The Abe Forum

Why you shouldn't say "Yes" as long as you feel like "No".
You are not "Ego-driven" when you follow what your Alignment calls you to (aka, what feels better)!


HS:
I have a ex-business partner that is... I just haven't been feeling right about things. I've tried to...

Abe:
Ex, for a reason, huh?

HS:
Yeah. And we've tried different things and I've decided, you know, what for this year I just need to let it go. Just let it be away from me, for a little while. And recently, he's wanted to go on a trip with some of my friends, and I was asked the question of whether or not I was okay with that. And my initial thought or feeling was "no". But I give myself a hard time with saying no! Because who I want to be is the person who is not ego driven. And would accept...

Abe:
We don't want you to be ego driven. We want you to be Alignment-called!
There's a difference between being driven, and being inspired.

And so, when you realize that you've put it all in your vortex. And now your vortex is calling you to it- when you think about what you're inclined to say "yes" to, and what you're inclined to say "no" to, don't let that be a bad thing, to not feel like you want to say "yes" to something! It isn't!

That's like saying: "I'm going to get on the highway. And even though there are these lines that represent lanes... I don't want to be guided by that! So I'm going to drive all around."


And we say, that's fine- except nobody else really understands that. And it's going to make a lot of trouble in your world!
So sometimes it's helpful to think about what you're saying yes to. Because every subject is really two subjects: Wanted and unwanted. And so you can softly just say: "What I really want is...". When the impulse to say "no" comes up: "No. I don't really want to do that."

If you justify all the reasons you don't want to do that, you activate all that old stuff which is now present, now. Which now is affecting every relationship you have- and that's why you wisely and intuitively know, that's not the way to go about it. So, if you say: "well, what is it that I want to say yes to?" that softens it, first of all. And then you can think about what it is you really like! "Well. I really like my friends. And I really like the easiness that we all have together. And one of the reasons that we like to be together... what I'm saying yes to, one of the reasons that we like to be together is, that we are for the most part on the same wavelength. And it's something where I really want something... I don't want to work at it. I really want relaxation about it. I want to feel easy about it." This is the thing- oh, such a good question! THIS is the thing that we want all of you to hear, about this:

You are not inappropriate when you take the Path of least Resistance!

You mostly don't know that, because you've been trained: If it's not hard, you're not getting anywhere. And if you don't struggle, then it doesn't really count. And if there's not some pain, then there can't be any gain... and those are all such flawed premises!!

They fly in the face of the laws of the universe as we know them to be. So we want you to soothe yourself into saying: "It's all right for me to let my alignment come first. And so, if I'm faced with a situation, where I know my alignment is going to be challenged- there's nothing wrong, with you taking the Path of Least Resistance! Because when you accomplish a resistant free path, you get Alignment. And when you get Alignment, you get resources. You get Replenishment! You get stuff to give to everyone.

If you are not selfish enough to align yourself with your resources, you don't have anything to give anyone.

And haven't you all had the experience, where you did something that you really didn't want to do- and then it just kept showing you why you didn't want to do it? And so, the way we talked about that here today, was by saying: This thought must turn to this thing, and this thought must turn to this thing. So here's what you got to do, when someone hits you with something, and it hits you right here- if you can't turn this thought to this thought: Don't do it. -That's the answer, isn't it!

So- could you do that? Could you say "well, that was then, this is now. And we're different people." -You can't usually do that all of a sudden, can you? -To turn that thought about a past relationship, to this thought about a past relationship- we wouldn't just do it on the fly. We wouldn't do it in real time. We wouldn't say... it's sort of like saying: "Well my vibrational meter tells me that the way I feel about you, and everything that's come down is going to result in more misery. But I think I'll just play it out, and try to solve it in the middle of the misery! We'll just fight it out. We'll just fight it out, until it gets better!" -you hear what we're saying, don't you?

And so, if you can't move it in the vibrational stage, then don't move toward it!

And so, "no" is the right answer.
And if you want to soften it a little bit, you could say: "I have to say "no", because I'm not in the right place for us, to have a good outcome!"

In other words, that's telling it like it is. "I have to say no, not because there's something wrong with you. But because I haven't come to the resolution that I need to be at, that I now demand of myself. I gotta have fun, or I don't want to do that."

from the youtube clip Abraham Hicks - Saying yes and saying no


Outtake:


You are not inappropriate when you take the Path of least Resistance!

You mostly don't know that, because you've been trained: If it's not hard, you're not getting anywhere. And if you don't struggle, then it doesn't really count. And if there's not some pain, then there can't be any gain... and those are all such flawed premises!!

They fly in the face of the laws of the universe as we know them to be. So we want you to soothe yourself into saying: "It's all right for me to let my alignment come first. And so, if I'm faced with a situation, where I know my alignment is going to be challenged- there's nothing wrong, with you taking the Path of Least Resistance! Because when you accomplish a resistant free path, you get Alignment. And when you get Alignment, you get resources. You get Replenishment! You get stuff to give to everyone.

If you are not selfish enough to align yourself with your resources, you don't have anything to give anyone.

Abraham Hicks

The Path of Least Resistance is the Path of the Thoughts
That feel the BEST!

Abraham Hicks

The Universe knows the perfect timing of all those things you want-
and will find, through the crack of least resistance, the best way
to deliver it to you.

Abraham Hicks

When something really, really, really matters to you,
LET IT GO!

Say to the Universe: "You know what I want.
Give it to me, in the path of least resistance.
Give it to me, the easiest way possible.
Give it to me in any way I can get it!

Abraham Hicks

Non-Reaction is the key
to maintaining Alignment

Abraham Hicks

There are no lessons to be learned.
Only life, to be lived!

Abraham

Observing "what-is" tends to only regurgitate what we already believe.
(Reactivating resistance).

HS:
Is there some kind of a pre-destiny in following that inner guidance, that inner path?

Abe:
Only in this sense: It was decided, or known, as you were making the decision to come into this body, that

You're a creator.
And that through your exploration, you would expand.
And that expansion is necessary and delicious.

But we would call that predetermined or pre-decided by you, intentionality.

HS:
By me -me-, or me -my Inner Self me-?

Abe:
You, your Inner Self.

HS:
Both of us? Teamwork?

Abe:
At that time, there was no split in you, because you hadn't come into consciousness that could think independently. So you said "step one is: I will think independently. I will know what I don't want. I will know what I do want! And in my independent thought, I will discover things that I do not want, and in the discovery of what I don't want, I will simultaneously discover what I do want, because every component of the universe has
wanted and absence of wanted within it."

And you knew that, and you said: "Sometimes it is necessary for life to show me what I don't want, before I can even know what I do want! Because it has to be personal."

So, when life shows you what you don't want, and then you know what you do want- you've launched that rocket of clarity. And you, and therefore we, have reached into a new place where we have never been before! And we immediately go there, because we have no resistance. You are slower in coming along, because you've got beliefs that keep you from immediately going there.

But when your desire for feeling good becomes stronger, than holding to a belief that you don't care about... The other day, we've been telling this story. We may even have told it to you directly! Esther was in Del Mar. She has a house there. She hadn't been there in months, she was sitting at her desk, looking out where the ocean should have been, and couldn't see the ocean. And she realized that in the months that she'd been gone, the trees had grown in, and the bushes from the side had completely obscured her view from sitting at the desk!

Which was why the desk was there. So her gardeners came later that day, and she said: "I'm blocking my own view. Could you guys trim this edge, so that I can see the ocean?" And they said: "Happily!" and then they said: "But there are trees down in the ravine, that might be part of what you're seeing!" and Esther said: "Well, I only own half of that ravine. Just be sure that it's on my property." and they said "We've got you covered!" -and off Esther went to lunch with her friend. They were gone many hours. They shopped and ate and explored, and when Esther came back, she walked onto her deck and went in and looked out the window, and the ocean was back.

She was so happy to see it! Then she looked out a little way on the hillside, up very close to neighboring property, and saw something that made her gasp: Two very large tree stumps. Cut all the way down to the ground. And Esther thought: "How in the world did that happen?? I thought i was so clear!" and then Esther began feeling guilty right away, and so sorry. And then she tried to make herself feel better, and she thought:
"Well, that house is under construction. Maybe it's new people, and they don't know those trees were there!" -so she worried about it for a day or two, off and on, whenever she thought about it.

And then one day, she looked out and she saw a man in a suit standing out on that patio- it's across the ravine, Esther's never been over to that house- standing in a suit, looking at the tree stumps. And then he took his phone out, and took a picture of them, and Esther thought: "I better go confess." But she'd never been over there before, so she didn't know how to get there. Is that a road down, that leads up? Or road up, that leads down? It took her a while to get there. And when she got there, he was already gone. But on her way over, she had practiced her confession: "I didn't mean to do that, and I'm so sorry! But I did do it. And I will make it up to you, in whatever way you want! I'll plant new trees. I'll landscape your whole yard- whatever makes you feel better. I am so sorry!"

-But he wasn't there. So she didn't deliver her speech. So she just went home, and continued to practice it. And then, a day or two later, she went with her friend off to lunch again, and when they got back she said to him: "Look what I did!" -took him out on the patio and pointed at the trees. And her friend said what? "Esther, your gardeners didn't cut those trees down, while we were at lunch! Why isn't the hillside all torn up? Where is the debris from the trees?"

And Esther thought: Hey! and then they walked out to the edge, and she looked up close to her property, and there was a very small stump with all the debris from it lying right there, where they had cut it. And all that had happened is, the gardeners had cut down a little tree that let Esther see things, she wasn't used to seeing. And Esther thought: "It's embarrassing that I believed something so dumb! It was completely illogical. It didn't make any sense at all, that those two men in three or four hours... they would have had to have a helicopter and a saw, and just cut it off at the bottom and carried the whole thing away!"

There was no possible way that that could have happened. But Esther believed that she had done that. The circumstantial evidence was such. The way it had unfolded in her experience- she believed something, that was truly illogical. It shook her up! Esther said: "I bet there's all kinds of really dumb things that I believe, like that, that are in my way! That I just keep carrying forward, for no good reason. Because circumstances just make that the path of least resistance, relative to the momentum that I've got going."

And so, you do- all of you- have many beliefs that you are nurturing, that you continue to keep active. that prevent you from your true reception of what's truly going on. Here's a very powerful statement:

If your desire is strong enough, any belief that's in its way, will fall by the wayside.
But most of you -because of your attention to other humans, and your desire to find mutuality with them, you choose harmony with beliefs that don't serve you- rather than upset them.

Rather than harmony with the beliefs that your Inner Being holds about you, that serve you completely, you don't want to be a freak. You don't want to be a pollyanna. You don't want to believe things that most people don't believe.

You want to believe the circumstantial evidence, because most of you are conditional.
We mean: You, meaning humans, are conditional in your thinking! So you keep observing what-is, and you keep bringing the vibration of what-is forward, even though your very existence means, you are here to create new.

You're not here to regurgitate what's already here!
You are here to become freer. To become wholer. To become newer. To feel better!

You didn't come to regurgitate what-is, and yet, most of those around you are true regurgitators.
And if you stand out not as a regurgitator, sometimes they want to call you weird or freak or pollyanna, or "not facing reality".

HS:
Aren't those regurgitated beliefs manifestations as well (Abe: they are!) ...from something, that happened when you were five or six years old?

Abe:
Something happened 20 years ago, and if you didn't keep thinking about it, it would completely be out of your vibration- within three days! But because you talk about it, you keep bringing it forward 19 years, 18 years, 17 years, 15 years... and so, here it is. Right here, still active in your vibration, even though it has no relevance other than the relevance that you've given it, because you keep it active in your vibration!

So it continues to be in the way of what you want. but your blessed Inner Being- even though your Inner Being knows that you've got things in your way, your Inner Being is always looking for a path of least resistance to call you around it! Over and under it. In other words, to show you that you can get to where you want to be, no matter what beliefs that you hold. But isn't it nice, when you are willing to acknowledge that you have beliefs that are in your way, that are not valid? And what we're saying to you, with this segment, is:

The less you try to find mutuality with the girls in the nail salon, because they're lovely they are lovely and there are positive aspects... Esther one day realized, we've been talking about positive aspects for as long as she can remember. And somehow she was thinking that what we meant was -in every situation, or in every individual, there are positive and negative aspects, so line up the positive ones, line up the negative ones, and focus on the positive ones... and all of a sudden, she understood what we really meant. We meant:

Focus upon any aspect that causes you to feel good, while you focus upon it!

It's not an evaluation. It's not a determining what's positive, and what's negative! It's looking for mutuality with your inner being. It's looking for what feels good when you find it, you see!

HS:
And what feels good- a positive desire can blast out an old negative belief!

Abe:
Because, you see, every individual is like the universe at large. Within every particle of the universe is wanted and absence of it. So, in every individual, there are aspects of them that you want to find mutuality with, and aspects of them that you don't. But most people want the other to change, to be mutual to you, rather than just looking for what is mutual. Or looking somewhere else to find it! Oh, you could be living such wonderful lives, if you would realize, that in every place you look, there is mutuality. And it's up to you, to find it. But when the first thing you do, is find something that's missing- then you harmonize with what you're mutual on, that takes you away from your Inner Being. And then, you struggle and need them to change, so that you can feel better. You got that, didn't you?

HS:
Yeah. Is that... is that mutuality? Because part of me attracted like, some negativity, and part of me attracted some positivity. and everything that I... I attract to myself.

Abe:
That's a perfect statement. Because you've attracted it all.
Nothing is coming to you, that you haven't attracted. But here's the thing: You could be in a place of true alignment. Maybe you've been meditating for a while, and you're tuned in, tapped in, turned on, and you are in alignment, and in that alignment, you attract someone to you- let's say an individual to you, who has that mutuality.

In other words, that person has that potential or maybe even that going on actively, right here right now, and even though they might have a whole lot of other things that you don't want to think about ,or that you don't want to be mutual with, doesn't matter. You are focused upon and active about the thing that does, until you get so nosy about everything, about that person. You meet new people, law of attraction brings you together, and the first thing you do, is: "Tell me about yourself!" and we're in the background, saying: "Don't do that!! Let the law-of-attraction- mutuality be what carries you!"

Don't look around for other things that you might be mutual about, because you might find all kinds of things that neither one of you want to have active in your vibration, that you're mutual about! Because you have all kinds of things within you, that you don't want to be active in your vibration right now. Helpful?

HS:
Yeah, that makes sense, too. Yeah! Yeah, yeah!

Abe:
So, what is life, really? What is it?

Life really is you, seeking alignment with who you really are.
You, seeking alignment with who you really are, you seeking alignment with who you really are, until you discover:
You know when you're satisfied. And when you're not, then moving out and let law of attraction bring to you things that are important to you.

HS:
Well, that's what brought up that predestination I was thinking about. Jerry, manifesting through his own questioning a lot of this, right here... (Abe: yes!) ...and was that like, his Inner Being, calling him into it? (Abe: No question!) ...This is where he's going to, and he just had to... (Abe: No question.) ...allow that to happen and go through his experiences, to get in line with that?

Abe:
Sometimes, when you really want to know something, your Inner Being calls you right through contrasting experiences, in order to inspire you to ask for the thing, that you most want. It's also good: Everything is always working out for you!

from the youtube- clip "Is Pre-Destiny Real | Abraham Hicks | LOA (Law of Attraction)"