words, if you're hiring somebody to represent you and they're not finding any inroads, then sometimes they feel like they need to justify why things aren't going better. So they're looking for excuses and trying to lay it back on you. And what you want to do is, if you are not putting them in the position where you are making them feel like you think that they are responsible for what's happening,

they'll offer you less of that, as you begin to accept that you are the creator of your own experience.

And so, you're not laying it on your agent's table... in other words, you're in this together, but you're not making them feel defensive. They won't throw that stuff up at you. That's just their defense mechanism. Just laugh, and say "Oh, there's been a whole lot of a lot older buggers than me, making great success. Now get off of that, and let's move on! (HS: right, right!!)

...Be playful about it. Because age has nothing to do with anything! EVERYTHING is about vibrational alignment.

What we notice as we watch you, as you are moving through time, all of you as a mass consciousness, is that the majority of your desires are happening early on in your life. And if you are in a place where you can allow it, then much of your success comes very early in life. And there are people who will say "if your success does not come early, then it will not come!" -and the reason that they say that, from what they observe, is because mostly they're not really allowing themselves to want! -Only when they are young. And usually, by the time they are older, they've blocked off most of the allowing anyway. And so, they're not wrong in their observation. In other words, that is the usual rule. But that is not who you are!! In other words,

You're going to keep wanting long long long into your 80s and 90s!! And you're going to allow long long long!!

In other words, age is irrelevant. It doesn't have anything to do with it, and so- if somebody says that to you, and you want to be playful to them, just say:
"Oh, I think that what you're getting at, is that young people are usually more eager about things. But you'll never find anybody more eager than I am!"


From the youtube-clip "Talk to Your Cells, Will Change Your Life! Abraham Hicks 2024"

Drinking too much/ Rebelling when you feel others pushing-against...

HS:
Um, my friend- she doesn't drink alcohol. Um, most of the time when I've been around her, I wanted to really drink up. I don't know why!? Um, in the past I've had a label as a rebellious spirit. Maybe that's why? But I don't understand why, cuz usually when I'm around my other friends, we have a great time and there's not that thing. But every time my girlfriend from AA comes down, I have to obliterate myself until I am sick the next day, and I'm looking like a jerk to her, and she thinks I need to go to AA, but when I'm around my other friends I can have a great old time, and have a couple drinks and I'm... what IS that???

Abe:
Law of Attraction is a very powerful thing, is it? In other words, she has activated within herself, big times, a vibration of pushing against alcohol. So when she comes close to you, she activates that vibration of pushing against within you, too! It stirs up your defensiveness, and then you rebel.


from the youtube-clip "Talk to Your Cells, Will Change Your Life! Abraham Hicks 2024"

(thank you spiritualcookie for pointing me here. I just did not find it! )

There is no condition so severe,
that you can not reverse it
by different thoughts!

Abraham Hicks

* link to a video *

Edited by admin: Removed link to a video. You can find the video on YouTube by searching on YouTube for:
"Talk to Your Cells, Will Change Your Life! Abraham Hicks 2024"
It is uploaded on the channel "AH | 11:11" and is 14:55 min long.